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Common Questions

HOW DO I KEEP MYSELF FROM FEELING ALONE?

13 year old, IL

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I want to ask, how do I keep myself from feeling alone and all that. I know I have friends and I want to talk to them but I feel like I annoy them. Then I end up not talking to them and then I feel really alone and then sometimes I ask myself why should I even be here if I am useless. I just want to ask, how do I stop from feeling so lonely and try to stay happy like I used to be years ago... please help.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. I think it's really brave of you to reach out for help.

It sounds like you feel very lonely and depressed. Being lonely is really hard to deal with, and it must be really hard to feel like you annoy your friends. It must be really scary and upsetting to feel like you can't talk to your friends because they are people that should support you and stand by you, and it can almost feel like a betrayal if you feel like you don't have their support when you are feeling down. I want to let you know that no matter what your friends make you feel like, you are not useless. You matter and you will always matter. You and your life are so important.

I wonder if you have tried to tell your friends or family how lonely you are feeling. It can be really helpful to share your feelings with someone who will listen to you that you trust. I would also recommend that you call TEEN LINE 3108554673 (open every day from 6:00 to 10:00 pm PST) or check out the TEEN LINE message board HTTPS://TEENLINEONLINE.ORG/BOARD/ where you can chat with other teens who might be going through similar situations. You can also text "teen" to 839863 which is the TEEN LINE text number. Also, if you are ever feeling lonely or depressed, you should try to do things that normally make you happy (running, singing, listening to music, journaling, etc.), and that might help you to feel a little better.

Stay strong.

A TEEN LINE teen :)

I'M BI-SEXUAL AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL MY FAMILY

13 year old, Female, VA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I'm bisexual and all my friends know but I don't know how to tell my family and I'm afraid they will disapprove of my feelings. What should I do?

TEENLINE WROTE:

Thank you so much for emailing Teen Line. It sounds like you're feeling kind of unsure about whether you should tell your family about your sexuality. I'm so happy to hear that your friends know you're bisexual and that you can be open about that with them. I'm not sure of the specifics of your family situation so I don't know your parents views on bisexuality or how they respond when they do not approve. Are there any adults in your life like a trusted teacher or counselor that you would be comfortable talking with? I also encourage you to call Teen Line at (310)855-4673 or text "teen" to 839863 any day from 6pm-10pm PST. Here is also the think to the Teen Line Message Boards: https://teenlineonline.org/board/ Another resource you might be interested is the GLBT National Youth Talk Line (800)246-7743. It is a hotline that specializes in LGBTQ youth and could possibly help you with how to talk to you parents.

a TEEN LINE teen

Since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.

15 year old, Female, CA 

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My problem is, since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.
I just don’t see the point to life or happiness anymore and I’ve lost all interest in things I used to really enjoy doing.I barely eat or talk and I never sleep. I just can’t.I don’t know why, either. I have a really loving, caring family and I have a lot of friends but I just feel like if I wasn’t there, no one would really care. I seem to upset people in my friendship group just by existing and today, I told a person I thought was my closest friend about how I was feeling. He simply said ”If you committed suicide, I wouldn’t really care.” that thought has bugged me all day and I have just noticed how unimportant I am.

I want to die and I am going to whether I get advice or not. Advice may keep me a few days longer but I want to do it quickly, with minimum and as soon as possible.
I am afraid of death, I am an atheist and I don’t know what is beyond death. I hate pain and blood but I really want to get out of this world as soon as possible.
Please help me…

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi,

Thanks for contacting Teen Line. It sounds like you have depressed for awhile and you feel kind of numb. Sometimes, when you feel really alone internally you may have trouble associating with those around you. Another factor that could hinder in your ability to trust in friendships is insensitive comments like the one you mentioned your friend making. I can imagine feeling deeply upset and angered by people's inconsideration and I understand how it may feel like they aren't supportive at all. What really concerns me is the extent of your desire to commit suicide. It seems like you are intent on killing yourself and that is worrisome, because suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I'm sorry you’re going through this emotional isolation and anxiety but it can get better.

First, I think you could try making new friends who you enjoy being with and make you feel loved/supported. If this numbness you said you experience continues then you could think about exploring your passions, to feel more fulfilled. If you want to talk to another teen you can call Teen Line 6-10 PM PST at 310-855-4673 in a non-judgmental place. Also, I really want to encourage you to call the Suicidal Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747 available 24/7 for more information and referrals regarding these really serious urges you've been having. You mentioned how you hate pain and blood and I want you to know that suicide is not the only option to escape your pain.
a TEEN LINE teen

I am currently in an abusive relationship.

20 or older, Female, CA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I am currently in an abusive relationship with my ex-boyfriend. I keep going back to him no matter what he does. I don't know how to make it stop and I am really confused. Please help me, I need your guidance.

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi ______,

First of all, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line tonight and sharing your story.Your situation sounds really hard, and I'm wondering if you have spoken to anyone about what you are going through, like a close friend, parent, or therapist. Also, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24 hours a day at 1(800)799-7233. Your safety is really important to us, so if you need any guidance please call in. Teen Line is available as well at 1-800-852-8336 from 6-10pm so we can hear more about your situation. You could also visit the teenline message board at www.teenlineonline.org/boards for you to talk to other teens going through similar situations. Thank you so much for emailing in tonight. Abuse is never okay and I hope this email was helpful.

a TEEN LINE teen

I have had the growing assumption that I am bisexual

14 year old, Female, NY

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have had the growing assumption that I am bisexual for some time now. I want to meet other bi or lesbian girls. However, I'm not ready to come out about my sexual orientation because I am afraid that no guys will ever be interested in me if I do. I'm not butch, and I don't feel attracted to any girls that try to look masculine. This is a really confusing time for me and I don’t really know what to do. Any suggestions on how I can give both dating guys and girls a chance?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ­­­­­_______.

Firstly, thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to open up about something so intimate but I appreciate you entrusting me with your story. It's understandable that you'd be worried about how others might perceive you after dating a girl but the people worth being with will be accepting of you and your sexuality. Dating another girl doesn't make you any less of a person. Also, not being attracted to masculinity in females or being masculine yourself doesn't disvalue the relationship. Having a masculine partner is not a requirement for same-sex relationships. All that matters when it comes to this sort of thing is your happiness.

I encourage you to visit the Teen Line Message Boards or GLNH.org to chat with and gain support from your peers who may have had similar experiences. If You live in the US or Canada the Teen Line Helpline (310-855-4673) is also available on any day of the week between 6 and 10 pm PST to speak with one of our trained Teen Counselors.

Again, thanks for contacting Teen Line. I hope this response was helpful and I wish you all the best.

 

a TEEN LINE teen

I start my senior year in high school.

17 year old,Female, CO 

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Hey,
I'm about to begin one of the most important years of my life. In 2 days, I start my senior year in high school (exams, university applications, interviews). In 1 month I'm going to be 18 years old, although I don't take birthdays too seriously this is starting to feel like a big change to me. Also, I live in Moscow at the moment with my dad. My sisters, brother and mum are all in a different country. Living alone with my dad for the 4th year in such a difficult time (politically and socially) is causing me distress on top of all of the pressures of intense studying in the international baccalaureate. I don't have a boyfriend, or any really close friends and I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with...well everything.

Your answer would mean a lot to me, if there is anything comforting to say about the year to come.

Thank you in advance.

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi _____, thank you for contacting Teen Line; it is really brave of you to open up to us. It sounds like there is a lot on your plate and it must be really hard being so overwhelmed especially since your mom and sister aren't there to support you. I could imagine things must be very daunting, coming of age, entering senior year and growing up in such a hard time. I'm wondering if you've talked to anyone about this. Sometimes talking to a trusted adult can make you feel better and also help you set up a plan about what to do next. Trusted adults can be relatives, coaches, teachers, or counselors.

Another cool place to talk about how your feeling is the Teen Line message boards. https://teenlineonline.org/board/ Here you can talk to other teens going through the same thing. You are not alone. Lots of people are going through this stressful year and talking to one of them may make you feel better.

Hope this helps

a TEEN LINE teen

 

 

I know that I have depression since nothing seems to make me feel happy.

15 year old, Female, NJ

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Hello Teen Line. I just wanted to start off by saying this website is great way to deal with problems and be heard. I know that I have depression since nothing seems to make me feel happy anymore. I always wondered why that was, and I came to the conclusion that people have their own problems to worry about. I just want someone to tell me that everything will be okay even though I sometimes don’t believe it will be. I have tried cutting, but I never had the guts to do it; Just running the blade over my skin. I am a depressed girl who is scared of a blade rather than death. I seem to laugh at myself a lot these days. I don’t even know what the point of writing this was,maybe it was because I just need to know that someone cares. I guess my question to you is: what can I do to be happy again?

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi, __________.

Firstly, thank you for contacting Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to open up about such personal struggles  but I'm glad you chose to reach out to Teen Line, a program that exists to help teens like yourself, who deserve to be heard. It must be so frustrating to feel as if no one is willing to listen to you, and that you have to keep your emotions bottled up. Even though you feel pathetic for wanting to harm yourself but being unable to do so, to me, that simply shows how strong you are & that you realize you deserve better. There's nothing pathetic about dealing with such intense feelings. If you have anyone that you're comfortable talking to about these things, for example a friend or a trusted adult, doing so could help provide the support you need. Journaling about your feelings could be an excellent outlet for you. The Teen Line Message Boards also provide a forum where you can share your story and gather support from other teens. You can also contact Teen Line (310-855-4673) to talk to one of our trained teens, on any day of the week between the hours of 6 pm and 10 pm.

 

Again, thank you for contacting Teen Line. I hope that you're able to continue using the strength that you applied when sending this email.

-a TEEN LINE teen

 

I have lost all control of my life.

17 year old, Male, NJ 

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have lost all control of my life. What if I’m a failure? It has been 2 years now since I last engaged in self injury. I feel so miserable and I want to regain control of my life. Lately it seems like self harm has been on my mind. I'm thinking about my future, my parents success in their life, their expectations of me. I always felt like I'm useless and like I won’t succeed in life. I constantly worry about letting my parents down. I do not want to be depressed anymore. Please

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi _____,

Thank you for contacting Teen Line and opening up to us. I know the questions and thoughts you have can seem daunting, I think that almost everyone feels this way. The future can seem scary. You also mentioned that you have cut in the past; it is very strong of you for having to stopped. I can imagine that the urge to start again must be very conflicting. I'm wondering how you are coping now that you've stopped cutting? Also have you shared these thoughts with any else? Sometimes talking to a trusted adult such as a school counselor, teacher, coach or parents can help you feel better and understand your feelings in a new way. Also I encourage you to talk to friends and relatives.

I encourage you to check out Teen Line message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

you can talk to other teens about your questions and thoughts and maybe find out if they share the same worries.

you can also check out http://self-injury.net/ for support with stopping cutting.

Hope this helps

a TEEN LINE teen

I am 12 years old and want to die.

 12 years old, Female, AZ

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I am 12 years old and want to die.  I'm am sick of everyone telling me that I'm ugly and worthless. I just want to cut and never stop. I have done it before, and it felt so nice. I am very unhappy with my life which makes me want to end it At times I think that if I die then people around me might actually care Please help me.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _______,

Thanks so much for reaching out. I'm really concerned about you. It sounds like you're going through a tough time, but I want you to know that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Even though I don't know you, I bet that there are people who care about you and would be sad if you were not around. If you're feeling suicidal, then I would strongly encourage you to call the suicide prevention hotline: 877-727-4747 (open 24 hours/day).

You mentioned that you have been cutting to deal with what you're going through. I want you to know that there are healthier ways to cope. You could try the Butterfly Project, where you draw a butterfly on the area you self harm in representation of someone you care about. If you self harm, the butterfly dies; if you don't, it lives. You could also try taking a cold or hot shower, exercise, journal, or do something you love (singing, playing a sport, drawing, listening to music, etc.) -- these things may help you during times when you want to relieve your emotions or stress.

Please feel free to call us at Teen Line where you can discuss all this further with a trusted teen: 310-855-4673 (6PM-10PM) PST, and/or check out our message boards. You said that you hate your life, but I want you to trust that it will get better. Continue to reach out for help...

Warmly,

a TEEN LINE Teen

 

I am feeling angry and sad.

18 year old, Male, PA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I am feeling angry and sad all time lately.  I do not know how to control it. Please help, what should I do?

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi ______,

Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE and sharing how you have been feeling lately.  It was brave of you to reach out and contact us.  It must be so hard to constantly feel angry and sad all the time because you do not deserve to feel this way.  It seems really difficult having these feelings but not knowing how to handle your emotions.  You deserve to feel happy, and I am wondering if there is anyone you can talk to about how you have been feeling.  If there is close friend, trusted adult, and close relative that you could talk to, you may find the comfort and support you deserve at this time.  A support system is so important, and talking to someone may help you relieve your anger and sadness and help you at this time.  You can also search online to find a counselor or therapist that lives near you in Pennsylvania to talk to someone confidentially for free.  Whenever you are feeling really low or sad or angry I encourage you to do something that makes you truly happy.  Exercising, dancing, singing, journaling, sketching, or listening to music may help you feel better and temporarily release your anger and or sadness.  You are also welcome to call TEEN LINE from 6-10 pm PST at (310)- 855-4673 and talk to a teen about everything you are going through.  You can also check out http://teenlineonline.org/boards/, a teen forum where teens can post about what is going on in their lives.  You can read other stories, post your own, and see that other teens are feeling similar feeling that you are feeling.  I hope these resources help you at this time.

 

a TEEN LINE teen

 

My life at home isn't so great at the moment.

16 year old, Female, NJ

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My life at home isn't so great at the moment. My dad has developed an alcoholic addiction due to depression. Fast forward to 3 years later and the situation has not improved. He comes home drunk every day after work and fights with my mom. It’s really sad that my little 11 year old sister has to hear all the yelling and see my mom cry afterwards. My dad has tried reaching out for help at addiction centers but he never stays for more than a few weeks. I'm embarrassed of him because of the way he acts when he's drunk in front of our neighbors and people in public. One time he embarrassed me in front of a friend from school when she came over to work on a project. And another time, he almost got us into a fatal car accident while driving to a school event at a science center. I don't speak with him much now because I feel like I lost him as a dad a while ago, and he's a stranger to me now.
My father’s alcohol abuse is not the only problem in my family right now. My little sister was recently diagnosed with ADHD and she takes medication to help her stay focused in school, but at home she acts really aggressive towards me. She always picks up a fight with me over the silliest things, even when I ignore her. When my mom hears her fighting, she yells at me and I get in trouble for something I had nothing to do with. When my boyfriend comes over, my sister is super disrespectful towards me and treats me like garbage. Sometimes, she curses and tries to hit me. It really hurts that she has no consideration for her big sister, especially since I've been taking care of her while my dad struggles to get better.
People have noticed that I've lost weight and it makes me uncomfortable to hear that since I already have body image issues. I've been trying to distract myself by doing other things but nothing seems to help. I haven't talked with the guidance counselors at my school because I feel like they can't do much to help,It feels as if  I have to deal with this by myself. I start my senior year of high school this fall, and I want to make the right choices and move ahead with my life.

 

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi ____,

Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE and sharing what has been going on in your life recently.  It was so brave of you to reach out and contact us.  It really seems like so much has been happening lately, and you do not deserve to be going through all of this.  It must be so hard to see your dad come home drunk and fight with your mom, especially knowing that your younger sister also sees this happening.  You must feel embarrassed of your dad's behavior in public, and it seems like you have been really affected by your dad's behavior.  You do not deserve to feel as if you have lost your dad; I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this.  It also seems really annoying that your sister has been picking fights with you over the silliest things and treats you like garbage.  It is so admirable of you for taking take of your sister right now and it must be so hard to see her treating you so poorly.

You do not deserve to be going through all of this alone right now, and I am wondering if there is anyone you can talk to about what has been happening.  You mentioned that you feel as if your guidance counselors will be no help for you, but maybe there is someone else you can confide in.  Talking to a close friend, trusted adult, or close relative may help you receive the support the comfort you deserve right now.  You can also search the Internet to find a therapist that lives around you to talk to someone for free confidentially.  You deserve to be happy at home, and I encourage you to check out http://al-anon.org/how-to-find-a-meeting, a resource that offers support for individuals with family members that have drinking struggles.  You can attend an Al-Anon meeting near you, share your experiences that you have had with your dad, and learn effective coping mechanisms to deal with your dad's behavior.  You can see that you are not alone right now and other teens have family members that have drinking issues.  If you are not comfortable talking to someone, you may find relief in journaling, exercising, singing, dancing, listening to music, playing a game, or sketching.  Doing something that truly makes you happy make help you at this time.  You are also welcome to call TEEN LINE any night from 6-10 pm PST at (310) 855-4673 and talk to a teen about everything that has been going on lately.  You also mentioned having to deal with body image issues.  You deserve to start your senior year on a good note, and I hope these options help you.

