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Common Questions

  • Abuse & Violence

    • I am currently in an abusive relationship.
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      I am currently in an abusive relationship.

      20 or older, Female, CA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I am currently in an abusive relationship with my ex-boyfriend. I keep going back to him no matter what he does. I don't know how to make it stop and I am really confused. Please help me, I need your guidance.

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hi ______,

      First of all, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line tonight and sharing your story.Your situation sounds really hard, and I'm wondering if you have spoken to anyone about what you are going through, like a close friend, parent, or therapist. Also, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24 hours a day at 1(800)799-7233. Your safety is really important to us, so if you need any guidance please call in. Teen Line is available as well at 1-800-852-8336 from 6-10pm so we can hear more about your situation. You could also visit the teenline message board at www.teenlineonline.org/boards for you to talk to other teens going through similar situations. Thank you so much for emailing in tonight. Abuse is never okay and I hope this email was helpful.

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I don't want to go to a foster home.
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      I don't want to go to a foster home.

      15 year old, Female,  NH

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I don't want to go to a foster home because I'm scared of what it will be like. I am a very shy person and I know that if I go away into foster care I won’t be able to talk to my boyfriend. I am scared and  don't want my parents to hurt me. I am alone and my grandparents on my mom’s side are abusive.  Honestly, it feels as if I don’t have any valuable reason to live anymore because my family makes me feel so unwanted.  I've tried counselling, meditation, and a suicide mental institute. Nothing seems to be working, what can I do?? :(

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi ______,

      Firstly, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. It is really brave of you to open up to me about your current situation. I can't imagine how scary it is to have your grandparents on your mom’s side be abusive, as well as being in fear of your parents hurting you. It seems frustrating to want to be somewhere that your boyfriend can contact you. I'm so sorry that you're going through so much pain that you don't see much reason to live anymore, and that worries me. I want you to know that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and although it may not seem like it right now, things can get better. Contacting me at Teen Line was a great first step, and if you keep reaching out, things can change for the better. You sound like a great person, and I imagine that there are people that are close to you that really care about you. Have you thought about talking to a close friend, trusted adult, or school counselor about how you've been feeling? It can be really difficult to hold in everything you're feeling, and it’s great to have people you can open up to about anything. I'm not sure what is happening that would cause you to go to a foster home, but if someone in your family is abusing you, your local Department of Children and Family Services does their best to keep families together, not separate them. You can check it out here: http://www.cfsnh.org/. Also, if you are ever having suicidal please contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747 to talk to them in more detail about what’s been going on. It would be great if you could check out the Teen Line Message Boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/ where you can see how other teens have dealt in similar situations  to yours. Feel free to also contact Teen Line anytime from 6-10pm PST at (310) 855-4673 or text "teen" to 839863.

      Thanks again for contacting Teen Line, and I hope that my referrals help you get the help and support you are looking for.

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

       

       

       

    • I grew up without my birth father until recently.
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      I grew up without my birth father until recently.

      15 year old, Female NM

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I grew up without my birth father until recently. I had a step father who would always put me down and hurt my feelings. My mother practically raised me and has always been there for me.  Last year I decided to write a letter to my birth father and 3 months after my 14th birthday he responded. I finally met him around the holiday season and everything was going so well, I also met my paternal grandparents. Things changed for the worse when soon after Christmas he sexually molested me and I ended up in a mental hospital for a while. I don’t know what to do? I moved to Texas but I returned to my home town recently and I am not happy here. Please help.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi Jessica thank you so much for contacting us here at Teen Line it was very brave of you. It sounds like you are going through a very tough time with your family. When your step-father puts you down always remember he has his own unresolved problems. I'm sorry to hear about your birth father, fathers should never touch their daughters, hit their daughters, or even be disrespectful. He should be protective of you, nice to you and kind. Since your birth father has sexually molested you he obviously has many problems of his own and he should be going to get help, not you. What your father has done to you is categorized as child abuse, and it can be reported to the police because it is illegal and it is NOT okay. One way you can resolve your problems with your father is to discuss it with someone like a school counselor or a trusted adult. Also it sounds like after all of these events you are feeling depressed and to alleviate some of that pain you can maybe join a sports team or a club or have a hobby so you have something to look forward to after school. Also if you ever want to talk about this I urge you to call us in here at Teen Line at  310 855 4673. If your ever feeling unsafe with your mother you can always call the Child Help National Abuse hotline at 1800 422 4453. Once again I would like to thank you so much for contacting us here at Teen Line.

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

       

    • My boyfriend and I recently split.
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      My boyfriend and I recently split.

      Female, 19 years old, CA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My boyfriend and I recently split. He is threatening to take his life and I’m not sure if he’s being serious or just dramatic. I honestly have no idea what to do… Please help

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi _______,

      Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line.  I'm so sorry to hear that your ex boyfriend is threatening to take his life, that sounds very overwhelming to have to go through.  I'm wondering if you would feel comfortable telling a trusted adult or school guidance counselor about this? It’s very important that someone knows about his situation to make sure he's safe.  Also, I'm wondering if you'd be willing to give him the number to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at (800)784- 2433, open 24 hours, where someone will always be able to talk to your ex boyfriend and help him.  Maybe he would be willing to call us at (310) 855- 4673, open 6-10pm PST, where a teen will always be able to talk.  Also, you should always feel free to call us as well.  If you ever feel like your boyfriend is in immediate danger, PLEASE call 911.

      I hope everything turns out okay ____.

      Sincerely,

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • Can I call the police on my mom?
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      Can I call the police on my mom?

      13 year old, Female

      TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My mom is abusing me and I don’t know if I should call the police. She always hits me on the head and arms with a rolling pin and forces me to strip for a her and makes me take a shower in front of her. I go to a great school and I have many friends who I love. My life outside home is great but life at home is terrible. Is this illegal? Should I call the police? If my mom goes to jail, will I go to foster care?

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi ______,

      Thank you so much for sharing this. I can only imagine how you feel when your mom makes you do these things. You should not have to go through this, and everyone deserves a mother that is loving. No one should ever be hit by their parents, or forced to do the horrible things that your mom makes you do. You are extremely brave for putting up with this, and I commend you for sticking through it even though it is really hard for you. When your mom hits you it is child abuse, which is illegal. This alone is something that no one should ever have to go through. When she forces you to strip and take showers in front of her it is also child abuse, and you don't deserve to go through it. I strongly advise you to call the police so that you won't have to put up with these horrible things. As to if your mom is going to go to jail and if you are going to go to foster care, it all depends on your family and living situation. It is great that you have good friends, and I wonder if you ever talk to them about your problems at home. You should talk to a school counselor or any trusted adult about this because they might be able to help you. If you would like to get all your feelings out, have any questions, or would like to just talk to another teen with an open ear, you can call TEEN LINE at (310)-855-4673. If you would like to contact the childhelp natinal child abuse hotline, the number is 800-422-4453. The website is www.childhelp.org. Once again, you are extremely strong for putting up with this, and I commend you. Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE, and I hope you get your situation fixed.

    • I have been depressed since I was a young girl
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      I have been depressed since I was a young girl

      17 year old, Female,  OR

      TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I have been depressed since I was a young girl. It all began when my father called me names like ”fat” and ”useless” then this pretty girl at our church came and she started calling me names too. As I got older, she moved, but the name calling from my father did not. We got into much bigger arguments and he constantly reminded me how useless I was. My mother just sat back and watched. I began cutting myself but that did not last long when my cousin’s mom told on me. I later became friends with a girl from my school and introduced her to my other friends. Soon they started forgetting about me. They liked her more than they ever liked me. I noticed how all teachers liked her too because she is talented, smart, and has a lot of potential.  I hated her because I realized she was and still is better than me. Things with my father are still bad. He always tells me I'm useless or a let down. I’ve told my mom about how I feel and how I want help, but she just tells me I’m the worst thing that has ever happened to her. She also says other people have it worse so I don’t deserve to be depressed because I’m not going through poverty or have been raped. I feel like I don’t deserve to be depressed because I haven't gone through any serious trauma in my life. But I can’t help feeling sad, useless, and ugly. It's sad because it's true when I say I’m useless. I have no talents and I’m not good at even the simple things. There is nothing special about me. I want to kill myself with all my heart. I’ve never attempted to, but I dream about the day when I can get a rope tightly across my neck and stop breathing as soon as my feet are in the air. I do scratch myself on my skin hard enough to where i can see red lines across my arms and legs. Its how I cope with my life. I don’t know what do do. I feel so empty and lost. I don’t even want love or attention, I want to die so I never have to worry about being good enough for society, guys, my parents, friends, or God.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi _______,

      ________,

      I am so sorry to hear about everything that been going on for pretty much your whole life.  Everything that has happened to you sounds incredibly overwhelming and just plain unfair, so I really thank you for contacting us here at TeenLine.  Hearing that your father and mother have both been verbally abusive is not okay.  The kinds of things they have been saying to you are incredibly inappropriate and growing up only hearing these things can skew your sense of the world.  The subconscious mind can be affected by these words a lot more than you could ever be aware of.  I really need you to understand that your parent's behavior is not normal or acceptable, and I would encourage you to talk to a school counselor, any trusted adult, a teacher, or maybe even to visit a local clinic for free therapy.   I'm happy to hear you found this friend, but it seems really discouraging to constantly be hearing how great she is while not a lot of appreciation has been coming your way.  That can really hurt and be upsetting so I am truly sorry.  So many things in your life seem so unfair, but it sounds like you are an exceptionally attentive person who is very aware of the environment around you. You mentioned you are having suicidal thoughts.  Please don't do it.  It may not seem like things are good right now, but there will come a point where all of this just seemed like a bad dream.  I care about you, and upon receiving the right kind of help, I can't imagine anything less than a bright future for you.  If these suicidal thoughts continue, call the suicide hotline at 877-727-4747 which is open 24/7. If you find yourself continuing to cut, you might want to check out self-injury.net for more information.  I would also like you to feel free to call us here at TeenLine at 310-855-4673 which is open 6-10pm Pacific Time.  You may also want to check out the teenline message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards to interact with other teens who have had similar situations as you. Thank you for contacting us here at TeenLine. It takes someone really brave to be able to recognize their innermost feelings, write them down, and share them like you did in this email. Stay strong.

      I really am wishing you all the best,

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I have been raped and feel so scared.
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      I have been raped and feel so scared.

      18 years old, Female

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      i have been raped and feel so scared and confused.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi _____,

      First of all, I would really like to thank you for contacting teenline. It's a really hard thing to do, and demonstrates a lot of bravery.  I am so so sorry to hear that you were raped, and cannot imagine how scared and vulnerable you must be feeling. I want to emphasize that what happened was not your fault.  It might help you to call teenline so we can discuss your feelings about your situation in greater detail. Our number is 310-855-4673. We are open between the hours of 6:00pm to 10:00pm PST.  I am really concerned for your safety, and would encourage you to seek medical treatment, and get consultation, to make sure you're okay. The website plannedparenthood.org is a great resource. here, you can type in your zip code and they will direct you to your closest medical clinic where you can get checked out. If you'd prefer to speak to a person well versed in the topic of sexual assault you can also call their number, 800-230-7526. They are open 24/7.

      There are a few online sites that might help you get a sense of what's going on. The Rape and Incest National Network is a great organization that can help you during this time.  Their website is www.rainn.org, and they also have a phone number which is 800-656-4673. They can help provide counseling services and talk to you about what happened.

      Thank you again for contacting teenline,

      a TEEN LINE teen
    • I have social anxiety disorder.
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      I have social anxiety disorder.

