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Depression & Suicide

  • My friend’s dad is abusing her and I’m scared she’s going to commit suicide.
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    My friend’s dad is abusing her and I’m scared she’s going to commit suicide.

    Female, 14 years old, Netherlands

    Question/Issue:

    My friend from school is cutting herself and I am scared that she is gonna commit suicide because her dad is abusing her, he hits her and I am scared that one day she stops fighting.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you so much for reaching out. It was so brave of you. You are being such a good friend by contacting us. It must be so stressful to know that your friend is cutting herself and that her father abuses her. It sounds like because your friend is going through such a hard time that it has taken a toll on you. Being nervous that your friend may commit suicide is super hard to handle on top of teen stuff. I don’t want to leave you hanging without any resources so I hope these websites help you out.

    I know this email was meant to benefit your friend but I also really care about your mental health through this whole process and want to give you some ways to handle the stress. There is a great website called: http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx that has 99 ways to cope with whatever is stressing you out.

    You can also check out this app called “A Friend Asks.” It is an easy way to access a guide to warning signs, resources, and ways to help friends who may be suicidal.

    There is a great YouTuber named Kati Morton who makes amazing videos about everything from social anxiety to suicide. She has a great playlist about depression and self-harm which may be educational for you but also helpful for your friend. Here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqzZv5mmk-Xw4IvoHRzc7ki4 and https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqxUuzhjHu7Ra_UyKd4tEde2.

    Also, you said she struggles with self harm and so there is this project called the Butterfly project. The whole thing is explained on the website, but it is basically a creative way some people use to stop cutting: http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/

    Finally, the Netherlands has a great website for kids suffering with child abuse: https://www.vooreenveiligthuis.nl/veilig-thuis

    You can also call us at (310) 855-4673 from 6pm-10pm  PST or visit our message boards at https://teenlineonline.org/board/

    I hope your friend finds the help they need and that this email helps you de-stress yourself.

  • A sweet and nice boy asked for a nude picture which I sent it to him and now everyone knows what my areas look like.
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    A sweet and nice boy asked for a nude picture which I sent it to him and now everyone knows what my areas look like.

    Female, 13 years old, NV

    Question/Issue:

    Someone catfished me with a guy who was very sweet and nice, then he asked me for a nude picture and I sent him one. The next thing I know, everybody knows what my areas look like and I saw an Instagram account with my bust on it. I just feel like ending it all and I’m so close, this is urgent.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line. It was so brave of you to reach out and tell us a little bit about what’s going on. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It must be so frustrating and painful to have trusted a guy with such a photo and then having it leaked, especially on social media. It is not fair that this is happening to you and not okay for you to be deceived like this. I want to let you know that how you are feeling is completely okay and you are not alone. I am here to give you the support you need to get through this.

    First of all, I want to make sure that you are safe. Here is the number for the National Suicide Prevention Hotline that you can call any time when you are having thoughts about hurting yourself or ending your life: (800) 273-8255. You mentioned that you are considering ending it all and I am worried for you. You can get through this. I am here to help you. I want you to get the help and support you deserve. Thoughts of suicide or hurting yourself are dangerous and I don’t want this for you. You are strong and you can overcome this. I want to provide you with some healthy ways to cope with what’s going on that doesn’t involve self harm. Have you ever considered talking to someone about what’s going on? Is there a trusted adult, friend, counselor, therapist, or family friend that you can reach out to and vent to? It can be very therapeutic to talk about what’s going on and share your emotions with someone. Maybe they can help you understand and cope with what’s going on. I don’t know if you have a therapist already, but if you don’t, would you consider getting one? They can be a great unbiased source that can help provide you with some support and can also help you find safer ways to cope. I want to suggest Kati Morton, an online therapist, that can help you make your first appointment, but also has videos on how to deal with various issues. Here is the link to her video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZH3HQU_ewU

    I also want to provide you with some healthier coping skills. Do you have any hobbies that can keep you busy and distracted, do you enjoy listening to music, exercising, reading, journaling, etc. All of these are great ways to help you feel better and more in tune with yourself. Journaling, or writing down your feelings, is a great way to come to terms with what has happened and overcome it. 99 ways to cope is a great website that can give you more ways to cope. Here is the link: http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx.

    You said this is urgent and I really want to make sure that you are safe and not considering hurting yourself. I encourage you to call in to Teen Line at (310) 855-4673. Our lines are open between 6pm-10pm PST daily. You can also text “TEEN” to 839863 if you are more comfortable with texting. We want to hear from you, so please don’t hesitate.

    I also want to encourage you to check out the Teen Line message boards where you can contact other teens who have or are going through similar situations as you. They may be able to provide you with some comfort and help you navigate this tough situation. You can access these message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards.

    Again, thank you for reaching out to us. You are so brave and you deserve help. Stay strong.

  • I feel depressed and my mom is threatening to kick me out.
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    I feel depressed and my mom is threatening to kick me out.

    Male, 14 years old, NY

    Question/Issue:

    I need help with my depression. It’s been happening even worse with all the issues with my parents, especially with my mom. She keeps on saying she will kick me out of the house and I feel worse and worse.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line; it was so brave of you to reach out. It sounds like you’re going through a difficult time right ow with your mom and your depression. Dealing with parents is always hard, and I’m sorry she keeps on threatening to kick you out. It’s understandable that this makes you feel worse because she’s your mom and you probably care about her a lot. It must be hard to battle issues with your mom and your depression at the same time.

    If you haven’t already, I wonder if you could try talking to a school counselor, an adult, or just someone you trust, it may help and you wouldn’t have to go through this tough time in your life alone. Also, you might try checking out this list (http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx)  to find ways to cope.

    You might try looking at Kati Morton’s YouTube videos on depression. She offers solutions, defines depression, and how to get help. She might be helpful. You can also check out https://www.helpguide.org/home-pages/depression.htm. This website has articles regarding depression and how to cope with it as well. . au.reachout.com also has resources concerning arguments with parents, which might help you deal with the situation with your mom.

    Finally, you can always call Teen Line at 800-852-8336 from 9pm-1am (EST) or text “TEEN” to 839863 from 9pm-12am (EST). The message boards are also available at teenlineonline.org/boards where you can talk to other teens as well.

    I hope this helps.

  • I feel like none of my friends are actually my friends.
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    I feel like none of my friends are actually my friends.

    Female, 15 years old, NY

    Question/Issue: 

    I feel so alone a majority of the time and I feel like none of my friends are actually my friends. I got with a guy and we started dating. Then I was being called a whore. I’m still being called that throughout school and I broke up with him a month ago. Now I’m being called a bitch and worthless amongst other names. I have a suicide plan but I’m not sure I actually want to go. Everything is just hard right now and I don’t know what to do.

    Teen Line Wrote: 

    Thanks so much for contacting Teen Line. I’m so glad that you’ve decided to reach out. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to feel so isolated and degraded, and it makes total sense that you would be unsure of what to do. You don’t deserve to be treated this way and I want to make sure that you are okay both physically and psychologically.

    You mentioned that you have a suicide plan which worries me because my primary concern is your safety. I’d like to provide you with the number for Boys Town National Hotline, available 24/7 at 1 (800) 448 3000 which is full of professional listeners who are more than happy to talk with you. You may also find the number for the National Suicide Prevention Hotline, available 24/7 at 800-273-8255 to also be a useful resource if you feel the desire to speak with anybody about what you are dealing with.

    I’d like to provide you with a few resources regarding conflict resolution and communication that you may find helpful. The first is the reachout link https://au.reachout.com/mental-fitness/communication-skills which provides its users with tips of effective communication and confrontation strategies. If you are having any hardship with coping with what’s been going on, you may find the website http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx to be useful in finding a coping mechanism that fits you.

    I’m wondering if there is anybody that you could feel comfortable talking to about what’s been going on such as a parent, therapist, school counselor, teacher, coach or sibling. Teen Line listeners unfortunately do not use skype but if you can, I’d strongly recommend that you call Teen Line at (310) 855 4673, available from 6-10pm PST or text us by texting “TEEN” to 839863, available 6pm-9pm  PST. Please feel free to also visit our message board at teenlineonline.org/board, where you will find a safe space to contact others for empathy and support.

    Thanks so much for contacting Teen Line and best of luck!

  • My friend is thinking about suicide and she’s not listening to me.
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    My friend is thinking about suicide and she’s not listening to me.

    Male, 17 years old, CA

    Question/Issue:

    I have a friend that is currently planning to commit suicide. She’s not listening to anything. I’m very concerned, what can I do?

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us. I can only imagine how scare and stressed you are right now. I’m really glad your friend has someone like you to look out for her. I want to give you some resources that might help both you and your friend.

    First, here’s the number to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255. The line is open 24/7. I recommend giving this number to your friend, so she can use it if she needs it. It would be great for her to save the number in her phone for quick access.

    I also wonder if there’s an adult in your life you can reach out to for help. I think it’s important that you both get support in this situation. You shouldn’t have to go through this alone, and confiding in another person you trust can make a huge difference.

    You may also find this article on suicide prevention helpful: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-prevention.htm It includes tips and strategies for communicating and supporting people who are feeling suicidal.

    You can call us from 6pm-10pm PST at (310) 855 4673, or text us from 6pm-9pm PST. You might also want to post to our message boards at  teenlineonline.org/board for guidance from other teens.

    Thanks again for reaching out to us. This is a really difficult situation to be in, and I hope you guys find the support and peace you both deserve.

  • I’m depressed and people won’t listen.
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    I’m depressed and people won’t listen.

    Female, 12 years old, AL

    Question/Issue:

    People won’t listen to me and I’m depressed.

    Teen Line Wrote:

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line, I am so glad you reached out.

    It must be so frustrating for you to feel like people you talk to are not listening. It can be so difficult to want to talk about what you are going through and have people to support you and understand, but feel like you don’t have that. It must be so hard dealing with your depression– you deserve to have people listen to you.

    I hope this helps.

    I understand you feel like people won’t listen to you, so it may help to open up to someone whose job it is to listen or an adult you trust like a parent, teacher, coach, or guidance counselor at school. Talking to someone like this about what you are going through can help you let out all your thoughts and get help and advice. Another thing that may help when you don’t feel like talking to anyone is journaling. Journaling can help you get all your thoughts and emotions out on to paper and make how you’re feeling clearer. Here are some resources that may help you.

    The first resource is calling Teen Line at (310) 855 4673 or toll-free in CA (800) 852 8336, 6pm-10pm PST, texting “TEEN” to 839863, or visiting the online message board at https://teenlineonline.org/board/ . Teen Line can help you talk more in depth about what you are going through and understand and make clearer what to do. Another resource that may help you is calling or chatting with a counselor at http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/home.aspx . Your Life Your Voice allows you to talk to a counselor about whatever you are going through and get help and support. The last resource that may help you is watching Kati Morton’s Youtube channel at https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqzZv5mmk-Xw4lvoHRzc7ki4 . This channel provides many videos that explore how to deal with depression, immediate solutions, and how and when to get help. Watching the videos on this channel is a different approach at learning about depression and can help you grasp a better understanding on depression.

    I hope you find the help you deserve.

  • My friend has depression and may be suicidal.
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    My friend has depression and may be suicidal.

    14, Female, Washington

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My friend has depression and is suicidal and I want to help her but, I don’t know how. 6 years ago, I lost my dad to suicide and I feel stupid for not recognizing my friend’s situation. How do I help her?

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Whenever your friend feels suicidal, please urge her to call a suicide hotline. Teen line teens are always here to listen from 6PM to 10PM Pacific Standard Time at (310) 855 4673. Whenever teen line is not available, The Boys Town National Hotline is available 24/7 at 1 (800) 448-3000, as well as Didi Hirsch at 800-273-8255. If calling in is not an option for your friend, your friend can text us by texting “TEEN” to 839863 from 6PM to 10PM Pacific Standard Time or text The Boys Town National Hotline by texting “VOICE” to 20121 from 4PM to 1AM Central Standard Time. If your friend is not comfortable with calling or texting, live online chatting with a counselor is available 24/7 at the websites https://www.imalive.org/ and http://www.crisischat.org/chat/ and available from 6PM to midnight Central Standard Time at http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/ways-to-get-help.aspx. Your friend is not alone in dealing with what she’s going through. Please tell your friend to reach out to any of these resources whenever she feels suicidal and needs someone to talk to.

    I wonder if you or your friend have a trusted someone to talk to about this. Talking to a trusted adult, friend, or even a teacher or guidance counselor at school can get you valuable resources and feedback. When your friend wants to distract herself from negative thoughts and want to cope with what she’s going through, listening to music can be a good way to cope. Journaling is also a good way to deal with negative thoughts as you write down your thoughts onto the paper. If your friend doesn’t like to listen to music or to journal, the website http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx has 99 other activities she can try. Another website, http://mindfulnessforteens.com/ offers a powerful way to handle stress that your friend may find helpful.

    There are also many articles and information about suicide that you and your friend may find very helpful. http://www.speakingofsuicide.com/ is a website based on suicidal individuals and those who have known or have lost their loved ones to suicide. If you are lost in how to help your friend when she is feeling suicidal, the websites http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/when-your-friend-is-talking-about-suicide and https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-prevention-helping-someone-who-is-suicidal.htm have ways on how to respond and support suicidal loved ones. If your friend wants resources to find out how she can get the help that she deserves and cope with suicidal and overwhelming feelings and thoughts, the websites https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm and http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/Suicidal-thoughts-wanting-to-end-your-life are some websites that your friend can reach out to. The teen line message boards are also available at https://teenlineonline.org/board/ whenever you want to read how other teens like you and your friend were able to deal with and overcome their situations. You can even post your own story to get feedback from fellow teens like you.

    Hope you found this helpful. Stay strong, a TEEN LINE teen

  • I’m breaking apart inside.
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    I’m breaking apart inside.

    Female, 15 year old, TX

    Teen Question/Problem:

     I’m depressed. I get bullied, my grandpa recently died and my parents don’t care. I feel like I’m breaking apart inside.

    Teenline  Wrote:

    Hey ______

    Thank you so much for reaching out to Teen Line. I am so glad that you found this contact.

    Wow, you seem to be going through so much right now. I can imagine you must be experiencing a lot of pain. I am so sorry that you are getting bullied. It is never okay to bully and I want you to know it is never your fault. I am also so sorry to hear that your grandpa died. This must be so hard for you. I can imagine all of this added on top of your depression must be very overwhelming.

    I would love to give you a few resource to help you cope with what you have been going through. First, Reachout.com and Helpguide.org has some articles explaining depression and identifying the different types and causes. They also discuss some ways to deal with depression. Kati Morton, a YouTuber, has a video entitled ‘Depression Playlist’ that talks about how depression could be started and provides possible solutions and how and where to find help.

    Helpguide.org also has some articles about how to understand the grieving process and talks about possible ways to cope with grief and loss. Kati Morton also has a video called ‘How to Deal with Grief When Someone You Love Dies’. This video may help you explore how you can best cope with your loss. You can also try to create a memory box of your grandpa. You can do this by finding a box and decorating it and then, putting items that represent memories you have with your grandpa to honor him into the box. You can also find a teen grief support group near you through the site, ourhouse-grief.org.

    I would also like to give you the site pacerteensagainstbullying.org. This site has many helpful resources; for example, they have articles about bullying, stories written by people who have been bullied, and quizzes to determine if you are being bullied. They also have guides to create “student action plans”. Reachout.com also has some articles and advice on what to do if you are being bullied.

    You may also find it helpful to journal your thoughts and feeling so that you may better understand your own emotions. Doing something you love may help you clear your mind; for example, going on a walk or run, listening to music, drawing, watching TV, or playing a sport. I also think it may be really beneficial for you to talk to someone about everything you have been going through. You could talk to a trusted adult or friend, a school counselor, or a therapist if you are seeing one.

    I would also like to give you our Teen Line message boards at teenlineonline.org/board. Here, you can share your experiences and feelings with other teens who may be going through similar things, You can also call our hot line to speak with a teen at (310) 855 4673. Also, you can text “TEEN ‘ into the number 839863 to chat with a teen.

    Again, thank you so much for taking the time to contact us. I really hope you find the help that you deserve.

     

  • My mom has PTSD and lately it has been getting worse.
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    My mom has PTSD and lately it has been getting worse.

    18 year old, Female, Canada

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM: 

    My friends mom has PTSD and lately it has been getting worse and my friend feels like it’s never going to get better and she feels like it’s her fault that she can’t do anything to help. I’ve tried to tell her that it isn’t her fault and it’s not on her to fix her mom but I don’t think she understands. I know that she cuts sometimes to try to deal with it but I don’t think that she has in a while. I’ve told her about the butterfly project and other tricks that should help stop her wanting to self harm. I’ve tried to get her to talk to our student counselor but she says that she’s been to a therapist before and it’s not for her. I’ve also told her about how there are so many hotlines that she can call or that she can email like this one but she refuses to do so. I’m not completely sure she realizes that what she is doing is bad. But what really makes be nervous is that she called me tonight to talk and she told me that she thought about asking me permission to commit suicide. We have had a conversation before about this and I told her that it was not an option and that it would get better. She told me that she wouldn’t do it unless I gave her permission to. So tonight she wasn’t asking permission to she just said that she thought about it. I don’t know if she will ever get to the point where she will go through with it but I don’t know what to do. The only help she is accepting from me is a distraction and the occasional piece of advice towards not thinking about self harm and her mom. I don’t want her to hate me forever if I tell someone but she needs help and I don’t know how to get it for her.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi                    ,

    Thank you for contacting Teenline. I’m so glad you reached out. I can’t imagine how hard it is for you to have to take care of your friend while also having to manage your own feelings about it. It must be so exhausting and overwhelming for you to have all of that on your plate. You are so strong and so brave. You are an incredibly good friend for doing all of those things for your friend. She is so unbelievably lucky to have you.
    You have been an amazing friend to her, but it’s important that you still take care of yourself because this can be a really emotionally tolling situation. It would be great if you could seek out that counselor just so you can have a support for yourself. I would really encourage you to contact our hotline number to talk more about what you’re going through. You can reach us by calling 310-855-4673 (6-10 pm PST). If you don’t want to talk to someone here, you can go to our message boards. At www.teenlineonline.org/board, you will find our message boards that have discussions between teens around the world.