-A Teen Line Teen

 

I used to be bullied.

13 year old, Female, United Kingdom 

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I used to be bullied and now I am trying to recover from the pain I went through last year. My “friends” stopped caring about me and they started ignoring me. In addition, they would call me mean names all the time at school. Now I sit by myself during lunch breaks at school. I have reached a low point in my life and I feel so lonely. I DON'T cut, just want to make that clear. Also, I am not normal; l am a gamer and like dark clothing. My style is more alternative and the people I seem to get along with better are boys in my grade. I just don’t want to be alone at school anymore. Please help.

TEENLINE WROTE: 

Hey _____,

Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you're feeling pretty lonely and distant from your friends. I know it could be hard to feel this way, especially since it sounded like things had really turned around. I wonder if you have tried making new friends or getting a strong support system, such as a trusted teacher or counselor at school that you could spend breaks with and talk to. I'm glad to hear that you don't cut and that you cope with your problems another way. Having an alternative style, playing video games, and liking dark clothing doesn't make you any less than normal. Your interests and the fact that you are friends with mostly boys is your decision and shouldn't make you feel less than or have you secluding yourself. If you feel like you still need somebody to talk to you can always visit http://www.bullying.co.uk/, which is a local website you can visit to read in on more about bullying. I hope I helped you today and that you can find a strong support system to help you get through this.

 

a TEEN LINE teen

 

My girlfriend is very sick.

17 year old, Male, FL

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My girlfriend is very sick, please help me. I don’t  want to lose her and she can’t see a doctor because we are  both afraid of splitting up.  We live far away and I can’t live without her. My girlfriend does not know what is wrong with her medically, but she was born premature. I live in Florida and she lives in Alabama and although we have only dated for a year I know I want to propose to her in the near future. I had a terrible past and she came to me and saved me. If she dies I’ll take my life and join her. I cant live a day without her.

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi ­­­­­_______,

Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It sounds like you are very in love with your girlfriend but at the same time feeling terrified because she is sick and you are scared of what happen in the future. It is always hard when someone you love with all your heart is sick and you are unsure about what might happen. It can be hard because you don't have any control over the situation and you feel like you want to do everything to help them. It sounds like from the description you have written that your relationship with your girlfriend is so strong and you have a bond with her that you treasure. You mentioned in your email that you would end your life if she passes. Ending your life would not help the situation, all the people that love you would be in such grief and will always wonder what they could have done  to help change your mind. I wonder if you ever talked to anyone about this, maybe talking to a close friend or trusted adult would help.I really want to encourage you to call into our hotline at 310-855-4673,we are open every day from 6-10(pst). We also have something called teenlineonline.org. It is a website where other teens write and read other peoples experiences and stories and support each other.I also recommend that you call into the suicide prevention hotline at 877-727-4747, they are open everyday 24/7. You are such a strong person standing by your girlfriend through this rough time, don't ever forget that. Have a great night.

 

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I don't want to go to a foster home.

15 year old, Female,  NH

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I don't want to go to a foster home because I'm scared of what it will be like. I am a very shy person and I know that if I go away into foster care I won’t be able to talk to my boyfriend. I am scared and  don't want my parents to hurt me. I am alone and my grandparents on my mom’s side are abusive.  Honestly, it feels as if I don’t have any valuable reason to live anymore because my family makes me feel so unwanted.  I've tried counselling, meditation, and a suicide mental institute. Nothing seems to be working, what can I do?? :(

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Firstly, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. It is really brave of you to open up to me about your current situation. I can't imagine how scary it is to have your grandparents on your mom’s side be abusive, as well as being in fear of your parents hurting you. It seems frustrating to want to be somewhere that your boyfriend can contact you. I'm so sorry that you're going through so much pain that you don't see much reason to live anymore, and that worries me. I want you to know that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and although it may not seem like it right now, things can get better. Contacting me at Teen Line was a great first step, and if you keep reaching out, things can change for the better. You sound like a great person, and I imagine that there are people that are close to you that really care about you. Have you thought about talking to a close friend, trusted adult, or school counselor about how you've been feeling? It can be really difficult to hold in everything you're feeling, and it’s great to have people you can open up to about anything. I'm not sure what is happening that would cause you to go to a foster home, but if someone in your family is abusing you, your local Department of Children and Family Services does their best to keep families together, not separate them. You can check it out here: http://www.cfsnh.org/. Also, if you are ever having suicidal please contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747 to talk to them in more detail about what’s been going on. It would be great if you could check out the Teen Line Message Boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/ where you can see how other teens have dealt in similar situations  to yours. Feel free to also contact Teen Line anytime from 6-10pm PST at (310) 855-4673 or text "teen" to 839863.

Thanks again for contacting Teen Line, and I hope that my referrals help you get the help and support you are looking for.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

 

 

 

I've had a rough year so far.

13 year old, Female, OR

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I’ve had a rough year so far. I left my mother because she basically chose drugs and her abusive boyfriend over myself and my siblings. My life is so difficult because of this and I do not know what to do. Lately, I have been thinking about self-harm and suicide.

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hey ­­­­­_______,

Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It is really brave of you to share what is going on. I am really sorry to hear about how hard your year as been. It is so hard to feel neglected by a parent at such a young age especially if she chooses drugs and an abusive boyfriend like your mom has. It takes a strong, tough person to go through something like what you are going through. It also saddens me to hear that you are thinking of self-harm and suicide. I strongly urge you not to do either of those as you are a much better girl and don't deserve to resort to either one of those. I recommend you find another way to cope with your sadness, such as writing in a journal, exercising, or squeezing something. I also want to let you know that life will get better, so stay strong.

I want to make sure that you are somewhere safe as you had to leave your mom, if you are not please call the National Runaway Safeline at (800) 786-2929 right away to get help. If you are ever thinking of suicide please call the Suicide Hotline at (877) 727-4747. It also may be helpful to call Department of Child and Family Services at (800) 422-4453. You are also free to call into us at TEEN LINE anytime from 6 pm to 10 pm at (310) 855-4673. You can also post on our message boards at http://www.teenlineonline.org/boards/.

 

I've been in different stages of depression.

17 year old, Male, NM

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Hello Teen Line, the simple act of writing this message is a great relief to me. I have been in different stages of depression. For the past 4 years now I have encountered many problems and I just don’t know what to do. It all started 4 years ago when my mother had come out of the closet. My parents were never married and I had been originally spending weekdays with mom and weekends with dad. However,  when my mother came out my whole life rocked and shifted. She had fallen madly in love with her partner, sometimes leaving me 4 or 5 nights out of the week at my grandmother’s house so she can go see her. I felt so alone and abandoned but my grandmother comforted me. This went on for about two years, until she announced that she and her partner had bought a house together. I was quickly taken away to the next town over where I was miserable at the new house. Although I was in the same house as my mother I still felt ignored because she would never leave her partner's side. It got to the point that I told her I couldn't handle it anymore, and had the visitation rights revised so I could spend a week at my dad’s and a week with my mom. Overall I was still very unhappy and It got to the point where I had contemplated suicide. In addition to all of my family problems and thoughts of suicide I have come to discover my sexual orientation. At first I thought I was bisexual but actually now I am leaning towards being gay. I am so ashamed and I cannot tell anyone because I am scared that people won’t like me. Despite everything I feel that this message has given me tremendous help in the sense that someone might read it and I will not be the only one in the world who knows these things. Even if you cannot offer advice I am at ease because at least someone will read it. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you and the entire organization.

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hey ____,

I'd first like to thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line and I wanted to let you know that you are so brave for reaching out. I'm so glad that writing to us has given you some relief and we are more than happy to provide support to you during this time. You mentioned that your depression has been going on for four years and it started when your mom came out and you also said it has gotten worse since she moved in with her partner, from what you're saying it sounds like you feel alone and everyone deserves to be acknowledged and heard. I'm so sorry you felt so alone or miserable and I wanted you to know that you are so strong for fighting through all of this. Some websites I suggest you take a look at are:  http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2  This one is about   parents, families, friends, and allies for LGBT people, since you mentioned you felt like you couldn't tell anyone about your sexuality. Another thing I suggest is that you find a reliable support group since you feel so alone. If there's a trusted friend, a family therapist, or a school counselor you can confide in them I highly suggest you do so. You said that your belief in God has stopped you in the past from suicide but if those thoughts become too overpowering you definitely should call the suicide prevention hotline which is open 24 hours and they can be reached at 877-727-4747. If you need anymore support you can definitely call in at 310-855-4673 anytime between 6-10 pm PST. Or you can always visit our message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/. I'm so sorry it took us two days to respond to your email and I hope I've been helpful.

Best,

a TEEN LINE teen

My mom and I do not have a great relationship.

17 year old, Female, AZ 

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My mom and I do not have a great relationship. We have never gotten along and I always try to fix our relationship, but no matter what I do it does not work.  When I was younger up until now I have made some terrible choices in life. Every time I try to change my mom always brings back the past and all my errors. Growing up was not easy and I was bullied at school as well as at  home. My mother always called me fat, a cow, and really mean names. I just need  help trying to figure out a way I can improve my relationship with my mom. Any advice?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ­­­­­­­­_________,

I am so sorry you're going through this hard time with your mom. It must feel so awful to have your mom say these things to you. Your mom is suppose to be there to love and take care of you and the things she is calling you are not okay. I can only imagine how difficult it must have been to be bullied at school and then come home to be treated badly. Have you considered talking to any other trusted adults, family members, or a school counselor about what has been going on? It might really help to actually talk to someone about this. It is so great that you have tried to make a change in your life and move on from your past and it must be so frustrating to have your mom keep bringing it up. I would really encourage you to call into Teen Line (1-310-855-4673) so you can talk more about the situation. I just want to say that you are so strong to still want to improve your relationship with your mom after all that has happened. Thank you so much for reaching out to Teen Line. Hope to hear from you soon.

A TEENLINE TEEN

 

 

I have been self-harming for 2 months.

13 year old, Female, FL

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I need help! I have been self- harming for 2 months every single  day. Only 4 people know about it; my mother, grandmother and 2 close friends are aware of my problem. I just need help and some encouragement so I can stop. It is so difficult to stop because cutting is like a drug and your body wants it more and more.....

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi _______,

Thank you so much for reaching out to Teen Line.  It sounds like you have been going through a lot lately and have been using cutting as a way to cope with everything that is going on.  I want you to know that I am very worried about you and I strongly urge you to call the Teen Line Hotline at (310) 855-4673 6-10 pm PST.  You will be able to talk to another teen about everything that is going on and how you have been feeling lately.  Additionally, I am wondering if you have heard of the Butterfly Project athttp://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/  It is a great way to stop the urge to cut.  Some other coping mechanisms you can also try are the  following: journaling,  listening to music, going on a walk and much more.  You can also check out the website www.self-injury.net  where you will get more information and support in relation to self-injury.  Lastly, I am wondering if you have checked out the Teen Line Message Boards at https://teenlineonline.org/boards/  You will be able to hear from other teens around your age who are going through similar problems which may be alike to you.  Thanks again for contacting Teen Line and I really hope that some of the referrals above will be helpful.  :)

a TEEN LINE teen

I've been having really bad drug cravings.

16 year old, Female, TX

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

So I have been having really bad drug cravings and flash backs of doing my D.O.C (meth) and today I was in a flash back for 45 mins smoking an e-cig like it was a meth pipe. In this flashback I was rocking the e-cig while i was hitting it and now i am craving drugs really bad I don’t want to do it because I am just getting my life back together and on track. I talked to a military recruiters today and I have really been buckling down to graduate on time because I am really behind on all my school work. . When I have these cravings it really tears me to shreds because I almost ruined my life with those drugs and I have such high goals for life and I want to be in the military and get my Ph.D in Psychology. I am scared one day I am not going to be able to control my flash back , or mistake a flash back with real life. I guess what I’m trying to ask for is if you have any ideas on how I could figure out a way to force myself out of a flashback? I do have a therapist and a psychiatrist and they have given me a lot of great ideas like grounding techniques and color counting. (where you count as many colors as you can see in the room) However, these strategies have not really helped. I would just greatly appreciate any help I can get. Thank you for your time and your response.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi there,

Thanks so much for reaching out to Teen Line. It sounds like your flashbacks are really scary. Not knowing what is real and what is not can be really awful. I am so sorry that you are going through that. I want you to know that the longer you go without using, the flashbacks and cravings will become less and less. Your brain literally has to re-program itself and adjust, but it will happen. It may feel at times like it won't get better, but I assure you that it will if you do not use. In the meantime, it will be important for you to get support during this time. It's great that you have a therapist. I think that the grounding techniques are the best way for you to be present and get out of a flashback. Sometimes they are too powerful and will take over, but other times they may be shortened or you will prohibit them completely. Listening to the sounds you hear in the room can help bring you back. Sometimes it's even helpful to put an ice cube in your hand, because the intense cold can bring you back to the moment. Are you in a recovery program like AA or CMA? Those are great for support and to keep you on the path of sobriety. You may want to reach out to other teens who have gone through drug issues on our message boards. The website is:

https://teenlineonline.org/boards/

Or you can always call us at 310-855-4673 between the hours of 6-10 pm PST.

Thanks and take care,

I've always had a feeling that if I were a guy, I'd be happier.

12 year old, Female, CA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

So, I've always had a feeling that if I were a guy, I'd be way more happy and more comfortable. For a while I've been saying "I wish I was a guy". I don't seem to fit in with girls. And earlier this year while I was still in 7th grade, I found out what transgender was. I heard of transgender but I never really learned much about what it really was so I searched stuff up, and I related to a lot of people who were transgender but at the same time, I also didn't relate at some points. I just need help because right now my family cannot afford for me to go to therapy. I want to figure this out but I'm just confused in general on what to do. I cut my hair and since I already dressed with unisex and boy clothing. I love how I look as a guy more than how I looked when I looked like a girl; I feel more confident and comfortable. Even after all this I still wouldn't know if I'm actually cis-gender, transgender, or androgynous. Help?

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi _____,

Firstly, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. It’s really brave of you to open up to me about what has been going on. I can't imagine how it might feel for you to not be able to fit in with girls, and not knowing what you're feelings mean. I just want you to know that it is perfectly normal to question your gender, and I'm glad that you've started to learn more about it. Unfortunately, I wouldn't be able to correctly identify whether you're cisgender, transgender, or androgynous, but I think it could really help if you contact the GLBT National Youth Talk Line at 1(800) 246-7743 anytime from 1-9pm PST Monday-Friday. You can talk to them about how you've been feeling, and they can provide you with information, and support. Have you thought about talking to a trusted adult or school counselor? It could be helpful to open up to someone you are close to about how you've been feeling, and it is important to have a stable support system. Also, feel free to contact us at Teen Line at 1(800) 852-8336 or text "teen" to 839863 (6-10pm PST) to talk to a teen about how you've been feeling, and we would be able to help you further.

Again, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line, and if you keep reaching out, you'll be able to find the help you're looking for. We really appreciate you, and remember: you're not alone.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I recently found out that I am moving to another country.

14 year old, Female United Kingdom

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I recently found out that I am moving to another country and I had to break up  with my boyfriend because of it. I didn't think I truly loved him but I can't sleep when we don't hug and say goodnight.  I am so sad because just 2 days ago I found out he has cancer. Now his birthday party is in 2 weeks and it is the last one I’ll ever have with him but I am travelling to another country for a wedding. Should I beg to stay for his birthday and let the rest of my family go or should I go with my family? Should I get back together with him? I'm just scared that when I leave it will hurt even more than. I am so upset and confused. What should I do?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ________,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you have such a tough decision to make and I can tell by your email how frustrating this can be.  It sounds so difficult to have to make a decision to either stay home and attend his birthday party or go to the wedding.  Have you talked to him about this to see how he feels? Perhaps speaking with him directly about your feelings would help before you make the decision.  You mentioned you didn't think you truly loved him, but you also care about him...especially now that he is ill.  Perhaps speaking with your parents about this also would help you in making this decision. Getting support for yourself is very important right now so I am glad that you reached out.

I found a resource for teens with cancer and support:  http://www.macmillan.org.uk/Cancerinformation/teensandyoungadults/Infoforteensandyoungadults.aspx/

You can also access our Message Boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/ to connect with other teens about this all all kinds of other topics. I hope this information helps you, Charlotte.

 

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I have been cutting myself for a really long time.