      13 year old, Female, WV

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I have social anxiety disorder, and I also am the laughing stock of my class. (Even when I had good grades, people would still make fun of me). My dad beat up my mom twice, and I helped her both times, yet she won’t show me the least bit of compassion saying that: I ”don’t support her either”. I am also really sensitive, and it doesn’t really work well with the anxiety. My friends aren’t really the most compassionate people either, so I don’t really have anybody to talk to. Even if I hate my life so much I am too scared to cut myself. Please help?

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Dear _____,

      Thank you so much for reaching out to TEEN LINE, it is very brave of you. It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed because people are being mean to you and aren't supporting you in the most helpful way. You said that you don't really have anybody to talk to and I was wondering if there is any that you would feel safe going to such as a trusted friend or adult, a parent, teacher, school counselor or anyone else that you feel could best support you through this uneasy time. You mention that your dad beat up your mom and that is not ok for anyone to physically harm another person. It must be difficult having that responsibility to care for your mom and it is very courageous of you to help her. I would recommend contacting DCFS (Department of Child & Family Services) and their goal is to keep families safe. Their phone number is 800-540-4000. If you are ever in a moment where you feel unsafe then you can always call 911. Some ways to cope with any uneasy feelings could be writing in a journal, exercising, writing or anything else that may relieve stress. If you ever want to talk you can call into TEEN LINE. The number is (310) 855-4672 and we are open from 6:00-10:00 PM PST every night. 

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I am going through a really tough time.
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      I am going through a really tough time.

      14 year old, Female, CA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I am going through a really tough time, and I’m always so depressed. It has gotten to the point where I lay in bed and cry for hours for absolutely no reason. I can’t tell my parents because they think I crave attention,  and my dad really scares me sometimes. I don’t know what to do. Help?

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Thanks so much for reaching out to us at TEEN LINE, I can imagine you are going through such a difficult time right now and I'm glad you have opened up to someone about this. It sounds like you are going through so much right now, and dealing with a lot of things at one time can be overwhelming. Feeling depressed but not knowing the cause of feeling that way can be really frustrating and tiring and it's probably even harder when you aren't able to talk to people about how you feel. Keeping all of those emotions and thoughts inside is so strong of you and I think it's great that you emailed into TEEN LINE so you can talk to someone about it.

      You also mentioned your dad scares you. That worries me when you say that because your dad shouldn't be a person to cause such feeling. Even though you’re not able to respond to this email, I want to ask you does he ever get aggressive and hurt you or your mom? If he does then I highly encourage you to check out some resources I have for you. But before I do so, have you ever thought of talking to a school counselor, favorite teacher, or trusted adult/relative about what you’re going through. Those are some great resources to look out for that could help guide you through this. In addition, what kinds of things do you love doing that helps take your mind off of feeling depressed? Maybe its a sport or activity like dance, writing, art, or playing an instrument...?! If that doesn't help I would highly encourage you to call us at Teen Line to talk through how your feeling in more depth. Our hours are from 6-10 pm and our number is 310-855-4673. Back to subject of your dad. If you feel like you need to talk to someone about how he makes you feel afraid and if anything more is going on I would highly suggest you check out the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline or Website. Even if you think your father isn't causing any harm, I still think  it would be good for you  to check the resource out so you can at least be aware of his behavior and how he scares you. Their hotline is open 24/7 and their number is 800-422-4453 and their website it is www.childhelp.org. Lastly, if you need to talk to someone about your depression or if you are ever feeling suicidal and we aren't available, the suicide prevention hotline is a great resource and their number is 800- 784-2433. I hope all of this helps and once again thanks for reaching out to us!

    • What would you do if you were constantly being harassed
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      What would you do if you were constantly being harassed

      17 year old, Female

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
      What would you do if you were constantly being harassed and abused by one of your 'ex-friends' at school and Online and the whole argument has gone way to far and is now at the point where your school principle and their mother are involved and have blamed the whole thing on you when really you're the victim? Please don't say go to your parents or family because I have tried that and they didn't really help.... :/

      TEEN LINE WROTE:
      Hey,
      I am so glad you contacted TEEN LINE. Wow, that sounds like a really difficult situation. That must be so frustrating and hurtful. Bullying, and even cyber bullying, happens a lot and it is important that you know you are not alone. It sounds like you are overwhelmed by all this and that you really want it to be over. Understandably, you are upset that you are being blamed, when in fact you have done nothing wrong.
      You said you are not willing to talk to your parents and I wonder if there is someone who would be willing to talk to instead, maybe your school guidance counselor or a teacher you get along with. It could be really beneficial to talk to someone about how you are feeling, especially someone involved in your school. You might want to try writing in a journal, it could really help you express all you emotions. Maybe you could also temporarily limit your online activity with the goal of taking yourself out of the situation of possibly being bullied online. This will give you a chance to recover from all these hurtful feelings.
      I also encourage you to call us here at TEEN LINE. Our number is 310 855 4673 and we are open from 6 to 10 pm PST. Or you can chat with us at www.teenlineonline.org.

      a TEEN LINE teen

  • Depression & Suicide

    • Since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.
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      Since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.

      15 year old, Female, CA 

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My problem is, since I was 12 years old I have been depressed and suicidal.
      I just don’t see the point to life or happiness anymore and I’ve lost all interest in things I used to really enjoy doing.I barely eat or talk and I never sleep. I just can’t.I don’t know why, either. I have a really loving, caring family and I have a lot of friends but I just feel like if I wasn’t there, no one would really care. I seem to upset people in my friendship group just by existing and today, I told a person I thought was my closest friend about how I was feeling. He simply said ”If you committed suicide, I wouldn’t really care.” that thought has bugged me all day and I have just noticed how unimportant I am.

      I want to die and I am going to whether I get advice or not. Advice may keep me a few days longer but I want to do it quickly, with minimum and as soon as possible.
      I am afraid of death, I am an atheist and I don’t know what is beyond death. I hate pain and blood but I really want to get out of this world as soon as possible.
      Please help me…

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Hi,

      Thanks for contacting Teen Line. It sounds like you have depressed for awhile and you feel kind of numb. Sometimes, when you feel really alone internally you may have trouble associating with those around you. Another factor that could hinder in your ability to trust in friendships is insensitive comments like the one you mentioned your friend making. I can imagine feeling deeply upset and angered by people's inconsideration and I understand how it may feel like they aren't supportive at all. What really concerns me is the extent of your desire to commit suicide. It seems like you are intent on killing yourself and that is worrisome, because suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I'm sorry you’re going through this emotional isolation and anxiety but it can get better.

      First, I think you could try making new friends who you enjoy being with and make you feel loved/supported. If this numbness you said you experience continues then you could think about exploring your passions, to feel more fulfilled. If you want to talk to another teen you can call Teen Line 6-10 PM PST at 310-855-4673 in a non-judgmental place. Also, I really want to encourage you to call the Suicidal Prevention Hotline at 877-727-4747 available 24/7 for more information and referrals regarding these really serious urges you've been having. You mentioned how you hate pain and blood and I want you to know that suicide is not the only option to escape your pain.
      a TEEN LINE teen

    • There's Nothing Selfish About Suicide
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      There's Nothing Selfish About Suicide

      50-75% of people who attempt suicide will tell someone about their intention. Listen when people talk. Make eye contact. Convey empathy. And for the love of people everywhere, put down that ridiculous not-so-SmartPhone and be human. CLICK HERE 

      Robin Williams

    • I know that I have depression since nothing seems to make me feel happy.
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      I know that I have depression since nothing seems to make me feel happy.

      15 year old, Female, NJ

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      Hello Teen Line. I just wanted to start off by saying this website is great way to deal with problems and be heard. I know that I have depression since nothing seems to make me feel happy anymore. I always wondered why that was, and I came to the conclusion that people have their own problems to worry about. I just want someone to tell me that everything will be okay even though I sometimes don’t believe it will be. I have tried cutting, but I never had the guts to do it; Just running the blade over my skin. I am a depressed girl who is scared of a blade rather than death. I seem to laugh at myself a lot these days. I don’t even know what the point of writing this was,maybe it was because I just need to know that someone cares. I guess my question to you is: what can I do to be happy again?

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hi, __________.

      Firstly, thank you for contacting Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to open up about such personal struggles  but I'm glad you chose to reach out to Teen Line, a program that exists to help teens like yourself, who deserve to be heard. It must be so frustrating to feel as if no one is willing to listen to you, and that you have to keep your emotions bottled up. Even though you feel pathetic for wanting to harm yourself but being unable to do so, to me, that simply shows how strong you are & that you realize you deserve better. There's nothing pathetic about dealing with such intense feelings. If you have anyone that you're comfortable talking to about these things, for example a friend or a trusted adult, doing so could help provide the support you need. Journaling about your feelings could be an excellent outlet for you. The Teen Line Message Boards also provide a forum where you can share your story and gather support from other teens. You can also contact Teen Line (310-855-4673) to talk to one of our trained teens, on any day of the week between the hours of 6 pm and 10 pm.

       

      Again, thank you for contacting Teen Line. I hope that you're able to continue using the strength that you applied when sending this email.

      -a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • I have lost all control of my life.
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      I have lost all control of my life.

      17 year old, Male, NJ 

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I have lost all control of my life. What if I’m a failure? It has been 2 years now since I last engaged in self injury. I feel so miserable and I want to regain control of my life. Lately it seems like self harm has been on my mind. I'm thinking about my future, my parents success in their life, their expectations of me. I always felt like I'm useless and like I won’t succeed in life. I constantly worry about letting my parents down. I do not want to be depressed anymore. Please

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hi _____,

      Thank you for contacting Teen Line and opening up to us. I know the questions and thoughts you have can seem daunting, I think that almost everyone feels this way. The future can seem scary. You also mentioned that you have cut in the past; it is very strong of you for having to stopped. I can imagine that the urge to start again must be very conflicting. I'm wondering how you are coping now that you've stopped cutting? Also have you shared these thoughts with any else? Sometimes talking to a trusted adult such as a school counselor, teacher, coach or parents can help you feel better and understand your feelings in a new way. Also I encourage you to talk to friends and relatives.

      I encourage you to check out Teen Line message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/

      you can talk to other teens about your questions and thoughts and maybe find out if they share the same worries.

      you can also check out http://self-injury.net/ for support with stopping cutting.

      Hope this helps

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I am 12 years old and want to die.
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      I am 12 years old and want to die.

       12 years old, Female, AZ

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I am 12 years old and want to die.  I'm am sick of everyone telling me that I'm ugly and worthless. I just want to cut and never stop. I have done it before, and it felt so nice. I am very unhappy with my life which makes me want to end it At times I think that if I die then people around me might actually care Please help me.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi _______,

      Thanks so much for reaching out. I'm really concerned about you. It sounds like you're going through a tough time, but I want you to know that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Even though I don't know you, I bet that there are people who care about you and would be sad if you were not around. If you're feeling suicidal, then I would strongly encourage you to call the suicide prevention hotline: 877-727-4747 (open 24 hours/day).

      You mentioned that you have been cutting to deal with what you're going through. I want you to know that there are healthier ways to cope. You could try the Butterfly Project, where you draw a butterfly on the area you self harm in representation of someone you care about. If you self harm, the butterfly dies; if you don't, it lives. You could also try taking a cold or hot shower, exercise, journal, or do something you love (singing, playing a sport, drawing, listening to music, etc.) -- these things may help you during times when you want to relieve your emotions or stress.

      Please feel free to call us at Teen Line where you can discuss all this further with a trusted teen: 310-855-4673 (6PM-10PM) PST, and/or check out our message boards. You said that you hate your life, but I want you to trust that it will get better. Continue to reach out for help...

      Warmly,

      a TEEN LINE Teen

       

    • I am feeling angry and sad.
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      I am feeling angry and sad.

      18 year old, Male, PA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I am feeling angry and sad all time lately.  I do not know how to control it. Please help, what should I do?