    The resources you have given your friend are excellent. It is really important to keep trying to get her to talk to a counselor, doctor, teacher, or any other trusted adult like a family member or friend. Just so you have them, I want to give you some ideas and resources in case you need them on hand. The butterfly project is an excellent resource. Some things your friend can do in the place of self harming are drawing with a red marker or pen, snapping a rubber band on her wrist when she wants to cut, or putting ice on the spot where she cuts to feel pain but not be hurting herself. In addition, she can call the suicide hotline at 800-273-8255.
    I hope you find these resources useful and you and your friend both get the help you deserve.

     

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I’m both female, male and in between.
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    I’m both female, male and in between.

    13 year old, Genderfluid, Maryland

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My parents don’t get me. I’m both female, male and in between. Most of the time I’m male and my parents don’t agree with me. They are super religious and force me into dresses and other girly stuff when I don’t like it. It makes me feel bed sometimes (I used to be seriously depressed). Sometimes I wish I was normal.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi                  ,

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line– it was very brave of you to reach out & I hope I can help!
    It sounds like you’re in a lot of pain right now because of your parents not being understanding of your gender & how you want to express your fluidity. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be having your parents force you to dress in a way that makes you so uncomfortable and depressed. I’m so sorry you have to deal with them not being accepting and supportive of you being trans. I’d like you to know that no matter what your parents or anyone else says, the way you feel inside is the truth. If you feel genderfluid, that’s simply what you are and no one else can change that about you. Your experience of gender may be less common, but it doesn’t make you abnormal– you are unique and wonderful in your own way! I hope that you have people around you who will support you and remind you of this. Remember that your parents can’t continue choosing your clothes forever, and eventually you will have much more freedom to choose how you want to express yourself.
    Since you’re going through a difficult time, and used to be very depressed, it is important that you continue to take care of yourself. Coping skills can be as simple as taking walks, drawing, listening to music, or any other hobby you enjoy that can help you keep your mind off of these problems. I also recommend speaking with a friend or a trusted adult like a school counselor if you can, since being able to talk about what’s going on with your parents can really help you feel more understood. If you don’t have someone to talk to, journaling is also a great alternative– just being able to write out your thoughts & feelings can be very stress relieving. Youtuber and therapist Kati Morton has some awesome on managing depression, problems with parents, coping skills, and more on her channel.
    I’d also like you to know about the Trevor Project, which is a 24/7 LGBTQ youth crisis hotline. Their phone number is (866) 488-7386. They also have TrevorText by texting Trevor to 1-202-304-1200 (Thursdays and Fridays 4-8 pm ET) and TrevorChaton their site (every day from 3-9pm ET). The Trevor Project also has a safe LGBTQ social network for teens, calledTrevorSpace, where you can make friends with other people and get support from the community. Teen Line has a message board for gender/sexuality as well, so you can talk with other LGBTQ teens about what’s going on and read about their experiences too. Lastly, I recommend looking for other genderfluid teens on youtube, since many talk about how their struggles and how they coped and overcame them.
    Thank you again for contacting Teen Line– I hope things get better for you,                🙂 <3

     

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I’ve been having a lot of thoughts about hurting other people.
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    I’ve been having a lot of thoughts about hurting other people.

    13 year old, Female, United States

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I’ve been having a lot of thoughts about hurting other people, and it isn’t only when I’m angry; its all the time. I don’t think other people think about killing the way I do but I’ve thought like this as long as I can remember. I’ve taken screenings and read numerous books in a semi-attempt to help myself without others, and coupling this with hours of self contemplation and thought I’ve come to the conclusion that bipolar disorder as well as depression may be a problem as well. I’m not at risk for suicide, however I had been cutting for about a month before my mom found out and chastized me for it. I haven’t cut since then, although I can feel the impulse to every now and then when I start feeling numb or blank. I do not want to tell my family however in order to recieve professional I help would have to. The only solution I can think of to receive help and some sort of evaluation specified to me and my issues is to find an anonymous online source, however I am having some difficulty in doing so, which brings me to my point: are there any teen or children’s mental health organizations with a website through which I can contact a professional that you know of? I would use a chatroom for support however
    1) I don’t feel this would help me much
    2) I honestly feel like talking to them would set them off and I don’t want to INADVERTENTLY kill someone.
    3) I would feel like I’m seeking needless attention or like the people in the chat room would think of me that way. Already writing the letter is making me apprehensive enough, but I’ve written this much of it so there isn’t much pointing in deleting it and sulking off to my corner…
    Any help or references you could offer would be greatly appreciated.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi                      ,

    Thank you for contacting Teenline. You are so brave to reach out. Wow. This sounds like a really serious situation. I can’t imagine how it must feel to not understand why you feel this way. It must be hard to try to find a solution or an explanation but not being able to. I’m sorry you’be been having to figure this out alone.
    There are a few things that might help you cope with this situation. You may have already tried this, but writing in a journal can be helpful to organize your thoughts and feelings. You can also take a walk or listen to music to distract you or help clear your mind and get away from negative people. I really encourage you to talk to an adult you trust. This person can be an extended family member like an aunt, or someone else like a school counselor, or a doctor. A doctor would be a really good option because they have a big knowledge of mental health conditions and will be able to help you and how you’re feeling. Their outside perspective on the situation will hopefully be beneficial, and they’ll guide you in taking the necessary steps to get the help you need.
    I would really encourage you to contact our hotline number to talk more about what you’re going through. You can reach us by calling 310-855-4673 (6-10 pm PST) or by texting “TEEN”to 839863. If you don’t want to talk to someone here, you can go to our message boards. At www.teenlineonline.org/board, you will find our message boards that have discussions between teens around the world. There, you will find many people who are in your situation and you can share your story about your family or your mental health concerns. butterfly-project.tumblr.com is a website that provides support and resources with self harm.
    In addition, there are a few websites that might help you specifically figure out what you need. www.teenmentalhealth.org has a lot of information about general mental health. www.helpguide.org has articles about mental health and well-being. Lastly,www.halfofus.com could be a really helpful site that explains more about mental health.
    Most importantly, you should speak to a doctor or call in to our hotline.
    I hope you find these resources useful and you get the help you deserve.

     

    a TEEN LINE teen
  • Since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.
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    Since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.

    15 year old, Female, CA 

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My problem is, since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.
    I just don’t see the point to life or happiness anymore and I’ve lost all interest in things I used to really enjoy doing.I barely eat or talk and I never sleep. I just can’t.I don’t know why, either. I have a really loving, caring family and I have a lot of friends but I just feel like if I wasn’t there, no one would really care. I seem to upset people in my friendship group just by existing and today, I told a person I thought was my closest friend about how I was feeling. He simply said ”If you committed suicide, I wouldn’t really care.” that thought has bugged me all day and I have just noticed how unimportant I am.

    I want to die and I am going to whether I get advice or not. Advice may keep me a few days longer but I want to do it quickly, with minimum and as soon as possible.
    I am afraid of death, I am an atheist and I don’t know what is beyond death. I hate pain and blood but I really want to get out of this world as soon as possible.
    Please help me…

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi,

    Thanks for contacting Teen Line. It sounds like you have depressed for awhile and you feel kind of numb. Sometimes, when you feel really alone internally you may have trouble associating with those around you. Another factor that could hinder in your ability to trust in friendships is insensitive comments like the one you mentioned your friend making. I can imagine feeling deeply upset and angered by people’s inconsideration and I understand how it may feel like they aren’t supportive at all. What really concerns me is the extent of your desire to commit suicide. It seems like you are intent on killing yourself and that is worrisome, because suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I’m sorry you’re going through this emotional isolation and anxiety but it can get better.

    First, I think you could try making new friends who you enjoy being with and make you feel loved/supported. If this numbness you said you experience continues then you could think about exploring your passions, to feel more fulfilled. If you want to talk to another teen you can call Teen Line 6-10 PM PST at 310-855-4673 in a non-judgmental place. Also, I really want to encourage you to call the Suicidal Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747 available 24/7 for more information and referrals regarding these really serious urges you’ve been having. You mentioned how you hate pain and blood and I want you to know that suicide is not the only option to escape your pain.
    a TEEN LINE teen

  • There’s Nothing Selfish About Suicide
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    There’s Nothing Selfish About Suicide

    50-75% of people who attempt suicide will tell someone about their intention. Listen when people talk. Make eye contact. Convey empathy. And for the love of people everywhere, put down that ridiculous not-so-SmartPhone and be human. CLICK HERE 

    Robin Williams

  • I know that I have depression since nothing seems to make me feel happy.
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    I know that I have depression since nothing seems to make me feel happy.

    15 year old, Female, NJ

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Hello Teen Line. I just wanted to start off by saying this website is great way to deal with problems and be heard. I know that I have depression since nothing seems to make me feel happy anymore. I always wondered why that was, and I came to the conclusion that people have their own problems to worry about. I just want someone to tell me that everything will be okay even though I sometimes don’t believe it will be. I have tried cutting, but I never had the guts to do it; Just running the blade over my skin. I am a depressed girl who is scared of a blade rather than death. I seem to laugh at myself a lot these days. I don’t even know what the point of writing this was,maybe it was because I just need to know that someone cares. I guess my question to you is: what can I do to be happy again?

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi, __________.

    Firstly, thank you for contacting Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to open up about such personal struggles  but I’m glad you chose to reach out to Teen Line, a program that exists to help teens like yourself, who deserve to be heard. It must be so frustrating to feel as if no one is willing to listen to you, and that you have to keep your emotions bottled up. Even though you feel pathetic for wanting to harm yourself but being unable to do so, to me, that simply shows how strong you are & that you realize you deserve better. There’s nothing pathetic about dealing with such intense feelings. If you have anyone that you’re comfortable talking to about these things, for example a friend or a trusted adult, doing so could help provide the support you need. Journaling about your feelings could be an excellent outlet for you. The Teen Line Message Boards also provide a forum where you can share your story and gather support from other teens. You can also contact Teen Line (310-855-4673) to talk to one of our trained teens, on any day of the week between the hours of 6 pm and 10 pm.

     

    Again, thank you for contacting Teen Line. I hope that you’re able to continue using the strength that you applied when sending this email.

    -a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I have lost all control of my life.
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    I have lost all control of my life.

    17 year old, Male, NJ 

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have lost all control of my life. What if I’m a failure? It has been 2 years now since I last engaged in self injury. I feel so miserable and I want to regain control of my life. Lately it seems like self harm has been on my mind. I’m thinking about my future, my parents success in their life, their expectations of me. I always felt like I’m useless and like I won’t succeed in life. I constantly worry about letting my parents down. I do not want to be depressed anymore. Please

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi _____,

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line and opening up to us. I know the questions and thoughts you have can seem daunting, I think that almost everyone feels this way. The future can seem scary. You also mentioned that you have cut in the past; it is very strong of you for having to stopped. I can imagine that the urge to start again must be very conflicting. I’m wondering how you are coping now that you’ve stopped cutting? Also have you shared these thoughts with any else? Sometimes talking to a trusted adult such as a school counselor, teacher, coach or parents can help you feel better and understand your feelings in a new way. Also I encourage you to talk to friends and relatives.

    I encourage you to check out Teen Line message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

    you can talk to other teens about your questions and thoughts and maybe find out if they share the same worries.

    you can also check out http://self-injury.net/ for support with stopping cutting.

    Hope this helps

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I am 12 years old and want to die.
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    I am 12 years old and want to die.

     12 years old, Female, AZ

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I am 12 years old and want to die.  I’m am sick of everyone telling me that I’m ugly and worthless. I just want to cut and never stop. I have done it before, and it felt so nice. I am very unhappy with my life which makes me want to end it At times I think that if I die then people around me might actually care Please help me.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    Thanks so much for reaching out. I’m really concerned about you. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, but I want you to know that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Even though I don’t know you, I bet that there are people who care about you and would be sad if you were not around. If you’re feeling suicidal, then I would strongly encourage you to call the suicide prevention hotline: 877-727-4747 (open 24 hours/day).

    You mentioned that you have been cutting to deal with what you’re going through. I want you to know that there are healthier ways to cope. You could try the Butterfly Project, where you draw a butterfly on the area you self harm in representation of someone you care about. If you self harm, the butterfly dies; if you don’t, it lives. You could also try taking a cold or hot shower, exercise, journal, or do something you love (singing, playing a sport, drawing, listening to music, etc.) — these things may help you during times when you want to relieve your emotions or stress.

    Please feel free to call us at Teen Line where you can discuss all this further with a trusted teen: 310-855-4673 (6PM-10PM) PST, and/or check out our message boards. You said that you hate your life, but I want you to trust that it will get better. Continue to reach out for help…

    Warmly,

    a TEEN LINE Teen

     

  • I am feeling angry and sad.
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    I am feeling angry and sad.

    18 year old, Male, PA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I am feeling angry and sad all time lately.  I do not know how to control it. Please help, what should I do?

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi ______,

    Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE and sharing how you have been feeling lately.  It was brave of you to reach out and contact us.  It must be so hard to constantly feel angry and sad all the time because you do not deserve to feel this way.  It seems really difficult having these feelings but not knowing how to handle your emotions.  You deserve to feel happy, and I am wondering if there is anyone you can talk to about how you have been feeling.  If there is close friend, trusted adult, and close relative that you could talk to, you may find the comfort and support you deserve at this time.  A support system is so important, and talking to someone may help you relieve your anger and sadness and help you at this time.  You can also search online to find a counselor or therapist that lives near you in Pennsylvania to talk to someone confidentially for free.  Whenever you are feeling really low or sad or angry I encourage you to do something that makes you truly happy.  Exercising, dancing, singing, journaling, sketching, or listening to music may help you feel better and temporarily release your anger and or sadness.  You are also welcome to call TEEN LINE from 6-10 pm PST at (310)- 855-4673 and talk to a teen about everything you are going through.  You can also check out http://teenlineonline.org/boards/, a teen forum where teens can post about what is going on in their lives.  You can read other stories, post your own, and see that other teens are feeling similar feeling that you are feeling.  I hope these resources help you at this time.

     

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My girlfriend is very sick.
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    My girlfriend is very sick.

    17 year old, Male, FL

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My girlfriend is very sick, please help me. I don’t  want to lose her and she can’t see a doctor because we are  both afraid of splitting up.  We live far away and I can’t live without her. My girlfriend does not know what is wrong with her medically, but she was born premature. I live in Florida and she lives in Alabama and although we have only dated for a year I know I want to propose to her in the near future. I had a terrible past and she came to me and saved me. If she dies I’ll take my life and join her. I cant live a day without her.

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi ­­­­­_______,

    Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It sounds like you are very in love with your girlfriend but at the same time feeling terrified because she is sick and you are scared of what happen in the future. It is always hard when someone you love with all your heart is sick and you are unsure about what might happen. It can be hard because you don’t have any control over the situation and you feel like you want to do everything to help them. It sounds like from the description you have written that your relationship with your girlfriend is so strong and you have a bond with her that you treasure. You mentioned in your email that you would end your life if she passes. Ending your life would not help the situation, all the people that love you would be in such grief and will always wonder what they could have done  to help change your mind. I wonder if you ever talked to anyone about this, maybe talking to a close friend or trusted adult would help.I really want to encourage you to call into our hotline at 310-855-4673,we are open every day from 6-10(pst). We also have something called teenlineonline.org. It is a website where other teens write and read other peoples experiences and stories and support each other.I also recommend that you call into the suicide prevention hotline at 877-727-4747, they are open everyday 24/7. You are such a strong person standing by your girlfriend through this rough time, don’t ever forget that. Have a great night.

     

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I’ve had a rough year so far.
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    I’ve had a rough year so far.

    13 year old, Female, OR

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I’ve had a rough year so far. I left my mother because she basically chose drugs and her abusive boyfriend over myself and my siblings. My life is so difficult because of this and I do not know what to do. Lately, I have been thinking about self-harm and suicide.

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hey ­­­­­_______,

    Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It is really brave of you to share what is going on. I am really sorry to hear about how hard your year as been. It is so hard to feel neglected by a parent at such a young age especially if she chooses drugs and an abusive boyfriend like your mom has. It takes a strong, tough person to go through something like what you are going through. It also saddens me to hear that you are thinking of self-harm and suicide. I strongly urge you not to do either of those as you are a much better girl and don’t deserve to resort to either one of those. I recommend you find another way to cope with your sadness, such as writing in a journal, exercising, or squeezing something. I also want to let you know that life will get better, so stay strong.

    I want to make sure that you are somewhere safe as you had to leave your mom, if you are not please call the National Runaway Safeline at (800) 786-2929 right away to get help. If you are ever thinking of suicide please call the Suicide Hotline at (877) 727-4747. It also may be helpful to call Department of Child and Family Services at (800) 422-4453. You are also free to call into us at TEEN LINE anytime from 6 pm to 10 pm at (310) 855-4673. You can also post on our message boards at http://www.teenlineonline.org/boards/.