15 year old, Female MA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have been cutting myself for a really long time and I'm just scared. I currently see a therapist but I don't even know anymore. I feel so lost, so upset and I feel like nothing is worth living. Please help!

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line and sharing what has been going on.  It was really brave of you reach out and share something so personal with me and I hope that seeing your therapist is helping you.  Therapy is can be difficult at times, but it can really help a lot over time...and I can only imagine how much pain you are feeling. I'm really concerned about you hurting yourself, and I want to give you some resources.  The Teen Line phone-line is open every day from 6-10 PM PST and we are here to listen.  If we aren't open you can ALWAYS call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747.  

There is also a website called www.self-injury.net that provides information, and the Teen Line Message Boards has support about issues around cutting: http://teenlineonline.org/boards/viewforum.php?f=13

I really like the Butterfly Project also.  Have you seen it? http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/

I hope this information helps you, ______.
-Teen Line teen

Can I just run away somewhere?

17 year old, Female, SD

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM: 

Can I just run away somewhere peaceful with out any  worries? Recently, a lot has been happening. Large school projects, parents fighting, health issues, and even more. To start, school has been not the best but I've doing ok until my teacher decided to give us so many deadlines and projects. Second, my parents are constantly arguing with each other over the smallest issues. They also don't trust me with anything, always asking information they don't need, I feel like I'm treated like a 2 year old. Also, I have just recently gone to the doctors, who told me I'm almost over the bridge of being pre-diabetic, which my whole family is constantly reminding me of. They make rude comments about my health like: "You shouldn't eat ALL that, you'll get even fatter." and things along those lines. All of this has been making me feel unfocused, irritated, and just aggravated. I have been crying myself to sleep for the past week, and even once used a scissor to cut my forearm enough to leave scratch marks for a day (but not bleed). Any ideas how to help? Please, and Thank You.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _______,

Firstly, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line and trusting us with something so personal. It seems like you have a lot on your plate. It must be incredibly overwhelming to have to deal with your parents constant fighting, and school on top of being pre- diabetic. Being pre-diabetic must be frightening in itself and being constantly reminded of it with such negative comments about your weight seems like it only adds to the stress. You don't deserve to be spoken to that way and I'm glad you realize that.
You said your parents fight a lot and don't seem to be very trusting of you. With all that's going on, staying afloat in school is a definite challenge within itself. You deserve more credit for being able to manage all of this. Considering the circumstances I think you're doing a phenomenal job!

Also, you mentioned you self-harmed. Although you did not bleed it worries me that you would resort to harming yourself. I'd like you to consider participating in the Butterfly Project as an alternative to self-harming. If you ever feel the urge to self harm again you would draw a butterfly on your wrist, or wherever you cut, which represents a loved one. The idea is that the butterfly serves as a reminder that there is someone who cares for you. Additional alternatives to cutting would be journaling, exercising, listening to music, or doing any fulfilling activity. If you have any friends, family members, or trusted adults that you are comfortable talking to about these things, please do. I also recommend taking a look at www.self-injury.net and the Teen Line Message Boards for support from people in similar situations. You can also contact Teen Line (310-855-4673) between the hours of 6 PM to 10 PM PST. The line is open seven days a week.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

 

I am on the verge of losing my mind.

14 year old, Female VA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I am on the verge of losing my mind. I feel like a lost cause and do not know what to do. For the past 2 years I have done everything to try and get mentally better, but I feel terrible. I do not like my life at all. Please Help!

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ____,

Firstly, I want to thank you so much for contacting TEENLINE and sharing your story with me. You must be feeling so alone and lost right now, especially after trying so hard for such a long time to make yourself feel better. You don't have to be alone in this; it is really important that you find help. I wonder if you have anyone you can talk to about this, like a parent, trusted adult, guidance counselor or therapist. I urge you to please call the suicide prevention hotline at (877)727-4747 which is a line open 24/7 with people to talk to when you feel suicidal. If you just want to talk I suggest that you call us at 1(800)-852-8336 or text "TEEN" to 839863 between 6-10 pm. I want you to know that I care about you and your safety.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I grew up without my birth father until recently.

15 year old, Female NM

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I grew up without my birth father until recently. I had a step father who would always put me down and hurt my feelings. My mother practically raised me and has always been there for me.  Last year I decided to write a letter to my birth father and 3 months after my 14th birthday he responded. I finally met him around the holiday season and everything was going so well, I also met my paternal grandparents. Things changed for the worse when soon after Christmas he sexually molested me and I ended up in a mental hospital for a while. I don’t know what to do? I moved to Texas but I returned to my home town recently and I am not happy here. Please help.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi Jessica thank you so much for contacting us here at Teen Line it was very brave of you. It sounds like you are going through a very tough time with your family. When your step-father puts you down always remember he has his own unresolved problems. I'm sorry to hear about your birth father, fathers should never touch their daughters, hit their daughters, or even be disrespectful. He should be protective of you, nice to you and kind. Since your birth father has sexually molested you he obviously has many problems of his own and he should be going to get help, not you. What your father has done to you is categorized as child abuse, and it can be reported to the police because it is illegal and it is NOT okay. One way you can resolve your problems with your father is to discuss it with someone like a school counselor or a trusted adult. Also it sounds like after all of these events you are feeling depressed and to alleviate some of that pain you can maybe join a sports team or a club or have a hobby so you have something to look forward to after school. Also if you ever want to talk about this I urge you to call us in here at Teen Line at  310 855 4673. If your ever feeling unsafe with your mother you can always call the Child Help National Abuse hotline at 1800 422 4453. Once again I would like to thank you so much for contacting us here at Teen Line.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

 

My house hold is broken.

14 year old, Male, AZ 

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My house hold is broken; my parents argue every single day. Today my mom had my dad write her a check for $2500. Along with that she took out all her cash, credit cards, her ATM card and walked out the front door. Soon after my mother took off I acted a little irritable with my dad and he snapped out at me, almost like he was blaming me for all of our problems. He tends to get angry and yell at me for even the smallest things. This last event (my mom leaving) has left me feeling even more hopeless and empty. I have contemplated suicide before, but today is the most that I have ever contemplated it. I already have a plan on how I can acquire a gun so I can end my life. Right now, the only thing stopping me is my religion.

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

First off, I just want to say thank you for contacting Teenline. It takes a lot of strength and courage in order to talk about a problem such as this. It sounds like the situation with your parents  is really taking a physical and mental toll on your health. I want you to know that none of this is your fault, and you should not blame yourself for the conflict that is going on between your parents and that you are not alone. Domestic conflict such as this affects thousands of people your age. You mentioned that you're starting to seriously contemplate suicide. This is a very serious and I want you to know that I am really worried about you. I recommend that you call the suicide prevention hotline; they can talk you through the steps to help curb those suicidal feelings. Their number is 877-727-4747 and they are open 24/7. Again, I want to clarify that none of this your fault and that these feelings you are having are very serious and should not be taken lightly. We're here until 10 pm tonight and I highly,highly recommend that you call in tonight to talk to one of us about what is going on before making any rash decisions. Again, Peter: please call us at 310-855-4673 as soon as you can.  We are open until 10 pm.
Thanks,
a Teen Line Teen

I have been arguing a lot with my parents

17 year old, Female, UK

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have been arguing a lot with my parents. I need to get out of my house because this situation is causing me so much depression. I just don’t know what to do anymore, I need help. much depression and I don't know what to do

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi ______,
Thank you so much for emailing us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you're going through so much right now, specifically fighting with your parents. I can't imagine how hard it must feel to be so depressed, but I really want you to talk to someone about how you feel.   Since you are in the UK, I want to give you the number to the Samaritans hotline: 08457 90 90 90 (open 24/7). They are there to talk to you, and listen to you. Additionally, I would consider talking to a guidance counselor at your school, just to gain some guidance and support through this all. Thank you so much for emailing and I hope everything gets better.
a TEEN LINE teen

My best friend tried to commit suicide.

16  year old, Female, UK

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My best friend tried to commit suicide.  She went to the hospital recently and I don’t know what to do. I feel as if it is my fault because she was talking about wanting to disappear. She re-assured me that she was fine and that I should not worry, so I did not think much of it. I  can’t help but feel terrible and maybe if I did something about the situation she  wouldn’t be lying in that hospital bed. I feel like I am the one who is hurting her, and I should be the one to die so I’m no longer a burden. I do not know what to do please help me.

TEEN LINE WROTE: 

Hi _____,

Thanks for contacting Teen Line. I can imagine the immense guilt you must feel after the attempted suicide of your close friend. According to the situation you mentioned, she did not indicate at all that she was suicidal prior. Her reluctance to talk about it is normal and you didn't cause her to do what she did. It seems to be something that had
been on her mind for awhile. You sound like a great friend and like you are a good support system as is. She seems to really need you right now, and I completely understand feeling anger and frustration in not realizing she would do something like that. It seems unexpected. I know you may be feeling fragile right now but I think
it's important to be strong and to get through this. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and I think it's important to not let the situation overwhelm you. In order to stop from feeling like you are taking on too much emotional responsibility I think it's important you and your friend seek help by talking to your parents, a counselor, or other trusted adult What you've told me is too much for you to handle alone, that's why I think it's so important for you to get the help you need and deserve from an adult. I also want to give you the message boards here at Teen Line to get input from other teens all around the world on any dilemma you're facing.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

 

 

My boyfriend and I have different religious views

17 years old, Female, IA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My boyfriend and I have different religious views. We’ve been best friends for two years & dating for 4 months. I feel like he is my other half and he completes me but I have a hard time seeing a future with him. I refuse to marry some one who does not believe in the Lord. I do not what to do. Please help.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _____,

 

Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. It must be so difficult to have different faith views than your loved one. I can imagine that it is really stressful to think about that and your future with that person. Talking to a close friend, trusted adult, school counselor, or therapist is a great way to get your feelings out, and figure out what you want to do. Coping methods that may help you get your mind off of things can also be helpful and include hobbies you enjoy, sports, drawing/journaling, and listening to music. Teen Line can also be a great way to talk to other teens that relate which you can reach at 310-855-4673 (6-10 PM), text "teen" to 839863, or use our message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards. Thank you again for reaching out

 

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I’m so depressed.

14 year old, Female, CA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I’m so depressed; my sisters are living with their bf’s now. All my life they’re all I had and now they are forgetting me. They are having kids and leaving me, yet they expect me to be happy. I have a mixture of emotions and I do not know what to do.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thanks for emailing TEEN LINE. It must be so hurtful to feel like your sisters are forgetting you and moving on with their boyfriends. It seems so difficult to feel like they are creating new lives and just expect you to be happy. I really want to help you in any way that I can. I'm wondering if you have someone to talk to about this like a trusted adult, therapist, or school counselor. Talking to someone is a great way to create a safe place for yourself and come up with some solutions. Maybe you can write your sisters a letter, that way you can figure out what you want to say beforehand. You can also go on the TEEN LINE message board at teenlineonline.org/boards to share your story and read about other people going through similar situations. Of course you can always call TEEN LINE (1-800-852-8336), our hours are 6PM-10PM Pacific Standard Time.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

My boyfriend contracted HIV.

18 year old, Female, United States

TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My boyfriend had a heart transplant a few months ago and now has contracted HIV. I’m extremely worried about my health. I have no idea what to do, I can’t talk to my parents about this because they will just scream and say awful things about me. I really could use someone to talk to because I’ve been extremely depressed. I haven’t slept in 3 days because I constantly worry about myself and my boyfriend.

 What are my options? Do I have HIV? Where can I find help at a low cost because I’m unemployed and have no way to get money?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hey ______,
Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. What you're going through sounds extremely difficult, and I can only imagine how scared and concerned you must be feeling. It's extremely unfortunate that your boyfriend got HIV under those circumstances, and it sounds like that must be completely devastating to you and your boyfriend about that occurrence. There are several ways to go get tested for HIV at low cost. I don't know what part of the United States you're from, so here's a resource that I think would be beneficial for you, Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood offers free or low cost STD tests; this depends on your location. You can find more information about Planned Parenthood's STD tests at the following link: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex/std-testing-21695.asp. Have you opened up to any one of your trusted friends and/or adult about this situation you're going through? It's extremely important that you have someone to talk to through this extremely difficult time you’re going through. For additional support, I would like to refer you the Teen Line Boards, at teenlineonline.org/boards. Here, you can talk to fellow teens who are you going through similar situations you are. Some find it beneficial to talk to people they can relate to. Another great resource is our Teen Line Hotline, at (310) 855- 4673. You can call any day from 6 PM - 10 PM PST. I truly hope things work out.


A TEEN LINE teen

I have been having trouble with my boyfriend.

15 year old, Female, NC

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Hey there,

I've been having trouble with my boyfriend recently. We have met before but our relationship is now based online since he moved to another state. We use to regularly talk, without hesitation, and communicated the best way we could. Gradually, we stopped talking and he would leave earlier because he ’was sleepy’ and that led to a break up. Afterwards, he asked for me back and we resumed going out (and still are going out), but it feels as if our relationship is not working anymore or he doesn’t have interest in me – but I’m still madly in love with him.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _________,

Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line and sharing this with me. It sounds like you are feeling like your relationship with your boyfriend is not working out because it seems like he does not have interest in you. It must be really hard for you especially since it sounds like you still love him. It sounds like because he moved it has made your relationship much more challenging for you. It must be difficult for you to see such a great relationship start falling apart. It might be good for you to talk to a friend about how you are feeling. It is always great to talk to someone and get your thoughts straight and get their opinions. It might be nice if you would to talk your boyfriend about how you are feeling. If you would like yo could maybe let him know how you are feeling and hear what he thinks. It could help your relationship or give you the closure you need to move forward. If not you can call into Teen Line to talk to a Teen Line listener who is trained to help you through whatever you need. Another idea if you would like is you can look at the Teen Line Message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards. It might be a great way for you to connect with people who are feeling similar to you. I hope that some of my suggestions can help you and your relationship.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I am currently having a hard time getting along with my mum.

15 year old, Female, United Kingdom

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Hey so I am currently having a hard time getting along with my mum and its beginning to get to the point where I resent her. My dad died when I was younger, and since then she’s had a few boyfriends. She always becomes extremely attached to every new man she meets. I sit at home and babysit my younger sister while my mum goes out.  I can never ask her to give me a ride to the nearest bus stop; it’s as if I am bothering her.  (The bus stop is 3 miles from my house). If I try and talk to her about it she yells at me and says that I am selfish. I have reached the point where something needs to change because I can’t take it anymore. My older sister feels the same way. I work both days each weekend and other than that I am totally on my own. What should I do?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _______,

Thank you so much for emailing Teen Line. It sounds like you're having a really hard time with the fact that your mum is so distant and uninvolved in your life. It’s completely natural to feel resent towards her when she's making you feel so stressed. I'm so sorry to hear that she's blaming you and calling you selfish, even after you tried to reach out to her about how you're feeling. It also sounds like she's putting a lot of pressure on you to take care of yourself and your younger sister. It must be so stressful to live with her, especially since your father's passing.

It's important that you have someone to talk to about this. I'm really glad to hear the you have an older sister who you agrees with you and seems to understand how you're feeling. You may also want to talk to a trusted adult such as school counselor about this. A hotline that could call into is Samaritans. Their number is 08457 90 90 90 and their website is http://www.samaritans.org/ . You could also go to the Teen Line boards, where you can share your story and read stories from teens going through similar things. The website is http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

Once again. thank you so much for emailing us and I hope everything goes well.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

 

I’ve been struggling with depression and self harm

15 year old, Female, NY

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

No one else wants to listen so this is my last resource. I’ve been struggling with depression and self harm for a while. I’ve failed a couple of suicide attempts and it just makes me feel even worse. Suicide just seems like the best option and I have been struggling with it for 4 years. Faking a smile everyday is exhausting and everyone is just so judgmental. I do not know what to do anymore; I am sick and tired of feeling this way. Help me please.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thank you for contacting Teen Line.  I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through right now.  It seems like you self harm because you feel depressed and lonely.  I can imagine that it must be so hard to have been dealing with this for such a long time.  It takes a lot of strength to reach out and talk to us about yourself. I am really worried about you and your safety.  Have you tried going on www.selfharm.net?  It is a website where you can find information about it and alternatives to self harm.  Also, have you tried contacting the Suicide Prevention Hotline?  It is a 24 hour hotline that has suicide prevention counseling and referrals.  I strongly urge you to call them.  You can always write journals, too, which is a great output for your feelings.  Never hesitate to call us at Teen Line, at (310) 855-4673, we are open 7 days a week from 6pm-10pm PST.

a TEEN LINE teen

 


I have been struggling with depression for the past 9 months.