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hi ______,

      Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE and sharing how you have been feeling lately.  It was brave of you to reach out and contact us.  It must be so hard to constantly feel angry and sad all the time because you do not deserve to feel this way.  It seems really difficult having these feelings but not knowing how to handle your emotions.  You deserve to feel happy, and I am wondering if there is anyone you can talk to about how you have been feeling.  If there is close friend, trusted adult, and close relative that you could talk to, you may find the comfort and support you deserve at this time.  A support system is so important, and talking to someone may help you relieve your anger and sadness and help you at this time.  You can also search online to find a counselor or therapist that lives near you in Pennsylvania to talk to someone confidentially for free.  Whenever you are feeling really low or sad or angry I encourage you to do something that makes you truly happy.  Exercising, dancing, singing, journaling, sketching, or listening to music may help you feel better and temporarily release your anger and or sadness.  You are also welcome to call TEEN LINE from 6-10 pm PST at (310)- 855-4673 and talk to a teen about everything you are going through.  You can also check out http://teenlineonline.org/boards/, a teen forum where teens can post about what is going on in their lives.  You can read other stories, post your own, and see that other teens are feeling similar feeling that you are feeling.  I hope these resources help you at this time.

       

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • My girlfriend is very sick.
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      My girlfriend is very sick.

      17 year old, Male, FL

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My girlfriend is very sick, please help me. I don’t  want to lose her and she can’t see a doctor because we are  both afraid of splitting up.  We live far away and I can’t live without her. My girlfriend does not know what is wrong with her medically, but she was born premature. I live in Florida and she lives in Alabama and although we have only dated for a year I know I want to propose to her in the near future. I had a terrible past and she came to me and saved me. If she dies I’ll take my life and join her. I cant live a day without her.

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hi ­­­­­_______,

      Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It sounds like you are very in love with your girlfriend but at the same time feeling terrified because she is sick and you are scared of what happen in the future. It is always hard when someone you love with all your heart is sick and you are unsure about what might happen. It can be hard because you don't have any control over the situation and you feel like you want to do everything to help them. It sounds like from the description you have written that your relationship with your girlfriend is so strong and you have a bond with her that you treasure. You mentioned in your email that you would end your life if she passes. Ending your life would not help the situation, all the people that love you would be in such grief and will always wonder what they could have done  to help change your mind. I wonder if you ever talked to anyone about this, maybe talking to a close friend or trusted adult would help.I really want to encourage you to call into our hotline at 310-855-4673,we are open every day from 6-10(pst). We also have something called teenlineonline.org. It is a website where other teens write and read other peoples experiences and stories and support each other.I also recommend that you call into the suicide prevention hotline at 877-727-4747, they are open everyday 24/7. You are such a strong person standing by your girlfriend through this rough time, don't ever forget that. Have a great night.

       

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • I've had a rough year so far.
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      I've had a rough year so far.

      13 year old, Female, OR

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I’ve had a rough year so far. I left my mother because she basically chose drugs and her abusive boyfriend over myself and my siblings. My life is so difficult because of this and I do not know what to do. Lately, I have been thinking about self-harm and suicide.

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hey ­­­­­_______,

      Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. It is really brave of you to share what is going on. I am really sorry to hear about how hard your year as been. It is so hard to feel neglected by a parent at such a young age especially if she chooses drugs and an abusive boyfriend like your mom has. It takes a strong, tough person to go through something like what you are going through. It also saddens me to hear that you are thinking of self-harm and suicide. I strongly urge you not to do either of those as you are a much better girl and don't deserve to resort to either one of those. I recommend you find another way to cope with your sadness, such as writing in a journal, exercising, or squeezing something. I also want to let you know that life will get better, so stay strong.

      I want to make sure that you are somewhere safe as you had to leave your mom, if you are not please call the National Runaway Safeline at (800) 786-2929 right away to get help. If you are ever thinking of suicide please call the Suicide Hotline at (877) 727-4747. It also may be helpful to call Department of Child and Family Services at (800) 422-4453. You are also free to call into us at TEEN LINE anytime from 6 pm to 10 pm at (310) 855-4673. You can also post on our message boards at http://www.teenlineonline.org/boards/.

       

    • I've been in different stages of depression.
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      I've been in different stages of depression.

      17 year old, Male, NM

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      Hello Teen Line, the simple act of writing this message is a great relief to me. I have been in different stages of depression. For the past 4 years now I have encountered many problems and I just don’t know what to do. It all started 4 years ago when my mother had come out of the closet. My parents were never married and I had been originally spending weekdays with mom and weekends with dad. However,  when my mother came out my whole life rocked and shifted. She had fallen madly in love with her partner, sometimes leaving me 4 or 5 nights out of the week at my grandmother’s house so she can go see her. I felt so alone and abandoned but my grandmother comforted me. This went on for about two years, until she announced that she and her partner had bought a house together. I was quickly taken away to the next town over where I was miserable at the new house. Although I was in the same house as my mother I still felt ignored because she would never leave her partner's side. It got to the point that I told her I couldn't handle it anymore, and had the visitation rights revised so I could spend a week at my dad’s and a week with my mom. Overall I was still very unhappy and It got to the point where I had contemplated suicide. In addition to all of my family problems and thoughts of suicide I have come to discover my sexual orientation. At first I thought I was bisexual but actually now I am leaning towards being gay. I am so ashamed and I cannot tell anyone because I am scared that people won’t like me. Despite everything I feel that this message has given me tremendous help in the sense that someone might read it and I will not be the only one in the world who knows these things. Even if you cannot offer advice I am at ease because at least someone will read it. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you and the entire organization.

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hey ____,

      I'd first like to thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line and I wanted to let you know that you are so brave for reaching out. I'm so glad that writing to us has given you some relief and we are more than happy to provide support to you during this time. You mentioned that your depression has been going on for four years and it started when your mom came out and you also said it has gotten worse since she moved in with her partner, from what you're saying it sounds like you feel alone and everyone deserves to be acknowledged and heard. I'm so sorry you felt so alone or miserable and I wanted you to know that you are so strong for fighting through all of this. Some websites I suggest you take a look at are:  http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2  This one is about   parents, families, friends, and allies for LGBT people, since you mentioned you felt like you couldn't tell anyone about your sexuality. Another thing I suggest is that you find a reliable support group since you feel so alone. If there's a trusted friend, a family therapist, or a school counselor you can confide in them I highly suggest you do so. You said that your belief in God has stopped you in the past from suicide but if those thoughts become too overpowering you definitely should call the suicide prevention hotline which is open 24 hours and they can be reached at 877-727-4747. If you need anymore support you can definitely call in at 310-855-4673 anytime between 6-10 pm PST. Or you can always visit our message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/. I'm so sorry it took us two days to respond to your email and I hope I've been helpful.

      Best,

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I have been self-harming for 2 months.
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      I have been self-harming for 2 months.

      13 year old, Female, FL

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I need help! I have been self- harming for 2 months every single  day. Only 4 people know about it; my mother, grandmother and 2 close friends are aware of my problem. I just need help and some encouragement so I can stop. It is so difficult to stop because cutting is like a drug and your body wants it more and more.....

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hi _______,

      Thank you so much for reaching out to Teen Line.  It sounds like you have been going through a lot lately and have been using cutting as a way to cope with everything that is going on.  I want you to know that I am very worried about you and I strongly urge you to call the Teen Line Hotline at (310) 855-4673 6-10 pm PST.  You will be able to talk to another teen about everything that is going on and how you have been feeling lately.  Additionally, I am wondering if you have heard of the Butterfly Project athttp://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/  It is a great way to stop the urge to cut.  Some other coping mechanisms you can also try are the  following: journaling,  listening to music, going on a walk and much more.  You can also check out the website www.self-injury.net  where you will get more information and support in relation to self-injury.  Lastly, I am wondering if you have checked out the Teen Line Message Boards at https://teenlineonline.org/boards/  You will be able to hear from other teens around your age who are going through similar problems which may be alike to you.  Thanks again for contacting Teen Line and I really hope that some of the referrals above will be helpful.  :)

      a TEEN LINE teen

  • Drugs & Alcohol

    • My life at home isn't so great at the moment.
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      My life at home isn't so great at the moment.

      16 year old, Female, NJ

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My life at home isn't so great at the moment. My dad has developed an alcoholic addiction due to depression. Fast forward to 3 years later and the situation has not improved. He comes home drunk every day after work and fights with my mom. It’s really sad that my little 11 year old sister has to hear all the yelling and see my mom cry afterwards. My dad has tried reaching out for help at addiction centers but he never stays for more than a few weeks. I'm embarrassed of him because of the way he acts when he's drunk in front of our neighbors and people in public. One time he embarrassed me in front of a friend from school when she came over to work on a project. And another time, he almost got us into a fatal car accident while driving to a school event at a science center. I don't speak with him much now because I feel like I lost him as a dad a while ago, and he's a stranger to me now.
      My father’s alcohol abuse is not the only problem in my family right now. My little sister was recently diagnosed with ADHD and she takes medication to help her stay focused in school, but at home she acts really aggressive towards me. She always picks up a fight with me over the silliest things, even when I ignore her. When my mom hears her fighting, she yells at me and I get in trouble for something I had nothing to do with. When my boyfriend comes over, my sister is super disrespectful towards me and treats me like garbage. Sometimes, she curses and tries to hit me. It really hurts that she has no consideration for her big sister, especially since I've been taking care of her while my dad struggles to get better.
      People have noticed that I've lost weight and it makes me uncomfortable to hear that since I already have body image issues. I've been trying to distract myself by doing other things but nothing seems to help. I haven't talked with the guidance counselors at my school because I feel like they can't do much to help,It feels as if  I have to deal with this by myself. I start my senior year of high school this fall, and I want to make the right choices and move ahead with my life.

       

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hi ____,

      Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE and sharing what has been going on in your life recently.  It was so brave of you to reach out and contact us.  It really seems like so much has been happening lately, and you do not deserve to be going through all of this.  It must be so hard to see your dad come home drunk and fight with your mom, especially knowing that your younger sister also sees this happening.  You must feel embarrassed of your dad's behavior in public, and it seems like you have been really affected by your dad's behavior.  You do not deserve to feel as if you have lost your dad; I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this.  It also seems really annoying that your sister has been picking fights with you over the silliest things and treats you like garbage.  It is so admirable of you for taking take of your sister right now and it must be so hard to see her treating you so poorly.

      You do not deserve to be going through all of this alone right now, and I am wondering if there is anyone you can talk to about what has been happening.  You mentioned that you feel as if your guidance counselors will be no help for you, but maybe there is someone else you can confide in.  Talking to a close friend, trusted adult, or close relative may help you receive the support the comfort you deserve right now.  You can also search the Internet to find a therapist that lives around you to talk to someone for free confidentially.  You deserve to be happy at home, and I encourage you to check out http://al-anon.org/how-to-find-a-meeting, a resource that offers support for individuals with family members that have drinking struggles.  You can attend an Al-Anon meeting near you, share your experiences that you have had with your dad, and learn effective coping mechanisms to deal with your dad's behavior.  You can see that you are not alone right now and other teens have family members that have drinking issues.  If you are not comfortable talking to someone, you may find relief in journaling, exercising, singing, dancing, listening to music, playing a game, or sketching.  Doing something that truly makes you happy make help you at this time.  You are also welcome to call TEEN LINE any night from 6-10 pm PST at (310) 855-4673 and talk to a teen about everything that has been going on lately.  You also mentioned having to deal with body image issues.  You deserve to start your senior year on a good note, and I hope these options help you.

      -A Teen Line Teen

       

    • I've been having really bad drug cravings.
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      I've been having really bad drug cravings.

