I’m really self conscious about my body and nothing is working to help me change it.

Female, 17, Minnesota


I am 17 years old, 140 lbs, and 5’8. I have bigger thighs and I really want to make them thinner because they rub against each other and make me self conscious and uncomfortable. I would also love to tone my stomach and have abs. I do a lot of cardio at my community center and ab workouts, but nothing seems to be working. For the past couple of months I’ve been dedicated to eating only two times a week, but I do eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner before 8pm. Do you have any ideas on how I could actually see changes in my body and the amount I weigh?

Teen Line Wrote:

First of all, I just wanted to thank you so much for reaching out to Teen Line. I’m so glad you took the time to contact us. Struggling with eating, weight, body image, and lifestyle can be so difficult as well as overwhelming and I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this right now.

I was wondering if you have talked to an adult or friend that you trust about how you are feeling such as a teacher, parent, coach, therapist, or pediatrician. Trusted adults are often good to talk to because they have previous experience and can help to give you advice. If you see a doctor or pediatrician regularly, they may also be able to talk about healthy ways to lose weight.

Because thinking about body image and weight can be so overwhelming, I was wondering if you would be open to trying out some coping skills. If you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, it can sometimes feel good to take a hot shower or bath, listen to music you like, hang out with friends, or play with a pet or even keep a special journal just for you where you can write down how you are feeling and what you are thinking.

In addition to the coping skills, I was hoping you would be willing to look at some resources sort of surrounding body image. The first is this movement on Tumblr called the Internal Acceptance movement. It’s basically a body and mind positivity page that I think you might find interesting. The link to their page is http://internal-acceptance-movement.tumblr.com. I also wanted to give you this article from a website called  yourlifeyourvoice.com about this thing called the mirror rule where you work of saying positive things about yourself in the mirror. http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-the-mirror-rule.aspx. Lastly, I wanted to give you this article from Teen Vogue about 5 body positive things to say to yourself.

I hope this helps.


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