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Relationships

  • I get a panic attack every time I see my ex-boyfriend/abuser.
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    I get a panic attack every time I see my ex-boyfriend/abuser.

    Female, 14 years old, PA

    Question/Issue:

    Is it normal to be terrified every time I see my ex-boyfriend/abuser? Because every time I see him in public, I have a panic attack.

    Teen Line Wrote: 

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line. I am so glad that you reached out to us. It must be so hard to have to see your ex-boyfriend/abuser sometimes then experience these panic attacks. I want you to know that it is completely normal for you to be having these reactions. It is perfectly normal to be scared and terrified around this person when abuse is associated with him. It must have been really tough and scary to have to see him and have to revisit that time in your life.

    It sounds like you may have some PTSD from your past abusive relationship by the fear you said you are feeling. I want to give you some resources on how to cope with your fears, how to understand the, and how to maybe overcome them: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/ptsd-symptoms-self-help-treatment.htm – this is a resource that will help you understand what PTSD is and how you can help yourself cope with it. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/traumatic-stress.htm this is a resource that can give you support on how to deal with the dramatic stress when you are having a panic attack. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqzLptVD96E-DOlzWhbXT_H8 This is  Kati Morton’s YouTube channel regarding to PTSD. Kati Morton is an online therapist and a great resource that can provide you support and guide you through your fear.

    I also want to give you some information to some ways that can help you deal with your panic attacks. Mindfulness and meditation are great ways to help you feel more calm and less stressed the next time you see him. Here are some useful resources: https://www.calm.com/ is a website that will lead you through guided meditations that can help you calm down and be more intune with your sense. After a panic attack or during, this can help you release some of that panic and stress. http://mindfulnessforteens.com/ is a website that will also give you some techniques on how to be more at peace.

    Again, thank you so much for reaching out. It was so brave of you to share what’s going on. I want to encourage you to call in to Teen Line if you want to talk more about this at (800) 852-8336. You can also text “TEEN” to 839863 if you feel more comfortable communicating through text.

    I hope you find these resources helpful because you deserve support. Stay strong.

  • My friend’s dad is abusing her and I’m scared she’s going to commit suicide.
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    My friend’s dad is abusing her and I’m scared she’s going to commit suicide.

    Female, 14 years old, Netherlands

    Question/Issue:

    My friend from school is cutting herself and I am scared that she is gonna commit suicide because her dad is abusing her, he hits her and I am scared that one day she stops fighting.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you so much for reaching out. It was so brave of you. You are being such a good friend by contacting us. It must be so stressful to know that your friend is cutting herself and that her father abuses her. It sounds like because your friend is going through such a hard time that it has taken a toll on you. Being nervous that your friend may commit suicide is super hard to handle on top of teen stuff. I don’t want to leave you hanging without any resources so I hope these websites help you out.

    I know this email was meant to benefit your friend but I also really care about your mental health through this whole process and want to give you some ways to handle the stress. There is a great website called: http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx that has 99 ways to cope with whatever is stressing you out.

    You can also check out this app called “A Friend Asks.” It is an easy way to access a guide to warning signs, resources, and ways to help friends who may be suicidal.

    There is a great YouTuber named Kati Morton who makes amazing videos about everything from social anxiety to suicide. She has a great playlist about depression and self-harm which may be educational for you but also helpful for your friend. Here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqzZv5mmk-Xw4IvoHRzc7ki4 and https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqxUuzhjHu7Ra_UyKd4tEde2.

    Also, you said she struggles with self harm and so there is this project called the Butterfly project. The whole thing is explained on the website, but it is basically a creative way some people use to stop cutting: http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/

    Finally, the Netherlands has a great website for kids suffering with child abuse: https://www.vooreenveiligthuis.nl/veilig-thuis

    You can also call us at (310) 855-4673 from 6pm-10pm  PST or visit our message boards at https://teenlineonline.org/board/

    I hope your friend finds the help they need and that this email helps you de-stress yourself.

  • A sweet and nice boy asked for a nude picture which I sent it to him and now everyone knows what my areas look like.
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    A sweet and nice boy asked for a nude picture which I sent it to him and now everyone knows what my areas look like.

    Female, 13 years old, NV

    Question/Issue:

    Someone catfished me with a guy who was very sweet and nice, then he asked me for a nude picture and I sent him one. The next thing I know, everybody knows what my areas look like and I saw an Instagram account with my bust on it. I just feel like ending it all and I’m so close, this is urgent.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line. It was so brave of you to reach out and tell us a little bit about what’s going on. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It must be so frustrating and painful to have trusted a guy with such a photo and then having it leaked, especially on social media. It is not fair that this is happening to you and not okay for you to be deceived like this. I want to let you know that how you are feeling is completely okay and you are not alone. I am here to give you the support you need to get through this.

    First of all, I want to make sure that you are safe. Here is the number for the National Suicide Prevention Hotline that you can call any time when you are having thoughts about hurting yourself or ending your life: (800) 273-8255. You mentioned that you are considering ending it all and I am worried for you. You can get through this. I am here to help you. I want you to get the help and support you deserve. Thoughts of suicide or hurting yourself are dangerous and I don’t want this for you. You are strong and you can overcome this. I want to provide you with some healthy ways to cope with what’s going on that doesn’t involve self harm. Have you ever considered talking to someone about what’s going on? Is there a trusted adult, friend, counselor, therapist, or family friend that you can reach out to and vent to? It can be very therapeutic to talk about what’s going on and share your emotions with someone. Maybe they can help you understand and cope with what’s going on. I don’t know if you have a therapist already, but if you don’t, would you consider getting one? They can be a great unbiased source that can help provide you with some support and can also help you find safer ways to cope. I want to suggest Kati Morton, an online therapist, that can help you make your first appointment, but also has videos on how to deal with various issues. Here is the link to her video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZH3HQU_ewU

    I also want to provide you with some healthier coping skills. Do you have any hobbies that can keep you busy and distracted, do you enjoy listening to music, exercising, reading, journaling, etc. All of these are great ways to help you feel better and more in tune with yourself. Journaling, or writing down your feelings, is a great way to come to terms with what has happened and overcome it. 99 ways to cope is a great website that can give you more ways to cope. Here is the link: http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx.

    You said this is urgent and I really want to make sure that you are safe and not considering hurting yourself. I encourage you to call in to Teen Line at (310) 855-4673. Our lines are open between 6pm-10pm PST daily. You can also text “TEEN” to 839863 if you are more comfortable with texting. We want to hear from you, so please don’t hesitate.

    I also want to encourage you to check out the Teen Line message boards where you can contact other teens who have or are going through similar situations as you. They may be able to provide you with some comfort and help you navigate this tough situation. You can access these message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards.

    Again, thank you for reaching out to us. You are so brave and you deserve help. Stay strong.

  • I told my best friend how I felt about her, she rejected me, and now I feel bad.
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    I told my best friend how I felt about her, she rejected me, and now I feel bad.

    Male, 13 years old, Canada

    Question/Issue:

    A few days ago, I told my best friend my feelings for her, and she rejected me. I’m feeling bad and that’s hard. We’re still best friends, but how do I get out of it?

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thanks so much for contacting Teen Line. I’m so glad you reached out for help. It sounds like you are going through a lot right now. It takes so much courage to tell a girl how you feel about her, and I’m so sorry that you didn’t get what you wanted out of it. It must be so hard to be so close to her while she says she doesn’t feel the same way. You deserve so much more.

    I understand that it would really bother you to be stuck only being best friends with this girl that you really like. And while it must be really tough for you to experience such a heart-breaking rejection, I really hope you are taking care of yourself. While it sounds like you are not receiving the love that you want from someone so important to you, it is important that you continue self care and surround yourself with people that treat you the way you deserve to be treated. If you noticed that you are feeling overwhelmed by everything that has changed, sad or angry about your best friend, there are many things you could do to help clear your mind. Things like being with people that you love and feel loved by, doing your favorite activities, exercising, listening to music, playing with a pet, watching your favorite show, meditating, or writing in a journal are all things that many find helpful in getting to a better place and gaining peace of mind. Journaling can be especially helpful, as it can help you release all of your thoughts and feelings out of your mind and onto paper. This way, you can better organize and understand your thoughts, and keep from holding everything in.

    Another thing you could do that, like journaling, would help you to release your feelings could be talking to someone that ou trust about everything that has been going on. Especially since it must be hard to talk about these feelings with your best friend. I’m wondering if you have anyone else that you could talk to about this issue. Someone like a sibling, parent, close friend, distant family member, teacher, or school counselor could be really good to open up to. Since these people know you better, they may be able to give you better advice in how you should go about making your relationship what you want it to be.

    You seem like a great guy, and I would hate that the fact this girl (who seemingly really likes being friends with you) wants to keep it at that level is getting you down. You can look into more ways to cope with this problem here https://au.reachout.com/articles/building-coping-skills. You could also check out this online therapist, Kati Morton, who offers advice on anything from sadness, to relationship problems, to abuse: :https://www.youtube.com/user/KatiMorton

    If you feel like talking to another teen about this issue, you are more than welcome to call us at 310-855-4673 or text “TEEN” to 839863 from 6-9pm PST. You are also welcome to contact our message board at  teenlineonline.org/board, where you can chat with people who may be experiencing similar things.

    Again, I’m so sorry that this girl is not ready to take the relationship further right now. I hope you keep in mind that her decision should not make you think any less of yourself, and that her feelings may not be permanent. I truly hope she comes to realize what she is missing out on, and that you keep strong and kept up by the people around you until that time.

    I hope this helped.

  • I’m worried my relationship won’t last as long as I hoped.
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    I’m worried my relationship won’t last as long as I hoped.

    Male, 13 years old, TX

    Question/Issue:

    I have a girlfriend but we never really talk. I always look forward to seeing her in the morning, but she’s always with her friends and I’m not very social. We barely ever make eye contact and I’m worried that our relationship won’t last as long as we thought. What should I do?

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thanks so much for reaching out to Teen Line. It sounds like what you’re going through with your girlfriend would be frustrating and confusing for you. It can be really hard to not feel like someone is putting in the same effort as you are in a relationship.

    I wonder if you’ve ever tried talking to your girlfriend about how you are feeling. It might be helpful to let her know that you feel disconnected because she may not even be aware you’re feeling this way.

    I would also suggest checking out Scarleteen.com specifically the articles relating to relationships. Scarleteen offers some great advice for how to handle confusing relationships. Reading some of the articles on Scarleteen may give you some clarity on what’s going on in your relationship.

    It might also be helpful for you to check out Teen Line’s message board. The message board is a place where you can talk to other teens just like you who are going through similar things on a safe place online. The link to the message board is teenlineonline.org/board

    I would also think it’d be helpful for you to call in Teen Line so you could talk to an understanding teen about what’s going on. The number is (310) 855-4673 and is available to you 7 days a week from 6pm-10pm PST.

    Thanks again for reaching out to Teen Line. I hope you find this helpful.

  • I feel depressed and my mom is threatening to kick me out.
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    I feel depressed and my mom is threatening to kick me out.

    Male, 14 years old, NY

    Question/Issue:

    I need help with my depression. It’s been happening even worse with all the issues with my parents, especially with my mom. She keeps on saying she will kick me out of the house and I feel worse and worse.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line; it was so brave of you to reach out. It sounds like you’re going through a difficult time right ow with your mom and your depression. Dealing with parents is always hard, and I’m sorry she keeps on threatening to kick you out. It’s understandable that this makes you feel worse because she’s your mom and you probably care about her a lot. It must be hard to battle issues with your mom and your depression at the same time.

    If you haven’t already, I wonder if you could try talking to a school counselor, an adult, or just someone you trust, it may help and you wouldn’t have to go through this tough time in your life alone. Also, you might try checking out this list (http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx)  to find ways to cope.

    You might try looking at Kati Morton’s YouTube videos on depression. She offers solutions, defines depression, and how to get help. She might be helpful. You can also check out https://www.helpguide.org/home-pages/depression.htm. This website has articles regarding depression and how to cope with it as well. . au.reachout.com also has resources concerning arguments with parents, which might help you deal with the situation with your mom.