      16 year old, Female, TX

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      So I have been having really bad drug cravings and flash backs of doing my D.O.C (meth) and today I was in a flash back for 45 mins smoking an e-cig like it was a meth pipe. In this flashback I was rocking the e-cig while i was hitting it and now i am craving drugs really bad I don’t want to do it because I am just getting my life back together and on track. I talked to a military recruiters today and I have really been buckling down to graduate on time because I am really behind on all my school work. . When I have these cravings it really tears me to shreds because I almost ruined my life with those drugs and I have such high goals for life and I want to be in the military and get my Ph.D in Psychology. I am scared one day I am not going to be able to control my flash back , or mistake a flash back with real life. I guess what I’m trying to ask for is if you have any ideas on how I could figure out a way to force myself out of a flashback? I do have a therapist and a psychiatrist and they have given me a lot of great ideas like grounding techniques and color counting. (where you count as many colors as you can see in the room) However, these strategies have not really helped. I would just greatly appreciate any help I can get. Thank you for your time and your response.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out to Teen Line. It sounds like your flashbacks are really scary. Not knowing what is real and what is not can be really awful. I am so sorry that you are going through that. I want you to know that the longer you go without using, the flashbacks and cravings will become less and less. Your brain literally has to re-program itself and adjust, but it will happen. It may feel at times like it won't get better, but I assure you that it will if you do not use. In the meantime, it will be important for you to get support during this time. It's great that you have a therapist. I think that the grounding techniques are the best way for you to be present and get out of a flashback. Sometimes they are too powerful and will take over, but other times they may be shortened or you will prohibit them completely. Listening to the sounds you hear in the room can help bring you back. Sometimes it's even helpful to put an ice cube in your hand, because the intense cold can bring you back to the moment. Are you in a recovery program like AA or CMA? Those are great for support and to keep you on the path of sobriety. You may want to reach out to other teens who have gone through drug issues on our message boards. The website is:

      https://teenlineonline.org/boards/

      Or you can always call us at 310-855-4673 between the hours of 6-10 pm PST.

      Thanks and take care,

    • My father has tried to stop smoking recently.
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      My father has tried to stop smoking recently.

      15 year old, Female,  VT

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My father has tried to stop smoking recently. Ever since he’s stopped smoking (cold turkey) he has been acting crazy. He lashes at me verbally and at times he acts bipolar.
      He also blurts out the most random things like: ’I hate humans,’ ’What’s the point of living?’ and ’Why don’t you go live with your mom and leave me the hell alone. (My mother abandoned the both of us when I was three years old to become a prostitute.)

      He always tells people to go f*** themselves, and also tells me this. Today he almost got arrested because he was aggressive to police officers. .I’m becoming very depressed from how he’s acting and I need some advice of how to deal with this.
      Please help?  I do not know what to do anymore

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi _______,

      Thank you for contacting Teen Line.  I can imagine that you are going through a difficult time right now.  It sounds like you're feeling very confused and distressed about your dad.  It is understandable that you feel depressed because of how he is talking to you.  I can imagine that you must feel hurt because all the negative things he's saying.

      Have you gone online and seen what it's like to quit smoking?  One of the online support groups are www.quitnet.com, which you can go on to find out more information about quitting.

      Also, have you talked to a trusted adult about it or maybe one of your friends? They are great help and sources of comfort.  Writing journals are also a great way to help put your feelings on paper and out of your head.  Do you have a hobby that you like doing, such as exercising or playing a musical instrument?  If you ever feel down after your dad screams at you, you can use your hobby as an outlet to your pain.  Don't hesitate to contact us at Teen Line at (310) 855-4673 from 6PM-10PM PST available 7 days a week.

      Best wishes,

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • Lately, I have felt like no one is there for me when I need it.
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      Lately, I have felt like no one is there for me when I need it.

      14 years old, Female, NC

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

       Lately, I have felt like no one is there for me when I need it. I feel as if… I have no one and all everyone wants to do is bring me down. Every depression test I have taken has said that I have severe depression. Recently I met a guy who I thought loved me for me, but he just lead me on and left me soon after.

      I already have problems at home with my dad because he is an alcoholic. It does not help that I have been bullied since the second grade for no reason at all. I started high school last year and many kids at my school do not like me. I try to be this happy person but I am tired of hiding the scars on my body. I have cut almost everywhere and even on the side of my neck. I have attempted suicide about 4 times and occasionally I smoke with my friends to relieve stress. I seriously need help! I just want to talk to someone that understands.

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Hi ________,

      Thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. I'm so sorry that you have had such a hard time. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help and it sounds like you have been in pain (emotionally and physically) for a long time. I can't imagine living with an alcoholic dad, dealing with a broken heart and having to deal with bullies. I hope you can find someone to talk to like a counselor or another adult?  It concerns me that you are taking it out on yourself by cutting. You can always call Teen Line and talk with one of us. There is also"cutting" information and support ww.self-injury.net. There is also a bullying website www.bullying.org and of course you can always contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline 24hrs if you are feeling really vulnerable 877-727-4747.

      You are strong (just writing your email is proof of strength) and you are not alone.

       a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • My mom is an alcoholic
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      My mom is an alcoholic

      17 year old, Male, FL

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
      My mom is an alcoholic and I just want her to stop. Our relationship is terrible, and I don;t know what to do. My step dad is the same, and won't say anything to her.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:
      Hi, I'm so glad that you contacted us here at TEEN LINE. It sounds like you're feeling anxious about your mom's drinking, as well as your relationship with her. It is never easy to deal with a parent who is also an alcoholic, because their drinking affects their relationship with you, and as a result affects you directly. It is even harder to deal with it alone. I am wondering if you have a trusted adult you could talk to about your situation, such as a relative, teacher, or school counselor. Sometimes talking to a third-party can help you gain insight on your situation, as well as weigh whatever options you have. I also want to give you the number to Alateen, a twelve-step program designed for relatives and friends of alcoholics. Their number is (757) 563-1600, and their website is http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/. It might benefit you to look into local meetings. If you want to talk to us some more, TEEN LINE is open seven days a week from six to ten PM PST. Our number is (310) 855-4673. We are here to listen.

      a TEEN LINE listener

    • My mom has been drinking ALOT
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      My mom has been drinking ALOT

      13 year old, Female, NV

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
      My mom has been drinking ALOT. I hate it when she does. She spends all of the family money on it. Shes always drunk. SHe leaves for 6 hours at a time at night. She smells like vodka HORRIBLY. I have to hold my breath around her. She wont stop. None of our family will come over because they dont want her to drink so i never get to see brothers or sisters or nieces... I am embarrassed when friends come over because she smells up the whole house and acts insane... I am so done with it and I dont know what to do...

      TEEN LINE WROTE:
      Hi,
      Thanks for contacting TEEN LINE. It sounds like you're very frustrated with your mother. An alcoholic's lifestyle effects them and the people around them tremendously, and from your email, it seems that you have definitely been exposed to some negatives of your mother's dependence. Have you discussed her behavior with another family member? Maybe with open communication your family can work on getting your mother help. Your mom's alcoholism is not a shameful topic, in fact many kids have parents that struggle with it. They even have programs dedicated to teens in your situation. Alateen is a mutual support group for teens who know alcoholics, and they have locations all around the nation. Here's the website http://www.nevadaal-anon.org/alateenhome.html where you can get information and find a meeting near you. I also encourage you to call us at TEEN LINE to talk. Our number is 310-855-4673, and we are open every day from 6-10pm PST. I hope you know that no matter what you are not alone.

      a TEEN LINE listener

  • Eating Disorders

    • I feel like I am too fat
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      I feel like I am too fat

      17 year old, Female, Canada

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I feel like I am too fat for anything. So many people including my friends say I am skinny, and that my body looks great. However, deep down I feel ugly and fat. I often complain about my weight and how unhappy I am with my shape. I tried everything to get rid of  my extra belly fat but it won’t go away. My mom agrees and she thinks I could lose a few pounds. What can I do? This has affected me so much, and I feel I am too ugly to even have a boyfriend. I always turn down any potential guy because of my insecurities. I feel that if a guy asks me out it would be as a joke. Please Help me.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Thank you for contacting TEEN LINE. I am so sad about what are you are going through and how you don't feel comfortable with your body. Having your friends not agree with you can get annoying and frustrating. It also makes me really sad that your mom does not support you. You don't deserve to be treated like this. You can try talking to your friends and explain to them how you feel, so they understand you. Also, don't forget that appearances aren't everything. What also matters is what is inside like your personality. You sound like a great girl and who deserves people in your life that make you happy. You mentioned about your eating and I am concerned that you may not be eating healthy. If you would like to check out resources that deal with this you can go to www.nationaleatingdisorders.org. If you just want to talk about this you can contact TEEN LINE at 310-855-4673. You can also post on the TEEN LINE Message boards, which is a teen forum where teens can talk to other teens with similar situations. I hope everything goes well and thank you for contacting TEEN LINE!

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I have been depressed for a while.
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      I have been depressed for a while.

      15 year old, Female, FL

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I have been depressed for a while. I reached my limit, to the point where I will stop eating. I can’t look at myself in the mirror and I do not consider myself to be pretty. Ever since I was in the sixth grade my biological mother taunts me about my weight. I have been going through so much lately, and since December I have been eating on and off. I lost thirty pounds but today when I weighed myself it shows that I gained back ten pounds. I do not know what to do. I still feel horrible inside and out; everyone is worried about me including myself

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hello _____,

      I want to thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone about this. It sounds like you are feeling very upset about your body and your weight. You mentioned that your feelings have started to affect your eating habits. I imagine that it must be very hard for you not to think that you are pretty, and to have your mother taunt you about your weight. I wanted to let you know that what your mother is doing is not okay and that nothing that you could do would make you deserve to be treated like this. You mentioned that you lost 30 pounds by eating on and off. I wanted to let you know that eating disorders can be dangerous and can have long term effects on your health. It must be so scary for you to have so many people including yourself worried about you and your eating habits. Sometimes talking to a trusted friend or adult can be helpful to sort out your feelings. If you don’t have someone in your life you feel you could talk to about this, you can always call in to Teen Line. We are open from 6 pm-10 pm PST. The number to call is 310-855-4673. We also have a message board on our website that you could post on to talk with other teens facing similar issues. If you want to talk more about your eating habits, you can contact the National Eating Disorder Association. They are open from 9am to 5 pm EST. Their number is 800-931-2337. I really encourage you to call in to this hotline because they have great resources and provide valuable support.

      Best Wishes,

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I have an eating disorder and depression...
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      I have an eating disorder and depression...

      15 year old, Female

      TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I need serious help. I have an eating disorder and many other too along with depression and self harm. I stress about everything and experience anxiety/anger attacks almost daily. I can’t talk to my parents about & the only people trust are friends I met online. I can only meet my best friend in four years, that is if one of us doesn’t kill ourselves. I have big dreams but I’m not talented enough to achieve them. Everything keeps getting worse. I’ve tried to kill myself twice. One of them was two days ago. I don’t know what to do. My life has no meaning and I have no reason to stay. Please help me if possible

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi ______,

      Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line, it takes a lot of courage to open up about how you're feeling and what you're going through.  It sounds like you've been going through some very overwhelming times.  I can only imagine just how much stress you've been under, from coping with your eating disorder, depression, anxiety and anger attacks, and self harm.  I'm so sorry to hear that you can't talk to your parents about what you're going through, but I'm glad that you trust the friends you've met online.  Would you ever consider opening up to them about what you're going through?  I'm really concerned about you,  and I want to make sure that you're okay.  Although self harm is a way to cope with all your pain, there are other possible ways to cope, and I'm wondering if you'd be willing to try them.  For example, I'm wondering if you've heard about the Butterfly Project?  To read more about it in detail, you can check out: http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com/.  In short, you would draw a butterfly on the part of your body where you would normally self harm, and name it after someone who cares about you.  Then, when you feel like self harming, you can look down at wherever you would harm yourself, and remember that someone in your life loves you and cares about you, and wants you to get better.  Also, www.self-injury.net is another great place to find information and support on self-harm.