15 year old, Female, Australia

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have been struggling with depression for the past 9 months. I have gone through so much pain and many difficult times. Currently I am happy with my life because I have my boyfriend and amazing best friend who I can count on. However, I seem to have a hard time enjoying this happiness and scared of what the future has to offer. My boyfriend is moving in 4 months and my best friend is moving also. I went through so much that I am terrified of being lonely and depressed again. What do I do?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _____,

Thank you so much for contacting us at Teen Line. It sounds like you went through a really hard time in your past, but it's important that you are happy now. Try talking to a good friend, trusted adult, or even a therapist. It really helps when you talk about your feelings. I'm so proud of you for trying to reach out to us, and how you really want to help yourself. Try thinking of the things that made you happy when you were depressed. Some helpful ways to keep yourself happy can be drawing, journaling, or even listening to music. If you ever feel depressed again, you can call our hotline. We are open every day from 6PM-10PM and our number is (800)-852-8336. Hope all is well!

a TEEN LINE teen

My family is going through a really bad time.

14 year old, Male, NC

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Hey,

My mother and step father are splitting up, and now my family is going through a really bad time. We have to move away from my step fathers home and  into a smaller place. I currently live with my step-dad, mom, older sister, and younger brother. Money is so tight for my mom, it makes me desperate to find a job as soon as possible.  I want to help out  but I am only 14 years old. Would you know of any places that would hire me?

I have had anxiety in the past, and occasionally I have suicidal thoughts. I am afraid I will get back to that point in my life even though I am somewhat better now. I have so many feelings I can’t explain but I know I am depressed. I need advice on how I should handle my new living situation.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _____,

Thank for contacting us at TEEN LINE. It sounds like you are going through a hard time in your life because of your parents splitting and having to move. You must feel overwhelmed by all the changes in your life and the feelings that come with them. It's really great that you want to help your mom and that you got past a difficult time in your life. Are there any coping methods that you used back then that could be helpful again? If you are not sure what is helpful for you, It might be helpful to talk to someone you trust, like a friend or family member, about your feelings. Writing in a journal, playing sports, or exercising could also help just get your feelings out. We also have message boards where you can talk to other teens about how you are feeling. If you are ever feeling suicidal, please call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747. Lastly, I encourage you to call into TEEN LINE at 310-855-4673 from 6-10pm PST; we are available 7 days a week.

Take care,

a TEEN LINE teen

It is finally time to get help for myself.

14 year old, Female, United Kingdom

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have been thinking the last few weeks that it is finally time to get help for myself. However, I really don’t feel comfortable telling my parents, friends or other family members about all of my problems. I did some research and I found a counselor whose office is a 5 minute drive from my house.  Most of the time I feel so alone and depressed. I have no idea how to tell my parents I want to start going for appointments. Do you have any idea on how I can ask for help?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _______,

First of all, thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE.  It was extremely brave of you to reach out to me.  It sounds like a lot has been going on in the past few weeks, and it seems like you have so much right now on your plate.  It is completely normal to not feel comfortable talking with your parents about what has been going on, and it is empowering that you have reached out and are taking responsibility when saying that you want to seek help and that you have found a counselor who's office is near you.  It seems that you care about yourself and your health.  You must have been feeling alone these past few weeks, because you haven't been able to talk to anyone including your family and friends.  It must be difficult not knowing how to tell your parents about wanting to seek help, and you do not deserve to be going through this without the support of people around you.  I do not know what your relationship is like with your parents and friends, but maybe it is possible to talk to someone else like a trusted adult who would be willing to help you during this time.  It is very important to have a support system, and I really want you to be able to reach out to someone you trust who would want to help you.  Also, I encourage you to check out the website:  http://teenlineonline.org/boards.  This is a teen forum where teens of all backgrounds can post their stories about what is going on in their lives.  You may be able to find support, comfort, and ideas from teens who are going through similar issues that you are going through.  I hope talking to a trusted adult and visiting that website will help you during this time.  Also, if you ever are feeling so low, http://samaritans.org/ is a website that you can explore and and there are phone numbers on the site that willing to help you and listen to you.

Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE,

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I feel like I am too fat

17 year old, Female, Canada

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I feel like I am too fat for anything. So many people including my friends say I am skinny, and that my body looks great. However, deep down I feel ugly and fat. I often complain about my weight and how unhappy I am with my shape. I tried everything to get rid of  my extra belly fat but it won’t go away. My mom agrees and she thinks I could lose a few pounds. What can I do? This has affected me so much, and I feel I am too ugly to even have a boyfriend. I always turn down any potential guy because of my insecurities. I feel that if a guy asks me out it would be as a joke. Please Help me.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE. I am so sad about what are you are going through and how you don't feel comfortable with your body. Having your friends not agree with you can get annoying and frustrating. It also makes me really sad that your mom does not support you. You don't deserve to be treated like this. You can try talking to your friends and explain to them how you feel, so they understand you. Also, don't forget that appearances aren't everything. What also matters is what is inside like your personality. You sound like a great girl and who deserves people in your life that make you happy. You mentioned about your eating and I am concerned that you may not be eating healthy. If you would like to check out resources that deal with this you can go to www.nationaleatingdisorders.org. If you just want to talk about this you can contact TEEN LINE at 310-855-4673. You can also post on the TEEN LINE Message boards, which is a teen forum where teens can talk to other teens with similar situations. I hope everything goes well and thank you for contacting TEEN LINE!

a TEEN LINE teen

I don't know what to do anymore.

14 year old, Female, MI

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I don’t know what to do any more. I have grown so used to being made fun of, laughed at or rejected. I don’t expect people to accept me anymore. I have become more insecure, shy, and quiet than ever before. When I try to tell someone about my problems it just ends in more yelling. I have gone all summer without doing anything fun, or hanging out with the only two people I consider “friends”. Literally, they always have some excuse for why we can’t hang out. I really just want one person who wants to be with me. One individual who wants to spend time with me, and who likes me for simply being me.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line.  It must be so awful to have become used to being made fun of. I imagine that it is extremely tough to have become even more insecure and lost. It's really brave of you to reach out to someone about this. You must feel so frustrated after trying so hard to talk to someone about it, but still not being understood. I imagine that you are feeling alone right now after not having done anything over the summer with two people that you consider your friends. You should know that you deserve all the friendship and support that you could possibly get and it's perfectly understandable for you to want a real friend in your life. A great way to meet new friends is by joining clubs of hobbies that you enjoy, playing in sports teams, and getting involved in other social organizations in your school or community.  Another valuable option that may help you get your feelings out is talking to a trusted adult, school counselor, therapist, or journaling. In addition, a great resource for support is Teen Line. You can call in to (310) 855 4673 or text "teen" to 839863 or use our message boards on teenlineonline.org. Thank you again for reaching out.

a TEEN LINE teen

I have been depressed for a while.

15 year old, Female, FL

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have been depressed for a while. I reached my limit, to the point where I will stop eating. I can’t look at myself in the mirror and I do not consider myself to be pretty. Ever since I was in the sixth grade my biological mother taunts me about my weight. I have been going through so much lately, and since December I have been eating on and off. I lost thirty pounds but today when I weighed myself it shows that I gained back ten pounds. I do not know what to do. I still feel horrible inside and out; everyone is worried about me including myself

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hello _____,

I want to thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone about this. It sounds like you are feeling very upset about your body and your weight. You mentioned that your feelings have started to affect your eating habits. I imagine that it must be very hard for you not to think that you are pretty, and to have your mother taunt you about your weight. I wanted to let you know that what your mother is doing is not okay and that nothing that you could do would make you deserve to be treated like this. You mentioned that you lost 30 pounds by eating on and off. I wanted to let you know that eating disorders can be dangerous and can have long term effects on your health. It must be so scary for you to have so many people including yourself worried about you and your eating habits. Sometimes talking to a trusted friend or adult can be helpful to sort out your feelings. If you don’t have someone in your life you feel you could talk to about this, you can always call in to Teen Line. We are open from 6 pm-10 pm PST. The number to call is 310-855-4673. We also have a message board on our website that you could post on to talk with other teens facing similar issues. If you want to talk more about your eating habits, you can contact the National Eating Disorder Association. They are open from 9am to 5 pm EST. Their number is 800-931-2337. I really encourage you to call in to this hotline because they have great resources and provide valuable support.

Best Wishes,

a TEEN LINE teen

My father has tried to stop smoking recently.

15 year old, Female,  VT

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My father has tried to stop smoking recently. Ever since he’s stopped smoking (cold turkey) he has been acting crazy. He lashes at me verbally and at times he acts bipolar.
He also blurts out the most random things like: ’I hate humans,’ ’What’s the point of living?’ and ’Why don’t you go live with your mom and leave me the hell alone. (My mother abandoned the both of us when I was three years old to become a prostitute.)

He always tells people to go f*** themselves, and also tells me this. Today he almost got arrested because he was aggressive to police officers. .I’m becoming very depressed from how he’s acting and I need some advice of how to deal with this.
Please help?  I do not know what to do anymore

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _______,

Thank you for contacting Teen Line.  I can imagine that you are going through a difficult time right now.  It sounds like you're feeling very confused and distressed about your dad.  It is understandable that you feel depressed because of how he is talking to you.  I can imagine that you must feel hurt because all the negative things he's saying.

Have you gone online and seen what it's like to quit smoking?  One of the online support groups are www.quitnet.com, which you can go on to find out more information about quitting.

Also, have you talked to a trusted adult about it or maybe one of your friends? They are great help and sources of comfort.  Writing journals are also a great way to help put your feelings on paper and out of your head.  Do you have a hobby that you like doing, such as exercising or playing a musical instrument?  If you ever feel down after your dad screams at you, you can use your hobby as an outlet to your pain.  Don't hesitate to contact us at Teen Line at (310) 855-4673 from 6PM-10PM PST available 7 days a week.

Best wishes,

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I have hurt myself before and I’ve thought about suicide.

14 year old, Female, MT

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have hurt myself before and I’ve thought about suicide. I have friends that I talk to and sometimes it helps. There are times I feel alone, and really sad.  I also write poems. http://squirrel9999.deviantart.com/
For anyone who wants to read my poems. It would help me a lot if people could give me feedback on my work. It’s one of the few things that makes me happy and my friends say that my poems are really good. I want to know if they really are.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hey  there _____,

First of all, thank you so much for contacting us here at Teen Line. I know how hard it is to reach out for help so I commend you for that. I just want you to know that I think you are an amazing person and I know that seems strange coming from someone that you don't even know but I feel like I got to know you through your poetry. I read the majority of your poems and they are absolutely incredible. You really are so expressive and your poems are so beautifully written that it really warmed my heart. You are so insightful and wise beyond words that you kind of left me speechless. You said that you've hurt yourself before and you've thought about suicide before and I am being completely honest when I say this but I would be very sad if you weren't here anymore.

I suggest talking to a trusted adult or friends whom you said that you've talked to which you said helped. I also suggest going to self-injury.net since you said that you've hurt yourself before. This website will provide you with the support that you need right now. I also suggest calling the Suicide prevention hotline at 877-727-4747 open 24 hours which again will provide you with the support that you need and will inform you further. Also, feel free to always call into Teen Line open from 6-10 pm pst at 310-855-4673 to further discuss what is going on. I wish you nothing but the best and keep writing.

a TEEN LINE teen

My boyfriend and I recently split.

Female, 19 years old, CA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My boyfriend and I recently split. He is threatening to take his life and I’m not sure if he’s being serious or just dramatic. I honestly have no idea what to do… Please help

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _______,

Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line.  I'm so sorry to hear that your ex boyfriend is threatening to take his life, that sounds very overwhelming to have to go through.  I'm wondering if you would feel comfortable telling a trusted adult or school guidance counselor about this? It’s very important that someone knows about his situation to make sure he's safe.  Also, I'm wondering if you'd be willing to give him the number to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to your ex boyfriend and help him.  Maybe he would be willing to call us at (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk.  Also, you should always feel free to call us as well.  If you ever feel like your boyfriend is in immediate danger, PLEASE call 911.

I hope everything turns out okay ____.

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I feel like nobody understands me.

16 year old, Female, AL

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I feel like  nobody understands me. Every time I speak to my Mom, she always has something negative to say. It really hurts when she’s constantly putting me down. I have other siblings, and it’s obvious she treats them better. She says it’s because they are out of the house. (They have moved out). But I remember when they were in high school they put her through so much. I am a straight A, cheerleader, honor club student but I still get put down. She just speaks to me as if I am stupid and I don’t understand anything. I know it shouldn’t make me feel like I want to end things, I just am really upset about it and I’m never happy. It hurts my feelings so much. I don’t know how to deal with being depressed.. Whenever I explained to her that I was feeling depressed, she laughed in my face and told me that I was acting like a drama queen. But I don’t see it that way. I don’t like feeling this way at all. Please give me advice!

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _______,

Thanks so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help. It must be hard, feeling misunderstood by your mom, and hurt by her constant put downs. I'm sorry you feel like she treats your other siblings better than she treats you. It seems like you've got a lot going on, with your good grades and cheerleading, and I can imagine it must be frustrating, having your mom speak to you like you're stupid. It's not fair for her to treat you that way. It sounds like you're feeling hurt, upset, and unhappy, and I'm worried about you and how you've been feeling depressed. It seems like your mom is unsympathetic towards you, and what you've been going through, and I'm wondering, have you considered talking to a trusted adult (counselor, uncle, aunt) about what's been going on? Although difficult, talking to someone can be extremely beneficial. I'd like to encourage you to call in to TEEN LINE, at (310) 855-4673, which is open from 6PM to 10PM PST, as well as to contact the TEEN LINE message boards at http://teenlineonline.org, where you can talk to other teens who might be going through similar situations. Once again, thanks for reaching out to TEEN LINE.

Wishing you the best,

a TEEN LINE teen

 

My girlfriend is suicidal.

17 year old, Male, TX

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My girlfriend is suicidal. She loves me and she says that she can’t see a future with anything. She is really stubborn, but I love her and she loves me. Please help. I do not know what to do.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

First, I want to thank you for contacting TEEN LINE.  I cannot begin to imagine what it must be like to be in your shoes.  It sounds like you truly want to make your relationship with this girl work because it seems like you love this girl so much, even though she cannot see a future.  It must be so frightening to know that the girl that you love is suicidal.  You must feel really helpless knowing that even though she loves you, she is unable to see a future with anything. I want you to know that you do not have to go through this hard time by yourself; you do not deserve that, Shawn.  Do you have any close friends that are willing to listen to you and who you would feel comfortable expressing your feelings to? I want you to know how brave it is of you to email TEEN LINE.  Sometimes teens find it helpful to write in journals as a way of expressing all their feelings privately.  Also, exercising and staying acting can be a way of keeping the mind away from something bothersome.  Music can also help take your mind briefly away from this difficult situation you are in.  I do not know what your relationship is like with this girl, but sometimes teens find it beneficial to express their feelings and emotions to the person they love.  If you do not feel comfortable talking with the girl you love, no worries at all.  You are always welcome to call TEEN LINE any day from 6:00 pm to 10:30 pm if you ever want to talk again.

Best of luck with everything you do,

a TEEN LINE teen

I can’t even tell if I am okay or if I need help.

16 year old, Female, CA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Hello,

Lately I can’t even tell if I am okay or if I need help. I was a cutter but I have managed to stop yet it is constantly on my mind. I can’t help but always want to feel the scars there. I tried to commit suicide a few times in the past but never had the courage to go through with it. I never went to a psychiatrist or a counselor for any help. I am constantly debating on whether or not to send myself into a psych ward…. I know I am suffering from clinical depression and I know that I should get help but…. I don’t know if I can. My parents tell me that my ” depression” is just a phase and that I should be happy and grateful for everything I have. My friends tell me to ” get over it” and honestly I don’t know what to do. People tell me that I am just a dramatic loser but all I can feel is this void inside me. I am scared that I might try to commit suicide again and I don’t know what to do because my parents refuse to get me any kind of psychiatrist or therapist or counselor and turning to my friends is not an option.. So who do I turn to?

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi,

Thank you for sharing this. I am sorry that you feel so alone and like no one really understands what you're going through. It seems like everyone around you is being really unfair and making it seem like you are being 'dramatic' or 'exaggerating' when you are hurting. I think it’s really great that you stopped cutting, that takes a lot a strength and courage, and you should be really proud of yourself. It must be so difficult because you want to get through this, but your parents aren't supporting you. Legally you don't need you parents consent to see a therapist, so that is an option. Also, if you are in school or when you get back to school you could talk to the guidance counselor and they could help you find someone. If you just want to talk about what you’re going through  you can call us at 1(310)855-4673. Whenever you are feeling really low and we are closed, you can call the Suicide Prevention Hotline 1(877)727-4747. Another really helpful thing to do is find an activity that you really care about to occupy your time, it could also help you find new friends. I hope you begin to feel better and find someone who can help you through this.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I found out that I was a lesbian my senior year.