     

  • I’ve been in different stages of depression.
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    I’ve been in different stages of depression.

    17 year old, Male, NM

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Hello Teen Line, the simple act of writing this message is a great relief to me. I have been in different stages of depression. For the past 4 years now I have encountered many problems and I just don’t know what to do. It all started 4 years ago when my mother had come out of the closet. My parents were never married and I had been originally spending weekdays with mom and weekends with dad. However,  when my mother came out my whole life rocked and shifted. She had fallen madly in love with her partner, sometimes leaving me 4 or 5 nights out of the week at my grandmother’s house so she can go see her. I felt so alone and abandoned but my grandmother comforted me. This went on for about two years, until she announced that she and her partner had bought a house together. I was quickly taken away to the next town over where I was miserable at the new house. Although I was in the same house as my mother I still felt ignored because she would never leave her partner’s side. It got to the point that I told her I couldn’t handle it anymore, and had the visitation rights revised so I could spend a week at my dad’s and a week with my mom. Overall I was still very unhappy and It got to the point where I had contemplated suicide. In addition to all of my family problems and thoughts of suicide I have come to discover my sexual orientation. At first I thought I was bisexual but actually now I am leaning towards being gay. I am so ashamed and I cannot tell anyone because I am scared that people won’t like me. Despite everything I feel that this message has given me tremendous help in the sense that someone might read it and I will not be the only one in the world who knows these things. Even if you cannot offer advice I am at ease because at least someone will read it. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you and the entire organization.

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hey ____,

    I’d first like to thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line and I wanted to let you know that you are so brave for reaching out. I’m so glad that writing to us has given you some relief and we are more than happy to provide support to you during this time. You mentioned that your depression has been going on for four years and it started when your mom came out and you also said it has gotten worse since she moved in with her partner, from what you’re saying it sounds like you feel alone and everyone deserves to be acknowledged and heard. I’m so sorry you felt so alone or miserable and I wanted you to know that you are so strong for fighting through all of this. Some websites I suggest you take a look at are:  http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2  This one is about   parents, families, friends, and allies for LGBT people, since you mentioned you felt like you couldn’t tell anyone about your sexuality. Another thing I suggest is that you find a reliable support group since you feel so alone. If there’s a trusted friend, a family therapist, or a school counselor you can confide in them I highly suggest you do so. You said that your belief in God has stopped you in the past from suicide but if those thoughts become too overpowering you definitely should call the suicide prevention hotline which is open 24 hours and they can be reached at 877-727-4747. If you need anymore support you can definitely call in at 310-855-4673 anytime between 6-10 pm PST. Or you can always visit our message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/. I’m so sorry it took us two days to respond to your email and I hope I’ve been helpful.

    Best,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I have been self-harming for 2 months.
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    I have been self-harming for 2 months.

    13 year old, Female, FL

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I need help! I have been self- harming for 2 months every single  day. Only 4 people know about it; my mother, grandmother and 2 close friends are aware of my problem. I just need help and some encouragement so I can stop. It is so difficult to stop because cutting is like a drug and your body wants it more and more…..

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi _______,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to Teen Line.  It sounds like you have been going through a lot lately and have been using cutting as a way to cope with everything that is going on.  I want you to know that I am very worried about you and I strongly urge you to call the Teen Line Hotline at (310) 855-4673 6-10 pm PST.  You will be able to talk to another teen about everything that is going on and how you have been feeling lately.  Additionally, I am wondering if you have heard of the Butterfly Project athttp://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/  It is a great way to stop the urge to cut.  Some other coping mechanisms you can also try are the  following: journaling,  listening to music, going on a walk and much more.  You can also check out the website www.self-injury.net  where you will get more information and support in relation to self-injury.  Lastly, I am wondering if you have checked out the Teen Line Message Boards at https://teenlineonline.org/boards/  You will be able to hear from other teens around your age who are going through similar problems which may be alike to you.  Thanks again for contacting Teen Line and I really hope that some of the referrals above will be helpful.  🙂

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I’m having so many problems.
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    I’m having so many problems.

    17 year old, Female, NC

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Dear Teen Line,TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi,

    First of all, thank you so much for contacting us at TEEN LINE. I can’t imagine how tough it must be to constantly feel as if there’s no reason to continue living, and I’m so sorry that you have to go through this. It really worries me that you feel this way though, and I want you to know that even if you might feel like you can’t go on any further, it can get better and whatever problems you are faced with aren’t necessarily permanent. I really want to help you through these tough times, so first I’m going to give you some things you can do yourself that can help, and then I’ll give you some helpful referrals as well. One thing you can do to help you through these tough times is find a trusted friend, family member, or other adult, such as a teacher or school counselor, who you would feel comfortable talking to and letting your feelings out to. Finding a support system like this could really help you when it comes to relieving stress and problem-solving. Another thing that you can do is listen to music, write in a journal, exercise, or do any other activity that you enjoy and could help you relieve stress. All of these things are really good alternatives to cutting too.

    I’m going to give you some referrals now to different websites and hotlines. One thing that could really help you is calling us at TEEN LINE because we can be that support system for you. Our number is 310-855-4673, and we’re open every night from 6-10 pm PST. If you would prefer to text us, you can text “teen” to 839863. You could also visit the message boards on our website, where you can chat with other teens who might be going through similar situations. The link is http://teenlineonline.org/boards/. I’m still worried about you when you say that you don’t want to continue living, and if you are ever seriously thinking about committing suicide, then I strongly suggest that you contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline. Their number is 877-727-4747, and they’re always open. You can also visit their website, which is www.suicidepreventioncenter.com for more information and support. Your urge to cut also sounds super stressful, so I want to help you with that as well. One thing you can try doing is the butterfly project, which is where you draw a butterfly on the part of your body that you feel like cutting so as to prevent you from doing so. You can read more about it at http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/. You can also visit www.self-injury.net for cutting information and support. Thank you again for contacting us, and I hope this helped.

     

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I have been cutting myself for a really long time.
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    I have been cutting myself for a really long time.

    15 year old, Female MA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been cutting myself for a really long time and I’m just scared. I currently see a therapist but I don’t even know anymore. I feel so lost, so upset and I feel like nothing is worth living. Please help!

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line and sharing what has been going on.  It was really brave of you reach out and share something so personal with me and I hope that seeing your therapist is helping you.  Therapy is can be difficult at times, but it can really help a lot over time…and I can only imagine how much pain you are feeling. I’m really concerned about you hurting yourself, and I want to give you some resources.  The Teen Line phone-line is open every day from 6-10 PM PST and we are here to listen.  If we aren’t open you can ALWAYS call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747.  

    There is also a website called www.self-injury.net that provides information, and the Teen Line Message Boards has support about issues around cutting: http://teenlineonline.org/boards/viewforum.php?f=13

    I really like the Butterfly Project also.  Have you seen it? http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/

    I hope this information helps you, ______.
    -Teen Line teen

  • Can I just run away somewhere?
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    Can I just run away somewhere?

    17 year old, Female, SD

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM: 

    Can I just run away somewhere peaceful with out any  worries? Recently, a lot has been happening. Large school projects, parents fighting, health issues, and even more. To start, school has been not the best but I’ve doing ok until my teacher decided to give us so many deadlines and projects. Second, my parents are constantly arguing with each other over the smallest issues. They also don’t trust me with anything, always asking information they don’t need, I feel like I’m treated like a 2 year old. Also, I have just recently gone to the doctors, who told me I’m almost over the bridge of being pre-diabetic, which my whole family is constantly reminding me of. They make rude comments about my health like: “You shouldn’t eat ALL that, you’ll get even fatter.” and things along those lines. All of this has been making me feel unfocused, irritated, and just aggravated. I have been crying myself to sleep for the past week, and even once used a scissor to cut my forearm enough to leave scratch marks for a day (but not bleed). Any ideas how to help? Please, and Thank You.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    Firstly, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line and trusting us with something so personal. It seems like you have a lot on your plate. It must be incredibly overwhelming to have to deal with your parents constant fighting, and school on top of being pre- diabetic. Being pre-diabetic must be frightening in itself and being constantly reminded of it with such negative comments about your weight seems like it only adds to the stress. You don’t deserve to be spoken to that way and I’m glad you realize that.
    You said your parents fight a lot and don’t seem to be very trusting of you. With all that’s going on, staying afloat in school is a definite challenge within itself. You deserve more credit for being able to manage all of this. Considering the circumstances I think you’re doing a phenomenal job!

    Also, you mentioned you self-harmed. Although you did not bleed it worries me that you would resort to harming yourself. I’d like you to consider participating in the Butterfly Project as an alternative to self-harming. If you ever feel the urge to self harm again you would draw a butterfly on your wrist, or wherever you cut, which represents a loved one. The idea is that the butterfly serves as a reminder that there is someone who cares for you. Additional alternatives to cutting would be journaling, exercising, listening to music, or doing any fulfilling activity. If you have any friends, family members, or trusted adults that you are comfortable talking to about these things, please do. I also recommend taking a look at www.self-injury.net and the Teen Line Message Boards for support from people in similar situations. You can also contact Teen Line (310-855-4673) between the hours of 6 PM to 10 PM PST. The line is open seven days a week.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

     

  • I am on the verge of losing my mind.
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    I am on the verge of losing my mind.

    14 year old, Female VA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I am on the verge of losing my mind. I feel like a lost cause and do not know what to do. For the past 2 years I have done everything to try and get mentally better, but I feel terrible. I do not like my life at all. Please Help!

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ____,

    Firstly, I want to thank you so much for contacting TEENLINE and sharing your story with me. You must be feeling so alone and lost right now, especially after trying so hard for such a long time to make yourself feel better. You don’t have to be alone in this; it is really important that you find help. I wonder if you have anyone you can talk to about this, like a parent, trusted adult, guidance counselor or therapist. I urge you to please call the suicide prevention hotline at (877)727-4747 which is a line open 24/7 with people to talk to when you feel suicidal. If you just want to talk I suggest that you call us at 1(800)-852-8336 or text “TEEN” to 839863 between 6-10 pm. I want you to know that I care about you and your safety.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I grew up without my birth father until recently.
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    I grew up without my birth father until recently.

    15 year old, Female NM

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I grew up without my birth father until recently. I had a step father who would always put me down and hurt my feelings. My mother practically raised me and has always been there for me.  Last year I decided to write a letter to my birth father and 3 months after my 14th birthday he responded. I finally met him around the holiday season and everything was going so well, I also met my paternal grandparents. Things changed for the worse when soon after Christmas he sexually molested me and I ended up in a mental hospital for a while. I don’t know what to do? I moved to Texas but I returned to my home town recently and I am not happy here. Please help.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi Jessica thank you so much for contacting us here at Teen Line it was very brave of you. It sounds like you are going through a very tough time with your family. When your step-father puts you down always remember he has his own unresolved problems. I’m sorry to hear about your birth father, fathers should never touch their daughters, hit their daughters, or even be disrespectful. He should be protective of you, nice to you and kind. Since your birth father has sexually molested you he obviously has many problems of his own and he should be going to get help, not you. What your father has done to you is categorized as child abuse, and it can be reported to the police because it is illegal and it is NOT okay. One way you can resolve your problems with your father is to discuss it with someone like a school counselor or a trusted adult. Also it sounds like after all of these events you are feeling depressed and to alleviate some of that pain you can maybe join a sports team or a club or have a hobby so you have something to look forward to after school. Also if you ever want to talk about this I urge you to call us in here at Teen Line at  310 855 4673. If your ever feeling unsafe with your mother you can always call the Child Help National Abuse hotline at 1800 422 4453. Once again I would like to thank you so much for contacting us here at Teen Line.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

     

  • My house hold is broken.
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    My house hold is broken.

    14 year old, Male, AZ 

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My house hold is broken; my parents argue every single day. Today my mom had my dad write her a check for $2500. Along with that she took out all her cash, credit cards, her ATM card and walked out the front door. Soon after my mother took off I acted a little irritable with my dad and he snapped out at me, almost like he was blaming me for all of our problems. He tends to get angry and yell at me for even the smallest things. This last event (my mom leaving) has left me feeling even more hopeless and empty. I have contemplated suicide before, but today is the most that I have ever contemplated it. I already have a plan on how I can acquire a gun so I can end my life. Right now, the only thing stopping me is my religion.

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    First off, I just want to say thank you for contacting Teenline. It takes a lot of strength and courage in order to talk about a problem such as this. It sounds like the situation with your parents  is really taking a physical and mental toll on your health. I want you to know that none of this is your fault, and you should not blame yourself for the conflict that is going on between your parents and that you are not alone. Domestic conflict such as this affects thousands of people your age. You mentioned that you’re starting to seriously contemplate suicide. This is a very serious and I want you to know that I am really worried about you. I recommend that you call the suicide prevention hotline; they can talk you through the steps to help curb those suicidal feelings. Their number is 877-727-4747 and they are open 24/7. Again, I want to clarify that none of this your fault and that these feelings you are having are very serious and should not be taken lightly. We’re here until 10 pm tonight and I highly,highly recommend that you call in tonight to talk to one of us about what is going on before making any rash decisions. Again, Peter: please call us at 310-855-4673 as soon as you can.  We are open until 10 pm.
    Thanks,
    a Teen Line Teen

  • I have been arguing a lot with my parents
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    I have been arguing a lot with my parents

    17 year old, Female, UK

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been arguing a lot with my parents. I need to get out of my house because this situation is causing me so much depression. I just don’t know what to do anymore, I need help. much depression and I don’t know what to do

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi ______,
    Thank you so much for emailing us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you’re going through so much right now, specifically fighting with your parents. I can’t imagine how hard it must feel to be so depressed, but I really want you to talk to someone about how you feel.   Since you are in the UK, I want to give you the number to the Samaritans hotline: 08457 90 90 90 (open 24/7). They are there to talk to you, and listen to you. Additionally, I would consider talking to a guidance counselor at your school, just to gain some guidance and support through this all. Thank you so much for emailing and I hope everything gets better.
    a TEEN LINE teen

  • My best friend tried to commit suicide.
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    My best friend tried to commit suicide.

    16  year old, Female, UK

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My best friend tried to commit suicide.  She went to the hospital recently and I don’t know what to do. I feel as if it is my fault because she was talking about wanting to disappear. She re-assured me that she was fine and that I should not worry, so I did not think much of it. I  can’t help but feel terrible and maybe if I did something about the situation she  wouldn’t be lying in that hospital bed. I feel like I am the one who is hurting her, and I should be the one to die so I’m no longer a burden. I do not know what to do please help me.

    TEEN LINE WROTE: 

    Hi _____,

    Thanks for contacting Teen Line. I can imagine the immense guilt you must feel after the attempted suicide of your close friend. According to the situation you mentioned, she did not indicate at all that she was suicidal prior. Her reluctance to talk about it is normal and you didn’t cause her to do what she did. It seems to be something that had
    been on her mind for awhile. You sound like a great friend and like you are a good support system as is. She seems to really need you right now, and I completely understand feeling anger and frustration in not realizing she would do something like that. It seems unexpected. I know you may be feeling fragile right now but I think
    it’s important to be strong and to get through this. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and I think it’s important to not let the situation overwhelm you. In order to stop from feeling like you are taking on too much emotional responsibility I think it’s important you and your friend seek help by talking to your parents, a counselor, or other trusted adult What you’ve told me is too much for you to handle alone, that’s why I think it’s so important for you to get the help you need and deserve from an adult. I also want to give you the message boards here at Teen Line to get input from other teens all around the world on any dilemma you’re facing.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

     

     

  • I’m so depressed.
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    I’m so depressed.

    14 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I’m so depressed; my sisters are living with their bf’s now. All my life they’re all I had and now they are forgetting me. They are having kids and leaving me, yet they expect me to be happy. I have a mixture of emotions and I do not know what to do.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thanks for emailing TEEN LINE. It must be so hurtful to feel like your sisters are forgetting you and moving on with their boyfriends. It seems so difficult to feel like they are creating new lives and just expect you to be happy. I really want to help you in any way that I can. I’m wondering if you have someone to talk to about this like a trusted adult, therapist, or school counselor. Talking to someone is a great way to create a safe place for yourself and come up with some solutions. Maybe you can write your sisters a letter, that way you can figure out what you want to say beforehand. You can also go on the TEEN LINE message board at teenlineonline.org/boards to share your story and read about other people going through similar situations. Of course you can always call TEEN LINE (1-800-852-8336), our hours are 6PM-10PM Pacific Standard Time.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My boyfriend contracted HIV.
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    My boyfriend contracted HIV.

    18 year old, Female, United States

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My boyfriend had a heart transplant a few months ago and now has contracted HIV. I’m extremely worried about my health. I have no idea what to do, I can’t talk to my parents about this because they will just scream and say awful things about me. I really could use someone to talk to because I’ve been extremely depressed. I haven’t slept in 3 days because I constantly worry about myself and my boyfriend.

     What are my options? Do I have HIV? Where can I find help at a low cost because I’m unemployed and have no way to get money?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey ______,
    Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. What you’re going through sounds extremely difficult, and I can only imagine how scared and concerned you must be feeling. It’s extremely unfortunate that your boyfriend got HIV under those circumstances, and it sounds like that must be completely devastating to you and your boyfriend about that occurrence. There are several ways to go get tested for HIV at low cost. I don’t know what part of the United States you’re from, so here’s a resource that I think would be beneficial for you, Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood offers free or low cost STD tests; this depends on your location. You can find more information about Planned Parenthood’s STD tests at the following link: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex/std-testing-21695.asp. Have you opened up to any one of your trusted friends and/or adult about this situation you’re going through? It’s extremely important that you have someone to talk to through this extremely difficult time you’re going through. For additional support, I would like to refer you the Teen Line Boards, at teenlineonline.org/boards. Here, you can talk to fellow teens who are you going through similar situations you are. Some find it beneficial to talk to people they can relate to. Another great resource is our Teen Line Hotline, at (310) 855- 4673. You can call any day from 6 PM – 10 PM PST. I truly hope things work out.