      I'm wondering if you've ever tried physical exercise, listening to music, or journaling about how you're feeling?  Those activities or other activities similar to those can often help keep you occupied, which can help you cope with everything.  I hear you not trusting a lot of people, but being able to talk about how you're feeling is really important.  If you' ever feel like everything gets too unbearable and you're thinking of committing suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline and (800)784- 2433, where someone will always be able to help you.   You've been going through so much, but the fact that you're reaching out for help like you just did, is an AMAZING first step.  If you ever want to talk to someone about your eating disorder, you can always call the National Eating Disorder Association at (800) 931- 2237, open M-F 9am-5pm EST.  Also, if you ever want to talk to a teen about what you're going through, please feel free to call our hotline at (310) 855-4673, open 6-10pm PST.

      Hang in there.

      Sincerely,

      a TEEN LINE teen
    • I have depression and anxiety.
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      I have depression and anxiety.

      14 year old, Female, MA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I have depression and anxiety. I take medication for both, but nothing helps. Every day all I can think about is death. Nothing good ever happens to me and if something good does happen, it immediately gets knocked down again by something bad. I’m not pretty or skinny like the girls at my school. They’re all happy, rich, have boyfriends and good looking bodies. I’m sick of looking at my disgusting body and my repulsive self. Nobody even cares about me or how I feel. I just want my life To be over.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi ______,

      There is so much going on in your life right now, and I really want to thank you for emailing us. It sounds like you are feeling really alone and like you have no one to talk to, which I know can be really difficult.  Feeling like no one is there for you when you are always there for others is really disappointing and discouraging. It seems like you are comparing yourself to people quite a lot, and I know how painful that can be.  I know its hard to see people and think, why can't my life be more like theirs or why can't I be more like them, but sometimes, people who look like they have it together are really having a hard time. You mentioned that you are feeling suicidal and I have to say, that really worries me.  I'm wondering if there is anything you like to do that really makes you happy, like a sport you really enjoy or a club at school you are passionate about.  I'm wondering if there is anything else you could do to help you cope, like write in a journal or draw.  Sometimes it helps to just get your feelings out on paper.  I also really want to encourage you to speak with a trusted adult about how you are feeling.  Someone like a parent or maybe an aunt or uncle you are close with, if you would feel comfortable doing so.  You can also call the suicide prevention hotline.  They are open 24/7 and their number is 877-727-4747.  Feel free to call us as well.  We are open everyday from 6pm to 10pm PST and our number is (310) 855-4673.

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • I just can't cope like this on my own anymore.
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      I just can't cope like this on my own anymore.

      14 years old, Female, United Kingdom

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      i self harm, run away, push away my friends and family, always put depressing statuses on facebook, have suicidal thoughs, and starve well ’try’ to starve myself, i just cant cope like this on my own anymore and i think its time to come out of my closet and tell someone so i looked at chat rooms on the internet and i found this, can you help me?

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi ______,

      Thank you so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, and it must be so difficult having those thoughts often, and that can be very frustrating. I know you say you have felt like killing yourself, and maybe it's hard to see that your family, friends and other people really care about you. Also, its good to remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Have you tried talking to someone trusted about this? Someone like a family member, a school counselor, a good friend, therapist, etc? It is really important to talk to someone face to face about this and let your emotions out, because it can be really beneficial in a positive way and I really care about your well-being. I want to refer you to www.self-injury.net, which can help you with your cutting. For when you want to run away, I encourage you to check out http://makerunawayssafe.org.uk/ and they can help you make safe decisions the next time you might want to run away. And about wanting to starve yourself, I want to refer you to www.nationaleatingdisorders.org. You can also call the Samaritans when you are feeling suicidal, and they are available to you 24 hours a day and their number is 08457 90 90 90*, and they do charge. Here at TEEN LINE we also have a great thing called messageboards, at www.teenlineonline.org/boards and it is something where you can read and respond to people dealing with a similar situation as you. Thank you so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE, and it is a big step forward into helping you solve your situation.

      a TEEN LINE teen
    • There’s times where I feel like I’m not important
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      There’s times where I feel like I’m not important

      13 year old, Female, NC

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      There’s times where I feel like I’m not important and I feel like committing suicide  so I can leave this world.  I have problems about my body and I'm always thinking of other ways to kill my self.  What can I do?

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Hey _______,

      I'm so glad you contacted us at TEEN LINE. It sounds like you're feeling very overwhelmed and upset, and it makes me worried to hear that you're feeling that way! I would strongly encourage you to tell a parent or any other trusted adult about how you're feeling. You don't deserve to be feeling like this, and I want you to feel better. Writing in a diary or talking to a friend could really help you lift some weight off your shoulders. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and I believe that you can get through this.

      You mentioned you constantly think of ways to kill yourself, and that worries me. I want to give you the number to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline in case you're thinking of hurting yourself. Their phone number is 1(877) 727-4747. Don't hesitate to call.

      Call us in here at TEEN LINE, we would love to talk more in depth with you about what you're going through. Our phone number is 1(310) 855-4673 and we are open from 6p.m.-10p.m. PST.

      Hope to hear from you soon, stay strong.

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I’ve had this eating problem for about 3 years.
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      I’ve had this eating problem for about 3 years.

      16 years old, Male, Aus

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I’ve had this eating problem for about 3 years. I just hate the way I look, so I don’t eat. I have a BMI of 17.3, which isn’t too bad, I guess, but It’s been causing me to develop health issues. I sleep more and work less; I’m always in a horrible mood. And recently, I’ve started having suicidal thoughts. I’ve been cutting myself repeatedly, wishing I could die, simply because I’m ugly. I have no reason to live. I just want help, but there’s no one that cares.. I want to die most hours of the day.

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Hi _____,

      There is so much going on in your life right now and I really want to thank you for emailing us.  It sounds like you feel like you have no one to talk to, which can be very isolating, so I really think its great that you reached out for help, it shows how strong you are.  You mentioned that you haven't been eating because you hate the way you look.  Not eating isn't healthy, and I have to say, I'm really worried about you.  It seems like you are really self-aware, and you have noticed how not eating is affecting you.  I know you said you feel like no one cares, but I'm wondering if there is someone you would feel comfortable talking to, like a trusted adult or family member, or maybe a school counselor.  I also want to give you the number to an eating disorder hotline based in Australia.  They are called the Butterfly Foundation for Eating Disorders, and they are there to talk to you.  Their number is 1800-33-4673.

      You also mentioned you were having suicidal thoughts, which also worries me.  I want you to know that suicide is not the answer and that things always have the capacity to get better. I want to give you the number to a hotline based in Australia.  They're called Samaritans and they are there to talk to you. Their crisis number is 08 9381 5555 and their youth line's number is 08 9388 2500 and they are both open 24/7.

      You also mentioned you are cutting.  It sounds like you are using it as a coping mechanism to deal with everything that is going on in your life.  I'm wondering if there is anything else that you can do to cope, like drawing, playing a sport, taking walks, or listening to music.  I'm also wondering if there are any other things you can do instead of cutting, like drawing on yourself when and where you feel the urge to cut with a red pen or writing in a journal just so you can get your feelings out on paper.  I also want to give you the link to www.self-injury.net.  They are a website about self injury, and they have more coping mechanisms, information, and success stories about people who have been able to stop self harming.

      It really sounds like you are being hard on yourself, and a lot of the time, that can make you feel really bad.  I really want to encourage you to try being kind to yourself, which is easier said than done, but maybe just pick a part of yourself that you like, like your hair or your personality or something, and just go from there. Its really hard when you have high standards for yourself, and you feel like you aren't meeting them, but you seem really smart, and definitely strong because you were able to reach out for help, which is something not many people can do.  It takes a lot of courage to do that. Unfortunately, we cannot take calls from Australia, but Samaritans is really great, and I really want to encourage you to give them a call.  I really hope that everything works out for you.

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

       

    • I think my friend may be developing an eating disorder.
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      I think my friend may be developing an eating disorder.

      15 year old, Female, FL

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I think my friend may be developing an eating disorder. She is constantly expressing to me and our group of friends how she wishes she was skinnier, and that she was pretty, and so on. One time she told us that she has started skipping meals to help with her”diet”. I am very worried about her, especially since her parents don’t monitor her very well. They are extremely oblivious. I don’t know what to do to help her. We have tried telling her the side effects of things like eating disorders, but it goes in one ear and out the other. Please help! She is so gorgeous and I hate to see her like this. She deserves better than what she is giving herself.

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Hey _________________,

      First of all, thank you so much for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. It seems like you are very concerned about your friend and what is going on in her life right now. You mentioned that your friend wishes that she were skinnier and comments on other girls' sizes. That must make you feel so worried since you have been noticing her not eating. You also mentioned that she is telling you and your group of friends that she is skipping meals to help with her "diet". This must make you worry because you don't want your friend to go through something like this. Especially that her parents are totally oblivious to the fact that she is skipping meals and is concerned about her weight. First and foremost, I would suggest for your friend to speak with a trusted adult that she feels comfortable enough talking with about this issue. If  she does not have such support system then I encourage her to reach out to us at TEENLINE. If she is open enough or comfortable enough to call TEENLINE directly so she can discuss this more openly to get a further understanding of what is going on with her. We are open from 6 pm- 10 pm (PST) everyday of the week. You can call in at 1(310)-855-4673. You can also suggest to call the National Eating Disorder Association at 1 (800)- 931- 2237. This association can give her further referrals or information more on eating disorders. They are open from 9 am-5pm (EST). Again, thank you so much for reaching out to us here at Teen Line and I wish you and your friend the best.

      Sincerely,

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I've been called fat for as long as I can remember
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      I've been called fat for as long as I can remember

      15 year old, Female, KY

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
      I've been called fat for as long as I can remember, and now it just keeps stinging. I have a boyfriend that thinks I'm fine the way I am, but I can't shake all the comments I get. I'm depressed and have contemplated suicide... I need help.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi H____,
      Thanks for contacting TEEN LINE! It takes a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help. I can imagine it must feel really hurtful to be called fat, especially when it's been going on for a while now. Its understandable that it would be difficult to just ignore all those comments...it sounds like you have a really loving boyfriend though who might be a good person to talk to and turn to for support.
      I am really concerned about the fact that you have contemplated suicide and I am wondering if you have told anyone about these thoughts. It can be really helpful to talk to someone about everything you're going through so you don't have to feel alone with it. Talking to someone can also help make the emotions not feel so big and overwhelming and can help you feel supported. Maybe you can talk to a relative, school counselor or another trusted adult? Also, Hayley, if you are feeling suicidal, I want to give you the Suicide Prevention Hotline, which is open 24-hrs a day. You can reach them at (877) 727-4747. It is really important that you call them and reach out for support if you are feeling suicidal or if you experience any suicidal thoughts.
      We are also always here to listen and help in any way we can at TEEN LINE from 6-10pm (PST) and would love to hear from you! You can reach us at (310) 855-4673. If you feel more comfortable, you can also live chat with one of our teens during the same hours at www.teenlineonline.org.

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • i have an eating disorder.
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      i have an eating disorder.

