Female, 19 years old, IN
I found out that I was a lesbian my senior year, I recently graduated from high school June 2013, I met this amazing girl named Marta online she lives in Florida I live in Indiana we are in a long distance relationship. We text, call, Skype, etc. every single day. I plan on meeting her December 2013, but there is one thing stopping me from seeing her. My parents don’t know I am gay. I’m scared to tell them. But I want to go visit my girlfriend so bad it kills me. She makes me feel complete. So what do I do ? should I go without telling them, or should I just tell them I’m gay and let them know my plans. I just know my parents won’t support me and won’t let me go. I don’t want to go behind their back, but if that’s what I have to do to see her then I will do it. Am I doing the right thing?
Thank you for contacting us at TEEN LINE. It must be so hard to feel like you cannot confide in your parents about your sexuality. It sounds like you care about your parents and you are afraid that they won’t be supportive. I think it’s great that you have accepted your sexuality. I understand that it’s difficult to reveal this to your parents, and if you have someone you can talk to, maybe talking it out would help. I can see that you really want to go see your girlfriend, and that your parents might not be open to your sexuality, but you shouldn’t be forced to do anything that you are uncomfortable with. I would appreciate it if you could call us at TEEN LINE at (310)855-4673 from 6pm to 10pm pst. We are here for you and can help you with anything you want to talk about. Another hotline that might help is the GLBT National Youth Talkline where you can get peer-counseling about coming out and parent issues at 1(800)-246-7743 from 1-9pm PST on Mondays through Fridays. Another great program is the Trevor Line which specializes in preventing LGBTQ suicide and you can call them at 866-488-7386.
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