Female, 13 years old, NV
Someone catfished me with a guy who was very sweet and nice, then he asked me for a nude picture and I sent him one. The next thing I know, everybody knows what my areas look like and I saw an Instagram account with my bust on it. I just feel like ending it all and I’m so close, this is urgent.
Teen Line Wrote:
Thank you for contacting Teen Line. It was so brave of you to reach out and tell us a little bit about what’s going on. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It must be so frustrating and painful to have trusted a guy with such a photo and then having it leaked, especially on social media. It is not fair that this is happening to you and not okay for you to be deceived like this. I want to let you know that how you are feeling is completely okay and you are not alone. I am here to give you the support you need to get through this.
First of all, I want to make sure that you are safe. Here is the number for the National Suicide Prevention Hotline that you can call any time when you are having thoughts about hurting yourself or ending your life: (800) 273-8255. You mentioned that you are considering ending it all and I am worried for you. You can get through this. I am here to help you. I want you to get the help and support you deserve. Thoughts of suicide or hurting yourself are dangerous and I don’t want this for you. You are strong and you can overcome this. I want to provide you with some healthy ways to cope with what’s going on that doesn’t involve self harm. Have you ever considered talking to someone about what’s going on? Is there a trusted adult, friend, counselor, therapist, or family friend that you can reach out to and vent to? It can be very therapeutic to talk about what’s going on and share your emotions with someone. Maybe they can help you understand and cope with what’s going on. I don’t know if you have a therapist already, but if you don’t, would you consider getting one? They can be a great unbiased source that can help provide you with some support and can also help you find safer ways to cope. I want to suggest Kati Morton, an online therapist, that can help you make your first appointment, but also has videos on how to deal with various issues. Here is the link to her video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZH3HQU_ewU
I also want to provide you with some healthier coping skills. Do you have any hobbies that can keep you busy and distracted, do you enjoy listening to music, exercising, reading, journaling, etc. All of these are great ways to help you feel better and more in tune with yourself. Journaling, or writing down your feelings, is a great way to come to terms with what has happened and overcome it. 99 ways to cope is a great website that can give you more ways to cope. Here is the link: http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx.
You said this is urgent and I really want to make sure that you are safe and not considering hurting yourself. I encourage you to call in to Teen Line at (310) 855-4673. Our lines are open between 6pm-10pm PST daily. You can also text “TEEN” to 839863 if you are more comfortable with texting. We want to hear from you, so please don’t hesitate.
I also want to encourage you to check out the Teen Line message boards where you can contact other teens who have or are going through similar situations as you. They may be able to provide you with some comfort and help you navigate this tough situation. You can access these message boards at teenlineonline.org/boards.
Again, thank you for reaching out to us. You are so brave and you deserve help. Stay strong.