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Female, 19 years old, IN

I found out that I was a lesbian my senior year, I recently graduated from high school June 2013, I met this amazing girl named Marta online she lives in Florida I live in Indiana we are in a long distance relationship. We text, call, Skype, etc. every single day. I plan on meeting her December 2013, but there is one thing stopping me from seeing her. My parents don’t know I am gay. I’m scared to tell them. But I want to go visit my girlfriend so bad it kills me. She makes me feel complete. So what do I do ? should I go without telling them, or should I just tell them I’m gay and let them know my plans. I just know my parents won’t support me and won’t let me go. I don’t want to go behind their back, but if that’s what I have to do to see her then I will do it. Am I doing the right thing?

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi ________,

Thank you for contacting us at TEEN LINE. It must be so hard to feel like you cannot confide in your parents about your sexuality. It sounds like you care about your parents and you are afraid that they won't be supportive. I think it's great that you have accepted your sexuality. I understand that it's difficult to reveal this to your parents, and if you have someone you can talk to, maybe talking it out would help. I can see that you really want to go see your girlfriend, and that your parents might not be open to your sexuality, but you shouldn't be forced to do anything that you are uncomfortable with. I would appreciate it if you could call us at TEEN LINE at (310)855-4673 from 6pm to 10pm pst. We are here for you and can help you with anything you want to talk about. Another hotline that might help is the GLBT National Youth Talkline where you can get peer-counseling about coming out and parent issues at 1(800)-246-7743 from 1-9pm PST on Mondays through Fridays. Another great program is the Trevor Line which specializes in preventing LGBTQ suicide and you can call them at 866-488-7386.

a TEEN LINE teen

I don’t feel like my life is worth living anymore.

13 year old, Male, Canada

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Ever since I got bullied in the 4th grade, I don’t feel like my life is worth living anymore. I have no friends and all I want to do is cry. I am still getting bullied 4 years later and it’s now gone to physically, mentally, and also through the Internet ( cyber bullies ). I don’t know what to do anymore I can’t talk to my parents I have no friends and I just want to cry
Please help me

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hello ____

Thank you for reaching out to us at Teenline. It must be difficult to deal with the physical, mental, and cyber bullying. You do not deserve to be treated like that. I am glad that you contacted us because you can talk to one of our teens anonymously, and they can listen to you without judging you. I encourage you to contact our hotline number (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST Monday-Friday. Our message boards are also available, in which you can post about any given topic and interact with other teens. The link is: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/

Lastly if you ever feel suicidal please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you. We care for you and want you to overcome your depression.

Best wishes,

a TEEN LINE teen
If you’re ever feeling suicidal, I want to urge you to contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you.   I also want to give you the link to our message boards at: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations as you.  Also, our hotline number is (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk. - See more at: http://teenlineonline.org/category/help-online/#sthash.AsYKg73g.dpuf
If you’re ever feeling suicidal, I want to urge you to contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you.   I also want to give you the link to our message boards at: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations as you.  Also, our hotline number is (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk. - See more at: http://teenlineonline.org/category/help-online/#sthash.AsYKg73g.dpuf

I don’t know how to deal with my anxiety.

15 year old, Female, FL

TEENLINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

 I don’t know how to deal with my anxiety . Can you give me some advice on how to take care of it? I can’t really go to therapy though. I am lost and do not know what to do.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi _____,

Thank you for emailing us here at TEEN LINE. I'm sorry to hear you have issues with anxiety, I can imagine how stressful it is dealing with that. I'm wondering if you would feel comfortable talking about your anxiety with a trusted friend, adult, or family member. Anxiety can be really scary to deal with and you shouldn't have to go through this alone. I really encourage you to seek medical advice regarding your anxiety as there are certain techniques to help cope with anxiety as well as some medications available to help treat anxiety. If you'd like to see how other teens cope with anxiety issues or share your own experiences, you can check out our message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards/. Also, what sort of hobbies or activities do you enjoy or help make you feel calm? Journaling can be a great way to cope with stress and anxiety by allowing you to get your thoughts and feelings out on paper. Drawing, listening to music, and exercising are also really great outlets to deal with stress and anxiety. I hope this helps and you find ways to cope with your anxiety. TEEN LINE is also always here to help every evening from 6pm-10pm PST. Good luck with everything.

Best wishes,

a TEEN LINE teen

I have lost everyone that I love and hold dear to me.

15 year old, Female, CO

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have lost everyone that I love and hold dear to me. My best friend moved to Atlanta,Georgia. My other best friend and I no longer talk because I didn’t know how to show that I care about him. I have lost all my friends because they say I have ”changed” when really they have changed. I tried going to my brother for help but all he said was that if I was so depressed I should just kill myself. I can’t go to my parents because they won’t understand and the will just say that I am acting stupid. I’m finding it harder to want to stay alive. My friend Cole,  is trying to help but I see no change in my mood. I have been so sad lately and I cry myself to sleep every night. I feel as if I am in a hole and the more I try to get out the deeper it goes. Everyone always told me that time will heal my wounds, but as time goes on I feel more wounds develop. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I should just end the pain myself other than going on like this. What should I do?? I need help.

 

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line, it takes a lot of courage to open up about what you're going through.  I'm so sorry to hear that you've been feeling so alone lately.  I hear your frustration when you talk about how your friends say that you've "changed", when you feel like its them that have really changed.  And when you tried to go to your brother, he wasn't giving you the support that you wanted and needed from him.  I hear all your pain and your sense of loneliness ____, and how reaching out to people hasn't been helping.  Even though you haven't been finding support from the sources you've reached out to, I'm wondering if you've tried listening to music or physical exercise? Activities like those can often keep you busy and occupied for a bit, which can help you cope with the pain. Also, maybe journaling or talking to a trusted adult might be positive ways to express your feelings, which could make you feel a bit of relief. I'm really concerned about you ______.  If you're ever feeling suicidal, I want to urge you to contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you.   I also want to give you the link to our message boards at: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations as you.  Also, our hotline number is (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk.

I hope things get better _______.

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

I have been feeling very alone lately

15 year old, Female, TX

TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have been feeling very alone lately. I have lost everyone that I love and hold dear to me. My best friend moved to Atlanta, Georgia. My other best friend and me no longer talk because I didn’t know how to show that I care about him. I have lost all my friends because they say I have ”changed” when really they are the ones that have changed. I tried going to my brother for help, but all he said was that if I was so depressed I should just kill myself. I can’t go to my parents because they won’t understand and they’ll just say that I am acting stupid. I’m finding it harder to want to stay alive, and even though my friend is trying to help I see no change in my mood. I have been so sad lately and I cry myself to sleep every night. I feel as if I am in a hole and the more I try to get out the deeper it goes. Everyone always told me that time will heal my wounds, but as time goes on I feel more wounds develop. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I should just end the pain myself other than going on like this. What should I do?? I need help.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line, it takes a lot of courage to open up about what you're going through.  I'm so sorry to hear that you've been feeling so alone lately.  I hear your frustration when you talk about how your friends say that you've "changed," when you feel like its them that have really changed.  And when you tried to go to your brother, he wasn't giving you the support that you wanted and needed from him.  I hear all your pain and your sense of loneliness and how reaching out to people hasn't been helping.  Even though you haven't been finding support from the sources you've reached out to, I'm wondering if you've tried listening to music or doing physical exercise? Activities like those can often keep you busy and occupied for a bit, which can help you cope with the pain. Also maybe journaling or talking to a trusted adult may be positive ways to express your feelings which could make you feel a bit of relief. I'm really concerned about you.  If you're ever feeling suicidal, I want to urge you to contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800) 784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to you.   I also want to give you the link to our message boards at: www.teenlineonline.org/boards/, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations as you.  Also, our hotline number is (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10 pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk.

I hope things get better.

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

Can I call the police on my mom?

13 year old, Female

TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My mom is abusing me and I don’t know if I should call the police. She always hits me on the head and arms with a rolling pin and forces me to strip for a her and makes me take a shower in front of her. I go to a great school and I have many friends who I love. My life outside home is great but life at home is terrible. Is this illegal? Should I call the police? If my mom goes to jail, will I go to foster care?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thank you so much for sharing this. I can only imagine how you feel when your mom makes you do these things. You should not have to go through this, and everyone deserves a mother that is loving. No one should ever be hit by their parents, or forced to do the horrible things that your mom makes you do. You are extremely brave for putting up with this, and I commend you for sticking through it even though it is really hard for you. When your mom hits you it is child abuse, which is illegal. This alone is something that no one should ever have to go through. When she forces you to strip and take showers in front of her it is also child abuse, and you don't deserve to go through it. I strongly advise you to call the police so that you won't have to put up with these horrible things. As to if your mom is going to go to jail and if you are going to go to foster care, it all depends on your family and living situation. It is great that you have good friends, and I wonder if you ever talk to them about your problems at home. You should talk to a school counselor or any trusted adult about this because they might be able to help you. If you would like to get all your feelings out, have any questions, or would like to just talk to another teen with an open ear, you can call TEEN LINE at (310)-855-4673. If you would like to contact the childhelp natinal child abuse hotline, the number is 800-422-4453. The website is www.childhelp.org. Once again, you are extremely strong for putting up with this, and I commend you. Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE, and I hope you get your situation fixed.

I have an eating disorder and depression...

15 year old, Female
TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I need serious help. I have an eating disorder and many other too along with depression and self harm. I stress about everything and experience anxiety/anger attacks almost daily. I can’t talk to my parents about & the only people trust are friends I met online. I can only meet my best friend in four years, that is if one of us doesn’t kill ourselves. I have big dreams but I’m not talented enough to achieve them. Everything keeps getting worse. I’ve tried to kill myself twice. One of them was two days ago. I don’t know what to do. My life has no meaning and I have no reason to stay. Please help me if possible

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line, it takes a lot of courage to open up about how you're feeling and what you're going through.  It sounds like you've been going through some very overwhelming times.  I can only imagine just how much stress you've been under, from coping with your eating disorder, depression, anxiety and anger attacks, and self harm.  I'm so sorry to hear that you can't talk to your parents about what you're going through, but I'm glad that you trust the friends you've met online.  Would you ever consider opening up to them about what you're going through?  I'm really concerned about you,  and I want to make sure that you're okay.  Although self harm is a way to cope with all your pain, there are other possible ways to cope, and I'm wondering if you'd be willing to try them.  For example, I'm wondering if you've heard about the Butterfly Project?  To read more about it in detail, you can check out: http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/.  In short, you would draw a butterfly on the part of your body where you would normally self harm, and name it after someone who cares about you.  Then, when you feel like self harming, you can look down at wherever you would harm yourself, and remember that someone in your life loves you and cares about you, and wants you to get better.  Also, www.self-injury.net is another great place to find information and support on self-harm.

I'm wondering if you've ever tried physical exercise, listening to music, or journaling about how you're feeling?  Those activities or other activities similar to those can often help keep you occupied, which can help you cope with everything.  I hear you not trusting a lot of people, but being able to talk about how you're feeling is really important.  If you' ever feel like everything gets too unbearable and you're thinking of committing suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline and (800)784- 2433, where someone will always be able to help you.   You've been going through so much, but the fact that you're reaching out for help like you just did, is an AMAZING first step.  If you ever want to talk to someone about your eating disorder, you can always call the National Eating Disorder Association at (800) 931- 2237, open M-F 9am-5pm EST.  Also, if you ever want to talk to a teen about what you're going through, please feel free to call our hotline at (310) 855-4673, open 6-10pm PST.

Hang in there.

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

I feel so alone.

15 year old, Female,  NC

TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I feel so alone. I feel like my mom doesn’t even like me.  My little sister said if I died she wouldn’t even care. I always feel guilty from things I have done recently or in the past. I tried to kill myself a few years ago but now I just feel like there is no hope for me. I try to explain it to my older sister but she doesn’t entirely understand because she isn’t going through it. My friends, well, lets just say I don’t even talk to them anymore. I feel lonely, and sad all the time,  it got so bad I started doing self harm. I went to counseling and promised I wouldn’t cut anymore but I ended up breaking that promise. I stopped though and I have been clean for 28 or 29 days but every day I wish I wasn’t here. I don’t want to be here. I feel like there is nothing for me, or that I am going nowhere in life. I try to think good things, but I can never picture anything great occurring in my life.  Please, someone help me! I am tired of feeling and thinking this way. But I just want to give up so bad.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi  ________,

Thank you for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. It seems like you are feeling really lonely and down right now. Everyone deserves to have a loving mother or little sister that isn't rude to them. It can be really tough when your family isn't there to comfort you or be there for you when you need them most. I can only begin to imagine how hard it must be to go through cutting and suicidal thoughts, especially when no one understands what you are going through. I know you go to a council, but I wonder if you can talk to another trusted adult or school counselor. I want you to know that there are always going to be people to get you through rough times and help you. If you continue having suicidal thoughts, I encourage you to call the suicide prevention hotline at (877)-727-4747. Some things you can do to free your mind are joining a school club, journaling, or listening to music that you like. If being part of the council doesn't help with the self harm and you think you need more help then you can visit www.self-injury.net. It worries me that you mentioned that you cut in the past, and I think it would be helpful to check out http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/. If you want to get your feelings out to talk to a teen, you can call TEEN LINE at (310)-855-4673. Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE, and I really hope you are able to fix the problems you have at home.

a TEEN LINE teen

I have depression and anxiety.

14 year old, Female, MA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have depression and anxiety. I take medication for both, but nothing helps. Every day all I can think about is death. Nothing good ever happens to me and if something good does happen, it immediately gets knocked down again by something bad. I’m not pretty or skinny like the girls at my school. They’re all happy, rich, have boyfriends and good looking bodies. I’m sick of looking at my disgusting body and my repulsive self. Nobody even cares about me or how I feel. I just want my life To be over.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

There is so much going on in your life right now, and I really want to thank you for emailing us. It sounds like you are feeling really alone and like you have no one to talk to, which I know can be really difficult.  Feeling like no one is there for you when you are always there for others is really disappointing and discouraging. It seems like you are comparing yourself to people quite a lot, and I know how painful that can be.  I know its hard to see people and think, why can't my life be more like theirs or why can't I be more like them, but sometimes, people who look like they have it together are really having a hard time. You mentioned that you are feeling suicidal and I have to say, that really worries me.  I'm wondering if there is anything you like to do that really makes you happy, like a sport you really enjoy or a club at school you are passionate about.  I'm wondering if there is anything else you could do to help you cope, like write in a journal or draw.  Sometimes it helps to just get your feelings out on paper.  I also really want to encourage you to speak with a trusted adult about how you are feeling.  Someone like a parent or maybe an aunt or uncle you are close with, if you would feel comfortable doing so.  You can also call the suicide prevention hotline.  They are open 24/7 and their number is 877-727-4747.  Feel free to call us as well.  We are open everyday from 6pm to 10pm PST and our number is (310) 855-4673.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

Lately, I have felt like no one is there for me when I need it.

14 years old, Female, NC

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

 Lately, I have felt like no one is there for me when I need it. I feel as if… I have no one and all everyone wants to do is bring me down. Every depression test I have taken has said that I have severe depression. Recently I met a guy who I thought loved me for me, but he just lead me on and left me soon after.

I already have problems at home with my dad because he is an alcoholic. It does not help that I have been bullied since the second grade for no reason at all. I started high school last year and many kids at my school do not like me. I try to be this happy person but I am tired of hiding the scars on my body. I have cut almost everywhere and even on the side of my neck. I have attempted suicide about 4 times and occasionally I smoke with my friends to relieve stress. I seriously need help! I just want to talk to someone that understands.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi ________,

Thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. I'm so sorry that you have had such a hard time. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help and it sounds like you have been in pain (emotionally and physically) for a long time. I can't imagine living with an alcoholic dad, dealing with a broken heart and having to deal with bullies. I hope you can find someone to talk to like a counselor or another adult?  It concerns me that you are taking it out on yourself by cutting. You can always call Teen Line and talk with one of us. There is also"cutting" information and support ww.self-injury.net. There is also a bullying website www.bullying.org and of course you can always contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline 24hrs if you are feeling really vulnerable 877-727-4747.

You are strong (just writing your email is proof of strength) and you are not alone.

 a TEEN LINE teen

 

I just can't cope like this on my own anymore.