    Finally, you can always call Teen Line at 800-852-8336 from 9pm-1am (EST) or text “TEEN” to 839863 from 9pm-12am (EST). The message boards are also available at teenlineonline.org/boards where you can talk to other teens as well.

    I hope this helps.

  • My best friend won’t talk to me and I feel like I lost everyone.
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    My best friend won’t talk to me and I feel like I lost everyone.

    Female, 13 years old, CA

    Question/Issue:

    I have managed to make everyone of my friends mad at me and now I feel like I have no one. My best friend won’t talk to me and has her friend sending me mean things. I lost the one person I love so much.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    It sounds like you’re going through a really hard time, losing your best friend and everyone being mad at you must be so hard. It seems very unfair that your best friend’s friend is sending you mean things, that’s incredibly childish and uncalled for, she should have the respect for you to talk to you instead of sending her friend to be mean.

    Here are some resources that you may find helpful. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/conflict-resolution-skills.htm is a web page about conflict resolution skills that may help, the rest of the website is also very helpful. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/making-good-friends.htm is another good page from the same website about making good friends who will be there for you and help you even when times get tough. http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-Making-Friends.aspx is one last page about making good friends, you deserve good friends who will understand, be fine, and support you no matter what happens, the rest of the website has a lot more helpful information and 4 ways to contact a national 24/7 hotline you could reach out to and talk to. We also have a website where you can anonymously post about what’s going on and how you are feeling and other teens can read, respond, and send support. The website is  https://teenlineonline.org/board/ .

    Here are some things you could try doing that can help you release emotions and stress. Writing a letter to someone about how you feel can really help get it off your chest and when you’re done you can either send it, tear it to bits, or burn it in a safe place. The last two will help release stress and emotions on their own with regular paper. Similar to the last one you can just write out how you feel and why on a piece of paper until you’ve got nothing left to say and then tear or burn it. Throwing, punching or screaming into a pillow in a safe place is a very effective way to get emotions out in a physical way. Doing any form of art is a good way to get emotions and stress out in a very expressive way and when you’re done it can give a sense of accomplishment. http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx is a huge list with a bunch more things you could try out that can help you feel better in general.

    Thank you for reaching out to us. I hope everything gets better and better every day.

  • I can’t handle my mom’s mental abuse.
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    I can’t handle my mom’s mental abuse.

    Non-conforming gender, 15, IL

    Question/Issue: 

    Ok, so my mom has been mentally abusing me for years and I’ve finally decided that enough is enough. I want to move out, but the laws near me won’t allow it, I think. I just want others’ inputs before I make a decision.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. It must be so difficult to deal with your mom mentally abusing you. It is not okay for her to do this.

    I want to give you a resource called List of 99 coping skillsIt has many different activities you can do to try to help you cope with what you are going through. Also, if you ever feel unsafe at home, you can call Child Protective Services at (800) 422-4453.

    I would highly recommend calling us here at Teen Line at (800) 855-4673 anytime from 6pm-10pm Pacific Standard Time, or text “TEEN” to 839863 from 6pm-9pm PST so we can know more about what you are going through and we can give you better resources.

    I hope you find this helpful.

  • I feel like none of my friends are actually my friends.
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    I feel like none of my friends are actually my friends.

    Female, 15 years old, NY

    Question/Issue: 

    I feel so alone a majority of the time and I feel like none of my friends are actually my friends. I got with a guy and we started dating. Then I was being called a whore. I’m still being called that throughout school and I broke up with him a month ago. Now I’m being called a bitch and worthless amongst other names. I have a suicide plan but I’m not sure I actually want to go. Everything is just hard right now and I don’t know what to do.

    Teen Line Wrote: 

    Thanks so much for contacting Teen Line. I’m so glad that you’ve decided to reach out. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to feel so isolated and degraded, and it makes total sense that you would be unsure of what to do. You don’t deserve to be treated this way and I want to make sure that you are okay both physically and psychologically.

    You mentioned that you have a suicide plan which worries me because my primary concern is your safety. I’d like to provide you with the number for Boys Town National Hotline, available 24/7 at 1 (800) 448 3000 which is full of professional listeners who are more than happy to talk with you. You may also find the number for the National Suicide Prevention Hotline, available 24/7 at 800-273-8255 to also be a useful resource if you feel the desire to speak with anybody about what you are dealing with.

    I’d like to provide you with a few resources regarding conflict resolution and communication that you may find helpful. The first is the reachout link https://au.reachout.com/mental-fitness/communication-skills which provides its users with tips of effective communication and confrontation strategies. If you are having any hardship with coping with what’s been going on, you may find the website http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx to be useful in finding a coping mechanism that fits you.

    I’m wondering if there is anybody that you could feel comfortable talking to about what’s been going on such as a parent, therapist, school counselor, teacher, coach or sibling. Teen Line listeners unfortunately do not use skype but if you can, I’d strongly recommend that you call Teen Line at (310) 855 4673, available from 6-10pm PST or text us by texting “TEEN” to 839863, available 6pm-9pm  PST. Please feel free to also visit our message board at teenlineonline.org/board, where you will find a safe space to contact others for empathy and support.

    Thanks so much for contacting Teen Line and best of luck!

  • I feel like I’m trapped in my parents’ responsibilities.
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    I feel like I’m trapped in my parents’ responsibilities.

    Female, 16 years old, TX

    Question/Issue:

    Hi I’m 16 and I feel like I’m trapped in my house helping my mom with her kids. I do online classes because I got in trouble but that was over a year ago now I’m 2 credits behind because all I do is babysit. I wanna get a job and move out when I’m 17 but I don’t know if this is possible.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. I’m so sorry you feel trapped in your house and feel responsible for your mom’s kids. It must be so frustrating that you can’t get all your credits for schoolwork because you have to babysit.

    I’m wondering if there’s anyone in your life you could talk to about this like a friend, teacher, school counselor, etc. It might be helpful to have an ongoing person who you’re able to talk to. I would like to give you a couple resources that you might find helpful. The first one is a List of 99 coping skills that you might want to use when you’re feeling upset. Another great website for coping is called mindfulnessforteens.com  guided meditations. Here are some articles that might help the communication between you and your mom. Here is an article by Helpguide.org that has Conflict Resolution SkillsHere is another article that talks about ways you can better your communication:  reachout https://au.reachout.com/articles/3-steps-to-better-communication. 

    Lastly, I really want to recommend you calling into TeenLine so we could hear more about your story and help you out further. You can reach us at 800-852-8336 to talk to another teen from 6-10pm PST, or you can text “TEEN” to 839863 from 6-9pm PST. Another great source is our message boards which are located at  teenlineonline.org/boards . Teens from all over can post their stories and comment back to each other. It can be really great to hear what other people are going through and get feedback on your story. 

    Thank you again for reaching out and I really hope everything works out.

  • My ex broke up with me but still contacts me.
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    My ex broke up with me but still contacts me.

    Female, 17 years old, IL

    Question/Issue:

     So my boyfriend broke up with me in February and at the time I was heartbroken but I got over it quickly. He will text me randomly saying he misses us or misses hanging out with me. Every time this happens I just pretend that I am over it but I don’t think I am. I can’t stop thinking about how happy I was. I haven’t been the same way since. I don’t think I’m depressed but I haven’t been happy in a while. He texted me today saying how he hopes I find a great guy but then started talking about how many girls he’s hung out with and that he has hooked up with his ex again. How do I respond to any of that??

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE. I’m so glad you took the time to reach out to us. It takes a lot of courage.

    It sounds extremely difficult to not be able to stop thinking about your relationship and how happy you were. It’s completely normal to feel that way and think back upon how happy you were when you had the relationship. I’m sorry about how your boyfriend has been talking about the girls he’s been hanging out with and his current relationship to you. It must be very frustrating and stressful for you. I wonder if you have anyone you feel comfortable talking to about this, like a trusted friend, adult, or relative. When you need help on responding to what your boyfriend has been talking to you about, talking to a trusted someone can help you earn valuable feedback and advice as well as emotional support.

    Whenever you feel overwhelmed or stressed out about what’s going on in your life, listening to music can help distract you from negative thoughts and overwhelming emotions. Journaling is also an excellent way to cope as you write down your thoughts and feelings onto the paper. If you don’t like to listen to music or journal, the website http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx is a helpful website that lists 99 other activities you can try.

    A website that you may find helpful in getting over your relationship is the website http://www.scarleteen.com/article/etc/getting_through_a_breakup_without_actually_breakinghttp://www.scarleteen.com has a variety of articles and information about romantic relationships and breakups that you may find interesting. You mentioned that you feel as if you haven’t been happy in a while. The website http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/when-life-sucks-and-you-feel-like-shit is a website that has methods to make yourself feel better whenever you’re feeling down. TEEN LINE is also available by phone at (310) 855 4673 or by text by texting “TEEN” to 839863. If you’re not comfortable with calling or texting, you can visit our online message boards at https://teenlineonline.org/board/ to read how other teens like you were able to overcome their situations and even post your own story to get feedback from fellow teens.

  • I was pressured into sending a shirtless picture of myself.
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    I was pressured into sending a shirtless picture of myself.

    Female, 14 years old, IN

    Teen Question/Problem:

    I was pressured into sending a shirtless picture to this guy. He has pressured other girls before and I don’t know what to do to stop him. I was then called a porn star by someone who I thought was my best friend.

    TeenLine Wrote:

    Hey_____

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line.  I’m so glad you took the time to reach out to us. Wow, I can’t imagine what you are going through right now.  That guy should have never pressured you into doing something like that and I know that must’ve put you in a very tough uncomfortable position.  And I can’t believe your best friend said that to you!  You really don’t deserve that and I am truly sorry.

    I encourage you to talk to an adult or counselor someone you can trust and feel comfortable around to get advice from. I don’t want you to feel embarrassed or feel as if something is wrong with you because there is nothing wrong with you and you did nothing wrong. I think talking to someone will really help you.  I also encourage you to talk to another friend about what happened with the guy and your best friend.

    I know that this much cause you a lot of stress and confusion about what happened and how to move on from this and so I want to give you some resources I think you will find helpful.  The website report.cybertip.org is a place where you report incidents that have happened for you in your case of sexual exploitation.  The websites reachout.com and helpguide.org are sites that can help you prevent and deal with anxiety and stress you might be feeling in this situation.  I strongly encourage you to call our hotline 3108554673 to talk to one of us about what you are going through.  I also encourage you to check out our message board www.teenlineonline,org/board where you can talk to other teens who have gone through similar experiences and share your stories and help each other overcome the situations.  I really hope you find what you are looking for.

  • I want my parents to get a divorce.
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    I want my parents to get a divorce.

    Female, 15 years old

    Teen Question/Problem: 

    My parents are always fighting. They never stop fighting and arguing. This has been going on for almost five or six years now. I know this sounds extremely selfish but them not being able to get along is one of the many things that I just can’t handle at the moment because I have tons of other things going on in my head. Listening to them argue sometimes gives me anxiety attacks. I’m thinking about asking them to get a divorce. It’s obvious they’re not happy together, so I don’t see the point in everybody pretending at this point. I have a strong feeling that my mom is only staying with my father for my sister and I. I don’t want her to have to endure this any longer than she already has. Am I overreacting? I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.

    TeenLine Wrote:

    Hey_____

    Thank you for contacting TeenLine.

    I am really sorry to hear about what has been going on with your parents. You must feel so angry and upset with this going on for such a long time and you have every right to feel the way you do. It can be so difficult when parents are the problem and it is completely normal for you to want them to get a divorce.

    You could try talking with a close friend or close family member like your sister about how you feel and they might have some good ideas. You could also call TeenLine at (310) 855-4673 from 6-10 pm PST where you could talk with another teen about how you feel. You could also text us by texting “teen” to 839863 from 6-10 pm PST or check out our message boards at teenlineonline.org/board/ where you could interact with other teens from all around the world dealing with similar issues. You could also check out mindfulnessforteens.com which has a lot of good ways on how to deal with possible stress you might be having. Another great source is reachout.com which has a lot of different articles on how to deal with family relationships.

    You could do a lot of things yourself to try and feel better about what has been going on. You could try watching your favorite TV show or movie to try and take your mind off of everything. You could also try writing or drawing in a journal which is a great way to express your feelings.