    A TEEN LINE teen

  • I’ve been struggling with depression and self harm
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    I’ve been struggling with depression and self harm

    15 year old, Female, NY

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    No one else wants to listen so this is my last resource. I’ve been struggling with depression and self harm for a while. I’ve failed a couple of suicide attempts and it just makes me feel even worse. Suicide just seems like the best option and I have been struggling with it for 4 years. Faking a smile everyday is exhausting and everyone is just so judgmental. I do not know what to do anymore; I am sick and tired of feeling this way. Help me please.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line.  I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through right now.  It seems like you self harm because you feel depressed and lonely.  I can imagine that it must be so hard to have been dealing with this for such a long time.  It takes a lot of strength to reach out and talk to us about yourself. I am really worried about you and your safety.  Have you tried going on www.selfharm.net?  It is a website where you can find information about it and alternatives to self harm.  Also, have you tried contacting the Suicide Prevention Hotline?  It is a 24 hour hotline that has suicide prevention counseling and referrals.  I strongly urge you to call them.  You can always write journals, too, which is a great output for your feelings.  Never hesitate to call us at Teen Line, at (310) 855-4673, we are open 7 days a week from 6pm-10pm PST.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     


  • I have been struggling with depression for the past 9 months.
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    I have been struggling with depression for the past 9 months.

    15 year old, Female, Australia

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been struggling with depression for the past 9 months. I have gone through so much pain and many difficult times. Currently I am happy with my life because I have my boyfriend and amazing best friend who I can count on. However, I seem to have a hard time enjoying this happiness and scared of what the future has to offer. My boyfriend is moving in 4 months and my best friend is moving also. I went through so much that I am terrified of being lonely and depressed again. What do I do?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _____,

    Thank you so much for contacting us at Teen Line. It sounds like you went through a really hard time in your past, but it’s important that you are happy now. Try talking to a good friend, trusted adult, or even a therapist. It really helps when you talk about your feelings. I’m so proud of you for trying to reach out to us, and how you really want to help yourself. Try thinking of the things that made you happy when you were depressed. Some helpful ways to keep yourself happy can be drawing, journaling, or even listening to music. If you ever feel depressed again, you can call our hotline. We are open every day from 6PM-10PM and our number is (800)-852-8336. Hope all is well!

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • My family is going through a really bad time.
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    My family is going through a really bad time.

    14 year old, Male, NC

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Hey,

    My mother and step father are splitting up, and now my family is going through a really bad time. We have to move away from my step fathers home and  into a smaller place. I currently live with my step-dad, mom, older sister, and younger brother. Money is so tight for my mom, it makes me desperate to find a job as soon as possible.  I want to help out  but I am only 14 years old. Would you know of any places that would hire me?

    I have had anxiety in the past, and occasionally I have suicidal thoughts. I am afraid I will get back to that point in my life even though I am somewhat better now. I have so many feelings I can’t explain but I know I am depressed. I need advice on how I should handle my new living situation.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _____,

    Thank for contacting us at TEEN LINE. It sounds like you are going through a hard time in your life because of your parents splitting and having to move. You must feel overwhelmed by all the changes in your life and the feelings that come with them. It’s really great that you want to help your mom and that you got past a difficult time in your life. Are there any coping methods that you used back then that could be helpful again? If you are not sure what is helpful for you, It might be helpful to talk to someone you trust, like a friend or family member, about your feelings. Writing in a journal, playing sports, or exercising could also help just get your feelings out. We also have message boards where you can talk to other teens about how you are feeling. If you are ever feeling suicidal, please call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747. Lastly, I encourage you to call into TEEN LINE at 310-855-4673 from 6-10pm PST; we are available 7 days a week.

    Take care,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • It is finally time to get help for myself.
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    It is finally time to get help for myself.

    14 year old, Female, United Kingdom

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been thinking the last few weeks that it is finally time to get help for myself. However, I really don’t feel comfortable telling my parents, friends or other family members about all of my problems. I did some research and I found a counselor whose office is a 5 minute drive from my house.  Most of the time I feel so alone and depressed. I have no idea how to tell my parents I want to start going for appointments. Do you have any idea on how I can ask for help?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    First of all, thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE.  It was extremely brave of you to reach out to me.  It sounds like a lot has been going on in the past few weeks, and it seems like you have so much right now on your plate.  It is completely normal to not feel comfortable talking with your parents about what has been going on, and it is empowering that you have reached out and are taking responsibility when saying that you want to seek help and that you have found a counselor who’s office is near you.  It seems that you care about yourself and your health.  You must have been feeling alone these past few weeks, because you haven’t been able to talk to anyone including your family and friends.  It must be difficult not knowing how to tell your parents about wanting to seek help, and you do not deserve to be going through this without the support of people around you.  I do not know what your relationship is like with your parents and friends, but maybe it is possible to talk to someone else like a trusted adult who would be willing to help you during this time.  It is very important to have a support system, and I really want you to be able to reach out to someone you trust who would want to help you.  Also, I encourage you to check out the website:  http://teenlineonline.org/boards.  This is a teen forum where teens of all backgrounds can post their stories about what is going on in their lives.  You may be able to find support, comfort, and ideas from teens who are going through similar issues that you are going through.  I hope talking to a trusted adult and visiting that website will help you during this time.  Also, if you ever are feeling so low, http://samaritans.org/ is a website that you can explore and and there are phone numbers on the site that willing to help you and listen to you.

    Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I don’t know what to do anymore.
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    I don’t know what to do anymore.

    14 year old, Female, MI

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I don’t know what to do any more. I have grown so used to being made fun of, laughed at or rejected. I don’t expect people to accept me anymore. I have become more insecure, shy, and quiet than ever before. When I try to tell someone about my problems it just ends in more yelling. I have gone all summer without doing anything fun, or hanging out with the only two people I consider “friends”. Literally, they always have some excuse for why we can’t hang out. I really just want one person who wants to be with me. One individual who wants to spend time with me, and who likes me for simply being me.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line.  It must be so awful to have become used to being made fun of. I imagine that it is extremely tough to have become even more insecure and lost. It’s really brave of you to reach out to someone about this. You must feel so frustrated after trying so hard to talk to someone about it, but still not being understood. I imagine that you are feeling alone right now after not having done anything over the summer with two people that you consider your friends. You should know that you deserve all the friendship and support that you could possibly get and it’s perfectly understandable for you to want a real friend in your life. A great way to meet new friends is by joining clubs of hobbies that you enjoy, playing in sports teams, and getting involved in other social organizations in your school or community.  Another valuable option that may help you get your feelings out is talking to a trusted adult, school counselor, therapist, or journaling. In addition, a great resource for support is Teen Line. You can call in to (310) 855 4673 or text “teen” to 839863 or use our message boards on teenlineonline.org. Thank you again for reaching out.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I have been depressed for a while.
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    I have been depressed for a while.

    15 year old, Female, FL

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been depressed for a while. I reached my limit, to the point where I will stop eating. I can’t look at myself in the mirror and I do not consider myself to be pretty. Ever since I was in the sixth grade my biological mother taunts me about my weight. I have been going through so much lately, and since December I have been eating on and off. I lost thirty pounds but today when I weighed myself it shows that I gained back ten pounds. I do not know what to do. I still feel horrible inside and out; everyone is worried about me including myself

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hello _____,

    I want to thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone about this. It sounds like you are feeling very upset about your body and your weight. You mentioned that your feelings have started to affect your eating habits. I imagine that it must be very hard for you not to think that you are pretty, and to have your mother taunt you about your weight. I wanted to let you know that what your mother is doing is not okay and that nothing that you could do would make you deserve to be treated like this. You mentioned that you lost 30 pounds by eating on and off. I wanted to let you know that eating disorders can be dangerous and can have long term effects on your health. It must be so scary for you to have so many people including yourself worried about you and your eating habits. Sometimes talking to a trusted friend or adult can be helpful to sort out your feelings. If you don’t have someone in your life you feel you could talk to about this, you can always call in to Teen Line. We are open from 6 pm-10 pm PST. The number to call is 310-855-4673. We also have a message board on our website that you could post on to talk with other teens facing similar issues. If you want to talk more about your eating habits, you can contact the National Eating Disorder Association. They are open from 9am to 5 pm EST. Their number is 800-931-2337. I really encourage you to call in to this hotline because they have great resources and provide valuable support.

    Best Wishes,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • My father has tried to stop smoking recently.
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    My father has tried to stop smoking recently.

    15 year old, Female,  VT

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My father has tried to stop smoking recently. Ever since he’s stopped smoking (cold turkey) he has been acting crazy. He lashes at me verbally and at times he acts bipolar.
    He also blurts out the most random things like: ’I hate humans,’ ’What’s the point of living?’ and ’Why don’t you go live with your mom and leave me the hell alone. (My mother abandoned the both of us when I was three years old to become a prostitute.)

    He always tells people to go f*** themselves, and also tells me this. Today he almost got arrested because he was aggressive to police officers. .I’m becoming very depressed from how he’s acting and I need some advice of how to deal with this.
    Please help?  I do not know what to do anymore

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    Thank you for contacting Teen Line.  I can imagine that you are going through a difficult time right now.  It sounds like you’re feeling very confused and distressed about your dad.  It is understandable that you feel depressed because of how he is talking to you.  I can imagine that you must feel hurt because all the negative things he’s saying.

    Have you gone online and seen what it’s like to quit smoking?  One of the online support groups are www.quitnet.com, which you can go on to find out more information about quitting.

    Also, have you talked to a trusted adult about it or maybe one of your friends? They are great help and sources of comfort.  Writing journals are also a great way to help put your feelings on paper and out of your head.  Do you have a hobby that you like doing, such as exercising or playing a musical instrument?  If you ever feel down after your dad screams at you, you can use your hobby as an outlet to your pain.  Don’t hesitate to contact us at Teen Line at (310) 855-4673 from 6PM-10PM PST available 7 days a week.

    Best wishes,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I have hurt myself before and I’ve thought about suicide.
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    I have hurt myself before and I’ve thought about suicide.

    14 year old, Female, MT

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have hurt myself before and I’ve thought about suicide. I have friends that I talk to and sometimes it helps. There are times I feel alone, and really sad.  I also write poems. http://squirrel9999.deviantart.com/
    For anyone who wants to read my poems. It would help me a lot if people could give me feedback on my work. It’s one of the few things that makes me happy and my friends say that my poems are really good. I want to know if they really are.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey  there _____,

    First of all, thank you so much for contacting us here at Teen Line. I know how hard it is to reach out for help so I commend you for that. I just want you to know that I think you are an amazing person and I know that seems strange coming from someone that you don’t even know but I feel like I got to know you through your poetry. I read the majority of your poems and they are absolutely incredible. You really are so expressive and your poems are so beautifully written that it really warmed my heart. You are so insightful and wise beyond words that you kind of left me speechless. You said that you’ve hurt yourself before and you’ve thought about suicide before and I am being completely honest when I say this but I would be very sad if you weren’t here anymore.

    I suggest talking to a trusted adult or friends whom you said that you’ve talked to which you said helped. I also suggest going to self-injury.net since you said that you’ve hurt yourself before. This website will provide you with the support that you need right now. I also suggest calling the Suicide prevention hotline at 877-727-4747 open 24 hours which again will provide you with the support that you need and will inform you further. Also, feel free to always call into Teen Line open from 6-10 pm pst at 310-855-4673 to further discuss what is going on. I wish you nothing but the best and keep writing.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I feel like nobody understands me.
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    I feel like nobody understands me.

    16 year old, Female, AL

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I feel like  nobody understands me. Every time I speak to my Mom, she always has something negative to say. It really hurts when she’s constantly putting me down. I have other siblings, and it’s obvious she treats them better. She says it’s because they are out of the house. (They have moved out). But I remember when they were in high school they put her through so much. I am a straight A, cheerleader, honor club student but I still get put down. She just speaks to me as if I am stupid and I don’t understand anything. I know it shouldn’t make me feel like I want to end things, I just am really upset about it and I’m never happy. It hurts my feelings so much. I don’t know how to deal with being depressed.. Whenever I explained to her that I was feeling depressed, she laughed in my face and told me that I was acting like a drama queen. But I don’t see it that way. I don’t like feeling this way at all. Please give me advice!

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    Thanks so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help. It must be hard, feeling misunderstood by your mom, and hurt by her constant put downs. I’m sorry you feel like she treats your other siblings better than she treats you. It seems like you’ve got a lot going on, with your good grades and cheerleading, and I can imagine it must be frustrating, having your mom speak to you like you’re stupid. It’s not fair for her to treat you that way. It sounds like you’re feeling hurt, upset, and unhappy, and I’m worried about you and how you’ve been feeling depressed. It seems like your mom is unsympathetic towards you, and what you’ve been going through, and I’m wondering, have you considered talking to a trusted adult (counselor, uncle, aunt) about what’s been going on? Although difficult, talking to someone can be extremely beneficial. I’d like to encourage you to call in to TEEN LINE, at (310) 855-4673, which is open from 6PM to 10PM PST, as well as to contact the TEEN LINE message boards at http://teenlineonline.org, where you can talk to other teens who might be going through similar situations. Once again, thanks for reaching out to TEEN LINE.

    Wishing you the best,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My girlfriend is suicidal.
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    My girlfriend is suicidal.

    17 year old, Male, TX

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My girlfriend is suicidal. She loves me and she says that she can’t see a future with anything. She is really stubborn, but I love her and she loves me. Please help. I do not know what to do.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    First, I want to thank you for contacting TEEN LINE.  I cannot begin to imagine what it must be like to be in your shoes.  It sounds like you truly want to make your relationship with this girl work because it seems like you love this girl so much, even though she cannot see a future.  It must be so frightening to know that the girl that you love is suicidal.  You must feel really helpless knowing that even though she loves you, she is unable to see a future with anything. I want you to know that you do not have to go through this hard time by yourself; you do not deserve that, Shawn.  Do you have any close friends that are willing to listen to you and who you would feel comfortable expressing your feelings to? I want you to know how brave it is of you to email TEEN LINE.  Sometimes teens find it helpful to write in journals as a way of expressing all their feelings privately.  Also, exercising and staying acting can be a way of keeping the mind away from something bothersome.  Music can also help take your mind briefly away from this difficult situation you are in.  I do not know what your relationship is like with this girl, but sometimes teens find it beneficial to express their feelings and emotions to the person they love.  If you do not feel comfortable talking with the girl you love, no worries at all.  You are always welcome to call TEEN LINE any day from 6:00 pm to 10:30 pm if you ever want to talk again.

    Best of luck with everything you do,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I can’t even tell if I am okay or if I need help.
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    I can’t even tell if I am okay or if I need help.

    16 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Hello,

    Lately I can’t even tell if I am okay or if I need help. I was a cutter but I have managed to stop yet it is constantly on my mind. I can’t help but always want to feel the scars there. I tried to commit suicide a few times in the past but never had the courage to go through with it. I never went to a psychiatrist or a counselor for any help. I am constantly debating on whether or not to send myself into a psych ward…. I know I am suffering from clinical depression and I know that I should get help but…. I don’t know if I can. My parents tell me that my ” depression” is just a phase and that I should be happy and grateful for everything I have. My friends tell me to ” get over it” and honestly I don’t know what to do. People tell me that I am just a dramatic loser but all I can feel is this void inside me. I am scared that I might try to commit suicide again and I don’t know what to do because my parents refuse to get me any kind of psychiatrist or therapist or counselor and turning to my friends is not an option.. So who do I turn to?

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi,

    Thank you for sharing this. I am sorry that you feel so alone and like no one really understands what you’re going through. It seems like everyone around you is being really unfair and making it seem like you are being ‘dramatic’ or ‘exaggerating’ when you are hurting. I think it’s really great that you stopped cutting, that takes a lot a strength and courage, and you should be really proud of yourself. It must be so difficult because you want to get through this, but your parents aren’t supporting you. Legally you don’t need you parents consent to see a therapist, so that is an option. Also, if you are in school or when you get back to school you could talk to the guidance counselor and they could help you find someone. If you just want to talk about what you’re going through  you can call us at 1(310)855-4673. Whenever you are feeling really low and we are closed, you can call the Suicide Prevention Hotline 1(877)727-4747. Another really helpful thing to do is find an activity that you really care about to occupy your time, it could also help you find new friends. I hope you begin to feel better and find someone who can help you through this.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I don’t feel like my life is worth living anymore.
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    I don’t feel like my life is worth living anymore.

    13 year old, Male, Canada

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Ever since I got bullied in the 4th grade, I don’t feel like my life is worth living anymore. I have no friends and all I want to do is cry. I am still getting bullied 4 years later and it’s now gone to physically, mentally, and also through the Internet ( cyber bullies ). I don’t know what to do anymore I can’t talk to my parents I have no friends and I just want to cry
    Please help me

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hello ____

    Thank you for reaching out to us at Teenline. It must be difficult to deal with the physical, mental, and cyber bullying. You do not deserve to be treated like that. I am glad that you contacted us because you can talk to one of our teens anonymously, and they can listen to you without judging you. I encourage you to contact our hotline number (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST Monday-Friday. Our message boards are also available, in which you can post about any given topic and interact with other teens. The link is: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/

    Lastly if you ever feel suicidal please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you. We care for you and want you to overcome your depression.

