I think I’m ugly and have zero self confidence.

Female, 16 years old, Outside U.S.

Question/Issue:

I think I’m ugly and I have zero confidence, and whenever I try to accept myself and finally start loving myself, someone would appear and say I’m ugly. This started to affect my personality and I became a quiet person because I don’t even feel like talking to other people because I’m afraid of what they’re going to think of me.

Teen Line Wrote;

Thank you so much for contacting us. It was really brave of you.  I can’t even imagine how hard it must be feeling so uncomfortable and judged. I can’t even believe what people are saying to you, it is so rude! Having to deal with your own feelings on top of it must feel impossible. It is so amazing that you started to love yourself, which I am sure took a lot of work, and I can’t even imagine what it must be like after someone says something so cruel. I think that it would be really helpful to talk to someone, like a parent, extended family member, teacher, coach, or school counselor.

I think that you would really like this Tumblr page  internal-acceptance-movement.tumblr.com which is an online community where tips for self-acceptance and healing are shared. This is especially helpful when you feel like no one understands, because other people share their experiences. I also strongly recommend Kati Morton’s channel (youtube.com/user/KatiMorton), where she talks about a wide range of topics, including self esteem and coping skills. Many teens love her videos because they suggest many ways to help with what you are going through.

I also wanted to give you a resource for bullying, because what people are saying to you is totally not okay. (https://www.pacerteensagainstbullying.org/) is a good resource to have. They have a student action plan, and other ways to deal with what people are saying. If you ever need to get your mind off these thoughts for a little, I would strongly recommend meditation. Many teens find it helpful, check out  mindfulnessforteens.com.

I am not sure exactly where you are located, but I want you to have a hotline to talk to in your area. I have a list of great hotlines ( http://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/). There is also a great chat that is available 24/7 on imalive.org. I personally think that it can be helpful to get your thoughts out by talking. I can also give you our world wide number which is open from 6pm-10pm Pacific time, but long distance charges may apply- (310)855-4673. You can also check out our boards, where teens share their stories and receive replies from others: teenlineonline.org/boards

Thank you again for contacting us, and i hope you found this helpful.

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