    Thanks again for reaching out to us here at TeenLine as it is great that you are taking the steps to solve your problem. I really hope everything works out.

  • My boyfriend asked me for nude pictures.
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    My boyfriend asked me for nude pictures.

    18 year old, Female, United States

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I was dating this boy and about 2 weeks into our relationship he asked me for nude pictures. I didn’t think that was a good idea and he also agreed. So about 2 days later he sends me 2 pictures of himself, I deleted them right away because I didn’t want to see it. I asked him why he sent me them and he didn’t tell me why, he just said “Send me pictures of yourself” and I told him that I wasn’t comfortable with doing that but he just kept on asking and asking so I said “sure, but not today” I was hoping that after a few days of ignoring him he would stop nagging and peer pressuring me into doing it. He didn’t stop so after about a week, I made the stupidest mistake I’ve ever made. I sent him 2 pictures of myself. Right after I sent them I knew that I should have not sent them so I politely asked him to delete them off his phone as soon as he got them (I don’t know if he did delete them) He didn’t answer me back until 2 weeks later when I texted him. The convo. Started like Athis, me: hey. Him: whos this? Me: guess who. Him: i dont know. Him: dont text me again. So i asked him why hes acting like this and what happened. He called me some pretty bad names for no reason and then i asked him to just stop texting me because I was getting tired of it. A couple months later i texted him on Instagram saying that I was sorry for the way I acted when texting him. In May 2016 my local news station did a week long segment on sexting. I didnt even know what sexting was so I watched it and found out that i had sexted my ex-boyfriend and i didnt even know it when i did it. The next day they did another segment on it about a boy who sexted a girl and he was going to court with an attorney because of it. My heart dropped. I didnt even realise that mt state had a law stating that minors sexting each other is illegal. I had never even heard of it until that day. I couldnt believe that i did something illegal and i didnt even know it at the time. What should i do? I cant sleep and im not enjoying life because i keep thinking about how to tell my parents or even if i should tell them. I plan on going into the military when im older but im afraid that my stupid 13 year old mistake will ruin my chances. Please help me, i dont know what to do! My parents will be so mad and they will lose their trust in me! Im afraid i will go to jail for this and have to pay big fines! My family cant afford fines, we are living off my dads paychecks every 2 weeks! Please help me figure this all out. If i could go back to any time, i would go back and not ever send those pictures to him!

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hey              ,

    Thank you so much for contacting TeenLine. It was so brave of you to open up about the really difficult situation you are facing right now. It sounds like you are experiencing some serious regret of sending naked photographs of yourself to this boy, and torn up about whether or not to tell your parents. It also seems like your ex-boyfriend was putting you in a very uncomfortable situation by asking for said photographs and sending you photos of himself without any consent from you.  I’m really sorry that you had to deal with that.
    I cannot give you advise, nor am I a legal expert, but I can tell you to follow your gut. However cliche it may be, there is much to be said for your instinct, and whatever you think is the right thing to do, probably is the right thing to do. Perhaps instead of your parents, if you’re uncomfortable disclosing this kind of information to them, you could talk to a trusted adult, like a guidance counselor, or a teacher about this? Or, if you don’t want to talk to an adult, have you considered talking to a friend? It can feel great to talk things out, especially to get a second opinion or angle on the situation. To try and make yourself feel better without anyone else’s help, try listening to some calming music. It could be your favorite songs that always make you feel better, or you could try out a new artist you’ve heard of but never tried. Either way, in my opinion, music is good for the soul.
    You could also watch a good movie, write in a journal, or draw. It makes me really sad to hear you being so hard on yourself. I can tell from your email that you are such a sweet person who had the best intentions and were really pressured into the situation. I want you to know that you are not alone. If you want to talk more about your concerns, try calling us at 310-855-4673 (6PM-10PM PST), or going online to our message boards at www.teenlineonline.org/boards.
    For more support, log on to www.teenmentalhealth.com for more information about mental health in teens, or www.mindfulnessforteens.com for articles about wellness, anxiety, depression, and healing.
    Stay strong, here’s a clover for good luck 🍀

     

    a TEEN LINE teen
  • HOW DO I KEEP MYSELF FROM FEELING ALONE?
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    HOW DO I KEEP MYSELF FROM FEELING ALONE?

    How Do I Keep Myself From Feeling Alone?

    13 year old, IL

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I want to ask, how do I keep myself from feeling alone and all that. I know I have friends and I want to talk to them but I feel like I annoy them. Then I end up not talking to them and then I feel really alone and then sometimes I ask myself why should I even be here if I am useless. I just want to ask, how do I stop from feeling so lonely and try to stay happy like I used to be years ago… please help.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. I think it’s really brave of you to reach out for help.

    It sounds like you feel very lonely and depressed. Being lonely is really hard to deal with, and it must be really hard to feel like you annoy your friends. It must be really scary and upsetting to feel like you can’t talk to your friends because they are people that should support you and stand by you, and it can almost feel like a betrayal if you feel like you don’t have their support when you are feeling down. I want to let you know that no matter what your friends make you feel like, you are not useless. You matter and you will always matter. You and your life are so important.

    I wonder if you have tried to tell your friends or family how lonely you are feeling. It can be really helpful to share your feelings with someone who will listen to you that you trust. I would also recommend that you call TEEN LINE 3108554673 (open every day from 6:00 to 10:00 pm PST) or check out the TEEN LINE message board HTTPS://TEENLINEONLINE.ORG/BOARD/ where you can chat with other teens who might be going through similar situations. You can also text “teen” to 839863 which is the TEEN LINE text number. Also, if you are ever feeling lonely or depressed, you should try to do things that normally make you happy (running, singing, listening to music, journaling, etc.), and that might help you to feel a little better.

    Stay strong.

    A TEEN LINE teen 🙂

  • Since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.
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    Since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.

    15 year old, Female, CA 

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My problem is, since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.
    I just don’t see the point to life or happiness anymore and I’ve lost all interest in things I used to really enjoy doing.I barely eat or talk and I never sleep. I just can’t.I don’t know why, either. I have a really loving, caring family and I have a lot of friends but I just feel like if I wasn’t there, no one would really care. I seem to upset people in my friendship group just by existing and today, I told a person I thought was my closest friend about how I was feeling. He simply said ”If you committed suicide, I wouldn’t really care.” that thought has bugged me all day and I have just noticed how unimportant I am.

    I want to die and I am going to whether I get advice or not. Advice may keep me a few days longer but I want to do it quickly, with minimum and as soon as possible.
    I am afraid of death, I am an atheist and I don’t know what is beyond death. I hate pain and blood but I really want to get out of this world as soon as possible.
    Please help me…

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi,

    Thanks for contacting Teen Line. It sounds like you have depressed for awhile and you feel kind of numb. Sometimes, when you feel really alone internally you may have trouble associating with those around you. Another factor that could hinder in your ability to trust in friendships is insensitive comments like the one you mentioned your friend making. I can imagine feeling deeply upset and angered by people’s inconsideration and I understand how it may feel like they aren’t supportive at all. What really concerns me is the extent of your desire to commit suicide. It seems like you are intent on killing yourself and that is worrisome, because suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I’m sorry you’re going through this emotional isolation and anxiety but it can get better.

    First, I think you could try making new friends who you enjoy being with and make you feel loved/supported. If this numbness you said you experience continues then you could think about exploring your passions, to feel more fulfilled. If you want to talk to another teen you can call Teen Line 6-10 PM PST at 310-855-4673 in a non-judgmental place. Also, I really want to encourage you to call the Suicidal Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747 available 24/7 for more information and referrals regarding these really serious urges you’ve been having. You mentioned how you hate pain and blood and I want you to know that suicide is not the only option to escape your pain.
    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I am currently in an abusive relationship.
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    I am currently in an abusive relationship.

    20 or older, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I am currently in an abusive relationship with my ex-boyfriend. I keep going back to him no matter what he does. I don’t know how to make it stop and I am really confused. Please help me, I need your guidance.

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi ______,

    First of all, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line tonight and sharing your story.Your situation sounds really hard, and I’m wondering if you have spoken to anyone about what you are going through, like a close friend, parent, or therapist. Also, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24 hours a day at 1(800)799-7233. Your safety is really important to us, so if you need any guidance please call in. Teen Line is available as well at 1-800-852-8336 from 6-10pm so we can hear more about your situation. You could also visit the teenline message board at www.teenlineonline.org/boards for you to talk to other teens going through similar situations. Thank you so much for emailing in tonight. Abuse is never okay and I hope this email was helpful.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • My life at home isn’t so great at the moment.
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    My life at home isn’t so great at the moment.

    16 year old, Female, NJ

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My life at home isn’t so great at the moment. My dad has developed an alcoholic addiction due to depression. Fast forward to 3 years later and the situation has not improved. He comes home drunk every day after work and fights with my mom. It’s really sad that my little 11 year old sister has to hear all the yelling and see my mom cry afterwards. My dad has tried reaching out for help at addiction centers but he never stays for more than a few weeks. I’m embarrassed of him because of the way he acts when he’s drunk in front of our neighbors and people in public. One time he embarrassed me in front of a friend from school when she came over to work on a project. And another time, he almost got us into a fatal car accident while driving to a school event at a science center. I don’t speak with him much now because I feel like I lost him as a dad a while ago, and he’s a stranger to me now.
    My father’s alcohol abuse is not the only problem in my family right now. My little sister was recently diagnosed with ADHD and she takes medication to help her stay focused in school, but at home she acts really aggressive towards me. She always picks up a fight with me over the silliest things, even when I ignore her. When my mom hears her fighting, she yells at me and I get in trouble for something I had nothing to do with. When my boyfriend comes over, my sister is super disrespectful towards me and treats me like garbage. Sometimes, she curses and tries to hit me. It really hurts that she has no consideration for her big sister, especially since I’ve been taking care of her while my dad struggles to get better.
    People have noticed that I’ve lost weight and it makes me uncomfortable to hear that since I already have body image issues. I’ve been trying to distract myself by doing other things but nothing seems to help. I haven’t talked with the guidance counselors at my school because I feel like they can’t do much to help,It feels as if  I have to deal with this by myself. I start my senior year of high school this fall, and I want to make the right choices and move ahead with my life.

     

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi ____,

    Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE and sharing what has been going on in your life recently.  It was so brave of you to reach out and contact us.  It really seems like so much has been happening lately, and you do not deserve to be going through all of this.  It must be so hard to see your dad come home drunk and fight with your mom, especially knowing that your younger sister also sees this happening.  You must feel embarrassed of your dad’s behavior in public, and it seems like you have been really affected by your dad’s behavior.  You do not deserve to feel as if you have lost your dad; I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this.  It also seems really annoying that your sister has been picking fights with you over the silliest things and treats you like garbage.  It is so admirable of you for taking take of your sister right now and it must be so hard to see her treating you so poorly.

    You do not deserve to be going through all of this alone right now, and I am wondering if there is anyone you can talk to about what has been happening.  You mentioned that you feel as if your guidance counselors will be no help for you, but maybe there is someone else you can confide in.  Talking to a close friend, trusted adult, or close relative may help you receive the support the comfort you deserve right now.  You can also search the Internet to find a therapist that lives around you to talk to someone for free confidentially.  You deserve to be happy at home, and I encourage you to check out http://al-anon.org/how-to-find-a-meeting, a resource that offers support for individuals with family members that have drinking struggles.  You can attend an Al-Anon meeting near you, share your experiences that you have had with your dad, and learn effective coping mechanisms to deal with your dad’s behavior.  You can see that you are not alone right now and other teens have family members that have drinking issues.  If you are not comfortable talking to someone, you may find relief in journaling, exercising, singing, dancing, listening to music, playing a game, or sketching.  Doing something that truly makes you happy make help you at this time.  You are also welcome to call TEEN LINE any night from 6-10 pm PST at (310) 855-4673 and talk to a teen about everything that has been going on lately.  You also mentioned having to deal with body image issues.  You deserve to start your senior year on a good note, and I hope these options help you.

    -A Teen Line Teen

     

  • I used to be bullied.
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    I used to be bullied.