    Best wishes,

    a TEEN LINE teen
    If you’re ever feeling suicidal, I want to urge you to contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you.   I also want to give you the link to our message boards at: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations as you.  Also, our hotline number is (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk. – See more at: http://teenlineonline.org/category/help-online/#sthash.AsYKg73g.dpuf
    If you’re ever feeling suicidal, I want to urge you to contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you.   I also want to give you the link to our message boards at: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations as you.  Also, our hotline number is (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk. – See more at: http://teenlineonline.org/category/help-online/#sthash.AsYKg73g.dpuf
  • I don’t know how to deal with my anxiety.
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    I don’t know how to deal with my anxiety.

    15 year old, Female, FL

    TEENLINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

     I don’t know how to deal with my anxiety . Can you give me some advice on how to take care of it? I can’t really go to therapy though. I am lost and do not know what to do.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi _____,

    Thank you for emailing us here at TEEN LINE. I’m sorry to hear you have issues with anxiety, I can imagine how stressful it is dealing with that. I’m wondering if you would feel comfortable talking about your anxiety with a trusted friend, adult, or family member. Anxiety can be really scary to deal with and you shouldn’t have to go through this alone. I really encourage you to seek medical advice regarding your anxiety as there are certain techniques to help cope with anxiety as well as some medications available to help treat anxiety. If you’d like to see how other teens cope with anxiety issues or share your own experiences, you can check out our message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards/. Also, what sort of hobbies or activities do you enjoy or help make you feel calm? Journaling can be a great way to cope with stress and anxiety by allowing you to get your thoughts and feelings out on paper. Drawing, listening to music, and exercising are also really great outlets to deal with stress and anxiety. I hope this helps and you find ways to cope with your anxiety. TEEN LINE is also always here to help every evening from 6pm-10pm PST. Good luck with everything.

    Best wishes,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I have lost everyone that I love and hold dear to me.
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    I have lost everyone that I love and hold dear to me.

    15 year old, Female, CO

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have lost everyone that I love and hold dear to me. My best friend moved to Atlanta,Georgia. My other best friend and I no longer talk because I didn’t know how to show that I care about him. I have lost all my friends because they say I have ”changed” when really they have changed. I tried going to my brother for help but all he said was that if I was so depressed I should just kill myself. I can’t go to my parents because they won’t understand and the will just say that I am acting stupid. I’m finding it harder to want to stay alive. My friend Cole,  is trying to help but I see no change in my mood. I have been so sad lately and I cry myself to sleep every night. I feel as if I am in a hole and the more I try to get out the deeper it goes. Everyone always told me that time will heal my wounds, but as time goes on I feel more wounds develop. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I should just end the pain myself other than going on like this. What should I do?? I need help.

     

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line, it takes a lot of courage to open up about what you’re going through.  I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been feeling so alone lately.  I hear your frustration when you talk about how your friends say that you’ve “changed”, when you feel like its them that have really changed.  And when you tried to go to your brother, he wasn’t giving you the support that you wanted and needed from him.  I hear all your pain and your sense of loneliness ____, and how reaching out to people hasn’t been helping.  Even though you haven’t been finding support from the sources you’ve reached out to, I’m wondering if you’ve tried listening to music or physical exercise? Activities like those can often keep you busy and occupied for a bit, which can help you cope with the pain. Also, maybe journaling or talking to a trusted adult might be positive ways to express your feelings, which could make you feel a bit of relief. I’m really concerned about you ______.  If you’re ever feeling suicidal, I want to urge you to contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you.   I also want to give you the link to our message boards at: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations as you.  Also, our hotline number is (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk.

    I hope things get better _______.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I have been feeling very alone lately
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    I have been feeling very alone lately

    15 year old, Female, TX

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been feeling very alone lately. I have lost everyone that I love and hold dear to me. My best friend moved to Atlanta, Georgia. My other best friend and me no longer talk because I didn’t know how to show that I care about him. I have lost all my friends because they say I have ”changed” when really they are the ones that have changed. I tried going to my brother for help, but all he said was that if I was so depressed I should just kill myself. I can’t go to my parents because they won’t understand and they’ll just say that I am acting stupid. I’m finding it harder to want to stay alive, and even though my friend is trying to help I see no change in my mood. I have been so sad lately and I cry myself to sleep every night. I feel as if I am in a hole and the more I try to get out the deeper it goes. Everyone always told me that time will heal my wounds, but as time goes on I feel more wounds develop. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I should just end the pain myself other than going on like this. What should I do?? I need help.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line, it takes a lot of courage to open up about what you’re going through.  I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been feeling so alone lately.  I hear your frustration when you talk about how your friends say that you’ve “changed,” when you feel like its them that have really changed.  And when you tried to go to your brother, he wasn’t giving you the support that you wanted and needed from him.  I hear all your pain and your sense of loneliness and how reaching out to people hasn’t been helping.  Even though you haven’t been finding support from the sources you’ve reached out to, I’m wondering if you’ve tried listening to music or doing physical exercise? Activities like those can often keep you busy and occupied for a bit, which can help you cope with the pain. Also maybe journaling or talking to a trusted adult may be positive ways to express your feelings which could make you feel a bit of relief. I’m really concerned about you.  If you’re ever feeling suicidal, I want to urge you to contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800) 784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you.   I also want to give you the link to our message boards at: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations as you.  Also, our hotline number is (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk.

    I hope things get better.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen
  • I have an eating disorder and depression…
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    I have an eating disorder and depression…

    15 year old, Female

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I need serious help. I have an eating disorder and many other too along with depression and self harm. I stress about everything and experience anxiety/anger attacks almost daily. I can’t talk to my parents about & the only people trust are friends I met online. I can only meet my best friend in four years, that is if one of us doesn’t kill ourselves. I have big dreams but I’m not talented enough to achieve them. Everything keeps getting worse. I’ve tried to kill myself twice. One of them was two days ago. I don’t know what to do. My life has no meaning and I have no reason to stay. Please help me if possible

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line, it takes a lot of courage to open up about how you’re feeling and what you’re going through.  It sounds like you’ve been going through some very overwhelming times.  I can only imagine just how much stress you’ve been under, from coping with your eating disorder, depression, anxiety and anger attacks, and self harm.  I’m so sorry to hear that you can’t talk to your parents about what you’re going through, but I’m glad that you trust the friends you’ve met online.  Would you ever consider opening up to them about what you’re going through?  I’m really concerned about you,  and I want to make sure that you’re okay.  Although self harm is a way to cope with all your pain, there are other possible ways to cope, and I’m wondering if you’d be willing to try them.  For example, I’m wondering if you’ve heard about the Butterfly Project?  To read more about it in detail, you can check out: http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/.  In short, you would draw a butterfly on the part of your body where you would normally self harm, and name it after someone who cares about you.  Then, when you feel like self harming, you can look down at wherever you would harm yourself, and remember that someone in your life loves you and cares about you, and wants you to get better.  Also, www.self-injury.net is another great place to find information and support on self-harm.

    I’m wondering if you’ve ever tried physical exercise, listening to music, or journaling about how you’re feeling?  Those activities or other activities similar to those can often help keep you occupied, which can help you cope with everything.  I hear you not trusting a lot of people, but being able to talk about how you’re feeling is really important.  If you’ ever feel like everything gets too unbearable and you’re thinking of committing suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline and (800)784- 2433, where someone will always be able to help you.   You’ve been going through so much, but the fact that you’re reaching out for help like you just did, is an AMAZING first step.  If you ever want to talk to someone about your eating disorder, you can always call the National Eating Disorder Association at (800) 931- 2237, open M-F 9am-5pm EST.  Also, if you ever want to talk to a teen about what you’re going through, please feel free to call our hotline at (310) 855-4673, open 6-10pm PST.

    Hang in there.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen
  • I have been depressed since I was a young girl
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    I have been depressed since I was a young girl

    17 year old, Female,  OR

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been depressed since I was a young girl. It all began when my father called me names like ”fat” and ”useless” then this pretty girl at our church came and she started calling me names too. As I got older, she moved, but the name calling from my father did not. We got into much bigger arguments and he constantly reminded me how useless I was. My mother just sat back and watched. I began cutting myself but that did not last long when my cousin’s mom told on me. I later became friends with a girl from my school and introduced her to my other friends. Soon they started forgetting about me. They liked her more than they ever liked me. I noticed how all teachers liked her too because she is talented, smart, and has a lot of potential.  I hated her because I realized she was and still is better than me. Things with my father are still bad. He always tells me I’m useless or a let down. I’ve told my mom about how I feel and how I want help, but she just tells me I’m the worst thing that has ever happened to her. She also says other people have it worse so I don’t deserve to be depressed because I’m not going through poverty or have been raped. I feel like I don’t deserve to be depressed because I haven’t gone through any serious trauma in my life. But I can’t help feeling sad, useless, and ugly. It’s sad because it’s true when I say I’m useless. I have no talents and I’m not good at even the simple things. There is nothing special about me. I want to kill myself with all my heart. I’ve never attempted to, but I dream about the day when I can get a rope tightly across my neck and stop breathing as soon as my feet are in the air. I do scratch myself on my skin hard enough to where i can see red lines across my arms and legs. Its how I cope with my life. I don’t know what do do. I feel so empty and lost. I don’t even want love or attention, I want to die so I never have to worry about being good enough for society, guys, my parents, friends, or God.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi _______,

    ________,

    I am so sorry to hear about everything that been going on for pretty much your whole life.  Everything that has happened to you sounds incredibly overwhelming and just plain unfair, so I really thank you for contacting us here at TeenLine.  Hearing that your father and mother have both been verbally abusive is not okay.  The kinds of things they have been saying to you are incredibly inappropriate and growing up only hearing these things can skew your sense of the world.  The subconscious mind can be affected by these words a lot more than you could ever be aware of.  I really need you to understand that your parent’s behavior is not normal or acceptable, and I would encourage you to talk to a school counselor, any trusted adult, a teacher, or maybe even to visit a local clinic for free therapy.   I’m happy to hear you found this friend, but it seems really discouraging to constantly be hearing how great she is while not a lot of appreciation has been coming your way.  That can really hurt and be upsetting so I am truly sorry.  So many things in your life seem so unfair, but it sounds like you are an exceptionally attentive person who is very aware of the environment around you. You mentioned you are having suicidal thoughts.  Please don’t do it.  It may not seem like things are good right now, but there will come a point where all of this just seemed like a bad dream.  I care about you, and upon receiving the right kind of help, I can’t imagine anything less than a bright future for you.  If these suicidal thoughts continue, call the suicide hotline at 877-727-4747 which is open 24/7. If you find yourself continuing to cut, you might want to check out self-injury.net for more information.  I would also like you to feel free to call us here at TeenLine at 310-855-4673 which is open 6-10pm Pacific Time.  You may also want to check out the teenline message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards to interact with other teens who have had similar situations as you. Thank you for contacting us here at TeenLine. It takes someone really brave to be able to recognize their innermost feelings, write them down, and share them like you did in this email. Stay strong.

    I really am wishing you all the best,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I feel so alone.
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    I feel so alone.

    15 year old, Female,  NC

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I feel so alone. I feel like my mom doesn’t even like me.  My little sister said if I died she wouldn’t even care. I always feel guilty from things I have done recently or in the past. I tried to kill myself a few years ago but now I just feel like there is no hope for me. I try to explain it to my older sister but she doesn’t entirely understand because she isn’t going through it. My friends, well, lets just say I don’t even talk to them anymore. I feel lonely, and sad all the time,  it got so bad I started doing self harm. I went to counseling and promised I wouldn’t cut anymore but I ended up breaking that promise. I stopped though and I have been clean for 28 or 29 days but every day I wish I wasn’t here. I don’t want to be here. I feel like there is nothing for me, or that I am going nowhere in life. I try to think good things, but I can never picture anything great occurring in my life.  Please, someone help me! I am tired of feeling and thinking this way. But I just want to give up so bad.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi  ________,

    Thank you for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. It seems like you are feeling really lonely and down right now. Everyone deserves to have a loving mother or little sister that isn’t rude to them. It can be really tough when your family isn’t there to comfort you or be there for you when you need them most. I can only begin to imagine how hard it must be to go through cutting and suicidal thoughts, especially when no one understands what you are going through. I know you go to a council, but I wonder if you can talk to another trusted adult or school counselor. I want you to know that there are always going to be people to get you through rough times and help you. If you continue having suicidal thoughts, I encourage you to call the suicide prevention hotline at (877)-727-4747. Some things you can do to free your mind are joining a school club, journaling, or listening to music that you like. If being part of the council doesn’t help with the self harm and you think you need more help then you can visit www.self-injury.net. It worries me that you mentioned that you cut in the past, and I think it would be helpful to check out http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/. If you want to get your feelings out to talk to a teen, you can call TEEN LINE at (310)-855-4673. Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE, and I really hope you are able to fix the problems you have at home.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I have depression and anxiety.
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    I have depression and anxiety.

    14 year old, Female, MA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have depression and anxiety. I take medication for both, but nothing helps. Every day all I can think about is death. Nothing good ever happens to me and if something good does happen, it immediately gets knocked down again by something bad. I’m not pretty or skinny like the girls at my school. They’re all happy, rich, have boyfriends and good looking bodies. I’m sick of looking at my disgusting body and my repulsive self. Nobody even cares about me or how I feel. I just want my life To be over.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    There is so much going on in your life right now, and I really want to thank you for emailing us. It sounds like you are feeling really alone and like you have no one to talk to, which I know can be really difficult.  Feeling like no one is there for you when you are always there for others is really disappointing and discouraging. It seems like you are comparing yourself to people quite a lot, and I know how painful that can be.  I know its hard to see people and think, why can’t my life be more like theirs or why can’t I be more like them, but sometimes, people who look like they have it together are really having a hard time. You mentioned that you are feeling suicidal and I have to say, that really worries me.  I’m wondering if there is anything you like to do that really makes you happy, like a sport you really enjoy or a club at school you are passionate about.  I’m wondering if there is anything else you could do to help you cope, like write in a journal or draw.  Sometimes it helps to just get your feelings out on paper.  I also really want to encourage you to speak with a trusted adult about how you are feeling.  Someone like a parent or maybe an aunt or uncle you are close with, if you would feel comfortable doing so.  You can also call the suicide prevention hotline.  They are open 24/7 and their number is 877-727-4747.  Feel free to call us as well.  We are open everyday from 6pm to 10pm PST and our number is (310) 855-4673.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • Lately, I have felt like no one is there for me when I need it.
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    Lately, I have felt like no one is there for me when I need it.

    14 years old, Female, NC

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

     Lately, I have felt like no one is there for me when I need it. I feel as if… I have no one and all everyone wants to do is bring me down. Every depression test I have taken has said that I have severe depression. Recently I met a guy who I thought loved me for me, but he just lead me on and left me soon after.

    I already have problems at home with my dad because he is an alcoholic. It does not help that I have been bullied since the second grade for no reason at all. I started high school last year and many kids at my school do not like me. I try to be this happy person but I am tired of hiding the scars on my body. I have cut almost everywhere and even on the side of my neck. I have attempted suicide about 4 times and occasionally I smoke with my friends to relieve stress. I seriously need help! I just want to talk to someone that understands.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ________,

    Thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. I’m so sorry that you have had such a hard time. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help and it sounds like you have been in pain (emotionally and physically) for a long time. I can’t imagine living with an alcoholic dad, dealing with a broken heart and having to deal with bullies. I hope you can find someone to talk to like a counselor or another adult?  It concerns me that you are taking it out on yourself by cutting. You can always call Teen Line and talk with one of us. There is also”cutting” information and support ww.self-injury.net. There is also a bullying website www.bullying.org and of course you can always contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline 24hrs if you are feeling really vulnerable 877-727-4747.

    You are strong (just writing your email is proof of strength) and you are not alone.

     a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I just can’t cope like this on my own anymore.
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    I just can’t cope like this on my own anymore.

    14 years old, Female, United Kingdom

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    i self harm, run away, push away my friends and family, always put depressing statuses on facebook, have suicidal thoughs, and starve well ’try’ to starve myself, i just cant cope like this on my own anymore and i think its time to come out of my closet and tell someone so i looked at chat rooms on the internet and i found this, can you help me?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thank you so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, and it must be so difficult having those thoughts often, and that can be very frustrating. I know you say you have felt like killing yourself, and maybe it’s hard to see that your family, friends and other people really care about you. Also, its good to remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Have you tried talking to someone trusted about this? Someone like a family member, a school counselor, a good friend, therapist, etc? It is really important to talk to someone face to face about this and let your emotions out, because it can be really beneficial in a positive way and I really care about your well-being. I want to refer you to www.self-injury.net, which can help you with your cutting. For when you want to run away, I encourage you to check out http://makerunawayssafe.org.uk/ and they can help you make safe decisions the next time you might want to run away. And about wanting to starve yourself, I want to refer you to www.nationaleatingdisorders.org. You can also call the Samaritans when you are feeling suicidal, and they are available to you 24 hours a day and their number is 08457 90 90 90*, and they do charge. Here at TEEN LINE we also have a great thing called messageboards, at www.teenlineonline.org/boards and it is something where you can read and respond to people dealing with a similar situation as you. Thank you so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE, and it is a big step forward into helping you solve your situation.

    a TEEN LINE teen
  • I have anxiety attacks too often.
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    I have anxiety attacks too often.