      15 year old, Female, US

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
      I have an eating disorder. This is the first time I have ever admitted it.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:
      Hi J___, thank so much for reaching out to us at TEEN LINE. It's really brave of you for admitting that you have an eating disorder, and I understand how difficult it must be to feel like you have to have to hold that in. I know that it may seem incredibly uncomfortable, and scary to tell people about it, but ultimately it's really important to get help and support, as it can feel lonely to not have anyone to talk to about something that is very prevalent in your life. I can give you the National Eating disorder association, who's number is 800-931-2237. They can refer you to different types of help and support groups, where you can get professional help, while also being able to talk to people going through similar experiences. Also, I can give you the number to Over-eaters anonymous, which will refer you to the nearest 12 step program in your area. Their number is 323-653-7499. It really does seem like you have a lot more to say. Have you ever considered talking to a family member, close friend, trusted adult, or even a school counselor? Please, call or chat with us here at TEEN LINE as an opportunity to talk to another teen like yourself about all that is going on in your life. Our number is 310-855-4673, and we are open every day from 6-10 PM PST.

      a TEEN LINE teen

  • Gay, Lesbian, Bi & Transgender

    • The memory and meaning of Matthew Shepard, 16 years later.
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      The memory and meaning of Matthew Shepard, 16 years later.

      It's hard to believe #MatthewShepard would have been turning 38 this coming December. CLICK HERE to read Matthew Shepard's story. 

      [caption id="" align="alignnone" width="484"] Matthew Shepard[/caption]

    • I have had the growing assumption that I am bisexual
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      I have had the growing assumption that I am bisexual

      14 year old, Female, NY

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I have had the growing assumption that I am bisexual for some time now. I want to meet other bi or lesbian girls. However, I'm not ready to come out about my sexual orientation because I am afraid that no guys will ever be interested in me if I do. I'm not butch, and I don't feel attracted to any girls that try to look masculine. This is a really confusing time for me and I don’t really know what to do. Any suggestions on how I can give both dating guys and girls a chance?

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi ­­­­­_______.

      Firstly, thank you for reaching out to Teen Line. It takes a lot of courage to open up about something so intimate but I appreciate you entrusting me with your story. It's understandable that you'd be worried about how others might perceive you after dating a girl but the people worth being with will be accepting of you and your sexuality. Dating another girl doesn't make you any less of a person. Also, not being attracted to masculinity in females or being masculine yourself doesn't disvalue the relationship. Having a masculine partner is not a requirement for same-sex relationships. All that matters when it comes to this sort of thing is your happiness.

      I encourage you to visit the Teen Line Message Boards or GLNH.org to chat with and gain support from your peers who may have had similar experiences. If You live in the US or Canada the Teen Line Helpline (310-855-4673) is also available on any day of the week between 6 and 10 pm PST to speak with one of our trained Teen Counselors.

      Again, thanks for contacting Teen Line. I hope this response was helpful and I wish you all the best.

       

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I've always had a feeling that if I were a guy, I'd be happier.
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      I've always had a feeling that if I were a guy, I'd be happier.

      12 year old, Female, CA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      So, I've always had a feeling that if I were a guy, I'd be way more happy and more comfortable. For a while I've been saying "I wish I was a guy". I don't seem to fit in with girls. And earlier this year while I was still in 7th grade, I found out what transgender was. I heard of transgender but I never really learned much about what it really was so I searched stuff up, and I related to a lot of people who were transgender but at the same time, I also didn't relate at some points. I just need help because right now my family cannot afford for me to go to therapy. I want to figure this out but I'm just confused in general on what to do. I cut my hair and since I already dressed with unisex and boy clothing. I love how I look as a guy more than how I looked when I looked like a girl; I feel more confident and comfortable. Even after all this I still wouldn't know if I'm actually cis-gender, transgender, or androgynous. Help?

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Hi _____,

      Firstly, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. It’s really brave of you to open up to me about what has been going on. I can't imagine how it might feel for you to not be able to fit in with girls, and not knowing what you're feelings mean. I just want you to know that it is perfectly normal to question your gender, and I'm glad that you've started to learn more about it. Unfortunately, I wouldn't be able to correctly identify whether you're cisgender, transgender, or androgynous, but I think it could really help if you contact the GLBT National Youth Talk Line at 1(800) 246-7743 anytime from 1-9pm PST Monday-Friday. You can talk to them about how you've been feeling, and they can provide you with information, and support. Have you thought about talking to a trusted adult or school counselor? It could be helpful to open up to someone you are close to about how you've been feeling, and it is important to have a stable support system. Also, feel free to contact us at Teen Line at 1(800) 852-8336 or text "teen" to 839863 (6-10pm PST) to talk to a teen about how you've been feeling, and we would be able to help you further.

      Again, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line, and if you keep reaching out, you'll be able to find the help you're looking for. We really appreciate you, and remember: you're not alone.

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • I found out that I was a lesbian my senior year.
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      I found out that I was a lesbian my senior year.

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      Female, 19 years old, IN

      I found out that I was a lesbian my senior year, I recently graduated from high school June 2013, I met this amazing girl named Marta online she lives in Florida I live in Indiana we are in a long distance relationship. We text, call, Skype, etc. every single day. I plan on meeting her December 2013, but there is one thing stopping me from seeing her. My parents don’t know I am gay. I’m scared to tell them. But I want to go visit my girlfriend so bad it kills me. She makes me feel complete. So what do I do ? should I go without telling them, or should I just tell them I’m gay and let them know my plans. I just know my parents won’t support me and won’t let me go. I don’t want to go behind their back, but if that’s what I have to do to see her then I will do it. Am I doing the right thing?

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Hi ________,

      Thank you for contacting us at TEEN LINE. It must be so hard to feel like you cannot confide in your parents about your sexuality. It sounds like you care about your parents and you are afraid that they won't be supportive. I think it's great that you have accepted your sexuality. I understand that it's difficult to reveal this to your parents, and if you have someone you can talk to, maybe talking it out would help. I can see that you really want to go see your girlfriend, and that your parents might not be open to your sexuality, but you shouldn't be forced to do anything that you are uncomfortable with. I would appreciate it if you could call us at TEEN LINE at (310)855-4673 from 6pm to 10pm pst. We are here for you and can help you with anything you want to talk about. Another hotline that might help is the GLBT National Youth Talkline where you can get peer-counseling about coming out and parent issues at 1(800)-246-7743 from 1-9pm PST on Mondays through Fridays. Another great program is the Trevor Line which specializes in preventing LGBTQ suicide and you can call them at 866-488-7386.

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I'm gay and I haven’t told anybody about it.
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      I'm gay and I haven’t told anybody about it.

      14 year-old, Male, Canada

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I'm gay. I haven’t told anybody about it and it makes me scared thinking about how my friends and family would react. I don’t want them to ignore me, or even worse to hate me. I just don’t know what to do about it. To me, it feels wrong that I look at the guys more than the girls in my class, and I can’t stand it. I keep hoping that one day, everything will change and I wouldn’t be this way anymore. But i’ve been saying that for the past year now, and i’m starting to give up hope. I’ve been trying to tell my sister about it, but I keep distracting myself with something else. She’s the absolute first person that I would talk to, if I had a problem. But I just get really nervous when i’m about to tell her about this one. Plus, I figure that she would understand more about it, because she told me that she was bisexual. I was planing to tell her, but she left for vacation, and won’t be back for a couple of weeks. I just really wanted to tell someone about it. What should I do?

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Hi ______,

      It seems like you are having a really difficult time accepting what you are feeling right now. It must not be easy feeling very uncomfortable talking about something that has been on your mind for a while. I want to let you know that however you feel towards guys or girls is perfectly okay. There is nothing wrong at all with being gay and I can assure you there are many teens out there who are going through similar situations. Ultimately, You aren't alone. I am really glad to hear you have your sister's support and I know it must be hard to have her absent right now. I would suggest calling the LGBT National Youth hotline at 1 800 246 7743. For more information about them, their website is glnh.org. In addition, is there a school counselor that you could talk to this about? They are a 100% confidential and could possibly help your situation. You can also call us at TEEN LINE at 310 855 4673.

      Thinking of you,

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • I am bi-sexual.
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      I am bi-sexual.

      18 year old, Male, TX

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

       I have just recently been honest enough with myself to come to terms that I am bisexual. I don’t just mean sexually attracted to both genders, but I can also see myself in a deep relationship with both genders. Right now I am going through a bit of an issue though. My (male) best friend is just coming to terms with being bisexual as well, and I feel very close to him, especially sharing this common struggle. I have yet to tell him that I myself am bisexual, and am afraid of what it will do to our friendship. On one hand, I feel like it could only help us to become closer, and to possibly begin a deeper relationship in the near future, but at the same time, part of me thinks that telling him while he is going through his own struggle could put us more apart. I don’t want to lose him, especially because of how I feel about him, now romantically. I am just not sure of what to do right now, and I know that no matter what I choose, it won’t be easy. What advice could you give me to approach the situation?

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi _______,

      I wanna thank you so much for contacting Teenline with your problem. It’s a very brave and difficult thing to do. I'm very happy that you are able to come to terms with yourself, and admit that you are bisexual; that's a very hard thing to do, and demonstrates great courage. It sounds like you are very confused about what to tell your friend, and can see both good and bad scenarios playing out. One thing that might help is to check out the website http://www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. This website is helpful in helping LGBT youth make difficult decisions like this one. You might also want to call Teenline, our number is 310-855-4673. We are open every night from 6:00pm to 10:00pm PST. Another option is to talk to someone who know personally and trust, like a parent, or friend, or school counselor, who can give you more firsthand advice on your situation. If you do not feel comfortable doing these things, you might be interested in writing about your feelings in a journal. Writing is a form of processing thoughts, and perhaps through writing you will be able to come closer to a decision on what to tell your friend.

    • I like both genders but my mother is religious
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      I like both genders but my mother is religious

      17 year old, Female, GA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I like both genders but my mother is religious and I have lied to her my whole life about this. I always try to sneak it into the conversation but no matter what I do she get angry at me. It kills me inside how she feels about gay people. She doesn’t necessarily hate them. But she will never accept them at all.

      Majority of my family is religious and they dislike anything that doesn’t agree with it.

      I just can’t keep this bottled up anymore or I’ll explode and tell the wrong person

      TEENLINE WROTE:

       Dear _____,

      First of all I want to commend you for being brave enough to share all of this with me. It must be so difficult to have your mother not accept who you are. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual. It sounds like trying to talk to your mom can end up badly and that must feel so disheartening. I'm so sorry that you feel like your family won't accept you for who you are, nobody deserves to go through that. I really want you to find someone you can talk to who won't judge you and can help you get to a better place. I encourage you to call TEENLINE  at 310-855-4673 (we are open from 6pm-10pm PST) or you can visit Pflag.org which is a great website that can give you and your family helpful information about being LGBTQ. Also the glnh.com is another great LGBTQ website.

      a TEEN LINE teen
    • For what seems like all my life, I have been different.
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      For what seems like all my life, I have been different.

      19 year old, Female, WI

      TEENLINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      For what seems like all my life, I have been different. I never fit in anywhere. When I was overweight, I was the fat loser. Now I am just a loser. I am in college now and seriously didn’t have anyone I can talk to. Until I met a girl named Janet. Janet is one of the most smart gorgeous and confident young women I have ever met. She hangs out with me everyday and the other day we kissed. I don’t know exactly what came over me, but I have never felt so safe and in love. Today when we met up, she asked me if I wanted to be her girlfriend. I was shocked. I told her I would tell her by Monday. I can’t be a lesbian…but it seems like I am. I have always been Christian and my parents are, too. I feel like I am letting down my faith and everyone I know. I seriously don’t know what to do!

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Hey ______,

      It sounds like you're in a pretty confusing situation! It sounds like it's really difficult to deal with, especially since you don't have anybody to talk to. While it sounds like you have a great time with Janet, it is reasonable to be so shocked in your place. Many teens feel nervous or anxious about relationships, and sexual orientations, and while it can seem sort of weird, it is actually very normal. It does sound pretty confusing to be Christian and have affections for someone of the same gender. However, I would like to say that many christians are homosexual, contrary to popular belief. There is a lot of information out there. If you would like there are two websites I found here: http://www.lgbtqnation.com/2012/05/gay-and-christian-youre-not-alone/ and here: http://www.gaychristian.net/ that talk about the issue. If you would like to talk about it please call in to us or the LGBT National Youth Talk Line. Our number is 310-855-4673 and we are open from 6-10 pm PST every night. The LGBT National Youth Talk Line is 1-800-246-7743 and they are open from 1-9 pm PST every Monday through Friday. If you would like to text instead, you can text "teen" to us at 839863. Our texting times are the same as our phone time.

      a TEEN LINE teen
    • I'm one of those GLB people, except I don't know which.
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      I'm one of those GLB people, except I don't know which.