    13 year old, Female, United Kingdom 

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I used to be bullied and now I am trying to recover from the pain I went through last year. My “friends” stopped caring about me and they started ignoring me. In addition, they would call me mean names all the time at school. Now I sit by myself during lunch breaks at school. I have reached a low point in my life and I feel so lonely. I DON’T cut, just want to make that clear. Also, I am not normal; l am a gamer and like dark clothing. My style is more alternative and the people I seem to get along with better are boys in my grade. I just don’t want to be alone at school anymore. Please help.

    TEENLINE WROTE: 

    Hey _____,

    Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you’re feeling pretty lonely and distant from your friends. I know it could be hard to feel this way, especially since it sounded like things had really turned around. I wonder if you have tried making new friends or getting a strong support system, such as a trusted teacher or counselor at school that you could spend breaks with and talk to. I’m glad to hear that you don’t cut and that you cope with your problems another way. Having an alternative style, playing video games, and liking dark clothing doesn’t make you any less than normal. Your interests and the fact that you are friends with mostly boys is your decision and shouldn’t make you feel less than or have you secluding yourself. If you feel like you still need somebody to talk to you can always visit http://www.bullying.co.uk/, which is a local website you can visit to read in on more about bullying. I hope I helped you today and that you can find a strong support system to help you get through this.

     

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My girlfriend is very sick.
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    My girlfriend is very sick.

    17 year old, Male, FL

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My girlfriend is very sick, please help me. I don’t  want to lose her and she can’t see a doctor because we are  both afraid of splitting up.  We live far away and I can’t live without her. My girlfriend does not know what is wrong with her medically, but she was born premature. I live in Florida and she lives in Alabama and although we have only dated for a year I know I want to propose to her in the near future. I had a terrible past and she came to me and saved me. If she dies I’ll take my life and join her. I cant live a day without her.

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi ­­­­­_______,

    Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It sounds like you are very in love with your girlfriend but at the same time feeling terrified because she is sick and you are scared of what happen in the future. It is always hard when someone you love with all your heart is sick and you are unsure about what might happen. It can be hard because you don’t have any control over the situation and you feel like you want to do everything to help them. It sounds like from the description you have written that your relationship with your girlfriend is so strong and you have a bond with her that you treasure. You mentioned in your email that you would end your life if she passes. Ending your life would not help the situation, all the people that love you would be in such grief and will always wonder what they could have done  to help change your mind. I wonder if you ever talked to anyone about this, maybe talking to a close friend or trusted adult would help.I really want to encourage you to call into our hotline at 310-855-4673,we are open every day from 6-10(pst). We also have something called teenlineonline.org. It is a website where other teens write and read other peoples experiences and stories and support each other.I also recommend that you call into the suicide prevention hotline at 877-727-4747, they are open everyday 24/7. You are such a strong person standing by your girlfriend through this rough time, don’t ever forget that. Have a great night.

     

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I don’t want to go to a foster home.
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    I don’t want to go to a foster home.

    15 year old, Female,  NH

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I don’t want to go to a foster home because I’m scared of what it will be like. I am a very shy person and I know that if I go away into foster care I won’t be able to talk to my boyfriend. I am scared and  don’t want my parents to hurt me. I am alone and my grandparents on my mom’s side are abusive.  Honestly, it feels as if I don’t have any valuable reason to live anymore because my family makes me feel so unwanted.  I’ve tried counselling, meditation, and a suicide mental institute. Nothing seems to be working, what can I do?? 🙁

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Firstly, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. It is really brave of you to open up to me about your current situation. I can’t imagine how scary it is to have your grandparents on your mom’s side be abusive, as well as being in fear of your parents hurting you. It seems frustrating to want to be somewhere that your boyfriend can contact you. I’m so sorry that you’re going through so much pain that you don’t see much reason to live anymore, and that worries me. I want you to know that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and although it may not seem like it right now, things can get better. Contacting me at Teen Line was a great first step, and if you keep reaching out, things can change for the better. You sound like a great person, and I imagine that there are people that are close to you that really care about you. Have you thought about talking to a close friend, trusted adult, or school counselor about how you’ve been feeling? It can be really difficult to hold in everything you’re feeling, and it’s great to have people you can open up to about anything. I’m not sure what is happening that would cause you to go to a foster home, but if someone in your family is abusing you, your local Department of Children and Family Services does their best to keep families together, not separate them. You can check it out here: http://www.cfsnh.org/. Also, if you are ever having suicidal please contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747 to talk to them in more detail about what’s been going on. It would be great if you could check out the Teen Line Message Boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/ where you can see how other teens have dealt in similar situations  to yours. Feel free to also contact Teen Line anytime from 6-10pm PST at (310) 855-4673 or text “teen” to 839863.

    Thanks again for contacting Teen Line, and I hope that my referrals help you get the help and support you are looking for.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

     

     

     

  • I’ve been in different stages of depression.
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    I’ve been in different stages of depression.

    17 year old, Male, NM

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Hello Teen Line, the simple act of writing this message is a great relief to me. I have been in different stages of depression. For the past 4 years now I have encountered many problems and I just don’t know what to do. It all started 4 years ago when my mother had come out of the closet. My parents were never married and I had been originally spending weekdays with mom and weekends with dad. However,  when my mother came out my whole life rocked and shifted. She had fallen madly in love with her partner, sometimes leaving me 4 or 5 nights out of the week at my grandmother’s house so she can go see her. I felt so alone and abandoned but my grandmother comforted me. This went on for about two years, until she announced that she and her partner had bought a house together. I was quickly taken away to the next town over where I was miserable at the new house. Although I was in the same house as my mother I still felt ignored because she would never leave her partner’s side. It got to the point that I told her I couldn’t handle it anymore, and had the visitation rights revised so I could spend a week at my dad’s and a week with my mom. Overall I was still very unhappy and It got to the point where I had contemplated suicide. In addition to all of my family problems and thoughts of suicide I have come to discover my sexual orientation. At first I thought I was bisexual but actually now I am leaning towards being gay. I am so ashamed and I cannot tell anyone because I am scared that people won’t like me. Despite everything I feel that this message has given me tremendous help in the sense that someone might read it and I will not be the only one in the world who knows these things. Even if you cannot offer advice I am at ease because at least someone will read it. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you and the entire organization.

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hey ____,

    I’d first like to thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line and I wanted to let you know that you are so brave for reaching out. I’m so glad that writing to us has given you some relief and we are more than happy to provide support to you during this time. You mentioned that your depression has been going on for four years and it started when your mom came out and you also said it has gotten worse since she moved in with her partner, from what you’re saying it sounds like you feel alone and everyone deserves to be acknowledged and heard. I’m so sorry you felt so alone or miserable and I wanted you to know that you are so strong for fighting through all of this. Some websites I suggest you take a look at are:  http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2  This one is about   parents, families, friends, and allies for LGBT people, since you mentioned you felt like you couldn’t tell anyone about your sexuality. Another thing I suggest is that you find a reliable support group since you feel so alone. If there’s a trusted friend, a family therapist, or a school counselor you can confide in them I highly suggest you do so. You said that your belief in God has stopped you in the past from suicide but if those thoughts become too overpowering you definitely should call the suicide prevention hotline which is open 24 hours and they can be reached at 877-727-4747. If you need anymore support you can definitely call in at 310-855-4673 anytime between 6-10 pm PST. Or you can always visit our message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/. I’m so sorry it took us two days to respond to your email and I hope I’ve been helpful.

    Best,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • My mom and I do not have a great relationship.
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    My mom and I do not have a great relationship.

    17 year old, Female, AZ 

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My mom and I do not have a great relationship. We have never gotten along and I always try to fix our relationship, but no matter what I do it does not work.  When I was younger up until now I have made some terrible choices in life. Every time I try to change my mom always brings back the past and all my errors. Growing up was not easy and I was bullied at school as well as at  home. My mother always called me fat, a cow, and really mean names. I just need  help trying to figure out a way I can improve my relationship with my mom. Any advice?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ­­­­­­­­_________,

    I am so sorry you’re going through this hard time with your mom. It must feel so awful to have your mom say these things to you. Your mom is suppose to be there to love and take care of you and the things she is calling you are not okay. I can only imagine how difficult it must have been to be bullied at school and then come home to be treated badly. Have you considered talking to any other trusted adults, family members, or a school counselor about what has been going on? It might really help to actually talk to someone about this. It is so great that you have tried to make a change in your life and move on from your past and it must be so frustrating to have your mom keep bringing it up. I would really encourage you to call into Teen Line (1-310-855-4673) so you can talk more about the situation. I just want to say that you are so strong to still want to improve your relationship with your mom after all that has happened. Thank you so much for reaching out to Teen Line. Hope to hear from you soon.

    A TEENLINE TEEN

     

     

  • I recently found out that I am moving to another country.
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    I recently found out that I am moving to another country.

    14 year old, Female United Kingdom

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I recently found out that I am moving to another country and I had to break up  with my boyfriend because of it. I didn’t think I truly loved him but I can’t sleep when we don’t hug and say goodnight.  I am so sad because just 2 days ago I found out he has cancer. Now his birthday party is in 2 weeks and it is the last one I’ll ever have with him but I am travelling to another country for a wedding. Should I beg to stay for his birthday and let the rest of my family go or should I go with my family? Should I get back together with him? I’m just scared that when I leave it will hurt even more than. I am so upset and confused. What should I do?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ________,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you have such a tough decision to make and I can tell by your email how frustrating this can be.  It sounds so difficult to have to make a decision to either stay home and attend his birthday party or go to the wedding.  Have you talked to him about this to see how he feels? Perhaps speaking with him directly about your feelings would help before you make the decision.  You mentioned you didn’t think you truly loved him, but you also care about him…especially now that he is ill.  Perhaps speaking with your parents about this also would help you in making this decision. Getting support for yourself is very important right now so I am glad that you reached out.

    I found a resource for teens with cancer and support:  http://www.macmillan.org.uk/Cancerinformation/teensandyoungadults/Infoforteensandyoungadults.aspx/

    You can also access our Message Boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/ to connect with other teens about this all all kinds of other topics. I hope this information helps you, Charlotte.

     

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • Can I just run away somewhere?
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    Can I just run away somewhere?

    17 year old, Female, SD

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM: 

    Can I just run away somewhere peaceful with out any  worries? Recently, a lot has been happening. Large school projects, parents fighting, health issues, and even more. To start, school has been not the best but I’ve doing ok until my teacher decided to give us so many deadlines and projects. Second, my parents are constantly arguing with each other over the smallest issues. They also don’t trust me with anything, always asking information they don’t need, I feel like I’m treated like a 2 year old. Also, I have just recently gone to the doctors, who told me I’m almost over the bridge of being pre-diabetic, which my whole family is constantly reminding me of. They make rude comments about my health like: “You shouldn’t eat ALL that, you’ll get even fatter.” and things along those lines. All of this has been making me feel unfocused, irritated, and just aggravated. I have been crying myself to sleep for the past week, and even once used a scissor to cut my forearm enough to leave scratch marks for a day (but not bleed). Any ideas how to help? Please, and Thank You.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    Firstly, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line and trusting us with something so personal. It seems like you have a lot on your plate. It must be incredibly overwhelming to have to deal with your parents constant fighting, and school on top of being pre- diabetic. Being pre-diabetic must be frightening in itself and being constantly reminded of it with such negative comments about your weight seems like it only adds to the stress. You don’t deserve to be spoken to that way and I’m glad you realize that.
    You said your parents fight a lot and don’t seem to be very trusting of you. With all that’s going on, staying afloat in school is a definite challenge within itself. You deserve more credit for being able to manage all of this. Considering the circumstances I think you’re doing a phenomenal job!

    Also, you mentioned you self-harmed. Although you did not bleed it worries me that you would resort to harming yourself. I’d like you to consider participating in the Butterfly Project as an alternative to self-harming. If you ever feel the urge to self harm again you would draw a butterfly on your wrist, or wherever you cut, which represents a loved one. The idea is that the butterfly serves as a reminder that there is someone who cares for you. Additional alternatives to cutting would be journaling, exercising, listening to music, or doing any fulfilling activity. If you have any friends, family members, or trusted adults that you are comfortable talking to about these things, please do. I also recommend taking a look at www.self-injury.net and the Teen Line Message Boards for support from people in similar situations. You can also contact Teen Line (310-855-4673) between the hours of 6 PM to 10 PM PST. The line is open seven days a week.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

     

  • My house hold is broken.
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    My house hold is broken.