14 years old, Female, United Kingdom

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

i self harm, run away, push away my friends and family, always put depressing statuses on facebook, have suicidal thoughs, and starve well ’try’ to starve myself, i just cant cope like this on my own anymore and i think its time to come out of my closet and tell someone so i looked at chat rooms on the internet and i found this, can you help me?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thank you so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, and it must be so difficult having those thoughts often, and that can be very frustrating. I know you say you have felt like killing yourself, and maybe it's hard to see that your family, friends and other people really care about you. Also, its good to remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Have you tried talking to someone trusted about this? Someone like a family member, a school counselor, a good friend, therapist, etc? It is really important to talk to someone face to face about this and let your emotions out, because it can be really beneficial in a positive way and I really care about your well-being. I want to refer you to www.self-injury.net, which can help you with your cutting. For when you want to run away, I encourage you to check out http://makerunawayssafe.org.uk/ and they can help you make safe decisions the next time you might want to run away. And about wanting to starve yourself, I want to refer you to www.nationaleatingdisorders.org. You can also call the Samaritans when you are feeling suicidal, and they are available to you 24 hours a day and their number is 08457 90 90 90*, and they do charge. Here at TEEN LINE we also have a great thing called messageboards, at www.teenlineonline.org/boards and it is something where you can read and respond to people dealing with a similar situation as you. Thank you so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE, and it is a big step forward into helping you solve your situation.

a TEEN LINE teen

I hate how I spend my life.

19 years old, Male, CA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I hate how I spend my life and no matter how bad I want to change it, I won’t because I’m apathetic. My life has no meaning, the only reason I have not killed myself is because I wouldn’t want to share what I feel with the people who love me, they deserve better than that.

My life currently consists of waking up around 1:00 pm, even though I say that i will wake up early. I usually stay up late because I have a hard time falling sleep due to myself issues. If given time to think I fixate on everything that I have done wrong in my life as well as how I could have improved things I did throughout the day… Now getting onto the topic of my daily life, like I said I get up late and spend the majority of my day on the computer. When I am home and not on my computer I usually work out. about 5 days a week.  This is my life and if I’m not at home I’m working a job that I hate for over a year.

I have a lot of friends but I rarely see them since whenever i get asked to hangout I lie and tell them i cannot because I’m scared of the possibility of going somewhere that I have never been. I do not find joy in life and i cannot change even though I  want to.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi,

I want to thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE.  IT sounds like you are going through a really hard time right now and you are brave for reaching out and asking for help.  It sounds like you really want to change things in your life, but you won’t.  What do you think is stopping you?  Have you tried talking to someone about what you are feeling, and what you have been going through?  Is there anyone in your life that you trust that you feel like you might  be able to confide in?  A friend, parent, teacher, boss, sibling, or counselor?  You can always call us here at TEEN LINE.  Our number is 310.855.4673, and our hours are 6pm to 10 pm.  You mentioned feeling suicidal, if you are ever feeling suicidal you can call the National Suicide prevention hotline, which is open 24/7, there number is 877.727.4747.  It's great that you are disciplined and continue to work out every day.  Is there anything else in your life that you enjoy, sports, music, art, writing in a journal.  All of these can be really good outlets for your feelings.  It sounds like you are struggling with some depression, and I really encourage you to talk to someone that you trust about how you are feeling.

Hope this helps,

Take care,

TEEN LINE

I have been raped and feel so scared.

18 years old, Female

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

i have been raped and feel so scared and confused.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _____,

First of all, I would really like to thank you for contacting teenline. It's a really hard thing to do, and demonstrates a lot of bravery.  I am so so sorry to hear that you were raped, and cannot imagine how scared and vulnerable you must be feeling. I want to emphasize that what happened was not your fault.  It might help you to call teenline so we can discuss your feelings about your situation in greater detail. Our number is 310-855-4673. We are open between the hours of 6:00pm to 10:00pm PST.  I am really concerned for your safety, and would encourage you to seek medical treatment, and get consultation, to make sure you're okay. The website plannedparenthood.org is a great resource. here, you can type in your zip code and they will direct you to your closest medical clinic where you can get checked out. If you'd prefer to speak to a person well versed in the topic of sexual assault you can also call their number, 800-230-7526. They are open 24/7.

There are a few online sites that might help you get a sense of what's going on. The Rape and Incest National Network is a great organization that can help you during this time.  Their website is www.rainn.org, and they also have a phone number which is 800-656-4673. They can help provide counseling services and talk to you about what happened.

Thank you again for contacting teenline,

a TEEN LINE teen

Everyone is saying they don't love me.

14 years old, Female, Indiana

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM

Everyone is saying they don’t love me and to kill myself.. I am so close to the point to doing it.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hey ______,

First of all, I want to thank you for contacting us at Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to reach out to someone and ask for help, so it says a lot about you as a person that you've been able to do that. What you're going through sounds so difficult. For people to tell you those awful things is hurtful, cruel and completely unnecessary. I'm worried about you, and I want to make sure that you are safe. If you would feel comfortable, it might be good to talk to a guidance counselor at your school or another trusted adult about what you're going through. Guidance counselors are there to offer support to students when they need it, so that may be a resource you could consider. Also, You could call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747. They are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. It is a great resource for people who are enduring a similar burden. Finally, I encourage you to call us here at Teen Line so we can discuss this in more detail. Our number is 310-855-4673, and we are open from 6 to 10 pm PST, seven days a week. Once again, I want to thank you for contacting Teen Line, and I hope to hear from you soon.

-a TEEN LINE teen

 

I am very depressed.

16 years old, Female, UT

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I am very depressed all I think about day and night is what will be the best way to tell my parents that i want to kill myself that they are the main cause of me feeling this way they are my parents but all they do is tear me down.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hey ____,

Thanks so much for reaching out to us at Teen Line, it sounds like you're going through a really tough time right now and I am so glad you decided to write in. Telling your parents that your suicidal can be really hard and I understand how it would constantly be in your head. When someone is going through a difficult time a lot of people have suicidal thoughts and I really want to emphasize that you're not alone and that it's important for you to talk to someone about these feelings if you feel like you would act on them.  You mentioned that your parents constantly tear you down and they are the main cause of you wanting to kill yourself. I first want to say I'm sorry to hear your parents aren't supportive of you and that they constantly tear you down, your family life should be a safe and comfortable environment.  I also want to ask if you have told anyone about your suicidal feelings or about how your parents make you feel. If you haven't, one thing you can do is find a trustworthy friend, favorite teacher, school counselor, or even a relative so you can build a support system and you have someone to talk to about everything that's going on in your life. In addition I highly encourage you to call the Suicide Prevention Hotline whenever you need to talk to someone anonymously about your suicidal feelings, depression, and parents. They are a 24 hour hotline and their number is 877-727-4747. Lastly, I also encourage you to call us at Teen Line if you want to talk with another one of our teens. We are open from 6-10 pm and our number is 310-855-4673. Once again thanks so much for contacting us!

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

My girlfriend's mom won't let us date.

17 years old, Male, ME

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

So my girlfriends mom doesn’t let us date, I turned 17 a few months ago and she’ll turn 15 in 4 months. I knew she wasn’t allowed to date when we started dating but I didn't know how serious it was that we wouldn't be allowed to ever hangout. We decided to sneak around and so I found every once and a while i’d go to her house when her mom left and at night she would sneak out. One night she snuck out while she was having a hard time and everyone else was asleep so I went to take care of her, her mom woke up and called the cops the cops were cool about it and felt bad for me after I told them all about her mom. Ever since then we haven’t been able to sneak around because her mom is scary and will catch us. Her mom found out we’ve had sex and honestly wasn’t so mad about it, but anyways after so many emotional ups and downs her mom finally decided to come to my house and meet with my mom and I. And lets just say I did everything to persuade her to let us be friends and she just wouldn't let it happen, she said no boys in her house till her daughter is 16, we’ve been dating for 8 months and it’s so hard but I could never ever leave her, I just honestly don't know what to do. Please… help.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi ____,

I want to thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE.  It sounds like you have been going through a lot lately with your relationship with your girlfriend.  It sounds so hard to be forbidden to see each other especially because it seems like you really care about her and just want to be with her.  It sounds like you have have tried everything to reason with her mother, and she is really set in her ways about her daughter.  This doesn't give you much else you can do.  Do you think you would be able to wait to be with her until she turns 16?  I know that might sound  like torture, but sneaking around with her might end up with another call to the police.  Do you think her mother might let her be at your house under the supervision of your mom? It might help to stay busy with activities in your life that you enjoy, like sports, exercise, music, art, writing, anything that can keep you busy until you can be with your girlfriend.  If you need someone to talk to about all of this you can call us here at TEEN LINE.  Our number is 310.855.4673, and our hours are 6pm to 10pm PST.

Hope this helps,

Take care

TEEN LINE

There’s times where I feel like I’m not important

13 year old, Female, NC

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

There’s times where I feel like I’m not important and I feel like committing suicide  so I can leave this world.  I have problems about my body and I'm always thinking of other ways to kill my self.  What can I do?

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hey _______,

I'm so glad you contacted us at TEEN LINE. It sounds like you're feeling very overwhelmed and upset, and it makes me worried to hear that you're feeling that way! I would strongly encourage you to tell a parent or any other trusted adult about how you're feeling. You don't deserve to be feeling like this, and I want you to feel better. Writing in a diary or talking to a friend could really help you lift some weight off your shoulders. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and I believe that you can get through this.

You mentioned you constantly think of ways to kill yourself, and that worries me. I want to give you the number to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline in case you're thinking of hurting yourself. Their phone number is 1(877) 727-4747. Don't hesitate to call.

Call us in here at TEEN LINE, we would love to talk more in depth with you about what you're going through. Our phone number is 1(310) 855-4673 and we are open from 6p.m.-10p.m. PST.

Hope to hear from you soon, stay strong.

a TEEN LINE teen

I’ve had this eating problem for about 3 years.

16 years old, Male, Aus

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I’ve had this eating problem for about 3 years. I just hate the way I look, so I don’t eat. I have a BMI of 17.3, which isn’t too bad, I guess, but It’s been causing me to develop health issues. I sleep more and work less; I’m always in a horrible mood. And recently, I’ve started having suicidal thoughts. I’ve been cutting myself repeatedly, wishing I could die, simply because I’m ugly. I have no reason to live. I just want help, but there’s no one that cares.. I want to die most hours of the day.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi _____,

There is so much going on in your life right now and I really want to thank you for emailing us.  It sounds like you feel like you have no one to talk to, which can be very isolating, so I really think its great that you reached out for help, it shows how strong you are.  You mentioned that you haven't been eating because you hate the way you look.  Not eating isn't healthy, and I have to say, I'm really worried about you.  It seems like you are really self-aware, and you have noticed how not eating is affecting you.  I know you said you feel like no one cares, but I'm wondering if there is someone you would feel comfortable talking to, like a trusted adult or family member, or maybe a school counselor.  I also want to give you the number to an eating disorder hotline based in Australia.  They are called the Butterfly Foundation for Eating Disorders, and they are there to talk to you.  Their number is 1800-33-4673.

You also mentioned you were having suicidal thoughts, which also worries me.  I want you to know that suicide is not the answer and that things always have the capacity to get better. I want to give you the number to a hotline based in Australia.  They're called Samaritans and they are there to talk to you. Their crisis number is 08 9381 5555 and their youth line's number is 08 9388 2500 and they are both open 24/7.

You also mentioned you are cutting.  It sounds like you are using it as a coping mechanism to deal with everything that is going on in your life.  I'm wondering if there is anything else that you can do to cope, like drawing, playing a sport, taking walks, or listening to music.  I'm also wondering if there are any other things you can do instead of cutting, like drawing on yourself when and where you feel the urge to cut with a red pen or writing in a journal just so you can get your feelings out on paper.  I also want to give you the link to www.self-injury.net.  They are a website about self injury, and they have more coping mechanisms, information, and success stories about people who have been able to stop self harming.

It really sounds like you are being hard on yourself, and a lot of the time, that can make you feel really bad.  I really want to encourage you to try being kind to yourself, which is easier said than done, but maybe just pick a part of yourself that you like, like your hair or your personality or something, and just go from there. Its really hard when you have high standards for yourself, and you feel like you aren't meeting them, but you seem really smart, and definitely strong because you were able to reach out for help, which is something not many people can do.  It takes a lot of courage to do that. Unfortunately, we cannot take calls from Australia, but Samaritans is really great, and I really want to encourage you to give them a call.  I really hope that everything works out for you.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

 

There are times when I feel like giving up.

15 years old, Female, UK

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

There are times when I feel like just giving up. I have found myself thinking what is the point anymore everyone seems to be against me even my own parents seem to tear me down at any opportunity they can get. I have tried to end it,  but I always end up bursting into tears wondering what  am i  doing.  I am worried that one day I will reach my breaking point and it will be too late to stop. I just don't know what to do. 

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hey ______,

I'm really glad you emailed in to Teen Line. It takes so much courage to be able to reach out and share how you're feeling about suicide and what has been going on. It must feel so frustrating to feel like everyone is against you, especially your parents. You said that you've tried to end it and I just wanted to tell you that I am really worried about you and your safety. It must feel so scary to have those realizations and not be sure about what you are doing. I'm wondering if you have talked to anyone about what has been going on and how you are feeling like a school counselor, friend, or trusted adult. Talking to someone can help bring you support. I am also wondering if maybe doing things like drawing, writing in a journal, or playing sports could help get your mind off of things and express how you're feeling. I know you mentioned that you are scared that there could come a time where it's too late to stop and I wanted to give you the number to the International Help Hotline. They can help provide you with support and talk about what has been going on and how you are feeling. Their number is 08457 90 90 90. I also wanted to give you the Teen Line Message Board Website. It is www.teenlineonline.org/boards and on there you can post and read about others' stories that may perhaps be similar to yours. Another website that might be useful is the Suicide Prevention Hotline Website which is www.suicidepreventioncenter.org and here you can find out more information and some references of places to call to help provide support and help.

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I have social anxiety disorder.

13 year old, Female, WV

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have social anxiety disorder, and I also am the laughing stock of my class. (Even when I had good grades, people would still make fun of me). My dad beat up my mom twice, and I helped her both times, yet she won’t show me the least bit of compassion saying that: I ”don’t support her either”. I am also really sensitive, and it doesn’t really work well with the anxiety. My friends aren’t really the most compassionate people either, so I don’t really have anybody to talk to. Even if I hate my life so much I am too scared to cut myself. Please help?

TEENLINE WROTE:

Dear _____,

Thank you so much for reaching out to TEEN LINE, it is very brave of you. It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed because people are being mean to you and aren't supporting you in the most helpful way. You said that you don't really have anybody to talk to and I was wondering if there is any that you would feel safe going to such as a trusted friend or adult, a parent, teacher, school counselor or anyone else that you feel could best support you through this uneasy time. You mention that your dad beat up your mom and that is not ok for anyone to physically harm another person. It must be difficult having that responsibility to care for your mom and it is very courageous of you to help her. I would recommend contacting DCFS (Department of Child & Family Services) and their goal is to keep families safe. Their phone number is 800-540-4000. If you are ever in a moment where you feel unsafe then you can always call 911. Some ways to cope with any uneasy feelings could be writing in a journal, exercising, writing or anything else that may relieve stress. If you ever want to talk you can call into TEEN LINE. The number is (310) 855-4672 and we are open from 6:00-10:00 PM PST every night. 

a TEEN LINE teen

I’ve always had problems at home because I’m a constant liar.

14 year old, Female, CA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Well I’ve always had problems at home because I’m a constant liar, and I don’t know how to change. My family doesn’t have enough trust for me to believe that it’s a problem. I really hope you guys can help. I am so confused with everything.

 Thanks

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hey ______,

I'm really glad that you emailed in to Teen Line. It's really brave of you to be able to recognize what you have been doing and realizing what you're saying are lies. And I think it's great that you recognize it to be a problem that you want to fix. It must be so frustrating that you're parents don't believe you. Not only that, but it must be so annoying that they wont help you through it. I'm wondering if there is a friend, school counselor, or trusted adult that you can talk to about how you're feeling and help you work through this issue. I wanted to give you the Teen Line number it is (310) 855-4673 6pm-10pm PST. We can help explore how you're feeling and provide support during what you're going through. I also wanted to give you the website to the Teen Line Message Board. It's a place where you can post and read about what people are going through similar to you. It is www.teenlineonline.org/boards.

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

I'm gay and I haven’t told anybody about it.

