TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
Yeah, hey, my name is D____ and i've never really done anythting like this, like talking to teenline, but uh i need some unbiased advise. So, my friend S____ has this girl that he really likes. He might love her. They're not dating and they have not dated. She gave him head like once n the past. However, he told all his guy friends, not including me, that hooking up with her is ok, but sex is out of the question. I heard this from some other guy. So, i thought i was close enough to respect this request. Anyway, one night after a party, in which she threw herself at me, i had her over and we had sex. I told my best friend n_____ what did and he strongly believed that it was the wrong thing to do. I agreed. So, i spoke to her and ended it. However, one night she was a little drunk and was high, and we decided to continue our little affair. I decided not to tell N___. So we had sex again and N____ found out and told S______. Now, i understand that what i did was immoral or wrong, but N____ betrayed me and ratted me out. Isn't that wrong. We were best friends. Ad he's just going to end it? Well, i'm not going to see this girl again, obviously. S____ is upset, we havent really discussed it in detail. I just think that n____ completely crossed the line. A little history of N_____, he's been my best friend since 9th grade and he's always been an asshole to me. We're competative when it comes to girls, which i think is one of the reasons why he ratted me out. Anyway, just needed to vent. My question is what should i do? Should i mend? Not worry about it? Am i a bad person? I feel as if i'm bottling my emotions up and im getting ready to burst. Thanks, maybe this isnt such a big deal? I don't know...
TEEN LINE WROTE:
Hey! Thank you so much for coming to TEEN LINE! It sounds like you are feeling really overwhelmed right now. The fact that you seem to have been betrayed by your best friend must be really difficult, and at the same time you feel as though you betrayed your other friend as well! Everybody makes mistakes and you appear to be feeling pretty guilty for your actions with this girl. Is there any way that you feel you could sensibly approach this situation and try to repair your broken relationships? They must be feeling as confused and upset as you are right now. If you feel comfortable, being straight forward can be really helpful, even though it can be hard to do sometimes. If you aren't ready to talk to your friends yet, could you talk to a trusted adult? They may be able to give you a different perspective on the problem and relieve your bottled emotions. Also, I really hope you call our hotline! I know you said you never really seek help in this way but i promise you we get calls from teens just like you all the time! We are open everyday from 6-10pm PST and our number is 1-800-852-8336.
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