    14 year old, Male, AZ 

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My house hold is broken; my parents argue every single day. Today my mom had my dad write her a check for $2500. Along with that she took out all her cash, credit cards, her ATM card and walked out the front door. Soon after my mother took off I acted a little irritable with my dad and he snapped out at me, almost like he was blaming me for all of our problems. He tends to get angry and yell at me for even the smallest things. This last event (my mom leaving) has left me feeling even more hopeless and empty. I have contemplated suicide before, but today is the most that I have ever contemplated it. I already have a plan on how I can acquire a gun so I can end my life. Right now, the only thing stopping me is my religion.

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    First off, I just want to say thank you for contacting Teenline. It takes a lot of strength and courage in order to talk about a problem such as this. It sounds like the situation with your parents  is really taking a physical and mental toll on your health. I want you to know that none of this is your fault, and you should not blame yourself for the conflict that is going on between your parents and that you are not alone. Domestic conflict such as this affects thousands of people your age. You mentioned that you’re starting to seriously contemplate suicide. This is a very serious and I want you to know that I am really worried about you. I recommend that you call the suicide prevention hotline; they can talk you through the steps to help curb those suicidal feelings. Their number is 877-727-4747 and they are open 24/7. Again, I want to clarify that none of this your fault and that these feelings you are having are very serious and should not be taken lightly. We’re here until 10 pm tonight and I highly,highly recommend that you call in tonight to talk to one of us about what is going on before making any rash decisions. Again, Peter: please call us at 310-855-4673 as soon as you can.  We are open until 10 pm.
    Thanks,
    a Teen Line Teen

  • I have been arguing a lot with my parents
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    I have been arguing a lot with my parents

    17 year old, Female, UK

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been arguing a lot with my parents. I need to get out of my house because this situation is causing me so much depression. I just don’t know what to do anymore, I need help. much depression and I don’t know what to do

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi ______,
    Thank you so much for emailing us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you’re going through so much right now, specifically fighting with your parents. I can’t imagine how hard it must feel to be so depressed, but I really want you to talk to someone about how you feel.   Since you are in the UK, I want to give you the number to the Samaritans hotline: 08457 90 90 90 (open 24/7). They are there to talk to you, and listen to you. Additionally, I would consider talking to a guidance counselor at your school, just to gain some guidance and support through this all. Thank you so much for emailing and I hope everything gets better.
    a TEEN LINE teen

  • My boyfriend and I have different religious views
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    My boyfriend and I have different religious views

    17 years old, Female, IA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My boyfriend and I have different religious views. We’ve been best friends for two years & dating for 4 months. I feel like he is my other half and he completes me but I have a hard time seeing a future with him. I refuse to marry some one who does not believe in the Lord. I do not what to do. Please help.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _____,

     

    Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. It must be so difficult to have different faith views than your loved one. I can imagine that it is really stressful to think about that and your future with that person. Talking to a close friend, trusted adult, school counselor, or therapist is a great way to get your feelings out, and figure out what you want to do. Coping methods that may help you get your mind off of things can also be helpful and include hobbies you enjoy, sports, drawing/journaling, and listening to music. Teen Line can also be a great way to talk to other teens that relate which you can reach at 310-855-4673 (6-10 PM), text “teen” to 839863, or use our message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards. Thank you again for reaching out

     

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I’m so depressed.
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    I’m so depressed.

    14 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I’m so depressed; my sisters are living with their bf’s now. All my life they’re all I had and now they are forgetting me. They are having kids and leaving me, yet they expect me to be happy. I have a mixture of emotions and I do not know what to do.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thanks for emailing TEEN LINE. It must be so hurtful to feel like your sisters are forgetting you and moving on with their boyfriends. It seems so difficult to feel like they are creating new lives and just expect you to be happy. I really want to help you in any way that I can. I’m wondering if you have someone to talk to about this like a trusted adult, therapist, or school counselor. Talking to someone is a great way to create a safe place for yourself and come up with some solutions. Maybe you can write your sisters a letter, that way you can figure out what you want to say beforehand. You can also go on the TEEN LINE message board at teenlineonline.org/boards to share your story and read about other people going through similar situations. Of course you can always call TEEN LINE (1-800-852-8336), our hours are 6PM-10PM Pacific Standard Time.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I have been having trouble with my boyfriend.
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    I have been having trouble with my boyfriend.

    15 year old, Female, NC

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Hey there,

    I’ve been having trouble with my boyfriend recently. We have met before but our relationship is now based online since he moved to another state. We use to regularly talk, without hesitation, and communicated the best way we could. Gradually, we stopped talking and he would leave earlier because he ’was sleepy’ and that led to a break up. Afterwards, he asked for me back and we resumed going out (and still are going out), but it feels as if our relationship is not working anymore or he doesn’t have interest in me – but I’m still madly in love with him.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _________,

    Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line and sharing this with me. It sounds like you are feeling like your relationship with your boyfriend is not working out because it seems like he does not have interest in you. It must be really hard for you especially since it sounds like you still love him. It sounds like because he moved it has made your relationship much more challenging for you. It must be difficult for you to see such a great relationship start falling apart. It might be good for you to talk to a friend about how you are feeling. It is always great to talk to someone and get your thoughts straight and get their opinions. It might be nice if you would to talk your boyfriend about how you are feeling. If you would like yo could maybe let him know how you are feeling and hear what he thinks. It could help your relationship or give you the closure you need to move forward. If not you can call into Teen Line to talk to a Teen Line listener who is trained to help you through whatever you need. Another idea if you would like is you can look at the Teen Line Message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards. It might be a great way for you to connect with people who are feeling similar to you. I hope that some of my suggestions can help you and your relationship.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I am currently having a hard time getting along with my mum.
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    I am currently having a hard time getting along with my mum.

    15 year old, Female, United Kingdom

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Hey so I am currently having a hard time getting along with my mum and its beginning to get to the point where I resent her. My dad died when I was younger, and since then she’s had a few boyfriends. She always becomes extremely attached to every new man she meets. I sit at home and babysit my younger sister while my mum goes out.  I can never ask her to give me a ride to the nearest bus stop; it’s as if I am bothering her.  (The bus stop is 3 miles from my house). If I try and talk to her about it she yells at me and says that I am selfish. I have reached the point where something needs to change because I can’t take it anymore. My older sister feels the same way. I work both days each weekend and other than that I am totally on my own. What should I do?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    Thank you so much for emailing Teen Line. It sounds like you’re having a really hard time with the fact that your mum is so distant and uninvolved in your life. It’s completely natural to feel resent towards her when she’s making you feel so stressed. I’m so sorry to hear that she’s blaming you and calling you selfish, even after you tried to reach out to her about how you’re feeling. It also sounds like she’s putting a lot of pressure on you to take care of yourself and your younger sister. It must be so stressful to live with her, especially since your father’s passing.

    It’s important that you have someone to talk to about this. I’m really glad to hear the you have an older sister who you agrees with you and seems to understand how you’re feeling. You may also want to talk to a trusted adult such as school counselor about this. A hotline that could call into is Samaritans. Their number is 08457 90 90 90 and their website is http://www.samaritans.org/ . You could also go to the Teen Line boards, where you can share your story and read stories from teens going through similar things. The website is http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

    Once again. thank you so much for emailing us and I hope everything goes well.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

     

  • It is finally time to get help for myself.
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    It is finally time to get help for myself.

    14 year old, Female, United Kingdom

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been thinking the last few weeks that it is finally time to get help for myself. However, I really don’t feel comfortable telling my parents, friends or other family members about all of my problems. I did some research and I found a counselor whose office is a 5 minute drive from my house.  Most of the time I feel so alone and depressed. I have no idea how to tell my parents I want to start going for appointments. Do you have any idea on how I can ask for help?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    First of all, thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE.  It was extremely brave of you to reach out to me.  It sounds like a lot has been going on in the past few weeks, and it seems like you have so much right now on your plate.  It is completely normal to not feel comfortable talking with your parents about what has been going on, and it is empowering that you have reached out and are taking responsibility when saying that you want to seek help and that you have found a counselor who’s office is near you.  It seems that you care about yourself and your health.  You must have been feeling alone these past few weeks, because you haven’t been able to talk to anyone including your family and friends.  It must be difficult not knowing how to tell your parents about wanting to seek help, and you do not deserve to be going through this without the support of people around you.  I do not know what your relationship is like with your parents and friends, but maybe it is possible to talk to someone else like a trusted adult who would be willing to help you during this time.  It is very important to have a support system, and I really want you to be able to reach out to someone you trust who would want to help you.  Also, I encourage you to check out the website:  http://teenlineonline.org/boards.  This is a teen forum where teens of all backgrounds can post their stories about what is going on in their lives.  You may be able to find support, comfort, and ideas from teens who are going through similar issues that you are going through.  I hope talking to a trusted adult and visiting that website will help you during this time.  Also, if you ever are feeling so low, http://samaritans.org/ is a website that you can explore and and there are phone numbers on the site that willing to help you and listen to you.

    Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My boyfriend and I recently split.
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    My boyfriend and I recently split.

    Female, 19 years old, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My boyfriend and I recently split. He is threatening to take his life and I’m not sure if he’s being serious or just dramatic. I honestly have no idea what to do… Please help

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line.  I’m so sorry to hear that your ex boyfriend is threatening to take his life, that sounds very overwhelming to have to go through.  I’m wondering if you would feel comfortable telling a trusted adult or school guidance counselor about this? It’s very important that someone knows about his situation to make sure he’s safe.  Also, I’m wondering if you’d be willing to give him the number to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to your ex boyfriend and help him.  Maybe he would be willing to call us at (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk.  Also, you should always feel free to call us as well.  If you ever feel like your boyfriend is in immediate danger, PLEASE call 911.

    I hope everything turns out okay ____.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My girlfriend is suicidal.
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    My girlfriend is suicidal.

    17 year old, Male, TX

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My girlfriend is suicidal. She loves me and she says that she can’t see a future with anything. She is really stubborn, but I love her and she loves me. Please help. I do not know what to do.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    First, I want to thank you for contacting TEEN LINE.  I cannot begin to imagine what it must be like to be in your shoes.  It sounds like you truly want to make your relationship with this girl work because it seems like you love this girl so much, even though she cannot see a future.  It must be so frightening to know that the girl that you love is suicidal.  You must feel really helpless knowing that even though she loves you, she is unable to see a future with anything. I want you to know that you do not have to go through this hard time by yourself; you do not deserve that, Shawn.  Do you have any close friends that are willing to listen to you and who you would feel comfortable expressing your feelings to? I want you to know how brave it is of you to email TEEN LINE.  Sometimes teens find it helpful to write in journals as a way of expressing all their feelings privately.  Also, exercising and staying acting can be a way of keeping the mind away from something bothersome.  Music can also help take your mind briefly away from this difficult situation you are in.  I do not know what your relationship is like with this girl, but sometimes teens find it beneficial to express their feelings and emotions to the person they love.  If you do not feel comfortable talking with the girl you love, no worries at all.  You are always welcome to call TEEN LINE any day from 6:00 pm to 10:30 pm if you ever want to talk again.

    Best of luck with everything you do,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I found out that I was a lesbian my senior year.
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    I found out that I was a lesbian my senior year.

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Female, 19 years old, IN

    I found out that I was a lesbian my senior year, I recently graduated from high school June 2013, I met this amazing girl named Marta online she lives in Florida I live in Indiana we are in a long distance relationship. We text, call, Skype, etc. every single day. I plan on meeting her December 2013, but there is one thing stopping me from seeing her. My parents don’t know I am gay. I’m scared to tell them. But I want to go visit my girlfriend so bad it kills me. She makes me feel complete. So what do I do ? should I go without telling them, or should I just tell them I’m gay and let them know my plans. I just know my parents won’t support me and won’t let me go. I don’t want to go behind their back, but if that’s what I have to do to see her then I will do it. Am I doing the right thing?

