“I love my boyfriend, but he hits me. Is there any way to make him stop?” – 16 year old
If you or someone you’re with is hurt or in danger, get away and get help from a friend or neighbor. Call 911 for ambulance and/or police assistance. Also see the section on Rape and Sexual Abuse.
If you, a family member or a friend has been beaten up or sexually abused, or if your own behavior is out of control or violent, it is time to seek help. It is very common to have mixed feelings about someone who is violent towards you. Find someone to talk to who will believe you and respect your feelings. Everybody gets angry sometimes, but there are times when some people get so angry they totally lose control. They may throw things, punch the wall, or hit somebody. They may even be sorry afterwards.
Remember: abusive relationships tend to get worse, not better. Resist the temptation to give the abusive person “one more chance.”
If you have been raped, call one of the Rape Hotlines. If your date or boyfriend has fits of violent behavior, has ever hit you, beaten you, or shamed and belittled you so you felt worthless and depressed, call one of the following numbers.
DATING VIOLENCE RESOURCES
213-745-6434 1736 Family Crisis Center Dating Violence Hotline and Shelter
24 hour hotline
Domestic violence, runaways, Individual, group, family counseling & case management for ages 10-17, two week stay, substance abuse awareness, schooling, job search and placement. Outpatient facility with 6 beds. Parent consent required.
661-949-1069Antelope Valley Youth and Family Services
M-T 11am-7:30pm, W-F 9am-5:30pm
Information and referrals for the Antelope Valley. Bilingual. Domestic violence, anger management, parenting classes, referrals.
310-286-3383Break The Cycle
Prevention and intervention. Serves all of L.A. County residents. Education programs for schools, youth groups, and Juvenile Detention Centers.
800-843-5200California Youth Crisis Line
Crisis phone counseling, information, and referrals for all problems ages 12-24. Bilingual when available. Can connect without charge to parent/guardian or other agency. Message relay service.
800-339-3940Center for Pacific Asian Family, Inc.
24-Hour Crisis Hotline
Emotional support and referrals offered to victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, and child abuse. Rape prevention and domestic violence education is offered to high schools and other community organizations.
818-830-0200Child and Family Guidance Center in North Hills
M-Th 8:30am-7pm; F 8:30am-5:30pm
Extensive services, counseling and treatment provided where child abuse, sexual abuse, neglect or domestic violence has occurred or there is risk of occurring. Serves San Fernando Valley. Spanish spoken. Accepts MediCal and health insurance.
Group and individual counseling, youth shelter, GLBT support services, leadership training, and teen dating violence prevention.
Anger management, substance abuse, domestic violence classes, counseling, food/clothing, parenting classes, vocational training, case management, legal services, emergency shelter and transitional housing for victims of domestic and dating violence for 18 years and older with children or without children.
866-331-9474National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline
Hotline; safety planning, support, referrals, counseling for dating violence. Online chat also available on website.
310-898-3117Peace and Joy Care Center
24 hours hotline
Referrals, counseling, and support groups. Female victims of domestic violence, mothers with children. Housing accommodations (emergency shelter).
213-626-3393Peace Over Violence
M-F 9am-5pm by appt and 24 hours hotline
24hr Hotline: 213-626-3393
Los Angeles County offices: 213-955-9090; West San Gabriel Valley offices: 626-584-6191
Counseling for dating violence, rape survivors, child abuse. Phone counseling and referrals. Self-defense classes and teen abuse prevention.
818-609-9989Personal Growth Institute
Flexible hours. Office hours: M-F 9am-5pm
Psychotherapy, focus groups, services in a variety of languages (incl. Armenian, Farsi, Spanish). Call for appointment. Sliding Fees. Life coaching.
24 hour Hotline
Additional Hotline: 626-966-4155. Office: 909-623-1619
Sexual assault and incest survivor crisis services. Provides information about medical attention, reporting the assault, advocacy, personal counseling, self-defense training, support groups and teen/young adult education on prevention.
800-656-4673RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network)
Information about rape and sexual abuse as well as referrals. Free and confidential. Connects caller to nearest service. Online hotline also available on their website.
323-753-1314Seeking Peaceful Solutions
M-W 8:30-7pm; [Th, F by appt, Sat, Sun by appt] 8:30am-4:30pm
Services for youth, teens, adolescents, and adults in the areas of anger management, teen dating violence, substance abuse, and sexual abuse. Services all of Los Angeles County.
800-914-2272Su Casa – (Casa Youth Shelter)
24 hours. Also 800-914-CASA
Additional phone: 1-(800)-914-CASA
Shelter, food, education, counseling and support groups for teens. Bilingual. All problems. A safe haven in Orange County.
818-886-0453Valley Trauma Counseling Center
24 hours hotline; 24 hours crisis hotline in Santa Clarita: 661-253-0258
For sexual assault victims in San Fernando Valley and Santa Clarita Valley.
Will accompany to hospitals, police, or court.
Counseling available to victim, significant others, and family of rape and domestic abuse. Prevention, education, crisis, and intervention.
800-842-8467Victims of Crime Resource Center
Information regarding victims’ rights and what to expect while going through the court system. Confidential referrals for counseling. Spanish services available. FREE.
M-F 8:30am-5pm; after hours and Sat. by appointment only
Anger management and conflict resolution counseling for teens and their families. Teen Dating Violence Prevention and Domestic Violence education offered. Bilingual.
562-437-4663Women Shelter of Long Beach/Youth Services
24 hour hotline
Counseling, Youth in Shelter, GLBT Support Services, and Teen Dating Violence Prevention, emergency shelter, legal advocacy, interventions.
- www.thatsnotcool.com- General Information about relationship abuse, harassment, and peer pressure.
- www.athinline.org- Offers information on digital abuse- forced sexting, textual harassment and cyberbullying.
- www.loveisrespect.org – Offers online chat service and general information about abusive relationships.