      17 year old, Female, WA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
      To keep a long, long issue short... I'm one of those GLB people, except I don't know which. I seem to be sexually attracted to women and romantically attracted to men. What the hell am I? Do I have any chance for a normal relationship? Also, my family is very religious and I go to a Catholic high school, so even if I do figure out what I am, I don't know how I would come out. I think my mom would support me, but I'm afraid my dad would freak out, and I know my grandparents would be really hurt. I'm not religious, but I don't want them to know that either. Please help me or at least let me know if you read this. It'd be nice to know that someone can hear me.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:
      Hi K____. Thanks for contacting us at TEEN LINE. It sounds like you are really confused right now, and it also seems you are afraid of being rejected by your family. I want you to know that it is normal to have attractions for men and women, and what you are going through can be very confusing because sexuality isn't always clear. There are some great resources out there that can help you to figure out your sexual orientation, and they can talk about the coming out process because that can be really scary. I'd like to give you the number for the GLBT National Youth Talk Line. It is a hotline that specializes in helping teens just like you that are experiencing similar issues. You can call (800) 246- 7743 Monday through Friday from 1 pm - 9 pm PST, and also on Saturdays from 9 am - 2 pm PST. Also I encourage you to call us at TEEN LINE to talk to a trained teen who will listen to you and support you. The number for TEEN LINE is (310) 855- 4673 and the line is open every day 6 pm - 10 pm. Thanks again for contacting us. I wish you luck.

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • ok so i am in 12th grade and i have been lesbian
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      ok so i am in 12th grade and i have been lesbian

      17 year old, Female, GA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
      ok so i am in 12th grade and i have been lesbian since 6th grade and well my parents just found out this year and they were so pissed. they said that i was sick in the head and was ruinin my life. so i had to convince them that im not a lesbian but the truth is i still am and i hate lyin to my parents i dont know wat to do.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:
      Hi, thanks for contacting us here at TEEN LINE. I can understand why you might feel frustrated because you feel you're forced to lie to your parents especially about something that is an important part of you. I would also understand if you felt degraded because your parents don't want to accept you for who you are. Have you talked to anyone about this? A friend, trusted adult, or school counselor? Talking can be a great way to work through an issue. Maybe you could look at the resources at your local gay and lesbian center or pflag (parents and friends of lesbians and gays). They might be able to help you help your parents accept you for who you are; some centers have a group your parents can go to that may help them come around to the idea of you being open about your sexuality. If you're seeking more support, maybe you could think about calling The Trevor Project at 800-850-8078. The Trevor Project is an LGBT support hotline that may be able to give you support with your parents. The listeners there have been through similar situation and can give you more personal guidance. Also, you can always feel free to call us here at TEEN LINE. We're open from 6-10pm PST at (310)-855-4673, and you could chat with us at teenlineonline.org.

      a TEEN LINE listener

  • Pregnancy & Birth Control

    • I need help with pregnancy
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      I need help with pregnancy

      18 year old, Female, TX

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
      I need help with pregnancy

      TEEN LINE WROTE:
      Hey, Thanks for reaching out to us here at TEEN LINE. Pregnancy can be really scary to go through alone, so it's really important that you have someone that you trust and feel comfortable talking to such as a close friend, trusted adult, school counselor, or relative. The only way to know whether you're pregnant or not for sure though is by getting a pregnancy test at a local drugstore, or seeing a doctor at a clinic such Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood is a great place to go because they can give you pregnancy test and afterwards they can also help you discuss your options. If you don't feel comfortable calling them immeidiatly you can search their website at www.PlannedParenthood.org. On their website you can also find a Planned Parenthood near you. If you ever need someone to talk to please don't hesitate to call us here at TEEN LINE between 6 and 10 PM pst at 310-855-4673.

      a TEEN LINE teen

  • Relationships

    • HOW DO I KEEP MYSELF FROM FEELING ALONE?
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      HOW DO I KEEP MYSELF FROM FEELING ALONE?

      How Do I Keep Myself From Feeling Alone?

      13 year old, IL

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I want to ask, how do I keep myself from feeling alone and all that. I know I have friends and I want to talk to them but I feel like I annoy them. Then I end up not talking to them and then I feel really alone and then sometimes I ask myself why should I even be here if I am useless. I just want to ask, how do I stop from feeling so lonely and try to stay happy like I used to be years ago... please help.

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Thank you so much for contacting TEEN LINE. I think it's really brave of you to reach out for help.

      It sounds like you feel very lonely and depressed. Being lonely is really hard to deal with, and it must be really hard to feel like you annoy your friends. It must be really scary and upsetting to feel like you can't talk to your friends because they are people that should support you and stand by you, and it can almost feel like a betrayal if you feel like you don't have their support when you are feeling down. I want to let you know that no matter what your friends make you feel like, you are not useless. You matter and you will always matter. You and your life are so important.

      I wonder if you have tried to tell your friends or family how lonely you are feeling. It can be really helpful to share your feelings with someone who will listen to you that you trust. I would also recommend that you call TEEN LINE 3108554673 (open every day from 6:00 to 10:00 pm PST) or check out the TEEN LINE message board HTTPS://TEENLINEONLINE.ORG/BOARD/ where you can chat with other teens who might be going through similar situations. You can also text "teen" to 839863 which is the TEEN LINE text number. Also, if you are ever feeling lonely or depressed, you should try to do things that normally make you happy (running, singing, listening to music, journaling, etc.), and that might help you to feel a little better.

      Stay strong.

      A TEEN LINE teen :)

    • I used to be bullied.
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      I used to be bullied.

      13 year old, Female, United Kingdom 

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I used to be bullied and now I am trying to recover from the pain I went through last year. My “friends” stopped caring about me and they started ignoring me. In addition, they would call me mean names all the time at school. Now I sit by myself during lunch breaks at school. I have reached a low point in my life and I feel so lonely. I DON'T cut, just want to make that clear. Also, I am not normal; l am a gamer and like dark clothing. My style is more alternative and the people I seem to get along with better are boys in my grade. I just don’t want to be alone at school anymore. Please help.

      TEENLINE WROTE: 

      Hey _____,

      Thank you for contacting us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you're feeling pretty lonely and distant from your friends. I know it could be hard to feel this way, especially since it sounded like things had really turned around. I wonder if you have tried making new friends or getting a strong support system, such as a trusted teacher or counselor at school that you could spend breaks with and talk to. I'm glad to hear that you don't cut and that you cope with your problems another way. Having an alternative style, playing video games, and liking dark clothing doesn't make you any less than normal. Your interests and the fact that you are friends with mostly boys is your decision and shouldn't make you feel less than or have you secluding yourself. If you feel like you still need somebody to talk to you can always visit http://www.bullying.co.uk/, which is a local website you can visit to read in on more about bullying. I hope I helped you today and that you can find a strong support system to help you get through this.

       

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • My mom and I do not have a great relationship.
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      My mom and I do not have a great relationship.

      17 year old, Female, AZ 

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My mom and I do not have a great relationship. We have never gotten along and I always try to fix our relationship, but no matter what I do it does not work.  When I was younger up until now I have made some terrible choices in life. Every time I try to change my mom always brings back the past and all my errors. Growing up was not easy and I was bullied at school as well as at  home. My mother always called me fat, a cow, and really mean names. I just need  help trying to figure out a way I can improve my relationship with my mom. Any advice?

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi ­­­­­­­­_________,

      I am so sorry you're going through this hard time with your mom. It must feel so awful to have your mom say these things to you. Your mom is suppose to be there to love and take care of you and the things she is calling you are not okay. I can only imagine how difficult it must have been to be bullied at school and then come home to be treated badly. Have you considered talking to any other trusted adults, family members, or a school counselor about what has been going on? It might really help to actually talk to someone about this. It is so great that you have tried to make a change in your life and move on from your past and it must be so frustrating to have your mom keep bringing it up. I would really encourage you to call into Teen Line (1-310-855-4673) so you can talk more about the situation. I just want to say that you are so strong to still want to improve your relationship with your mom after all that has happened. Thank you so much for reaching out to Teen Line. Hope to hear from you soon.

      A TEENLINE TEEN

       

       

    • I recently found out that I am moving to another country.
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      I recently found out that I am moving to another country.

      14 year old, Female United Kingdom

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I recently found out that I am moving to another country and I had to break up  with my boyfriend because of it. I didn't think I truly loved him but I can't sleep when we don't hug and say goodnight.  I am so sad because just 2 days ago I found out he has cancer. Now his birthday party is in 2 weeks and it is the last one I’ll ever have with him but I am travelling to another country for a wedding. Should I beg to stay for his birthday and let the rest of my family go or should I go with my family? Should I get back together with him? I'm just scared that when I leave it will hurt even more than. I am so upset and confused. What should I do?

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi ________,

      Thank you for reaching out to us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you have such a tough decision to make and I can tell by your email how frustrating this can be.  It sounds so difficult to have to make a decision to either stay home and attend his birthday party or go to the wedding.  Have you talked to him about this to see how he feels? Perhaps speaking with him directly about your feelings would help before you make the decision.  You mentioned you didn't think you truly loved him, but you also care about him...especially now that he is ill.  Perhaps speaking with your parents about this also would help you in making this decision. Getting support for yourself is very important right now so I am glad that you reached out.

      I found a resource for teens with cancer and support:  http://www.macmillan.org.uk/Cancerinformation/teensandyoungadults/Infoforteensandyoungadults.aspx/

      You can also access our Message Boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards/ to connect with other teens about this all all kinds of other topics. I hope this information helps you, Charlotte.

       

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • Can I just run away somewhere?
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      Can I just run away somewhere?

      17 year old, Female, SD

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM: 

      Can I just run away somewhere peaceful with out any  worries? Recently, a lot has been happening. Large school projects, parents fighting, health issues, and even more. To start, school has been not the best but I've doing ok until my teacher decided to give us so many deadlines and projects. Second, my parents are constantly arguing with each other over the smallest issues. They also don't trust me with anything, always asking information they don't need, I feel like I'm treated like a 2 year old. Also, I have just recently gone to the doctors, who told me I'm almost over the bridge of being pre-diabetic, which my whole family is constantly reminding me of. They make rude comments about my health like: "You shouldn't eat ALL that, you'll get even fatter." and things along those lines. All of this has been making me feel unfocused, irritated, and just aggravated. I have been crying myself to sleep for the past week, and even once used a scissor to cut my forearm enough to leave scratch marks for a day (but not bleed). Any ideas how to help? Please, and Thank You.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi _______,

      Firstly, thank you so much for contacting Teen Line and trusting us with something so personal. It seems like you have a lot on your plate. It must be incredibly overwhelming to have to deal with your parents constant fighting, and school on top of being pre- diabetic. Being pre-diabetic must be frightening in itself and being constantly reminded of it with such negative comments about your weight seems like it only adds to the stress. You don't deserve to be spoken to that way and I'm glad you realize that.
      You said your parents fight a lot and don't seem to be very trusting of you. With all that's going on, staying afloat in school is a definite challenge within itself. You deserve more credit for being able to manage all of this. Considering the circumstances I think you're doing a phenomenal job!

