June 13, 2018
Female, 13 years old, CA
I have managed to make everyone of my friends mad at me and now I feel like I have no one. My best friend won’t talk to me and has her friend sending me mean things. I lost the one person I love so much.
Teen Line Wrote:
It sounds like you’re going through a really hard time, losing your best friend and everyone being mad at you must be so hard. It seems very unfair that your best friend’s friend is sending you mean things, that’s incredibly childish and uncalled for, she should have the respect for you to talk to you instead of sending her friend to be mean.
Here are some resources that you may find helpful. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/conflict-resolution-skills.htm is a web page about conflict resolution skills that may help, the rest of the website is also very helpful. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/making-good-friends.htm is another good page from the same website about making good friends who will be there for you and help you even when times get tough. http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-Making-Friends.aspx is one last page about making good friends, you deserve good friends who will understand, be fine, and support you no matter what happens, the rest of the website has a lot more helpful information and 4 ways to contact a national 24/7 hotline you could reach out to and talk to. We also have a website where you can anonymously post about what’s going on and how you are feeling and other teens can read, respond, and send support. The website is https://teenlineonline.org/
Here are some things you could try doing that can help you release emotions and stress. Writing a letter to someone about how you feel can really help get it off your chest and when you’re done you can either send it, tear it to bits, or burn it in a safe place. The last two will help release stress and emotions on their own with regular paper. Similar to the last one you can just write out how you feel and why on a piece of paper until you’ve got nothing left to say and then tear or burn it. Throwing, punching or screaming into a pillow in a safe place is a very effective way to get emotions out in a physical way. Doing any form of art is a good way to get emotions and stress out in a very expressive way and when you’re done it can give a sense of accomplishment. http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx is a huge list with a bunch more things you could try out that can help you feel better in general.
Thank you for reaching out to us. I hope everything gets better and better every day.