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ________,

    Thank you for contacting us at TEEN LINE. It must be so hard to feel like you cannot confide in your parents about your sexuality. It sounds like you care about your parents and you are afraid that they won’t be supportive. I think it’s great that you have accepted your sexuality. I understand that it’s difficult to reveal this to your parents, and if you have someone you can talk to, maybe talking it out would help. I can see that you really want to go see your girlfriend, and that your parents might not be open to your sexuality, but you shouldn’t be forced to do anything that you are uncomfortable with. I would appreciate it if you could call us at TEEN LINE at (310)855-4673 from 6pm to 10pm pst. We are here for you and can help you with anything you want to talk about. Another hotline that might help is the GLBT National Youth Talkline where you can get peer-counseling about coming out and parent issues at 1(800)-246-7743 from 1-9pm PST on Mondays through Fridays. Another great program is the Trevor Line which specializes in preventing LGBTQ suicide and you can call them at 866-488-7386.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I have been depressed since I was a young girl
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    I have been depressed since I was a young girl

    17 year old, Female,  OR

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been depressed since I was a young girl. It all began when my father called me names like ”fat” and ”useless” then this pretty girl at our church came and she started calling me names too. As I got older, she moved, but the name calling from my father did not. We got into much bigger arguments and he constantly reminded me how useless I was. My mother just sat back and watched. I began cutting myself but that did not last long when my cousin’s mom told on me. I later became friends with a girl from my school and introduced her to my other friends. Soon they started forgetting about me. They liked her more than they ever liked me. I noticed how all teachers liked her too because she is talented, smart, and has a lot of potential.  I hated her because I realized she was and still is better than me. Things with my father are still bad. He always tells me I’m useless or a let down. I’ve told my mom about how I feel and how I want help, but she just tells me I’m the worst thing that has ever happened to her. She also says other people have it worse so I don’t deserve to be depressed because I’m not going through poverty or have been raped. I feel like I don’t deserve to be depressed because I haven’t gone through any serious trauma in my life. But I can’t help feeling sad, useless, and ugly. It’s sad because it’s true when I say I’m useless. I have no talents and I’m not good at even the simple things. There is nothing special about me. I want to kill myself with all my heart. I’ve never attempted to, but I dream about the day when I can get a rope tightly across my neck and stop breathing as soon as my feet are in the air. I do scratch myself on my skin hard enough to where i can see red lines across my arms and legs. Its how I cope with my life. I don’t know what do do. I feel so empty and lost. I don’t even want love or attention, I want to die so I never have to worry about being good enough for society, guys, my parents, friends, or God.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    ________,

    I am so sorry to hear about everything that been going on for pretty much your whole life.  Everything that has happened to you sounds incredibly overwhelming and just plain unfair, so I really thank you for contacting us here at TeenLine.  Hearing that your father and mother have both been verbally abusive is not okay.  The kinds of things they have been saying to you are incredibly inappropriate and growing up only hearing these things can skew your sense of the world.  The subconscious mind can be affected by these words a lot more than you could ever be aware of.  I really need you to understand that your parent’s behavior is not normal or acceptable, and I would encourage you to talk to a school counselor, any trusted adult, a teacher, or maybe even to visit a local clinic for free therapy.   I’m happy to hear you found this friend, but it seems really discouraging to constantly be hearing how great she is while not a lot of appreciation has been coming your way.  That can really hurt and be upsetting so I am truly sorry.  So many things in your life seem so unfair, but it sounds like you are an exceptionally attentive person who is very aware of the environment around you. You mentioned you are having suicidal thoughts.  Please don’t do it.  It may not seem like things are good right now, but there will come a point where all of this just seemed like a bad dream.  I care about you, and upon receiving the right kind of help, I can’t imagine anything less than a bright future for you.  If these suicidal thoughts continue, call the suicide hotline at 877-727-4747 which is open 24/7. If you find yourself continuing to cut, you might want to check out self-injury.net for more information.  I would also like you to feel free to call us here at TeenLine at 310-855-4673 which is open 6-10pm Pacific Time.  You may also want to check out the teenline message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards to interact with other teens who have had similar situations as you. Thank you for contacting us here at TeenLine. It takes someone really brave to be able to recognize their innermost feelings, write them down, and share them like you did in this email. Stay strong.

    I really am wishing you all the best,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I feel so alone.
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    I feel so alone.

    15 year old, Female,  NC

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I feel so alone. I feel like my mom doesn’t even like me.  My little sister said if I died she wouldn’t even care. I always feel guilty from things I have done recently or in the past. I tried to kill myself a few years ago but now I just feel like there is no hope for me. I try to explain it to my older sister but she doesn’t entirely understand because she isn’t going through it. My friends, well, lets just say I don’t even talk to them anymore. I feel lonely, and sad all the time,  it got so bad I started doing self harm. I went to counseling and promised I wouldn’t cut anymore but I ended up breaking that promise. I stopped though and I have been clean for 28 or 29 days but every day I wish I wasn’t here. I don’t want to be here. I feel like there is nothing for me, or that I am going nowhere in life. I try to think good things, but I can never picture anything great occurring in my life.  Please, someone help me! I am tired of feeling and thinking this way. But I just want to give up so bad.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi  ________,

    Thank you for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. It seems like you are feeling really lonely and down right now. Everyone deserves to have a loving mother or little sister that isn’t rude to them. It can be really tough when your family isn’t there to comfort you or be there for you when you need them most. I can only begin to imagine how hard it must be to go through cutting and suicidal thoughts, especially when no one understands what you are going through. I know you go to a council, but I wonder if you can talk to another trusted adult or school counselor. I want you to know that there are always going to be people to get you through rough times and help you. If you continue having suicidal thoughts, I encourage you to call the suicide prevention hotline at (877)-727-4747. Some things you can do to free your mind are joining a school club, journaling, or listening to music that you like. If being part of the council doesn’t help with the self harm and you think you need more help then you can visit www.self-injury.net. It worries me that you mentioned that you cut in the past, and I think it would be helpful to check out http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/. If you want to get your feelings out to talk to a teen, you can call TEEN LINE at (310)-855-4673. Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE, and I really hope you are able to fix the problems you have at home.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I have depression and anxiety.
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    I have depression and anxiety.

    14 year old, Female, MA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have depression and anxiety. I take medication for both, but nothing helps. Every day all I can think about is death. Nothing good ever happens to me and if something good does happen, it immediately gets knocked down again by something bad. I’m not pretty or skinny like the girls at my school. They’re all happy, rich, have boyfriends and good looking bodies. I’m sick of looking at my disgusting body and my repulsive self. Nobody even cares about me or how I feel. I just want my life To be over.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    There is so much going on in your life right now, and I really want to thank you for emailing us. It sounds like you are feeling really alone and like you have no one to talk to, which I know can be really difficult.  Feeling like no one is there for you when you are always there for others is really disappointing and discouraging. It seems like you are comparing yourself to people quite a lot, and I know how painful that can be.  I know its hard to see people and think, why can’t my life be more like theirs or why can’t I be more like them, but sometimes, people who look like they have it together are really having a hard time. You mentioned that you are feeling suicidal and I have to say, that really worries me.  I’m wondering if there is anything you like to do that really makes you happy, like a sport you really enjoy or a club at school you are passionate about.  I’m wondering if there is anything else you could do to help you cope, like write in a journal or draw.  Sometimes it helps to just get your feelings out on paper.  I also really want to encourage you to speak with a trusted adult about how you are feeling.  Someone like a parent or maybe an aunt or uncle you are close with, if you would feel comfortable doing so.  You can also call the suicide prevention hotline.  They are open 24/7 and their number is 877-727-4747.  Feel free to call us as well.  We are open everyday from 6pm to 10pm PST and our number is (310) 855-4673.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I am very depressed.
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    I am very depressed.

    16 years old, Female, UT

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I am very depressed all I think about day and night is what will be the best way to tell my parents that i want to kill myself that they are the main cause of me feeling this way they are my parents but all they do is tear me down.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey ____,

    Thanks so much for reaching out to us at Teen Line, it sounds like you’re going through a really tough time right now and I am so glad you decided to write in. Telling your parents that your suicidal can be really hard and I understand how it would constantly be in your head. When someone is going through a difficult time a lot of people have suicidal thoughts and I really want to emphasize that you’re not alone and that it’s important for you to talk to someone about these feelings if you feel like you would act on them.  You mentioned that your parents constantly tear you down and they are the main cause of you wanting to kill yourself. I first want to say I’m sorry to hear your parents aren’t supportive of you and that they constantly tear you down, your family life should be a safe and comfortable environment.  I also want to ask if you have told anyone about your suicidal feelings or about how your parents make you feel. If you haven’t, one thing you can do is find a trustworthy friend, favorite teacher, school counselor, or even a relative so you can build a support system and you have someone to talk to about everything that’s going on in your life. In addition I highly encourage you to call the Suicide Prevention Hotline whenever you need to talk to someone anonymously about your suicidal feelings, depression, and parents. They are a 24 hour hotline and their number is 877-727-4747. Lastly, I also encourage you to call us at Teen Line if you want to talk with another one of our teens. We are open from 6-10 pm and our number is 310-855-4673. Once again thanks so much for contacting us!

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen
  • My girlfriend’s mom won’t let us date.
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    My girlfriend’s mom won’t let us date.

    17 years old, Male, ME

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    So my girlfriends mom doesn’t let us date, I turned 17 a few months ago and she’ll turn 15 in 4 months. I knew she wasn’t allowed to date when we started dating but I didn’t know how serious it was that we wouldn’t be allowed to ever hangout. We decided to sneak around and so I found every once and a while i’d go to her house when her mom left and at night she would sneak out. One night she snuck out while she was having a hard time and everyone else was asleep so I went to take care of her, her mom woke up and called the cops the cops were cool about it and felt bad for me after I told them all about her mom. Ever since then we haven’t been able to sneak around because her mom is scary and will catch us. Her mom found out we’ve had sex and honestly wasn’t so mad about it, but anyways after so many emotional ups and downs her mom finally decided to come to my house and meet with my mom and I. And lets just say I did everything to persuade her to let us be friends and she just wouldn’t let it happen, she said no boys in her house till her daughter is 16, we’ve been dating for 8 months and it’s so hard but I could never ever leave her, I just honestly don’t know what to do. Please… help.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ____,

    I want to thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE.  It sounds like you have been going through a lot lately with your relationship with your girlfriend.  It sounds so hard to be forbidden to see each other especially because it seems like you really care about her and just want to be with her.  It sounds like you have have tried everything to reason with her mother, and she is really set in her ways about her daughter.  This doesn’t give you much else you can do.  Do you think you would be able to wait to be with her until she turns 16?  I know that might sound  like torture, but sneaking around with her might end up with another call to the police.  Do you think her mother might let her be at your house under the supervision of your mom? It might help to stay busy with activities in your life that you enjoy, like sports, exercise, music, art, writing, anything that can keep you busy until you can be with your girlfriend.  If you need someone to talk to about all of this you can call us here at TEEN LINE.  Our number is 310.855.4673, and our hours are 6pm to 10pm PST.

    Hope this helps,

    Take care

    TEEN LINE
  • There are times when I feel like giving up.
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    There are times when I feel like giving up.

    15 years old, Female, UK

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    There are times when I feel like just giving up. I have found myself thinking what is the point anymore everyone seems to be against me even my own parents seem to tear me down at any opportunity they can get. I have tried to end it,  but I always end up bursting into tears wondering what  am i  doing.  I am worried that one day I will reach my breaking point and it will be too late to stop. I just don’t know what to do. 

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hey ______,

    I’m really glad you emailed in to Teen Line. It takes so much courage to be able to reach out and share how you’re feeling about suicide and what has been going on. It must feel so frustrating to feel like everyone is against you, especially your parents. You said that you’ve tried to end it and I just wanted to tell you that I am really worried about you and your safety. It must feel so scary to have those realizations and not be sure about what you are doing. I’m wondering if you have talked to anyone about what has been going on and how you are feeling like a school counselor, friend, or trusted adult. Talking to someone can help bring you support. I am also wondering if maybe doing things like drawing, writing in a journal, or playing sports could help get your mind off of things and express how you’re feeling. I know you mentioned that you are scared that there could come a time where it’s too late to stop and I wanted to give you the number to the International Help Hotline. They can help provide you with support and talk about what has been going on and how you are feeling. Their number is 08457 90 90 90. I also wanted to give you the Teen Line Message Board Website. It is www.teenlineonline.org/boards and on there you can post and read about others’ stories that may perhaps be similar to yours. Another website that might be useful is the Suicide Prevention Hotline Website which is www.suicidepreventioncenter.org and here you can find out more information and some references of places to call to help provide support and help.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I have social anxiety disorder.
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    I have social anxiety disorder.