14 year-old, Male, Canada

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I'm gay. I haven’t told anybody about it and it makes me scared thinking about how my friends and family would react. I don’t want them to ignore me, or even worse to hate me. I just don’t know what to do about it. To me, it feels wrong that I look at the guys more than the girls in my class, and I can’t stand it. I keep hoping that one day, everything will change and I wouldn’t be this way anymore. But i’ve been saying that for the past year now, and i’m starting to give up hope. I’ve been trying to tell my sister about it, but I keep distracting myself with something else. She’s the absolute first person that I would talk to, if I had a problem. But I just get really nervous when i’m about to tell her about this one. Plus, I figure that she would understand more about it, because she told me that she was bisexual. I was planing to tell her, but she left for vacation, and won’t be back for a couple of weeks. I just really wanted to tell someone about it. What should I do?

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

It seems like you are having a really difficult time accepting what you are feeling right now. It must not be easy feeling very uncomfortable talking about something that has been on your mind for a while. I want to let you know that however you feel towards guys or girls is perfectly okay. There is nothing wrong at all with being gay and I can assure you there are many teens out there who are going through similar situations. Ultimately, You aren't alone. I am really glad to hear you have your sister's support and I know it must be hard to have her absent right now. I would suggest calling the LGBT National Youth hotline at 1 800 246 7743. For more information about them, their website is glnh.org. In addition, is there a school counselor that you could talk to this about? They are a 100% confidential and could possibly help your situation. You can also call us at TEEN LINE at 310 855 4673.

Thinking of you,

a TEEN LINE teen

When I was 3 years old, my father brutally murdered my mother.

19 year-old, Male, UK

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Hi, when I was 3 years-old my father brutally murdered my mother. None of my family ever talked about her, and it’s as if she never existed. They show no emotion over my mom. Every year on her birthday I feel lonely, and depressed. On top of that I don’t feel comfortable speaking about this topic to any of my friends.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hello ________,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE. It sounds as though things have been difficult for you. I can imagine that you are depressed and sad that you do not have your mother here. It sounds as though you are feeling lonely and sad because not only is your mother dead, but there is no celebration of her life happening. It sounds as though your family members are unable to cope with the loss of her. Im wondering if there is a way that you can find a ritual to celebrate and remember your mother, lighting a candle, writing her a letter, painting her a picture, etc. in honor of her life and remembrance of her. Im wondering if there is someone you can talk to and share your feelings with, a trusted adult, a school counselor, a therapist? There is a website in the UK called www.samaritans.org and there may be some helpful resources on there for you. It sounds like you are a sweet and sensitive young man that wants to honor your mother's life and misses not having her around. I encourage you to check out samaritans and I hope you can find someone to talk to. You can check out our message boards and on there may be some people that have gone through something similar where you can chat and possibly find some support too. Here is the link to our online forum: http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

Hope this finds you well.

A Teen Line Teen

I’ve been having a really bad problem with depression.

14 year-old, Male, UT

TEEN PROBLEM/QUESTION:

I’ve been having a really bad problem with depression and it has started to affect other aspects of my life. I will get mad for absolutely no reason. I try to hide my anger in front of my girlfriend, but she can always tell when I am having a hard time.

My situation at home does not help with my depression at all either.  Most days I will go into my room, and listen to music when suddenly my dad comes in and yells at me. I always feel that he blames my girlfriend if I have a bad day. Lately the sadness and anger is just so overwhelming, and I never seem to be happy. In fact, I haven’t had a happy day in weeks.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hello _____,

I'm glad you were able to contact us at Teenline! It sounds like you're struggling with depression and anger, and although it's incredibly tough, I'm really glad that you've been able to keep yourself up strong. It's amazing that you have someone like a girlfriend to talk to, and I can tell that you really care a lot about her. For what I can gather, it sounds like your dad may be making you feel worse, because he's coming to conclusions without asking you for details.

It can be incredibly annoying when a parent blames someone you really care for, especially when they don't understand what you're personally going through. If you have a school counselor, talking to them could help to release some of the emotions that you've had to keep for your girlfriend, in an open environment. Although hiding your emotions can feel like the right thing to do, you may also want to think about talking to her about your anger; she may respond positively if you bring it up to her in a way that she can understand. If you don't like either of those options, you could try setting up a go-to activity that is accessible 24/7, like writing in a journal, exercising, or playing an instrument. These activities can give you something to do when you feel extremely angry, and don't have any other way to release that anger. If you want someone else to talk to, you can call into us at Teenline at 1-310-855-4673 from 6:00-10:00 PM PST. You can also check out our message boards here, if you want to connect with other teens going through similar anger-related issues.

You're incredibly strong to have come this far, and I really appreciate you reaching out and asking for help.

Thank you for contacting us,

A  Teen Line Teen

 

I am bi-sexual.

18 year old, Male, TX

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

 I have just recently been honest enough with myself to come to terms that I am bisexual. I don’t just mean sexually attracted to both genders, but I can also see myself in a deep relationship with both genders. Right now I am going through a bit of an issue though. My (male) best friend is just coming to terms with being bisexual as well, and I feel very close to him, especially sharing this common struggle. I have yet to tell him that I myself am bisexual, and am afraid of what it will do to our friendship. On one hand, I feel like it could only help us to become closer, and to possibly begin a deeper relationship in the near future, but at the same time, part of me thinks that telling him while he is going through his own struggle could put us more apart. I don’t want to lose him, especially because of how I feel about him, now romantically. I am just not sure of what to do right now, and I know that no matter what I choose, it won’t be easy. What advice could you give me to approach the situation?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hi _______,

I wanna thank you so much for contacting Teenline with your problem. It’s a very brave and difficult thing to do. I'm very happy that you are able to come to terms with yourself, and admit that you are bisexual; that's a very hard thing to do, and demonstrates great courage. It sounds like you are very confused about what to tell your friend, and can see both good and bad scenarios playing out. One thing that might help is to check out the website http://www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. This website is helpful in helping LGBT youth make difficult decisions like this one. You might also want to call Teenline, our number is 310-855-4673. We are open every night from 6:00pm to 10:00pm PST. Another option is to talk to someone who know personally and trust, like a parent, or friend, or school counselor, who can give you more firsthand advice on your situation. If you do not feel comfortable doing these things, you might be interested in writing about your feelings in a journal. Writing is a form of processing thoughts, and perhaps through writing you will be able to come closer to a decision on what to tell your friend.

I’ve been having trouble making and keeping new friends.

16 years old, Female, PA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Ever since my Dad made me switch high schools, I’ve been having trouble making and keeping new friends. It’s seriously becoming such a problem and making me super depressed. Sometimes during lunch I would hide in a stall in the girls’ bathroom and cry quietly so no one sees me. I’m so sick of it, one time I gathered all the confidence and courage I had and went up to 2 girls that I hung out with before and asked what they were doing for lunch, because I didn’t know what to do. And they just said ”Aww, we have a social test to do, sorry”. But I seen them texting each other to lie and go out the back doors so I don’t see. I faked a smile and said ”Its ok, see you later”, and walked back to my locker. It was humiliating. Then as I walked out the door, one of the girls looked back and nervously laughed, they were well ahead of me and walking quickly away. I didn’t even turn my head as I walked the other direction because it was so embarrassing, I felt so stupid. What did I ever do to deserve this? I always act so nice and friendly, and I never had a problem keeping close friends at my old school. It sucks really, really bad because now I even drifted apart from my best friend. I feel lonelier than ever. I can’t tell my family because that would make them worry, and feel bad that I’m depressed about it. Please help me.

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hey, 

I am so glad that you decided to email Teen Line. It takes so much courage and bravery to tell us about how you've been feeling depressed about what's going on at school. It's so awful that these girls would lie to you like that and it's not okay for any person to be treated like that. For them to lie about their plans to you and then just nervously laugh about it is so unfair. It's really difficult being the new kid in school dealing with the new place, people, and classes. It seems like you feel so annoyed and sad because your trying to make friends and be with them and they are just treating you so rudely.  I'm wondering if you tried doing something that you like, if it could help with how your feeling; maybe like writing in a journal, talking to your parents, taking a bubble bath, playing sports, joining clubs or maybe even joining a sport at school. I'm also wondering if there is another friend. school counselor, or trusted adult that you could talk to about how you're feeling and whats going on. I wanted to give you this website that provides information on bullying and helps give resources for those that are victims. The website is www.bullying.org. I also wanted to give you the website to the Teen Line Message Board and encourage you to call into Teen Line. The Teen Line Message Board is a place on our website where you can post or read about what people are going through similar to you. The website is www.teenlineonline.org/boards. The number to Teen Line is (800) 852-8336 from 6pm-10pm PST. We are here to listen, explore your feelings and provide support. 

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

I got kicked out of my house.

14 year old, Female, NC

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I got kicked out my house, and I have no where else to stay.  I'm in the cold and do not  have any money. What do i do.?

TEEN LINE WROTE:

Hey ______, thanks so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It must be really scary getting kicked out as a teen and just having nowhere to go, and not really knowing what to do. I'm wondering if you have any friends or family that live near you? That way you have somewhere to sleep and just be so you don't have to stay outside, and you have somewhere to figure out what to do now. You can also call into the National Runaway Safeline at 1800-RUNAWAY. They work 24 hours a day and can offer you information about bus tickets and shelters in your area, they can also give you other referrals and support. You can also call into the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 800-422-4453. They also work 24 hours a day to make sure that kids are in a safe home and well taken care of. They might be really helpful in addressing the problem you're having with your family. Once again, thanks so much for contacting TEEN LINE. You can call us any time between 6 and 10pm (PST), any day, at 310-855-4673 or visit our messaging boards at www.teenlineonline.org/boards/.

a TEEN LINE teen

My best friend is going through a time of deep depression.

14 year old, Male, NY

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My best friend is going through a time of deep depression. I lost one of my friends to bullying, and I am afraid I might lose another for the same reason. I have talked her out of self-harm countless times before, but now she has given up.

We deal with the same issues; father issues, bullying, judgment, and our school guidance counselor is of little to no help. She is just reiterating everything she has been saying for the past 3 years to my friend, so she has no one to turn to other than me. I am running out of time, and all of her stress is in a way being passed down to me. I need to convince her to stay here with us, but I need to convince myself before I can convince her. Please help.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi! Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE!

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now and that must be so overwhelming.  It sounds so challenging to deal with everything in your life and also to help your friend with her problems.  I am so sorry to here that you lost a friend to bullying; I understand how upsetting that is, and it must be so hard for you. ________, you  are so strong to help your friend, and she is so lucky to have someone in her life who cares about her like you do.

 I was wondering if you have heard about the Butterfly Project.  The Butterfly Project is a helpful way to get people to stop cutting.  What you do is, your friend draws butterflies on her skin wherever she harms.  She then dedicates each butterfly to someone important in her life.  The purpose is that when she wants to cut, she sees a butterfly that reminds her of someone she loves and she won't want to cut, because if she did, it would be like cutting this person that she cares about. I feel that she would dedicate this butterfly to you since she confides in you so much, and you’re an amazing friend.

I am wondering if there is any other trusted adult, other than the school counselor, that you can talk with. Maybe a family member, friend or teacher?

I know that it is very difficult to talk about, and maybe talking to your mom would help lighten the load  you have on your shoulders. She might even be able to help you with your friend.  

I suggest that your friend visit self-injury.net, and I would like for you to tell her that there are many other ways to release the emotions that self-harming may release for her.  Some of those ways are to draw, do yoga, or just to talk about how she is feeling.  I would also like you and your friend to visit bullying.org.  I highly recommend that you call the Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800) 784-2433 and I would also like you to give the number to your friend for her to call them as well. Lastly, please do not hesitate to call us at TEEN LINE, our number is (310) 855-4673 and we are open everyday from 6-10 PM Pacific Standard Time.

Thank you again for contacting TEEN LINE.

a TEEN LINE teen

I am going through a really tough time.

14 year old, Female, CA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I am going through a really tough time, and I’m always so depressed. It has gotten to the point where I lay in bed and cry for hours for absolutely no reason. I can’t tell my parents because they think I crave attention,  and my dad really scares me sometimes. I don’t know what to do. Help?

TEENLINE WROTE:

Thanks so much for reaching out to us at TEEN LINE, I can imagine you are going through such a difficult time right now and I'm glad you have opened up to someone about this. It sounds like you are going through so much right now, and dealing with a lot of things at one time can be overwhelming. Feeling depressed but not knowing the cause of feeling that way can be really frustrating and tiring and it's probably even harder when you aren't able to talk to people about how you feel. Keeping all of those emotions and thoughts inside is so strong of you and I think it's great that you emailed into TEEN LINE so you can talk to someone about it.

You also mentioned your dad scares you. That worries me when you say that because your dad shouldn't be a person to cause such feeling. Even though you’re not able to respond to this email, I want to ask you does he ever get aggressive and hurt you or your mom? If he does then I highly encourage you to check out some resources I have for you. But before I do so, have you ever thought of talking to a school counselor, favorite teacher, or trusted adult/relative about what you’re going through. Those are some great resources to look out for that could help guide you through this. In addition, what kinds of things do you love doing that helps take your mind off of feeling depressed? Maybe its a sport or activity like dance, writing, art, or playing an instrument...?! If that doesn't help I would highly encourage you to call us at Teen Line to talk through how your feeling in more depth. Our hours are from 6-10 pm and our number is 310-855-4673. Back to subject of your dad. If you feel like you need to talk to someone about how he makes you feel afraid and if anything more is going on I would highly suggest you check out the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline or Website. Even if you think your father isn't causing any harm, I still think  it would be good for you  to check the resource out so you can at least be aware of his behavior and how he scares you. Their hotline is open 24/7 and their number is 800-422-4453 and their website it is www.childhelp.org. Lastly, if you need to talk to someone about your depression or if you are ever feeling suicidal and we aren't available, the suicide prevention hotline is a great resource and their number is 800- 784-2433. I hope all of this helps and once again thanks for reaching out to us!

I have attempted suicide

14 year old, Female, IA

TEEN QUESTION/ PROBLEM:

 I have attempted suicide twice in the range of three months. Now a  mother later, I have the urge to self-injure again, and also I am having suicidal thoughts.  I need support through this really tough time.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hey ______,

Thank you so much for contacting TeenLine. It sounds like you’re going through so much in your life and I'm so proud of you for reaching out. I can only imagine what you’re going through. Have you ever tried talking to someone about theses feelings of loneliness and sadness, such as a school counselor, therapist, parent, or friend. Have you tried doing activities that bring you joy. Maybe joining a club at your school, do a sport, or try a new thing such as painting, yoga, or listening to music If you would like to talk to someone, I would definitely consider calling into Teen line, we are always here for you at (310) 855-4673 from 6pm-10pm PST. Another online option is the Teen Line message board, where you can talk to other teens going through similar situations like you, and connect with them. Also, if you ever feel like harming yourself I suggest calling the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877 727 4747, which is open 24/7.Who will be able to give you support via phone.. Also, doorofhope4teens.org is another website similar to this, and they have a hotline at 615 746 7319 which is open sun-thur 9pm-11pm EST. With this resource you can get free advice for things such as depression, cutting, and other emotional struggles. I hope these are enough resources to help you through this difficult time. 

All the best,

a TEEN LINE teen

 

My girlfriend’s parents think she's too young to date.

16 years old, Male, CO

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My girlfriend’s parents think she’s too young to date. She is 16 years old and we have been together since 6/15/2010. We do not go to the same school and we really don’t get to see each other in person. It has been so hard to keep up with our relationship, and sometimes I don't know if I'll be waiting for her  until she's 18  years old.  Most of our fights are because we don’t see each other. Her parents are making this relationship so much harder for both of us. I need ideas since I really don’t know what to do. I am wondering if there is something I can do, or she can try to do so her parents would be fine with us?

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi ___________,

I want to thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE.  It sounds like you have been going through a lot lately with your relationship with your girlfriend.  It sounds like you two really want to be together but her parents are making it really hard for you to see one another.  Have you tried talking to her honestly about how hard it is for you? Is there anyone else in your life that you trust that you can talk to about all of this?  Maybe they would feel better about yow two seeing eachother if they supervised the visits at least at first until they really get to know you and trust you?  If you feel like you need to talk about this further you can always call us here at TEEN LINE.  Our number is 310.855.4673 and our hours are 6pm to 10pm PST. 

Hope this helps.

My parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember.

17 year old, Female, OH

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember. At this point in my life I am so used to them being separated and sharing time between the two that it doesn’t affect me. My mother has guardianship, and I’ve lived with her ever since I was 4 years-old. Soon after they split up my mom met a man who soon became my step dad. He always treated me and my brothers like his own kids, and we love him very much. About a year and a half ago, my mom came to me and told me that she was cheating on my step dad not only with a random guy, but with his best friend. This hurt me because I didn’t know how to act; I was stuck between either hurting my step dad or hurting  my mom. I ended up not saying anything, and my mom and Robert (step dad) eventually split up.