      Also, you mentioned you self-harmed. Although you did not bleed it worries me that you would resort to harming yourself. I'd like you to consider participating in the Butterfly Project as an alternative to self-harming. If you ever feel the urge to self harm again you would draw a butterfly on your wrist, or wherever you cut, which represents a loved one. The idea is that the butterfly serves as a reminder that there is someone who cares for you. Additional alternatives to cutting would be journaling, exercising, listening to music, or doing any fulfilling activity. If you have any friends, family members, or trusted adults that you are comfortable talking to about these things, please do. I also recommend taking a look at www.self-injury.net and the Teen Line Message Boards for support from people in similar situations. You can also contact Teen Line (310-855-4673) between the hours of 6 PM to 10 PM PST. The line is open seven days a week.

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

       

    • My house hold is broken.
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      My house hold is broken.

      14 year old, Male, AZ 

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My house hold is broken; my parents argue every single day. Today my mom had my dad write her a check for $2500. Along with that she took out all her cash, credit cards, her ATM card and walked out the front door. Soon after my mother took off I acted a little irritable with my dad and he snapped out at me, almost like he was blaming me for all of our problems. He tends to get angry and yell at me for even the smallest things. This last event (my mom leaving) has left me feeling even more hopeless and empty. I have contemplated suicide before, but today is the most that I have ever contemplated it. I already have a plan on how I can acquire a gun so I can end my life. Right now, the only thing stopping me is my religion.

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      First off, I just want to say thank you for contacting Teenline. It takes a lot of strength and courage in order to talk about a problem such as this. It sounds like the situation with your parents  is really taking a physical and mental toll on your health. I want you to know that none of this is your fault, and you should not blame yourself for the conflict that is going on between your parents and that you are not alone. Domestic conflict such as this affects thousands of people your age. You mentioned that you're starting to seriously contemplate suicide. This is a very serious and I want you to know that I am really worried about you. I recommend that you call the suicide prevention hotline; they can talk you through the steps to help curb those suicidal feelings. Their number is 877-727-4747 and they are open 24/7. Again, I want to clarify that none of this your fault and that these feelings you are having are very serious and should not be taken lightly. We're here until 10 pm tonight and I highly,highly recommend that you call in tonight to talk to one of us about what is going on before making any rash decisions. Again, Peter: please call us at 310-855-4673 as soon as you can.  We are open until 10 pm.
      Thanks,
      a Teen Line Teen

    • I have been arguing a lot with my parents
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      I have been arguing a lot with my parents

      17 year old, Female, UK

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I have been arguing a lot with my parents. I need to get out of my house because this situation is causing me so much depression. I just don’t know what to do anymore, I need help. much depression and I don't know what to do

      TEEN LINE WROTE: 

      Hi ______,
      Thank you so much for emailing us here at Teen Line. It sounds like you're going through so much right now, specifically fighting with your parents. I can't imagine how hard it must feel to be so depressed, but I really want you to talk to someone about how you feel.   Since you are in the UK, I want to give you the number to the Samaritans hotline: 08457 90 90 90 (open 24/7). They are there to talk to you, and listen to you. Additionally, I would consider talking to a guidance counselor at your school, just to gain some guidance and support through this all. Thank you so much for emailing and I hope everything gets better.
      a TEEN LINE teen

    • My boyfriend and I have different religious views
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      My boyfriend and I have different religious views

      17 years old, Female, IA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My boyfriend and I have different religious views. We’ve been best friends for two years & dating for 4 months. I feel like he is my other half and he completes me but I have a hard time seeing a future with him. I refuse to marry some one who does not believe in the Lord. I do not what to do. Please help.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi _____,

       

      Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. It must be so difficult to have different faith views than your loved one. I can imagine that it is really stressful to think about that and your future with that person. Talking to a close friend, trusted adult, school counselor, or therapist is a great way to get your feelings out, and figure out what you want to do. Coping methods that may help you get your mind off of things can also be helpful and include hobbies you enjoy, sports, drawing/journaling, and listening to music. Teen Line can also be a great way to talk to other teens that relate which you can reach at 310-855-4673 (6-10 PM), text "teen" to 839863, or use our message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards. Thank you again for reaching out

       

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • I’m so depressed.
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      I’m so depressed.

      14 year old, Female, CA

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I’m so depressed; my sisters are living with their bf’s now. All my life they’re all I had and now they are forgetting me. They are having kids and leaving me, yet they expect me to be happy. I have a mixture of emotions and I do not know what to do.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi ______,

      Thanks for emailing TEEN LINE. It must be so hurtful to feel like your sisters are forgetting you and moving on with their boyfriends. It seems so difficult to feel like they are creating new lives and just expect you to be happy. I really want to help you in any way that I can. I'm wondering if you have someone to talk to about this like a trusted adult, therapist, or school counselor. Talking to someone is a great way to create a safe place for yourself and come up with some solutions. Maybe you can write your sisters a letter, that way you can figure out what you want to say beforehand. You can also go on the TEEN LINE message board at teenlineonline.org/boards to share your story and read about other people going through similar situations. Of course you can always call TEEN LINE (1-800-852-8336), our hours are 6PM-10PM Pacific Standard Time.

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

    • I have been having trouble with my boyfriend.
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      I have been having trouble with my boyfriend.

      15 year old, Female, NC

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      Hey there,

      I've been having trouble with my boyfriend recently. We have met before but our relationship is now based online since he moved to another state. We use to regularly talk, without hesitation, and communicated the best way we could. Gradually, we stopped talking and he would leave earlier because he ’was sleepy’ and that led to a break up. Afterwards, he asked for me back and we resumed going out (and still are going out), but it feels as if our relationship is not working anymore or he doesn’t have interest in me – but I’m still madly in love with him.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hi _________,

      Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line and sharing this with me. It sounds like you are feeling like your relationship with your boyfriend is not working out because it seems like he does not have interest in you. It must be really hard for you especially since it sounds like you still love him. It sounds like because he moved it has made your relationship much more challenging for you. It must be difficult for you to see such a great relationship start falling apart. It might be good for you to talk to a friend about how you are feeling. It is always great to talk to someone and get your thoughts straight and get their opinions. It might be nice if you would to talk your boyfriend about how you are feeling. If you would like yo could maybe let him know how you are feeling and hear what he thinks. It could help your relationship or give you the closure you need to move forward. If not you can call into Teen Line to talk to a Teen Line listener who is trained to help you through whatever you need. Another idea if you would like is you can look at the Teen Line Message boards at http://teenlineonline.org/boards. It might be a great way for you to connect with people who are feeling similar to you. I hope that some of my suggestions can help you and your relationship.

      a TEEN LINE teen

       

  • Your Body, Sex & STDs

    • My boyfriend contracted HIV.
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      My boyfriend contracted HIV.

      18 year old, Female, United States

      TEEN LINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      My boyfriend had a heart transplant a few months ago and now has contracted HIV. I’m extremely worried about my health. I have no idea what to do, I can’t talk to my parents about this because they will just scream and say awful things about me. I really could use someone to talk to because I’ve been extremely depressed. I haven’t slept in 3 days because I constantly worry about myself and my boyfriend.

       What are my options? Do I have HIV? Where can I find help at a low cost because I’m unemployed and have no way to get money?

      TEEN LINE WROTE:

      Hey ______,
      Thank you so much for contacting Teen Line. What you're going through sounds extremely difficult, and I can only imagine how scared and concerned you must be feeling. It's extremely unfortunate that your boyfriend got HIV under those circumstances, and it sounds like that must be completely devastating to you and your boyfriend about that occurrence. There are several ways to go get tested for HIV at low cost. I don't know what part of the United States you're from, so here's a resource that I think would be beneficial for you, Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood offers free or low cost STD tests; this depends on your location. You can find more information about Planned Parenthood's STD tests at the following link: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex/std-testing-21695.asp. Have you opened up to any one of your trusted friends and/or adult about this situation you're going through? It's extremely important that you have someone to talk to through this extremely difficult time you’re going through. For additional support, I would like to refer you the Teen Line Boards, at teenlineonline.org/boards. Here, you can talk to fellow teens who are you going through similar situations you are. Some find it beneficial to talk to people they can relate to. Another great resource is our Teen Line Hotline, at (310) 855- 4673. You can call any day from 6 PM - 10 PM PST. I truly hope things work out.


      A TEEN LINE teen

    • I'm a teen insecure about my weight.
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      I'm a teen insecure about my weight.

      13 year old, Female, WI

      TEENLINE QUESTION/PROBLEM:

      I haven’t been able to lose weight in the past year now. I always feel so embarrassed to be in public sometimes because I’m so insecure. When I look at it, most of my family members are in great shape! All i want is too lose weight and it feels impossible! My mom always tells me, ”Come to the gym with me” or ”Just try to eat healthier” but all my parents buy is junk food! It’s hard to exercise because I was hit by a car last summer and I still get bad headaches and shoulder and neck cramps. It’s really painful when i get these cramps and headaches! I just want to have a better looking body and have confidence. I want to be able to go to the beach and wear a bikini, go to formal events and have a silhouette complimenting dress,wear skinny jeans with out my stomach sticking out or them falling down my waist and wear body complimenting shirts and outfits that show my body in a good way!! I’ve been picked on and messed with for years about my weight and I just want to show all those lame people that i can change myself!! I want my stomach to be flat with skinny legs! I used to look very good until I got sick last march with mono. My doctors said with all the medications I was on and all the time I had to stay in bed and not be active affected my weight. PLEASE HELP ME!!! I JUST WANT TO BE SKINNY!!!

      TEENLINE WROTE:

      Dear __________,

      I can understand where you are coming from. In today’s society there is all that pressure to be thin and people’s perception of the “perfect body”. In the end everyone is beautiful in their own skin regardless if they are a size 2 or a size 10.

      That’s perfect, how about you join your mom at the gym? That is a perfect way to get your daily exercise in. If you are not into the gym then you can try different ways to exercise, such as sports, or dance classes.  Also, it may help if you suggest healthier snacks and groceries so that your parents won’t always buy junk food. The important thing is that you lose weight the healthy way, balanced diet and exercise is the key. If you would like to talk to other teens you can call our hotline at (310) 855-4673 6pm-10pm Pacific Time or you can also create an account on www.teenlineonline.org and communicate via the message boards. Teenline is here to help =)

      Sincerely,

      a TEEN LINE teen

    • Hi my names J___,
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      Hi my names J___,

      16 year old, Female, US

      TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
      Hi my names J___, on november 26 I was sexually assaulted by one of me dear friends, someone who I loved seeing everyday, and someone who I was my reason to look forward to school. I had feelings for him. And ge betrayed me. I reported what happened but about 3 days ago I got my last call from the police that they won't press charges because when he was question he seemed remorseful. But I never once got an apologyfrom him. His family doesn't even know what he did. And I have to see him everyday. I just don't know what to do. I have no closure known that I get to suffer while he gets to go on in peace. I dont feel like me anymore. And I'm afraid of men now. I can't go in public by mysel anymore because it's too much for me. I just need help I guess.

      TEEN LINE WROTE:
      Hi,
      I'm glad you contacted us here at TEEN LINE. From what you've shared with us here it sounds like you feel betrayed by someone who you care about, and trusted, which is a very awful thing, and im so sorry that you were hurt like that. I can imagine that you are frustrated by the lack of concern by the police about what he did to you, as well as his lack of remorse. Along with these feelings, it must be very hard having to see him every day. At this point it is really important that you talk to somebody who can help you sort out how you are feeling and can help you choose what steps to take next. A good place to start is with someone like a counselor, teacher, parent, or therapist, perhaps someone who is trained, and can help guide you toward healing. Here is a number to a great organization called RAINN 800-656-4673. They are there to help victims of sexual assault and can be a great resource for you. You can also call TEEN LINE between the hours of 6pm and 10pm pst, our number is (310)-855-4673, if you would like to talk more.

      a TEEN LINE listener

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