    15 years old, Female, United States

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Why does it affect me this badly? I have anxiety attacks too often and they’re for reasons that shouldn’t hurt this much.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey _____,

    First I would just like to say thank you so much for reaching out and contacting us here at TEEN LINE. It sounds like you are going through a very stressful and rough time. Is there anyone that you feel you could talk to about this stress, and anxiety? Maybe a friend, trusted adult, or school counselor? Sometimes anxiety attacks are caused by the stress or weight of another situation, and it may really benefit you to discuss and talk about that with a professional counselor, and may help decrease the number of anxiety attacks. A parent or trusted adult might be able to connect you with a professional trained counselor. If you would ever like to talk to anyone you could always call us here at TEEN LINE from 6-10 PM PST everyday at 310-855-4673. Thanks again so much for reaching out and contacting us.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I hate how I spend my life.
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    I hate how I spend my life.

    19 years old, Male, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I hate how I spend my life and no matter how bad I want to change it, I won’t because I’m apathetic. My life has no meaning, the only reason I have not killed myself is because I wouldn’t want to share what I feel with the people who love me, they deserve better than that.

    My life currently consists of waking up around 1:00 pm, even though I say that i will wake up early. I usually stay up late because I have a hard time falling sleep due to myself issues. If given time to think I fixate on everything that I have done wrong in my life as well as how I could have improved things I did throughout the day… Now getting onto the topic of my daily life, like I said I get up late and spend the majority of my day on the computer. When I am home and not on my computer I usually work out. about 5 days a week.  This is my life and if I’m not at home I’m working a job that I hate for over a year.

    I have a lot of friends but I rarely see them since whenever i get asked to hangout I lie and tell them i cannot because I’m scared of the possibility of going somewhere that I have never been. I do not find joy in life and i cannot change even though I  want to.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hi,

    I want to thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE.  IT sounds like you are going through a really hard time right now and you are brave for reaching out and asking for help.  It sounds like you really want to change things in your life, but you won’t.  What do you think is stopping you?  Have you tried talking to someone about what you are feeling, and what you have been going through?  Is there anyone in your life that you trust that you feel like you might  be able to confide in?  A friend, parent, teacher, boss, sibling, or counselor?  You can always call us here at TEEN LINE.  Our number is 310.855.4673, and our hours are 6pm to 10 pm.  You mentioned feeling suicidal, if you are ever feeling suicidal you can call the National Suicide prevention hotline, which is open 24/7, there number is 877.727.4747.  It’s great that you are disciplined and continue to work out every day.  Is there anything else in your life that you enjoy, sports, music, art, writing in a journal.  All of these can be really good outlets for your feelings.  It sounds like you are struggling with some depression, and I really encourage you to talk to someone that you trust about how you are feeling.

    Hope this helps,

    Take care,

    TEEN LINE

  • Everyone is saying they don’t love me.
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    Everyone is saying they don’t love me.

    14 years old, Female, Indiana

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM

    Everyone is saying they don’t love me and to kill myself.. I am so close to the point to doing it.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey ______,

    First of all, I want to thank you for contacting us at Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to reach out to someone and ask for help, so it says a lot about you as a person that you’ve been able to do that. What you’re going through sounds so difficult. For people to tell you those awful things is hurtful, cruel and completely unnecessary. I’m worried about you, and I want to make sure that you are safe. If you would feel comfortable, it might be good to talk to a guidance counselor at your school or another trusted adult about what you’re going through. Guidance counselors are there to offer support to students when they need it, so that may be a resource you could consider. Also, You could call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747. They are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. It is a great resource for people who are enduring a similar burden. Finally, I encourage you to call us here at Teen Line so we can discuss this in more detail. Our number is 310-855-4673, and we are open from 6 to 10 pm PST, seven days a week. Once again, I want to thank you for contacting Teen Line, and I hope to hear from you soon.

    -a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I am very depressed.
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    I am very depressed.

    16 years old, Female, UT

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I am very depressed all I think about day and night is what will be the best way to tell my parents that i want to kill myself that they are the main cause of me feeling this way they are my parents but all they do is tear me down.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey ____,

    Thanks so much for reaching out to us at Teen Line, it sounds like you’re going through a really tough time right now and I am so glad you decided to write in. Telling your parents that your suicidal can be really hard and I understand how it would constantly be in your head. When someone is going through a difficult time a lot of people have suicidal thoughts and I really want to emphasize that you’re not alone and that it’s important for you to talk to someone about these feelings if you feel like you would act on them.  You mentioned that your parents constantly tear you down and they are the main cause of you wanting to kill yourself. I first want to say I’m sorry to hear your parents aren’t supportive of you and that they constantly tear you down, your family life should be a safe and comfortable environment.  I also want to ask if you have told anyone about your suicidal feelings or about how your parents make you feel. If you haven’t, one thing you can do is find a trustworthy friend, favorite teacher, school counselor, or even a relative so you can build a support system and you have someone to talk to about everything that’s going on in your life. In addition I highly encourage you to call the Suicide Prevention Hotline whenever you need to talk to someone anonymously about your suicidal feelings, depression, and parents. They are a 24 hour hotline and their number is 877-727-4747. Lastly, I also encourage you to call us at Teen Line if you want to talk with another one of our teens. We are open from 6-10 pm and our number is 310-855-4673. Once again thanks so much for contacting us!

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen
  • There’s times where I feel like I’m not important
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    There’s times where I feel like I’m not important

    13 year old, Female, NC

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    There’s times where I feel like I’m not important and I feel like committing suicide  so I can leave this world.  I have problems about my body and I’m always thinking of other ways to kill my self.  What can I do?

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hey _______,

    I’m so glad you contacted us at TEEN LINE. It sounds like you’re feeling very overwhelmed and upset, and it makes me worried to hear that you’re feeling that way! I would strongly encourage you to tell a parent or any other trusted adult about how you’re feeling. You don’t deserve to be feeling like this, and I want you to feel better. Writing in a diary or talking to a friend could really help you lift some weight off your shoulders. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and I believe that you can get through this.

    You mentioned you constantly think of ways to kill yourself, and that worries me. I want to give you the number to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline in case you’re thinking of hurting yourself. Their phone number is 1(877) 727-4747. Don’t hesitate to call.

    Call us in here at TEEN LINE, we would love to talk more in depth with you about what you’re going through. Our phone number is 1(310) 855-4673 and we are open from 6p.m.-10p.m. PST.

    Hope to hear from you soon, stay strong.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I’ve had this eating problem for about 3 years.
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    I’ve had this eating problem for about 3 years.

    16 years old, Male, Aus

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I’ve had this eating problem for about 3 years. I just hate the way I look, so I don’t eat. I have a BMI of 17.3, which isn’t too bad, I guess, but It’s been causing me to develop health issues. I sleep more and work less; I’m always in a horrible mood. And recently, I’ve started having suicidal thoughts. I’ve been cutting myself repeatedly, wishing I could die, simply because I’m ugly. I have no reason to live. I just want help, but there’s no one that cares.. I want to die most hours of the day.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi _____,

    There is so much going on in your life right now and I really want to thank you for emailing us.  It sounds like you feel like you have no one to talk to, which can be very isolating, so I really think its great that you reached out for help, it shows how strong you are.  You mentioned that you haven’t been eating because you hate the way you look.  Not eating isn’t healthy, and I have to say, I’m really worried about you.  It seems like you are really self-aware, and you have noticed how not eating is affecting you.  I know you said you feel like no one cares, but I’m wondering if there is someone you would feel comfortable talking to, like a trusted adult or family member, or maybe a school counselor.  I also want to give you the number to an eating disorder hotline based in Australia.  They are called the Butterfly Foundation for Eating Disorders, and they are there to talk to you.  Their number is 1800-33-4673.

    You also mentioned you were having suicidal thoughts, which also worries me.  I want you to know that suicide is not the answer and that things always have the capacity to get better. I want to give you the number to a hotline based in Australia.  They’re called Samaritans and they are there to talk to you. Their crisis number is 08 9381 5555 and their youth line’s number is 08 9388 2500 and they are both open 24/7.

    You also mentioned you are cutting.  It sounds like you are using it as a coping mechanism to deal with everything that is going on in your life.  I’m wondering if there is anything else that you can do to cope, like drawing, playing a sport, taking walks, or listening to music.  I’m also wondering if there are any other things you can do instead of cutting, like drawing on yourself when and where you feel the urge to cut with a red pen or writing in a journal just so you can get your feelings out on paper.  I also want to give you the link to www.self-injury.net.  They are a website about self injury, and they have more coping mechanisms, information, and success stories about people who have been able to stop self harming.

    It really sounds like you are being hard on yourself, and a lot of the time, that can make you feel really bad.  I really want to encourage you to try being kind to yourself, which is easier said than done, but maybe just pick a part of yourself that you like, like your hair or your personality or something, and just go from there. Its really hard when you have high standards for yourself, and you feel like you aren’t meeting them, but you seem really smart, and definitely strong because you were able to reach out for help, which is something not many people can do.  It takes a lot of courage to do that. Unfortunately, we cannot take calls from Australia, but Samaritans is really great, and I really want to encourage you to give them a call.  I really hope that everything works out for you.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

     

  • There are times when I feel like giving up.
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    There are times when I feel like giving up.

    15 years old, Female, UK

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    There are times when I feel like just giving up. I have found myself thinking what is the point anymore everyone seems to be against me even my own parents seem to tear me down at any opportunity they can get. I have tried to end it,  but I always end up bursting into tears wondering what  am i  doing.  I am worried that one day I will reach my breaking point and it will be too late to stop. I just don’t know what to do. 

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hey ______,

    I’m really glad you emailed in to Teen Line. It takes so much courage to be able to reach out and share how you’re feeling about suicide and what has been going on. It must feel so frustrating to feel like everyone is against you, especially your parents. You said that you’ve tried to end it and I just wanted to tell you that I am really worried about you and your safety. It must feel so scary to have those realizations and not be sure about what you are doing. I’m wondering if you have talked to anyone about what has been going on and how you are feeling like a school counselor, friend, or trusted adult. Talking to someone can help bring you support. I am also wondering if maybe doing things like drawing, writing in a journal, or playing sports could help get your mind off of things and express how you’re feeling. I know you mentioned that you are scared that there could come a time where it’s too late to stop and I wanted to give you the number to the International Help Hotline. They can help provide you with support and talk about what has been going on and how you are feeling. Their number is 08457 90 90 90. I also wanted to give you the Teen Line Message Board Website. It is www.teenlineonline.org/boards and on there you can post and read about others’ stories that may perhaps be similar to yours. Another website that might be useful is the Suicide Prevention Hotline Website which is www.suicidepreventioncenter.org and here you can find out more information and some references of places to call to help provide support and help.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I have social anxiety disorder.
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    I have social anxiety disorder.

    13 year old, Female, WV

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have social anxiety disorder, and I also am the laughing stock of my class. (Even when I had good grades, people would still make fun of me). My dad beat up my mom twice, and I helped her both times, yet she won’t show me the least bit of compassion saying that: I ”don’t support her either”. I am also really sensitive, and it doesn’t really work well with the anxiety. My friends aren’t really the most compassionate people either, so I don’t really have anybody to talk to. Even if I hate my life so much I am too scared to cut myself. Please help?

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Dear _____,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to TEEN LINE, it is very brave of you. It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed because people are being mean to you and aren’t supporting you in the most helpful way. You said that you don’t really have anybody to talk to and I was wondering if there is any that you would feel safe going to such as a trusted friend or adult, a parent, teacher, school counselor or anyone else that you feel could best support you through this uneasy time. You mention that your dad beat up your mom and that is not ok for anyone to physically harm another person. It must be difficult having that responsibility to care for your mom and it is very courageous of you to help her. I would recommend contacting DCFS (Department of Child & Family Services) and their goal is to keep families safe. Their phone number is 800-540-4000. If you are ever in a moment where you feel unsafe then you can always call 911. Some ways to cope with any uneasy feelings could be writing in a journal, exercising, writing or anything else that may relieve stress. If you ever want to talk you can call into TEEN LINE. The number is (310) 855-4672 and we are open from 6:00-10:00 PM PST every night. 

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I’ve always had problems at home because I’m a constant liar.
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    I’ve always had problems at home because I’m a constant liar.

    14 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Well I’ve always had problems at home because I’m a constant liar, and I don’t know how to change. My family doesn’t have enough trust for me to believe that it’s a problem. I really hope you guys can help. I am so confused with everything.

     Thanks

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey ______,

    I’m really glad that you emailed in to Teen Line. It’s really brave of you to be able to recognize what you have been doing and realizing what you’re saying are lies. And I think it’s great that you recognize it to be a problem that you want to fix. It must be so frustrating that you’re parents don’t believe you. Not only that, but it must be so annoying that they wont help you through it. I’m wondering if there is a friend, school counselor, or trusted adult that you can talk to about how you’re feeling and help you work through this issue. I wanted to give you the Teen Line number it is (310) 855-4673 6pm-10pm PST. We can help explore how you’re feeling and provide support during what you’re going through. I also wanted to give you the website to the Teen Line Message Board. It’s a place where you can post and read about what people are going through similar to you. It is www.teenlineonline.org/boards.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • When I was 3 years old, my father brutally murdered my mother.
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    When I was 3 years old, my father brutally murdered my mother.

    19 year-old, Male, UK

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Hi, when I was 3 years-old my father brutally murdered my mother. None of my family ever talked about her, and it’s as if she never existed. They show no emotion over my mom. Every year on her birthday I feel lonely, and depressed. On top of that I don’t feel comfortable speaking about this topic to any of my friends.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hello ________,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE. It sounds as though things have been difficult for you. I can imagine that you are depressed and sad that you do not have your mother here. It sounds as though you are feeling lonely and sad because not only is your mother dead, but there is no celebration of her life happening. It sounds as though your family members are unable to cope with the loss of her. Im wondering if there is a way that you can find a ritual to celebrate and remember your mother, lighting a candle, writing her a letter, painting her a picture, etc. in honor of her life and remembrance of her. Im wondering if there is someone you can talk to and share your feelings with, a trusted adult, a school counselor, a therapist? There is a website in the UK called www.samaritans.org and there may be some helpful resources on there for you. It sounds like you are a sweet and sensitive young man that wants to honor your mother’s life and misses not having her around. I encourage you to check out samaritans and I hope you can find someone to talk to. You can check out our message boards and on there may be some people that have gone through something similar where you can chat and possibly find some support too. Here is the link to our online forum: http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

    Hope this finds you well.

    A Teen Line Teen

  • I’ve been having a really bad problem with depression.
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    I’ve been having a really bad problem with depression.

    14 year-old, Male, UT

    TEEN PROBLEM/QUESTION:

    I’ve been having a really bad problem with depression and it has started to affect other aspects of my life. I will get mad for absolutely no reason. I try to hide my anger in front of my girlfriend, but she can always tell when I am having a hard time.

    My situation at home does not help with my depression at all either.  Most days I will go into my room, and listen to music when suddenly my dad comes in and yells at me. I always feel that he blames my girlfriend if I have a bad day. Lately the sadness and anger is just so overwhelming, and I never seem to be happy. In fact, I haven’t had a happy day in weeks.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hello _____,

    I’m glad you were able to contact us at Teenline! It sounds like you’re struggling with depression and anger, and although it’s incredibly tough, I’m really glad that you’ve been able to keep yourself up strong. It’s amazing that you have someone like a girlfriend to talk to, and I can tell that you really care a lot about her. For what I can gather, it sounds like your dad may be making you feel worse, because he’s coming to conclusions without asking you for details.

    It can be incredibly annoying when a parent blames someone you really care for, especially when they don’t understand what you’re personally going through. If you have a school counselor, talking to them could help to release some of the emotions that you’ve had to keep for your girlfriend, in an open environment. Although hiding your emotions can feel like the right thing to do, you may also want to think about talking to her about your anger; she may respond positively if you bring it up to her in a way that she can understand. If you don’t like either of those options, you could try setting up a go-to activity that is accessible 24/7, like writing in a journal, exercising, or playing an instrument. These activities can give you something to do when you feel extremely angry, and don’t have any other way to release that anger. If you want someone else to talk to, you can call into us at Teenline at 1-310-855-4673 from 6:00-10:00 PM PST. You can also check out our message boards here, if you want to connect with other teens going through similar anger-related issues.

    You’re incredibly strong to have come this far, and I really appreciate you reaching out and asking for help.

    Thank you for contacting us,

    A  Teen Line Teen

     

  • I’ve been having trouble making and keeping new friends.
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    I’ve been having trouble making and keeping new friends.