    13 year old, Female, WV

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have social anxiety disorder, and I also am the laughing stock of my class. (Even when I had good grades, people would still make fun of me). My dad beat up my mom twice, and I helped her both times, yet she won’t show me the least bit of compassion saying that: I ”don’t support her either”. I am also really sensitive, and it doesn’t really work well with the anxiety. My friends aren’t really the most compassionate people either, so I don’t really have anybody to talk to. Even if I hate my life so much I am too scared to cut myself. Please help?

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Dear _____,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to TEEN LINE, it is very brave of you. It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed because people are being mean to you and aren’t supporting you in the most helpful way. You said that you don’t really have anybody to talk to and I was wondering if there is any that you would feel safe going to such as a trusted friend or adult, a parent, teacher, school counselor or anyone else that you feel could best support you through this uneasy time. You mention that your dad beat up your mom and that is not ok for anyone to physically harm another person. It must be difficult having that responsibility to care for your mom and it is very courageous of you to help her. I would recommend contacting DCFS (Department of Child & Family Services) and their goal is to keep families safe. Their phone number is 800-540-4000. If you are ever in a moment where you feel unsafe then you can always call 911. Some ways to cope with any uneasy feelings could be writing in a journal, exercising, writing or anything else that may relieve stress. If you ever want to talk you can call into TEEN LINE. The number is (310) 855-4672 and we are open from 6:00-10:00 PM PST every night. 

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I’ve always had problems at home because I’m a constant liar.
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    I’ve always had problems at home because I’m a constant liar.

    14 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Well I’ve always had problems at home because I’m a constant liar, and I don’t know how to change. My family doesn’t have enough trust for me to believe that it’s a problem. I really hope you guys can help. I am so confused with everything.

     Thanks

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey ______,

    I’m really glad that you emailed in to Teen Line. It’s really brave of you to be able to recognize what you have been doing and realizing what you’re saying are lies. And I think it’s great that you recognize it to be a problem that you want to fix. It must be so frustrating that you’re parents don’t believe you. Not only that, but it must be so annoying that they wont help you through it. I’m wondering if there is a friend, school counselor, or trusted adult that you can talk to about how you’re feeling and help you work through this issue. I wanted to give you the Teen Line number it is (310) 855-4673 6pm-10pm PST. We can help explore how you’re feeling and provide support during what you’re going through. I also wanted to give you the website to the Teen Line Message Board. It’s a place where you can post and read about what people are going through similar to you. It is www.teenlineonline.org/boards.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I’m gay and I haven’t told anybody about it.
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    I’m gay and I haven’t told anybody about it.

    14 year-old, Male, Canada

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I’m gay. I haven’t told anybody about it and it makes me scared thinking about how my friends and family would react. I don’t want them to ignore me, or even worse to hate me. I just don’t know what to do about it. To me, it feels wrong that I look at the guys more than the girls in my class, and I can’t stand it. I keep hoping that one day, everything will change and I wouldn’t be this way anymore. But i’ve been saying that for the past year now, and i’m starting to give up hope. I’ve been trying to tell my sister about it, but I keep distracting myself with something else. She’s the absolute first person that I would talk to, if I had a problem. But I just get really nervous when i’m about to tell her about this one. Plus, I figure that she would understand more about it, because she told me that she was bisexual. I was planing to tell her, but she left for vacation, and won’t be back for a couple of weeks. I just really wanted to tell someone about it. What should I do?

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    It seems like you are having a really difficult time accepting what you are feeling right now. It must not be easy feeling very uncomfortable talking about something that has been on your mind for a while. I want to let you know that however you feel towards guys or girls is perfectly okay. There is nothing wrong at all with being gay and I can assure you there are many teens out there who are going through similar situations. Ultimately, You aren’t alone. I am really glad to hear you have your sister’s support and I know it must be hard to have her absent right now. I would suggest calling the LGBT National Youth hotline at 1 800 246 7743. For more information about them, their website is glnh.org. In addition, is there a school counselor that you could talk to this about? They are a 100% confidential and could possibly help your situation. You can also call us at TEEN LINE at 310 855 4673.

    Thinking of you,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • When I was 3 years old, my father brutally murdered my mother.
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    When I was 3 years old, my father brutally murdered my mother.

    19 year-old, Male, UK

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Hi, when I was 3 years-old my father brutally murdered my mother. None of my family ever talked about her, and it’s as if she never existed. They show no emotion over my mom. Every year on her birthday I feel lonely, and depressed. On top of that I don’t feel comfortable speaking about this topic to any of my friends.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hello ________,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE. It sounds as though things have been difficult for you. I can imagine that you are depressed and sad that you do not have your mother here. It sounds as though you are feeling lonely and sad because not only is your mother dead, but there is no celebration of her life happening. It sounds as though your family members are unable to cope with the loss of her. Im wondering if there is a way that you can find a ritual to celebrate and remember your mother, lighting a candle, writing her a letter, painting her a picture, etc. in honor of her life and remembrance of her. Im wondering if there is someone you can talk to and share your feelings with, a trusted adult, a school counselor, a therapist? There is a website in the UK called www.samaritans.org and there may be some helpful resources on there for you. It sounds like you are a sweet and sensitive young man that wants to honor your mother’s life and misses not having her around. I encourage you to check out samaritans and I hope you can find someone to talk to. You can check out our message boards and on there may be some people that have gone through something similar where you can chat and possibly find some support too. Here is the link to our online forum: http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

    Hope this finds you well.

    A Teen Line Teen

  • I am bi-sexual.
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    I am bi-sexual.

    18 year old, Male, TX

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

     I have just recently been honest enough with myself to come to terms that I am bisexual. I don’t just mean sexually attracted to both genders, but I can also see myself in a deep relationship with both genders. Right now I am going through a bit of an issue though. My (male) best friend is just coming to terms with being bisexual as well, and I feel very close to him, especially sharing this common struggle. I have yet to tell him that I myself am bisexual, and am afraid of what it will do to our friendship. On one hand, I feel like it could only help us to become closer, and to possibly begin a deeper relationship in the near future, but at the same time, part of me thinks that telling him while he is going through his own struggle could put us more apart. I don’t want to lose him, especially because of how I feel about him, now romantically. I am just not sure of what to do right now, and I know that no matter what I choose, it won’t be easy. What advice could you give me to approach the situation?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    I wanna thank you so much for contacting Teenline with your problem. It’s a very brave and difficult thing to do. I’m very happy that you are able to come to terms with yourself, and admit that you are bisexual; that’s a very hard thing to do, and demonstrates great courage. It sounds like you are very confused about what to tell your friend, and can see both good and bad scenarios playing out. One thing that might help is to check out the website http://www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. This website is helpful in helping LGBT youth make difficult decisions like this one. You might also want to call Teenline, our number is 310-855-4673. We are open every night from 6:00pm to 10:00pm PST. Another option is to talk to someone who know personally and trust, like a parent, or friend, or school counselor, who can give you more firsthand advice on your situation. If you do not feel comfortable doing these things, you might be interested in writing about your feelings in a journal. Writing is a form of processing thoughts, and perhaps through writing you will be able to come closer to a decision on what to tell your friend.

  • I’ve been having trouble making and keeping new friends.
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    I’ve been having trouble making and keeping new friends.

    16 years old, Female, PA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Ever since my Dad made me switch high schools, I’ve been having trouble making and keeping new friends. It’s seriously becoming such a problem and making me super depressed. Sometimes during lunch I would hide in a stall in the girls’ bathroom and cry quietly so no one sees me. I’m so sick of it, one time I gathered all the confidence and courage I had and went up to 2 girls that I hung out with before and asked what they were doing for lunch, because I didn’t know what to do. And they just said ”Aww, we have a social test to do, sorry”. But I seen them texting each other to lie and go out the back doors so I don’t see. I faked a smile and said ”Its ok, see you later”, and walked back to my locker. It was humiliating. Then as I walked out the door, one of the girls looked back and nervously laughed, they were well ahead of me and walking quickly away. I didn’t even turn my head as I walked the other direction because it was so embarrassing, I felt so stupid. What did I ever do to deserve this? I always act so nice and friendly, and I never had a problem keeping close friends at my old school. It sucks really, really bad because now I even drifted apart from my best friend. I feel lonelier than ever. I can’t tell my family because that would make them worry, and feel bad that I’m depressed about it. Please help me.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey, 

    I am so glad that you decided to email Teen Line. It takes so much courage and bravery to tell us about how you’ve been feeling depressed about what’s going on at school. It’s so awful that these girls would lie to you like that and it’s not okay for any person to be treated like that. For them to lie about their plans to you and then just nervously laugh about it is so unfair. It’s really difficult being the new kid in school dealing with the new place, people, and classes. It seems like you feel so annoyed and sad because your trying to make friends and be with them and they are just treating you so rudely.  I’m wondering if you tried doing something that you like, if it could help with how your feeling; maybe like writing in a journal, talking to your parents, taking a bubble bath, playing sports, joining clubs or maybe even joining a sport at school. I’m also wondering if there is another friend. school counselor, or trusted adult that you could talk to about how you’re feeling and whats going on. I wanted to give you this website that provides information on bullying and helps give resources for those that are victims. The website is www.bullying.org. I also wanted to give you the website to the Teen Line Message Board and encourage you to call into Teen Line. The Teen Line Message Board is a place on our website where you can post or read about what people are going through similar to you. The website is www.teenlineonline.org/boards. The number to Teen Line is (800) 852-8336 from 6pm-10pm PST. We are here to listen, explore your feelings and provide support. 

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I got kicked out of my house.
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    I got kicked out of my house.

    14 year old, Female, NC

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I got kicked out my house, and I have no where else to stay.  I’m in the cold and do not  have any money. What do i do.?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey ______, thanks so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It must be really scary getting kicked out as a teen and just having nowhere to go, and not really knowing what to do. I’m wondering if you have any friends or family that live near you? That way you have somewhere to sleep and just be so you don’t have to stay outside, and you have somewhere to figure out what to do now. You can also call into the National Runaway Safeline at 1800-RUNAWAY. They work 24 hours a day and can offer you information about bus tickets and shelters in your area, they can also give you other referrals and support. You can also call into the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 800-422-4453. They also work 24 hours a day to make sure that kids are in a safe home and well taken care of. They might be really helpful in addressing the problem you’re having with your family. Once again, thanks so much for contacting TEEN LINE. You can call us any time between 6 and 10pm (PST), any day, at 310-855-4673 or visit our messaging boards at www.teenlineonline.org/boards/.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • My girlfriend’s parents think she’s too young to date.
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    My girlfriend’s parents think she’s too young to date.

    16 years old, Male, CO

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My girlfriend’s parents think she’s too young to date. She is 16 years old and we have been together since 6/15/2010. We do not go to the same school and we really don’t get to see each other in person. It has been so hard to keep up with our relationship, and sometimes I don’t know if I’ll be waiting for her  until she’s 18  years old.  Most of our fights are because we don’t see each other. Her parents are making this relationship so much harder for both of us. I need ideas since I really don’t know what to do. I am wondering if there is something I can do, or she can try to do so her parents would be fine with us?

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ___________,

    I want to thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE.  It sounds like you have been going through a lot lately with your relationship with your girlfriend.  It sounds like you two really want to be together but her parents are making it really hard for you to see one another.  Have you tried talking to her honestly about how hard it is for you? Is there anyone else in your life that you trust that you can talk to about all of this?  Maybe they would feel better about yow two seeing eachother if they supervised the visits at least at first until they really get to know you and trust you?  If you feel like you need to talk about this further you can always call us here at TEEN LINE.  Our number is 310.855.4673 and our hours are 6pm to 10pm PST. 

    Hope this helps.

  • My parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember.
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    My parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember.