 My mom moved this new man into our home and he stayed for about two months until he cheated on my mom and left. About a week after they split up my mom started going out partying and met someone new. This man moved in with us, and then left after about 3 months. After they split my mom could not afford the house we were staying in so she moved in with her new boyfriend, and we have lived there for about 3 months now. My mom and he are splitting, and I am getting ready to move into a new house.

I’ve always thought about going to stay with my dad to have a more stable home because this situation is affecting me.  My mom has a new boyfriend every few months, and I cannot handle it anymore. My dad is pushing my brother and I to live at his house, but I don’t know if thats the right thing to do. If I leave my mom’s side she will not to be able to afford her bills because she won’t get child support every month and that scares me. I don’t agree with the things that she does but I want the best for her. I also just don’t want to hurt her feelings. I don’t know what to do… please help.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi ________

I am so glad you contacted Teen Line. What you are going through is so difficult and confusing. It takes a really brave person to reach out and ask for support. That must have been so hard to have your mom tell you about her cheating and then feel like you had to keep it a secret. No daughter should have to go through that. It sounds like there have been so many changes in your life and I'm guessing that must be really stressful. Your situation does sound really confusing so I can understand that feeling of not knowing what to do. The most important thing is for you to decide what is best for YOU. It sounds like you love your mom and want what's best for her, but you also have to take care of yourself.  I'm wondering if you have talked about what is going on with any of your friends, or maybe another trusted adult. Sometimes it helps to get feedback from other people so you can make a clear decision. Maybe there is another relative you can talk to, or even a school counselor. It's really mature to be able to identify those feelings  in which makes you reflect about your current living situation. Staying with your mom might not be the best choice for you, and I really want you to listen your feelings because it is a strength. I hope you consider talking to someone about all of this and also I wanted to let you know that you can call Teen Line and talk to one of us on the phone. Our phone number is 800-852-8336 and the phone lines are open from 6:00 pm - 10:00 pm west coast time. We are here for you!

TEEN LINE

I have been cutting for a very long time.

13 year old, Female, CA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have been cutting for a very long time. I stopped for a while but lately I have been feeling empty inside. I feel lonely, and I’m craving love and affection from my ex boyfriend. I really want to cut like the old days but somehow I can't do it again. I am so confused on what to do with myself. I don't want to fall into a worse depresssion, I need help!

TEENLINE WROTE:

Dear ________,

Thanks so much for contacting Teen Line, It is so brave of you to email us about this. It seems like you have been through a lot lately and it must  be so hard to be feeling  empty.  

You said that you want to cut again and I think you should check out www.self-injury.net and http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com.

You mentioned feeling depressed. I'm so sorry you feel this way.  I'm really concerned about you and your safety.  I want you to talk to someone about this. Is there anyone in your life you feel comfortable going to? Perhaps someone you are friendly with at school or a family member. Also if you feel the situation getting worse or think you are going to hurt yourself I encourage calling the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (877)727-4747. They can help you deal with some of your problems and can be very helpful.

In addition to the other resources I gave you I really suggest calling us at Teen Line where you can share your story anonymously with other teens. We are available 7 days a week from 6pm-10pm PST.  I hope this helped in some way.

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I think my friend may be developing an eating disorder.

15 year old, Female, FL

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I think my friend may be developing an eating disorder. She is constantly expressing to me and our group of friends how she wishes she was skinnier, and that she was pretty, and so on. One time she told us that she has started skipping meals to help with her”diet”. I am very worried about her, especially since her parents don’t monitor her very well. They are extremely oblivious. I don’t know what to do to help her. We have tried telling her the side effects of things like eating disorders, but it goes in one ear and out the other. Please help! She is so gorgeous and I hate to see her like this. She deserves better than what she is giving herself.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hey _________________,

First of all, thank you so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. It seems like you are very concerned about your friend and what is going on in her life right now. You mentioned that your friend wishes that she were skinnier and comments on other girls' sizes. That must make you feel so worried since you have been noticing her not eating. You also mentioned that she is telling you and your group of friends that she is skipping meals to help with her "diet". This must make you worry because you don't want your friend to go through something like this. Especially that her parents are totally oblivious to the fact that she is skipping meals and is concerned about her weight. First and foremost, I would suggest for your friend to speak with a trusted adult that she feels comfortable enough talking with about this issue. If  she does not have such support system then I encourage her to reach out to us at TEENLINE. If she is open enough or comfortable enough to call TEENLINE directly so she can discuss this more openly to get a further understanding of what is going on with her. We are open from 6 pm- 10 pm (PST) everyday of the week. You can call in at 1(310)-855-4673. You can also suggest to call the National Eating Disorder Association at 1 (800)- 931- 2237. This association can give her further referrals or information more on eating disorders. They are open from 9 am-5pm (EST). Again, thank you so much for reaching out to us here at Teen Line and I wish you and your friend the best.

Sincerely,

a TEEN LINE teen

When you want to die instead of live, is it worth living?

16 year old, Male, PA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

When you want to die instead of live, is it worth living? Living life in constant depression of having nothing to live for and not wanting to live for anything. I feel as if you could take a bat to my head and beat me a thousand times over & I wouldn’t feel a thing. I’m contemplating whether or not this is the best time to do it… I have nothing to live for, I don’t want to live for anything. The razor in my hand is the only thing that brings me comfort

TEENLINE WROTE:

Dear ______,

I'm really glad that you decided to email Teen Line. It seems like you're going through a hard time and I wanted to let you know that we are always open to listen to you whether you want to call in or email. I want you to think about what is making you feel like this and what could be making you depressed. I am wondering what has happened recently to make you feel as if you have "nothing to live for". It could be beneficial to think about what the things are that are causing it and try to remove these negative influences from your life. I'm so sorry that you're feeling so sad and that you haven't had the motivation to live. However, I want you to know that there are many things to live for and I want to help you find those sort of things.

Have you talked to anybody about the way that you're feeling? Some examples of someone you could talk to would be a friend you trust, an adult, or guidance counselor at school. It is really important to have a support system when you aren't feeling too great. It could really help to have someone close to you who could listen to you when you're feeling down. Joining some groups or meeting some friends with something in common could be a great motivation to being the best you can be and making connections with people. Some schools offer clubs and some neighborhoods have teen programs that you could get involved in. Also, it is thought that when you have a commitment to something like a job or a relationship you may have more motivation! Some things that you can try doing to relieve your sadness would be to write in a journal or listening to music. So as you said that the razor has been your only comfort, I want you to try the Butterfly Project which is when you draw a butterfly where you were to self harm and then name it after someone that you really care about. That way, you can resist the urge to hurt yourself. I would love for you to look into these things because I really care about your safety.

I'm concerned about you and I would like to recommend that you call into the Suicide Prevention Hotline, the number is (877) 727 4747. I also hope that you will take into consideration that our hotline would love to hear from you and we're open from 6-10 PST. We have listeners waiting for calls at the moment. Our number is (310) 855-4673.

a TEEN LINE teen

 

I have always had this feeling that I didn’t belong

14 year old, Female TX

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I have always had this feeling that I didn’t belong anywhere because I was bullied up until 8th grade. I still feel like I’m afraid to show my real personality to people because people scare me. I always seem to think that everyone is  mean, so ever since the bullying stopped I have stayed the quiet kid of the class. It does not help that my parents never understand when I try to talk to them about it, they just laugh and think I'm being silly. I feel like they treat me as if I am 3 years old in front of their friends,  and that just makes me feel worse about myself.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hey ________,

Thank you for contacting us at TEEN LINE.  It must be so frustrating and difficult to feel like you have to suppress your personality to stop getting bullied.  I can't even imagine how difficult this must be for you and how painful it must be for your parents not to take you seriously.  I know it can be scary, but it's really important that you talk to someone you trust such as a friend, teacher, or counselor about what's going on.  Talking to someone can help take the burden off your shoulders and help you feel better.  There is a great website called www.bullying.org which provides help and support for people who are bullied.  I am concerned about you and would appreciate it if you would call us at TEEN LINE at 310-855-4673 from 6pm to 10pm PST.  We are here for you, and want to talk about what's going on.  You can also use the TEEN LINE message board at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

Best Wishes

a TEEN LINE teen

 

My mom is extremely strict.

16 year old, Female, TX

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

Okay. So my mom is extremely strict. She doesn’t let me do anything. I mean it though. I never hang out with my friends because she always says no and I’m not just going to sneak out because I would feel bad and I know it’s wrong. I make ALL A’s and do almost everything that she asks me but why won’t she let me hang out with my friends? It just doesn’t make sense and when I ask her why not she says, "fine go ahead, do whatever you want. I don’t care.” but obviously she is lying and she brings up how i would lose support from her. How do I deal with this???

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hello _____,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE. It sounds like things are really difficult for you at home. It must be so frustrating to not feel trusted by your mom and that you are unable to participate in your relationships. Gosh, that must make you feel so sad and angry. It sounds like you don't want to upset her and so you don't sneak out, but you feel unsupported by her either way. Im wondering if you can sit down and talk to her about how you have been feeling.

Also, maybe you can talk to a trusted adult, a school counselor, a friend to process through your feelings about this issue. You can always call us here at TEEN LINE, we are open every night from 6-10pm pacific standard time and our number is 310.855.4673. I hope this finds you well. Happy New Year. 

 TEEN LINE

My dad has always insulted me

18 year old, Male, TN

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I try to be a good son. I live with my dad and younger sister, so I kind of took the mom role. I do all the cooking, cleaning, and like making sure the bills are sorted and paid on time. My dad has always insulted me or treated me emotionally wrong. And like it gets worse with the days, like moments ago he told me how pathetic I was and how i cheat him out of money and how I need to get a job and stop being an overall pathetic excuse of a son. Like I have cried myself to sleep on so many occasions, and now I am to the point of giving up. It’s like I don’t wanna even be home and I don’t want to here, I am so sad all the time and so depressed and I can’t really talk to anyone about it. :’( I don’t know what to do.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi ______,

Thanks so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. I'm sorry to hear that you have been feeling so terrible. It seems to me like you have been very responsible and I'm sorry to hear that your dad has been treating you so poorly and rudely. I can't imagine how difficult it would be for you to be under constant bombardment from your dad. You do not deserve that.  I wonder if there is any way that you could try to talk with him about how you are feeling? I also wonder if there is a close friend, adult, teacher, school counselor,  that you trust that you could  talk to about what is going on?  It sounds like you are in a lot of pain, and I really want you to be able to get help. I know you feel like you have nobody to talk to.  I'm not sure of your location, but maybe you could look online for low to no cost psychotherapists in your area. Please also feel free to call us in here at TEEN-LINE as we are open 6-10 pm (PST) 7 days a week. Our number is 310-855-4673. You also mentioned that you may feel like giving up, and I hope that you stay positive and have faith that everything will get better soon.  I'm not sure if you're suicidal, but I'd like to give you the number for the National Suicide Hotline which is 877-727-4747. Keep your head up.

Thanks so much,

a TEEN LINE teen

 

My relationship with my father is horrible

 16 year old, Female MI

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

My relationship with my father is horrible. He has never hurt me or anything but I feel like I am getting emotionally abused. He’s in a bad mood from the moment he walks in the house from work. I can honestly say that I don’t want my mom married to him. He treats her poorly. By that I mean making fun of her,  and he’s always yelling or complaining about something. He is  a hypocrite and I do not ever see him changing. I love him and so does my mom but he is just so hard to handle and whenever we talk about some sort of therapy it never happens. I myself feel that I am dealing with depression and I just needed someone to talk to. Please keep in touch. I know my problem is probably not as important as others that you see but I am desperate for some advice.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hey _______,

First of all, it sounds like your relationship with your dad has been hurting you emotionally for a long time, so that immediately makes your "problem" just as "important" as anyone else's. In fact, I'm glad that you e-mailed us at Teenline, especially since you have so much going on with your dad. It must be so hard to have to come home to such an unhappy situation every day, so thank you for feeling like you could confide in us. I can tell that you're a really mature and strong person to have persevered through everything your dad has put your family through. While it's good to hear that he's never physically hurt you or your mother, it sounds like his attitude and words are painful enough to hurt you on a daily basis, and must put a strain on your family as a whole. If you can, maybe you could talk to your mom about your father, and you guys could discuss the various options your family could take, like maybe finding a way to take therapy seriously, or even the possibility of getting a divorce. I know that discussion with your mom would be really difficult, especially since you both love your father, but you seem like you're in so much pain and dealing with depression on top of all of that....really sitting down and talking with your mom, or even with both your mom and dad about your home situation could help. You could also consider talking to them about finding therapy just for you, since you mentioned you've been dealing with depression. Reaching out for help outside of home could be helpful as well, so maybe consider talking to a school counselor or another trusted adult about what's going on at home.

Hopefully my suggestions can be helpful to you. If your father ever does hurt you or your mother physically, please call the Domestic Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or you can call Teenline at (310) 855-4673 if you feel like you need to talk. You can also text "teen" to 839863.

Best wishes,

a Teenline teen.

I've had a history of depression, for as long as i can remember.

16 years old, Female, NJ

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

So I’ve been in a funk these past few months. I usually do. I've had a history of depression for as long as i can remember. I know life is not all happy and stuff but i just feel empty all the time. When I'm sad I become withdrawn. I've stopped talking to a lot of people but I cant really help it if I have nothing to say. My family and I dont really talk and its hard to hold myself together. Life is so empty, I dont wanna go on like this. I've just started seeing my therapist again but the next appointment seems so long from now. Then theres the whole question of what are you gonna do once you get out of the house; go to college is pretty much the given answer. My parents have been on my case about that since I was 10. What if i dont wanna go? I have so many problems with the education system as is. I know I don’t really have a choice since you can’t get a job without a college degree and, getting a job is so important so you can make money. Life right now is just bleak.

TEENLINE WROTE:

Hi ________,

Thank you so much for contacting us at Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to open up about your personal life. I understand how you would feel frustrated by life right now as you feel like your parents have really planned out a life that you may not want. I see how you would feel like life is so empty as you don't feel like you have any flexibility or any options in life. It seems like your under a lot of pressure and I think talking to someone about it might be really helpful as they can really help you through this. If you have a friend you feel comfortable talking to or a trusted adult or school counselor, I feel talking to someone may relieve your pressure and feel a little better about life. Also, if you feel more comfortable talking to someone anonymously, you can always call us from 6-10 PST every night. Also if you ever are feeling suicidal I urge you to call the Suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-784-2433 and they are open 24/7/. Also, I really think it would be really great if you found your passion and pursued it. Maybe joining like a sports team or a club, something to excite you. Thank you so much for emailing us and I hope you the best during this difficult period in your life. 

a TEEN LINE teen

 

 

 

 

I like both genders but my mother is religious

17 year old, Female, GA

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

I like both genders but my mother is religious and I have lied to her my whole life about this. I always try to sneak it into the conversation but no matter what I do she get angry at me. It kills me inside how she feels about gay people. She doesn’t necessarily hate them. But she will never accept them at all.

Majority of my family is religious and they dislike anything that doesn’t agree with it.

I just can’t keep this bottled up anymore or I’ll explode and tell the wrong person

TEENLINE WROTE:

 Dear _____,

First of all I want to commend you for being brave enough to share all of this with me. It must be so difficult to have your mother not accept who you are. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual. It sounds like trying to talk to your mom can end up badly and that must feel so disheartening. I'm so sorry that you feel like your family won't accept you for who you are, nobody deserves to go through that. I really want you to find someone you can talk to who won't judge you and can help you get to a better place. I encourage you to call TEENLINE  at 310-855-4673 (we are open from 6pm-10pm PST) or you can visit Pflag.org which is a great website that can give you and your family helpful information about being LGBTQ. Also the glnh.com is another great LGBTQ website.

a TEEN LINE teen

hey, i totally suck at talking

15 year old, Female, SC

TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
hey, i totally suck at talking about my feelings and asking for help... any pointers???

TEEN LINE WROTE:
Hey,
Thanks for contacting TEEN LINE. It is ok to have trouble talking about your feelings. A lot of people do. Sometimes it is easiest to express your feelings to someone you are really close to, like a good friend or family member. Also writing in a journal or doing some type of art can be a good way to express yourself. If you want you can always call or chat online with us here at TEEN LINE. We are open every night from 6-10 PM PST and our number is (310) 855-4673.

a TEEN LINE listener

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