    16 years old, Female, PA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    Ever since my Dad made me switch high schools, I’ve been having trouble making and keeping new friends. It’s seriously becoming such a problem and making me super depressed. Sometimes during lunch I would hide in a stall in the girls’ bathroom and cry quietly so no one sees me. I’m so sick of it, one time I gathered all the confidence and courage I had and went up to 2 girls that I hung out with before and asked what they were doing for lunch, because I didn’t know what to do. And they just said ”Aww, we have a social test to do, sorry”. But I seen them texting each other to lie and go out the back doors so I don’t see. I faked a smile and said ”Its ok, see you later”, and walked back to my locker. It was humiliating. Then as I walked out the door, one of the girls looked back and nervously laughed, they were well ahead of me and walking quickly away. I didn’t even turn my head as I walked the other direction because it was so embarrassing, I felt so stupid. What did I ever do to deserve this? I always act so nice and friendly, and I never had a problem keeping close friends at my old school. It sucks really, really bad because now I even drifted apart from my best friend. I feel lonelier than ever. I can’t tell my family because that would make them worry, and feel bad that I’m depressed about it. Please help me.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey, 

    I am so glad that you decided to email Teen Line. It takes so much courage and bravery to tell us about how you’ve been feeling depressed about what’s going on at school. It’s so awful that these girls would lie to you like that and it’s not okay for any person to be treated like that. For them to lie about their plans to you and then just nervously laugh about it is so unfair. It’s really difficult being the new kid in school dealing with the new place, people, and classes. It seems like you feel so annoyed and sad because your trying to make friends and be with them and they are just treating you so rudely.  I’m wondering if you tried doing something that you like, if it could help with how your feeling; maybe like writing in a journal, talking to your parents, taking a bubble bath, playing sports, joining clubs or maybe even joining a sport at school. I’m also wondering if there is another friend. school counselor, or trusted adult that you could talk to about how you’re feeling and whats going on. I wanted to give you this website that provides information on bullying and helps give resources for those that are victims. The website is www.bullying.org. I also wanted to give you the website to the Teen Line Message Board and encourage you to call into Teen Line. The Teen Line Message Board is a place on our website where you can post or read about what people are going through similar to you. The website is www.teenlineonline.org/boards. The number to Teen Line is (800) 852-8336 from 6pm-10pm PST. We are here to listen, explore your feelings and provide support. 

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • My best friend is going through a time of deep depression.
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    My best friend is going through a time of deep depression.

    14 year old, Male, NY

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My best friend is going through a time of deep depression. I lost one of my friends to bullying, and I am afraid I might lose another for the same reason. I have talked her out of self-harm countless times before, but now she has given up.

    We deal with the same issues; father issues, bullying, judgment, and our school guidance counselor is of little to no help. She is just reiterating everything she has been saying for the past 3 years to my friend, so she has no one to turn to other than me. I am running out of time, and all of her stress is in a way being passed down to me. I need to convince her to stay here with us, but I need to convince myself before I can convince her. Please help.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi! Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE!

    It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now and that must be so overwhelming.  It sounds so challenging to deal with everything in your life and also to help your friend with her problems.  I am so sorry to here that you lost a friend to bullying; I understand how upsetting that is, and it must be so hard for you. ________, you  are so strong to help your friend, and she is so lucky to have someone in her life who cares about her like you do.

     I was wondering if you have heard about the Butterfly Project.  The Butterfly Project is a helpful way to get people to stop cutting.  What you do is, your friend draws butterflies on her skin wherever she harms.  She then dedicates each butterfly to someone important in her life.  The purpose is that when she wants to cut, she sees a butterfly that reminds her of someone she loves and she won’t want to cut, because if she did, it would be like cutting this person that she cares about. I feel that she would dedicate this butterfly to you since she confides in you so much, and you’re an amazing friend.

    I am wondering if there is any other trusted adult, other than the school counselor, that you can talk with. Maybe a family member, friend or teacher?

    I know that it is very difficult to talk about, and maybe talking to your mom would help lighten the load  you have on your shoulders. She might even be able to help you with your friend.  

    I suggest that your friend visit self-injury.net, and I would like for you to tell her that there are many other ways to release the emotions that self-harming may release for her.  Some of those ways are to draw, do yoga, or just to talk about how she is feeling.  I would also like you and your friend to visit bullying.org.  I highly recommend that you call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800) 784-2433 and I would also like you to give the number to your friend for her to call them as well. Lastly, please do not hesitate to call us at TEEN LINE, our number is (310) 855-4673 and we are open everyday from 6-10 PM Pacific Standard Time.

    Thank you again for contacting TEEN LINE.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • I am going through a really tough time.
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    I am going through a really tough time.

    14 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I am going through a really tough time, and I’m always so depressed. It has gotten to the point where I lay in bed and cry for hours for absolutely no reason. I can’t tell my parents because they think I crave attention,  and my dad really scares me sometimes. I don’t know what to do. Help?

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Thanks so much for reaching out to us at TEEN LINE, I can imagine you are going through such a difficult time right now and I’m glad you have opened up to someone about this. It sounds like you are going through so much right now, and dealing with a lot of things at one time can be overwhelming. Feeling depressed but not knowing the cause of feeling that way can be really frustrating and tiring and it’s probably even harder when you aren’t able to talk to people about how you feel. Keeping all of those emotions and thoughts inside is so strong of you and I think it’s great that you emailed into TEEN LINE so you can talk to someone about it.

    You also mentioned your dad scares you. That worries me when you say that because your dad shouldn’t be a person to cause such feeling. Even though you’re not able to respond to this email, I want to ask you does he ever get aggressive and hurt you or your mom? If he does then I highly encourage you to check out some resources I have for you. But before I do so, have you ever thought of talking to a school counselor, favorite teacher, or trusted adult/relative about what you’re going through. Those are some great resources to look out for that could help guide you through this. In addition, what kinds of things do you love doing that helps take your mind off of feeling depressed? Maybe its a sport or activity like dance, writing, art, or playing an instrument…?! If that doesn’t help I would highly encourage you to call us at Teen Line to talk through how your feeling in more depth. Our hours are from 6-10 pm and our number is 310-855-4673. Back to subject of your dad. If you feel like you need to talk to someone about how he makes you feel afraid and if anything more is going on I would highly suggest you check out the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline or Website. Even if you think your father isn’t causing any harm, I still think  it would be good for you  to check the resource out so you can at least be aware of his behavior and how he scares you. Their hotline is open 24/7 and their number is 800-422-4453 and their website it is www.childhelp.org. Lastly, if you need to talk to someone about your depression or if you are ever feeling suicidal and we aren’t available, the suicide prevention hotline is a great resource and their number is 800- 784-2433. I hope all of this helps and once again thanks for reaching out to us!

  • I have attempted suicide
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    I have attempted suicide

    14 year old, Female, IA

    TEEN QUESTION/ PROBLEM:

     I have attempted suicide twice in the range of three months. Now a  mother later, I have the urge to self-injure again, and also I am having suicidal thoughts.  I need support through this really tough time.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hey ______,

    Thank you so much for contacting TeenLine. It sounds like you’re going through so much in your life and I’m so proud of you for reaching out. I can only imagine what you’re going through. Have you ever tried talking to someone about theses feelings of loneliness and sadness, such as a school counselor, therapist, parent, or friend. Have you tried doing activities that bring you joy. Maybe joining a club at your school, do a sport, or try a new thing such as painting, yoga, or listening to music If you would like to talk to someone, I would definitely consider calling into Teen line, we are always here for you at (310) 855-4673 from 6pm-10pm PST. Another online option is the Teen Line message board, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations like you, and connect with them. Also, if you ever feel like harming yourself I suggest calling the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877 727 4747, which is open 24/7.Who will be able to give you support via phone.. Also, doorofhope4teens.org is another website similar to this, and they have a hotline at 615 746 7319 which is open sun-thur 9pm-11pm EST. With this resource you can get free advice for things such as depression, cutting, and other emotional struggles. I hope these are enough resources to help you through this difficult time. 

    All the best,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember.
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    My parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember.

    17 year old, Female, OH

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember. At this point in my life I am so used to them being separated and sharing time between the two that it doesn’t affect me. My mother has guardianship, and I’ve lived with her ever since I was 4 years-old. Soon after they split up my mom met a man who soon became my step dad. He always treated me and my brothers like his own kids, and we love him very much. About a year and a half ago, my mom came to me and told me that she was cheating on my step dad not only with a random guy, but with his best friend. This hurt me because I didn’t know how to act; I was stuck between either hurting my step dad or hurting  my mom. I ended up not saying anything, and my mom and Robert (step dad) eventually split up.

     My mom moved this new man into our home and he stayed for about two months until he cheated on my mom and left. About a week after they split up my mom started going out partying and met someone new. This man moved in with us, and then left after about 3 months. After they split my mom could not afford the house we were staying in so she moved in with her new boyfriend, and we have lived there for about 3 months now. My mom and he are splitting, and I am getting ready to move into a new house.

    I’ve always thought about going to stay with my dad to have a more stable home because this situation is affecting me.  My mom has a new boyfriend every few months, and I cannot handle it anymore. My dad is pushing my brother and I to live at his house, but I don’t know if thats the right thing to do. If I leave my mom’s side she will not to be able to afford her bills because she won’t get child support every month and that scares me. I don’t agree with the things that she does but I want the best for her. I also just don’t want to hurt her feelings. I don’t know what to do… please help.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ________

    I am so glad you contacted Teen Line. What you are going through is so difficult and confusing. It takes a really brave person to reach out and ask for support. That must have been so hard to have your mom tell you about her cheating and then feel like you had to keep it a secret. No daughter should have to go through that. It sounds like there have been so many changes in your life and I’m guessing that must be really stressful. Your situation does sound really confusing so I can understand that feeling of not knowing what to do. The most important thing is for you to decide what is best for YOU. It sounds like you love your mom and want what’s best for her, but you also have to take care of yourself.  I’m wondering if you have talked about what is going on with any of your friends, or maybe another trusted adult. Sometimes it helps to get feedback from other people so you can make a clear decision. Maybe there is another relative you can talk to, or even a school counselor. It’s really mature to be able to identify those feelings  in which makes you reflect about your current living situation. Staying with your mom might not be the best choice for you, and I really want you to listen your feelings because it is a strength. I hope you consider talking to someone about all of this and also I wanted to let you know that you can call Teen Line and talk to one of us on the phone. Our phone number is 800-852-8336 and the phone lines are open from 6:00 pm – 10:00 pm west coast time. We are here for you!

    TEEN LINE

  • I have been cutting for a very long time.
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    I have been cutting for a very long time.

    13 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have been cutting for a very long time. I stopped for a while but lately I have been feeling empty inside. I feel lonely, and I’m craving love and affection from my ex boyfriend. I really want to cut like the old days but somehow I can’t do it again. I am so confused on what to do with myself. I don’t want to fall into a worse depresssion, I need help!

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Dear ________,

    Thanks so much for contacting Teen Line, It is so brave of you to email us about this. It seems like you have been through a lot lately and it must  be so hard to be feeling  empty.  

    You said that you want to cut again and I think you should check out www.self-injury.net and http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com.

    You mentioned feeling depressed. I’m so sorry you feel this way.  I’m really concerned about you and your safety.  I want you to talk to someone about this. Is there anyone in your life you feel comfortable going to? Perhaps someone you are friendly with at school or a family member. Also if you feel the situation getting worse or think you are going to hurt yourself I encourage calling the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (877)727-4747. They can help you deal with some of your problems and can be very helpful.

    In addition to the other resources I gave you I really suggest calling us at Teen Line where you can share your story anonymously with other teens. We are available 7 days a week from 6pm-10pm PST.  I hope this helped in some way.

    Sincerely,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • When you want to die instead of live, is it worth living?
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    When you want to die instead of live, is it worth living?

    16 year old, Male, PA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    When you want to die instead of live, is it worth living? Living life in constant depression of having nothing to live for and not wanting to live for anything. I feel as if you could take a bat to my head and beat me a thousand times over & I wouldn’t feel a thing. I’m contemplating whether or not this is the best time to do it… I have nothing to live for, I don’t want to live for anything. The razor in my hand is the only thing that brings me comfort

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Dear ______,

    I’m really glad that you decided to email Teen Line. It seems like you’re going through a hard time and I wanted to let you know that we are always open to listen to you whether you want to call in or email. I want you to think about what is making you feel like this and what could be making you depressed. I am wondering what has happened recently to make you feel as if you have “nothing to live for”. It could be beneficial to think about what the things are that are causing it and try to remove these negative influences from your life. I’m so sorry that you’re feeling so sad and that you haven’t had the motivation to live. However, I want you to know that there are many things to live for and I want to help you find those sort of things.

    Have you talked to anybody about the way that you’re feeling? Some examples of someone you could talk to would be a friend you trust, an adult, or guidance counselor at school. It is really important to have a support system when you aren’t feeling too great. It could really help to have someone close to you who could listen to you when you’re feeling down. Joining some groups or meeting some friends with something in common could be a great motivation to being the best you can be and making connections with people. Some schools offer clubs and some neighborhoods have teen programs that you could get involved in. Also, it is thought that when you have a commitment to something like a job or a relationship you may have more motivation! Some things that you can try doing to relieve your sadness would be to write in a journal or listening to music. So as you said that the razor has been your only comfort, I want you to try the Butterfly Project which is when you draw a butterfly where you were to self harm and then name it after someone that you really care about. That way, you can resist the urge to hurt yourself. I would love for you to look into these things because I really care about your safety.

    I’m concerned about you and I would like to recommend that you call into the Suicide Prevention Hotline, the number is (877) 727 4747. I also hope that you will take into consideration that our hotline would love to hear from you and we’re open from 6-10 PST. We have listeners waiting for calls at the moment. Our number is (310) 855-4673.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • I have always had this feeling that I didn’t belong
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    I have always had this feeling that I didn’t belong

    14 year old, Female TX

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I have always had this feeling that I didn’t belong anywhere because I was bullied up until 8th grade. I still feel like I’m afraid to show my real personality to people because people scare me. I always seem to think that everyone is  mean, so ever since the bullying stopped I have stayed the quiet kid of the class. It does not help that my parents never understand when I try to talk to them about it, they just laugh and think I’m being silly. I feel like they treat me as if I am 3 years old in front of their friends,  and that just makes me feel worse about myself.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hey ________,

    Thank you for contacting us at TEEN LINE.  It must be so frustrating and difficult to feel like you have to suppress your personality to stop getting bullied.  I can’t even imagine how difficult this must be for you and how painful it must be for your parents not to take you seriously.  I know it can be scary, but it’s really important that you talk to someone you trust such as a friend, teacher, or counselor about what’s going on.  Talking to someone can help take the burden off your shoulders and help you feel better.  There is a great website called www.bullying.org which provides help and support for people who are bullied.  I am concerned about you and would appreciate it if you would call us at TEEN LINE at 310-855-4673 from 6pm to 10pm PST.  We are here for you, and want to talk about what’s going on.  You can also use the TEEN LINE message board at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

    Best Wishes

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My dad has always insulted me
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    My dad has always insulted me

    18 year old, Male, TN

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    I try to be a good son. I live with my dad and younger sister, so I kind of took the mom role. I do all the cooking, cleaning, and like making sure the bills are sorted and paid on time. My dad has always insulted me or treated me emotionally wrong. And like it gets worse with the days, like moments ago he told me how pathetic I was and how i cheat him out of money and how I need to get a job and stop being an overall pathetic excuse of a son. Like I have cried myself to sleep on so many occasions, and now I am to the point of giving up. It’s like I don’t wanna even be home and I don’t want to here, I am so sad all the time and so depressed and I can’t really talk to anyone about it. :’( I don’t know what to do.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ______,

    Thanks so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. I’m sorry to hear that you have been feeling so terrible. It seems to me like you have been very responsible and I’m sorry to hear that your dad has been treating you so poorly and rudely. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be for you to be under constant bombardment from your dad. You do not deserve that.  I wonder if there is any way that you could try to talk with him about how you are feeling? I also wonder if there is a close friend, adult, teacher, school counselor,  that you trust that you could  talk to about what is going on?  It sounds like you are in a lot of pain, and I really want you to be able to get help. I know you feel like you have nobody to talk to.  I’m not sure of your location, but maybe you could look online for low to no cost psychotherapists in your area. Please also feel free to call us in here at TEEN-LINE as we are open 6-10 pm (PST) 7 days a week. Our number is 310-855-4673. You also mentioned that you may feel like giving up, and I hope that you stay positive and have faith that everything will get better soon.  I’m not sure if you’re suicidal, but I’d like to give you the number for the National Suicide Hotline which is 877-727-4747. Keep your head up.

    Thanks so much,

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • My relationship with my father is horrible
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    My relationship with my father is horrible

     16 year old, Female MI

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My relationship with my father is horrible. He has never hurt me or anything but I feel like I am getting emotionally abused. He’s in a bad mood from the moment he walks in the house from work. I can honestly say that I don’t want my mom married to him. He treats her poorly. By that I mean making fun of her,  and he’s always yelling or complaining about something. He is  a hypocrite and I do not ever see him changing. I love him and so does my mom but he is just so hard to handle and whenever we talk about some sort of therapy it never happens. I myself feel that I am dealing with depression and I just needed someone to talk to. Please keep in touch. I know my problem is probably not as important as others that you see but I am desperate for some advice.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hey _______,

    First of all, it sounds like your relationship with your dad has been hurting you emotionally for a long time, so that immediately makes your “problem” just as “important” as anyone else’s. In fact, I’m glad that you e-mailed us at Teenline, especially since you have so much going on with your dad. It must be so hard to have to come home to such an unhappy situation every day, so thank you for feeling like you could confide in us. I can tell that you’re a really mature and strong person to have persevered through everything your dad has put your family through. While it’s good to hear that he’s never physically hurt you or your mother, it sounds like his attitude and words are painful enough to hurt you on a daily basis, and must put a strain on your family as a whole. If you can, maybe you could talk to your mom about your father, and you guys could discuss the various options your family could take, like maybe finding a way to take therapy seriously, or even the possibility of getting a divorce. I know that discussion with your mom would be really difficult, especially since you both love your father, but you seem like you’re in so much pain and dealing with depression on top of all of that….really sitting down and talking with your mom, or even with both your mom and dad about your home situation could help. You could also consider talking to them about finding therapy just for you, since you mentioned you’ve been dealing with depression. Reaching out for help outside of home could be helpful as well, so maybe consider talking to a school counselor or another trusted adult about what’s going on at home.