    17 year old, Female, OH

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember. At this point in my life I am so used to them being separated and sharing time between the two that it doesn’t affect me. My mother has guardianship, and I’ve lived with her ever since I was 4 years-old. Soon after they split up my mom met a man who soon became my step dad. He always treated me and my brothers like his own kids, and we love him very much. About a year and a half ago, my mom came to me and told me that she was cheating on my step dad not only with a random guy, but with his best friend. This hurt me because I didn’t know how to act; I was stuck between either hurting my step dad or hurting  my mom. I ended up not saying anything, and my mom and Robert (step dad) eventually split up.

     My mom moved this new man into our home and he stayed for about two months until he cheated on my mom and left. About a week after they split up my mom started going out partying and met someone new. This man moved in with us, and then left after about 3 months. After they split my mom could not afford the house we were staying in so she moved in with her new boyfriend, and we have lived there for about 3 months now. My mom and he are splitting, and I am getting ready to move into a new house.

    I’ve always thought about going to stay with my dad to have a more stable home because this situation is affecting me.  My mom has a new boyfriend every few months, and I cannot handle it anymore. My dad is pushing my brother and I to live at his house, but I don’t know if thats the right thing to do. If I leave my mom’s side she will not to be able to afford her bills because she won’t get child support every month and that scares me. I don’t agree with the things that she does but I want the best for her. I also just don’t want to hurt her feelings. I don’t know what to do… please help.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ________

    I am so glad you contacted Teen Line. What you are going through is so difficult and confusing. It takes a really brave person to reach out and ask for support. That must have been so hard to have your mom tell you about her cheating and then feel like you had to keep it a secret. No daughter should have to go through that. It sounds like there have been so many changes in your life and I’m guessing that must be really stressful. Your situation does sound really confusing so I can understand that feeling of not knowing what to do. The most important thing is for you to decide what is best for YOU. It sounds like you love your mom and want what’s best for her, but you also have to take care of yourself.  I’m wondering if you have talked about what is going on with any of your friends, or maybe another trusted adult. Sometimes it helps to get feedback from other people so you can make a clear decision. Maybe there is another relative you can talk to, or even a school counselor. It’s really mature to be able to identify those feelings  in which makes you reflect about your current living situation. Staying with your mom might not be the best choice for you, and I really want you to listen your feelings because it is a strength. I hope you consider talking to someone about all of this and also I wanted to let you know that you can call Teen Line and talk to one of us on the phone. Our phone number is 800-852-8336 and the phone lines are open from 6:00 pm – 10:00 pm west coast time. We are here for you!

    TEEN LINE

  • I have been cutting for a very long time.
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    I have been cutting for a very long time.

    13 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been cutting for a very long time. I stopped for a while but lately I have been feeling empty inside. I feel lonely, and I’m craving love and affection from my ex boyfriend. I really want to cut like the old days but somehow I can’t do it again. I am so confused on what to do with myself. I don’t want to fall into a worse depresssion, I need help!

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Dear ________,

    Thanks so much for contacting Teen Line, It is so brave of you to email us about this. It seems like you have been through a lot lately and it must  be so hard to be feeling  empty.  

    You said that you want to cut again and I think you should check out www.self-injury.net and http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com.

    You mentioned feeling depressed. I’m so sorry you feel this way.  I’m really concerned about you and your safety.  I want you to talk to someone about this. Is there anyone in your life you feel comfortable going to? Perhaps someone you are friendly with at school or a family member. Also if you feel the situation getting worse or think you are going to hurt yourself I encourage calling the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (877)727-4747. They can help you deal with some of your problems and can be very helpful.

    In addition to the other resources I gave you I really suggest calling us at Teen Line where you can share your story anonymously with other teens. We are available 7 days a week from 6pm-10pm PST.  I hope this helped in some way.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My mom is extremely strict.
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    My mom is extremely strict.

    16 year old, Female, TX

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Okay. So my mom is extremely strict. She doesn’t let me do anything. I mean it though. I never hang out with my friends because she always says no and I’m not just going to sneak out because I would feel bad and I know it’s wrong. I make ALL A’s and do almost everything that she asks me but why won’t she let me hang out with my friends? It just doesn’t make sense and when I ask her why not she says, “fine go ahead, do whatever you want. I don’t care.” but obviously she is lying and she brings up how i would lose support from her. How do I deal with this???

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hello _____,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE. It sounds like things are really difficult for you at home. It must be so frustrating to not feel trusted by your mom and that you are unable to participate in your relationships. Gosh, that must make you feel so sad and angry. It sounds like you don’t want to upset her and so you don’t sneak out, but you feel unsupported by her either way. Im wondering if you can sit down and talk to her about how you have been feeling.

    Also, maybe you can talk to a trusted adult, a school counselor, a friend to process through your feelings about this issue. You can always call us here at TEEN LINE, we are open every night from 6-10pm pacific standard time and our number is 310.855.4673. I hope this finds you well. Happy New Year. 

     TEEN LINE

  • My dad has always insulted me
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    My dad has always insulted me

    18 year old, Male, TN

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I try to be a good son. I live with my dad and younger sister, so I kind of took the mom role. I do all the cooking, cleaning, and like making sure the bills are sorted and paid on time. My dad has always insulted me or treated me emotionally wrong. And like it gets worse with the days, like moments ago he told me how pathetic I was and how i cheat him out of money and how I need to get a job and stop being an overall pathetic excuse of a son. Like I have cried myself to sleep on so many occasions, and now I am to the point of giving up. It’s like I don’t wanna even be home and I don’t want to here, I am so sad all the time and so depressed and I can’t really talk to anyone about it. :’( I don’t know what to do.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thanks so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. I’m sorry to hear that you have been feeling so terrible. It seems to me like you have been very responsible and I’m sorry to hear that your dad has been treating you so poorly and rudely. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be for you to be under constant bombardment from your dad. You do not deserve that.  I wonder if there is any way that you could try to talk with him about how you are feeling? I also wonder if there is a close friend, adult, teacher, school counselor,  that you trust that you could  talk to about what is going on?  It sounds like you are in a lot of pain, and I really want you to be able to get help. I know you feel like you have nobody to talk to.  I’m not sure of your location, but maybe you could look online for low to no cost psychotherapists in your area. Please also feel free to call us in here at TEEN-LINE as we are open 6-10 pm (PST) 7 days a week. Our number is 310-855-4673. You also mentioned that you may feel like giving up, and I hope that you stay positive and have faith that everything will get better soon.  I’m not sure if you’re suicidal, but I’d like to give you the number for the National Suicide Hotline which is 877-727-4747. Keep your head up.

    Thanks so much,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My relationship with my father is horrible
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    My relationship with my father is horrible

     16 year old, Female MI

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My relationship with my father is horrible. He has never hurt me or anything but I feel like I am getting emotionally abused. He’s in a bad mood from the moment he walks in the house from work. I can honestly say that I don’t want my mom married to him. He treats her poorly. By that I mean making fun of her,  and he’s always yelling or complaining about something. He is  a hypocrite and I do not ever see him changing. I love him and so does my mom but he is just so hard to handle and whenever we talk about some sort of therapy it never happens. I myself feel that I am dealing with depression and I just needed someone to talk to. Please keep in touch. I know my problem is probably not as important as others that you see but I am desperate for some advice.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hey _______,

    First of all, it sounds like your relationship with your dad has been hurting you emotionally for a long time, so that immediately makes your “problem” just as “important” as anyone else’s. In fact, I’m glad that you e-mailed us at Teenline, especially since you have so much going on with your dad. It must be so hard to have to come home to such an unhappy situation every day, so thank you for feeling like you could confide in us. I can tell that you’re a really mature and strong person to have persevered through everything your dad has put your family through. While it’s good to hear that he’s never physically hurt you or your mother, it sounds like his attitude and words are painful enough to hurt you on a daily basis, and must put a strain on your family as a whole. If you can, maybe you could talk to your mom about your father, and you guys could discuss the various options your family could take, like maybe finding a way to take therapy seriously, or even the possibility of getting a divorce. I know that discussion with your mom would be really difficult, especially since you both love your father, but you seem like you’re in so much pain and dealing with depression on top of all of that….really sitting down and talking with your mom, or even with both your mom and dad about your home situation could help. You could also consider talking to them about finding therapy just for you, since you mentioned you’ve been dealing with depression. Reaching out for help outside of home could be helpful as well, so maybe consider talking to a school counselor or another trusted adult about what’s going on at home.

    Hopefully my suggestions can be helpful to you. If your father ever does hurt you or your mother physically, please call the Domestic Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or you can call Teenline at (310) 855-4673 if you feel like you need to talk. You can also text “teen” to 839863.

    Best wishes,

    a Teenline teen.

  • I like both genders but my mother is religious
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    I like both genders but my mother is religious

    17 year old, Female, GA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I like both genders but my mother is religious and I have lied to her my whole life about this. I always try to sneak it into the conversation but no matter what I do she get angry at me. It kills me inside how she feels about gay people. She doesn’t necessarily hate them. But she will never accept them at all.

    Majority of my family is religious and they dislike anything that doesn’t agree with it.

    I just can’t keep this bottled up anymore or I’ll explode and tell the wrong person

    TEENLINE WROTE:

     Dear _____,

    First of all I want to commend you for being brave enough to share all of this with me. It must be so difficult to have your mother not accept who you are. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual. It sounds like trying to talk to your mom can end up badly and that must feel so disheartening. I’m so sorry that you feel like your family won’t accept you for who you are, nobody deserves to go through that. I really want you to find someone you can talk to who won’t judge you and can help you get to a better place. I encourage you to call TEENLINE  at 310-855-4673 (we are open from 6pm-10pm PST) or you can visit Pflag.org which is a great website that can give you and your family helpful information about being LGBTQ. Also the glnh.com is another great LGBTQ website.

    a TEEN LINE teen
  • For what seems like all my life, I have been different.
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    For what seems like all my life, I have been different.

    19 year old, Female, WI

    TEENLINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    For what seems like all my life, I have been different. I never fit in anywhere. When I was overweight, I was the fat loser. Now I am just a loser. I am in college now and seriously didn’t have anyone I can talk to. Until I met a girl named Janet. Janet is one of the most smart gorgeous and confident young women I have ever met. She hangs out with me everyday and the other day we kissed. I don’t know exactly what came over me, but I have never felt so safe and in love. Today when we met up, she asked me if I wanted to be her girlfriend. I was shocked. I told her I would tell her by Monday. I can’t be a lesbian…but it seems like I am. I have always been Christian and my parents are, too. I feel like I am letting down my faith and everyone I know. I seriously don’t know what to do!

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hey ______,

    It sounds like you’re in a pretty confusing situation! It sounds like it’s really difficult to deal with, especially since you don’t have anybody to talk to. While it sounds like you have a great time with Janet, it is reasonable to be so shocked in your place. Many teens feel nervous or anxious about relationships, and sexual orientations, and while it can seem sort of weird, it is actually very normal. It does sound pretty confusing to be Christian and have affections for someone of the same gender. However, I would like to say that many christians are homosexual, contrary to popular belief. There is a lot of information out there. If you would like there are two websites I found here: http://www.lgbtqnation.com/2012/05/gay-and-christian-youre-not-alone/ and here: http://www.gaychristian.net/ that talk about the issue. If you would like to talk about it please call in to us or the LGBT National Youth Talk Line. Our number is 310-855-4673 and we are open from 6-10 pm PST every night. The LGBT National Youth Talk Line is 1-800-246-7743 and they are open from 1-9 pm PST every Monday through Friday. If you would like to text instead, you can text “teen” to us at 839863. Our texting times are the same as our phone time.

    a TEEN LINE teen
  • parents keep fighting and talking about divorce
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    parents keep fighting and talking about divorce

    14 year old Male

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
    parents keep fighting and talking about divorce

    TEEN LINE WROTE:
    Hi. Thanks for contacting TEEN LINE. It sounds like you have been going through a lot lately, and your parent’s fighting and talk of divorce has really taken its emotional toll. It must be really confusing and difficult to have to deal with something like this. I’m wondering if you have talked to anyone about what has been going on – a close friend, or trusted adult maybe? Sometimes, having another person to talk with can make a situation a little easier to deal with and process. Also, if you ever want to talk to another TEEN, you can always call us here at TEEN LINE at 310-855-4673. We are open every night from 6-10 PM PST.

    a TEEN LINE listener