    Hopefully my suggestions can be helpful to you. If your father ever does hurt you or your mother physically, please call the Domestic Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or you can call Teenline at (310) 855-4673 if you feel like you need to talk. You can also text “teen” to 839863.

    Best wishes,

    a Teenline teen.

  • I’ve had a history of depression, for as long as i can remember.
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    I’ve had a history of depression, for as long as i can remember.

    16 years old, Female, NJ

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    So I’ve been in a funk these past few months. I usually do. I’ve had a history of depression for as long as i can remember. I know life is not all happy and stuff but i just feel empty all the time. When I’m sad I become withdrawn. I’ve stopped talking to a lot of people but I cant really help it if I have nothing to say. My family and I dont really talk and its hard to hold myself together. Life is so empty, I dont wanna go on like this. I’ve just started seeing my therapist again but the next appointment seems so long from now. Then theres the whole question of what are you gonna do once you get out of the house; go to college is pretty much the given answer. My parents have been on my case about that since I was 10. What if i dont wanna go? I have so many problems with the education system as is. I know I don’t really have a choice since you can’t get a job without a college degree and, getting a job is so important so you can make money. Life right now is just bleak.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hi ________,

    Thank you so much for contacting us at Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to open up about your personal life. I understand how you would feel frustrated by life right now as you feel like your parents have really planned out a life that you may not want. I see how you would feel like life is so empty as you don’t feel like you have any flexibility or any options in life. It seems like your under a lot of pressure and I think talking to someone about it might be really helpful as they can really help you through this. If you have a friend you feel comfortable talking to or a trusted adult or school counselor, I feel talking to someone may relieve your pressure and feel a little better about life. Also, if you feel more comfortable talking to someone anonymously, you can always call us from 6-10 PST every night. Also if you ever are feeling suicidal I urge you to call the Suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-784-2433 and they are open 24/7/. Also, I really think it would be really great if you found your passion and pursued it. Maybe joining like a sports team or a club, something to excite you. Thank you so much for emailing us and I hope you the best during this difficult period in your life. 

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

     

     

     

  • So Sometimes I fall into these deep depressions, and I think of suicide.
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    So Sometimes I fall into these deep depressions, and I think of suicide.

    13 year old, Female, GA

    TEEN QUESTION/ PROBLEM:

    So sometimes I fall into these deep depressions, and I think of suicide. I don’t know why, but I just do. Even the littlest things set me off, like May off of the Secret Life of Bees. It makes me sad to see another kid or adult unhappy, even if it’s for the stupidest reasons. I’ve been suicidal since the 6th grade, and I know I was so young, but I kept thinking about it. Kids bullied me (and some still do) and there’s family problems that add onto this depression and bipolar disorder thing. I just need some help. I came here hoping to get it. Thanks. I don’t want to be sad anymore.

    TEENLINE WROTE:

    Hey _________,

    It seems like you’re really struggling with depression and a lot of uncomfortable feelings.  It’s really admirable that you’re looking for help and trying to get better.  It’s really hard to see the people around us struggling, especially the people you love.  As for the suicidal feelings, I want you to know that even though things are really tough for you right now, they can change.  You don’t deserve to be bullied at school (no one does!) so just keep in mind that there’s a deficit with the bully and not you.

    If you ever feel hopeless enough to contemplate suicide again I encourage you to call this number: 877-727-4747 (they’re open 24/7).  They’re a suicide hotline equipped to talk to you about anything you may be feeling. It’s really important for you to talk to someone about what you’re experiencing.  Also, feel free to call us here at teen line.  We’re a peer-to-peer hotline and we would love to help.  Our number is 1-800-852-8336, and our hours are 6 to 10 every day pacific standard time.  If you don’t feel comfortable calling in, you can feel free to text us: just text “TEEN” to 839863.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

  • DEPRESSION & SUICIDE
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    DEPRESSION & SUICIDE

    14 year old, Female, WA

    TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

    My parents are in the midst of splitting up, and i just feel so small. so empty. i’ve been depressed since the age of about 7. my life is a mess. i’m lost. and alone. and sad, and… hopeless

    TEEN LINE WROTE:

    Hey _____,

    I’d like to thank you for being brave enough to contact us with your feelings. It is very difficult to go through a divorce, and it is understandable that you feel so helpless. You say that you’re alone, but do you think you could talk to anybody about this? Such as a family friend, or even your parents, or other family members? If not, do you have any close, trusted friends that you could talk to about this? It’s very important to have people that you can rely on. Do you have any trusted teachers or counselors or deans at school that you could talk to, if you don’t want to talk to anybody else? I imagine it must be so painful to go through so much feeling so hopeless and alone. I’d like to encourage you to call us at 310-855-4673 or text “teen” to 839863. We’re open from 6-10 pm PST every night. If you ever feel suicidal, please call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747. They’re open 24/7.

    a TEEN LINE teen

     

     

  • My best guy friend in the whole entire world is thinking about suicide
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    My best guy friend in the whole entire world is thinking about suicide

    15 year old, Female, VA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
    My best guy friend in the whole entire world is thinking about suicide. I dont kno if hes serious or not. Shud i bring his parents into this ? Or wait until i know for sure if he means it ?

    TEEN LINE WROTE:
    Dear G_____,
    Thank you for emailing TEEN LINE. That must be so frightening knowing that your friend has been having these thoughts and confusing about what to do to help. Even if you don’t know how seriously your friend is considering suicide it’s so important that you be safe and tell someone about it. If you’re worried about telling his parents then could you possibly talk to a school counselor or another adult that you trust? If you’re concerned that friend might get mad at you I completely understand but it’s so much better to have him mad at you than to risk something worse happening. I’d really like you to give these numbers to your friend to call, the first is the National Suicide Hotline, it’s open 24 hours a day and the number is 877-727-4747. The second is our number here at TEEN LINE, we’re open 6 to 10 pm pst and our number is 310-855-4673. I really hope that things get better with your friend and it’s wonderful that he has someone like you there to support him.
    Best wishes,

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • Am i just being a regular teenager or do i need help?
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    Am i just being a regular teenager or do i need help?

    15 year old, Female, US

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
    Am i just being a regular teenager or do i need help? Everything is just tooo overwhelming these days. Life is being so repetitive and routine, school-sleep-eat-movies-school etc..I cant take it anymore, i have super strict parents so trying to do something spontaneous or rebellious is out of the question if i want to have a home. I cry practically every time i come back from somewhere with my friends just because it was soooo..normal, like deja vu. Sometimes i want to overdose on some pills, cut myself’, run away, anything!!, just to make my life more interesting. Am i just being a regular teenager or is there something i can do about it. im sick of feeling so lost and drowned in my thoughts. Im 15 and a girl if it makes any difference

    TEEN LINE WROTE:
    Hi M____,
    I’m so glad that you contacted us here at TEEN LINE. It sounds like you’re feeling frustrated because your life is feeling like a routine, as well as anxious about your parents limiting your options. It also sounds like you’re feeling depressed and lost by the sadness you’re feeling in your life. It can be hard to deal with depression, but it can be even harder to deal with it alone. I’m wondering if there’s anyone you could talk to about your situation, such as a trusted teacher, relative, family friend, or school counselor. Sometimes talking to someone can help you put your situation into perspective, as well as help you weigh your options and come to terms with your emotions. You mentioned wanting to do things to make your life more interesting. It seems like you really want a relief from the overwhelm you’ve been feeling lately. Self-harming might bring temporary relief, but it doesn’t solve the problem and can evolve into a very dangerous habit. http://self-injury.net/ would be a good website to visit if you’re thinking about self-harming, as well as alternatives you can use. You also mentioned feeling like you want to overdose. Sometimes, when life gets too boring and overwhelming, it can be hard to carry on. I just want to let you know that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It seems to me that you really want to feel more alive and get through your depression, but suicide only takes away your life and makes it impossible to better. I want to give you a number that might help if you’re ever feeling smothered by thoughts of suicide. The number is to the Suicide Prevention Hotline, a hotline set up to help prevent suicides around the country. The number is (877)-727-4747. In your email, you talk about how you really want to feel alive and that you’re sick of the dejavu you’ve been feeling. I’m wondering if there’s anything you did before that made you feel happy. Sometimes when you’re feeling in a better mood, it may be easier to do some activities you used to do, or even pick up some new hobbies. I really hope things get better for you. If you want to talk to a fellow teen some more about your situation, TEEN LINE is open seven days a week from 6 to 10 PM PST. Our number is (310) 855-4673. We also have a live chat option on our website: www.teenlineonline.org. We are here to listen.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • Hi my name is N____ and I lost a good friend
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    Hi my name is N____ and I lost a good friend

    17 year old, Female, PA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
    Hi my name is N____ and I lost a good friend of mine in April of this year and I have been dealing with it without any help but now with me soon starting college in July 2011 I’m finding the stress of starting college and the dreams and thoughts that I have about losing my friend have driven me into a little bit of insanity what should I do so that when I start getting ready for college so I don’t get overwhelmed with the pain of thinking about my dead friend

    TEEN LINE WROTE:
    Hi, I’m glad that you contacted us here at TEEN LINE. Understandably so, losing your friend has greatly affected you, and I give you my condolences. It sounds like starting college has also been very stressful to you, and this is a very common experience. Grief and loss is a very hard thing to deal with, and it can become unbearably hard if you have to go through it alone. I am wondering if you have someone to talk to, such as a trusted friend, relative, or school counselor. Sometimes talking to someone can help get those emotions out and can keep the stress of dealing with the situation from getting worse. It might also help to do something relaxing, such as exercising, drawing, taking a walk, writing, or listening to music. Often times, doing something relaxing and/or expressive can help manage your emotions and keep them from bubbling up later. This might also ease the overwhelm you’re feeling about college. If you ever want to talk more about this situation, TEEN LINE is open seven days a week from 6 to 10 PM PST. Our number is (310)-855-4673. We are here to listen. a TEEN LINE teen

    a TEEN LINE listener

  • I think I have depression, all my friends seem to get tired of me
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    I think I have depression, all my friends seem to get tired of me

    14 year old, Female

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
    I think I have depression, all my friends seem to get tired of me being quiet and sad a lot. So my friends are just ignoring all my signs because there incinsiderate btchs 🙁 I really just want to end it all and I dont know how to stop this feeling.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:
    Hey E____, Thanks for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE. It was really brave of you. Dealing with depression without support would be difficult for anyone to go through alone. I’m sorry to hear that your friends aren’t noticing your signs the way you want them to as well. I’m really worried about your safety though because you mentioned that you wanted to “end it all”. At TEEN LINE we say that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. As low as you’re feeling right now, there are people who want to help and support you through everything you’re going through. Whether it be relative, trusted adult, school counselor or therapist, things can change and talking to someone is a great way to release all of your emotions and not feel so alone. I’m wondering whether you’ve considered telling your friends about how you’re really feeling as well. Sometimes people don’t notice things the way we want them to, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t care. A great place to call if your suicidal thoughts ever become too overwhelming is The Suicide Prevention Hotline, open 24hrs a day at 877-727-4747. They are there to talk to you about how your feeling and offer any support that they can give to you. TEEN LINE’s here for you as well between 6 and 10 PM PST at 310-855-4673 so please don’t ever hesitate to call if you need another teen to talk to.

    a TEEN LINE teen

  • Hey Teen Line, I had a few guys i kinda knew die
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    Hey Teen Line, I had a few guys i kinda knew die

    16 year old, Female, OH

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
    Hey Teen Line, I had a few guys i kinda knew die in a car crash back on October 3, 2010. Since then I’ve been so sad I can’t even do anything without thinking about them. I talked to their dad before Christmas and it was so sad to see him again. How do I get over this or even put it back in my mind that only a few things make me remember them

    TEEN LINE WROTE:
    Hi, thanks for reaching out to us at TEEN LINE. I’m so sorry for your loss. I want you to know that it’s really difficult to get over the death of a friend or loved one, and it is normal for you to be feeling sad right now. There are many stages of grief that we pass through until we come to acceptance of the loss. Often times we see somebody that triggers the memory of that person, and all the sad feelings come back to us, and it is really hard. It can often be helpful to talk to someone you trust about your feelings and write in a journal as a constructive way to express these emotions. If you want to talk to someone about your feelings, we at TEEN LINE, are available at (310) 855-4673 between the hours of 6-10 PM PST to support you. a TEEN LINE teen.

    a TEEN LINE listener

  • I have a friend she been one of my closest friends
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    I have a friend she been one of my closest friends

    15 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
    I have a friend she been one of my closest friends since middle school we went to different high schools after we graduated a few weeks after we started school she would cal me saying that she felt like no one cared how it would be better if she were dead i would listen to her so she would have someone to talk to eventually it got so bad i told her she should talk to her mom or a teacher i even suggested teenline but she wont talk to anyone but me shes one of my closest friends and i dont want her to hurt herself but i dont know what to do

    TEEN LINE WROTE:
    Hey, thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It sounds like you’re friend is in a really dangerous spot right now, and it’s great that you’re so actively seeking out help for her. She’s lucky to have you as a friend and as someone who can support her through a tough time. If she doesn’t want to talk to the sources you mentioned, she might want to consider calling the Suicide Prevention Hotline, and their number is 877-727-4747. Also, she could be struggling with depression, and if so, another option is a school counselor, or a therapist. If she’s still adamant about not talking to someone, you could think about talking to her mom by yourself. If you’re friend is in danger, it’s important that she get help, and even though she might think that her trust was betrayed, the most important thing is keeping her safe. If you want to talk more about this, you can call us at TEEN LINE from 6-10 pm at 800-852-8336.

    a TEEN LINE listener

  • Here I am, dealing with similar issues
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    Here I am, dealing with similar issues

    17 year old, Female, IN

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
    Here I am, dealing with similar issues that I first approached you guys about. My cutting issue has increased. It seems that every little thing that upsets me sparks the need to cut or even sparks the suicidal thoughts. My ex-boyfriend told me today that I would never make it through college, that I would never get accepted all because I told him I planned on leaving our city for college. His talking down to me constantly reminds me of the emotional abuse I suffered from my step-father when I was younger. Those words will never leave my mind. And my parents feel that I won’t succeed as well, telling me that they expect me back in their house within two hours of leaving because I won’t make it out in the real world. Their words hurt. It tears down my self-esteem. It makes me feel like I have no reason to even attempt to try. I just.. I want to end the pain and the cutting seems to be my answer. Sometimes, I just want to take it to the next level..

    TEEN LINE WROTE:
    Hi,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to use here at TEEN LINE! It takes a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help. I am really worried about you and sad to hear that your cutting has increased. It sounds like you are being put under a lot of pressure by people like your ex-boyfriend and your parents to succeed in the “real world”. It is understandable that the constant put downs from your ex and your parents would be harming your self-esteem. It is evident that you are in a lot of pain and are looking for a way to relieve it. I am wondering if you have ever had the urge to cut and not gone through with it…if so, what helped you to not cut? Was there something that you did that helped you? Some other coping skills you might find useful when you want to cut are ripping paper, going for a walk/run, talking to a friend, screaming into a pillow, holding an ice cube until it melts, playing a musical instrument, or playing with a pet. A good website for you to visit might be www.self-injury.net which provides support to those who self-injure. There are a variety of resources on the site, including blogs where you can talk to others who can relate to what you are going through. You also mentioned that you have had suicidal thoughts and at the end of your e-mail you said sometimes you want to just take it to the “next level”. I am really concerned about your safety and I want you to know that although things may seem really hopeless and overwhelming right now, they CAN get better. I think it would be really good for you to call the Suicide Prevention Hotline, which is open 24 hours a day, at (877) 727-4747. You can also always call TEEN LINE from 6-10pm (PST) at (310) 855-4673 and talk to one of our teens. We would love to hear from you! You can also live chat with one of our teens during the same hours at www.teenlineonline.org.

    a TEEN LINE listener

  • my dad died last year
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    my dad died last year

    16 year old, Female, CA

    TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
    my dad died last ear, y mom is stressed about about work and shes divorcing my step-dad. i take care of my little brothers almost everyday, all i ever hear in my house is yelling and fighting. my mom and i have a really bad relationship, so i have nooone to talk to now that my daddy is gone, i feel like im no good and sometimes i think of killing myself, maybe that would be the best solution out of this.

    TEEN LINE WROTE:
    Hi thank you for contacting us at TEEN LINE. I imagine that it must have been really difficult to deal with your Dad’s death, and overwhelming to live with the fighting that has been going on between your mom and your step dad. It sounds like you don’t have anyone that you feel comfortable talking to, which can feel very lonely and isolating. Also, with so much going on, it sounds like you’ve had to take on a big responsibility with your brothers, which can lead to a lot of stress. Finding someone to talk to, whether it be a relative, a close friend, a trusted adult, or a school counselor, could be really helpful in getting a support system, and in allowing you to find a way in releasing your stress. It could also be really helpful to focus more on other things in your life, whether it be school, or some type of activity or hobby that you enjoy. You said that you’ve had thoughts of killing yourself, but I want to let you know that although you are going through a really tough time, there are other people that can help, and give you the type of support that you need to get through this. If you ever do have suicidal thoughts, please call the suicide prevention hot line, which is open 24 hours a day, and whose number is 877-727-4747. I strongly encourage you to call or chat with us at TEEN LINE too. Our number is 1-800-852-8336, and we are open every day from 6-10 PM PST.

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