TEEN QUESTION/PROBLEM:
I had a bad relationship with a boyfriend about a year ago. I broke up with him about 8 months ago, and he didn't take it well. I tried being friends with him for a few weeks afterwards (his request), but couldn't do it. He wants more, because he keeps saying how he "loves me". He talks badly about me to my school friends, and to anyone who will listen. I allowed this for a while, but in January he kept telling everyone how he had given me enough time, and that I can't take care of myself. That he wants to be friends with me and wont understand why i say no. I had to have my friends actually threaten him to leave me alone, so he had his friends start contacting me about him. Telling me i made a mistake breaking up with him. Then he tried getting to me by my brother. He kept talking about me to my brother, who ended up again threatening him to leave me alone, and stopped contact. I've had to block and delete this ex-boyfriend on my email, messenger, my phones and cell phone, through my friends, and had to block a lot of my ex's friends. They are getting skewed information from him. This week, he sent me an email saying he wanted to be friends again, and throughout the month he keeps coincidentally skipping his classes and showing up in mine, just to ask random questions to friends or people who sit beside me. I've ignored him completely for the last 7 1/2 months except when to tell his friends that i have no desire talking to him, and do not want to be friends (did not specify or further the conversation). What should I do? Is this a form of stalking or do i deserve this?

TEEN LINE WROTE:
Hello, it sounds like you are in a very frustrating situation. I could understand how annoyed you are at your Ex-boyfriend. I don't know if what he is doing is legally considered as stalking, but what really matters is whether you feel as if you are being stalked. What he is doing seems definitely a bit creepy and I understand how you could feel that this situation is getting on your nerves. Have you talked to anyone about what is going on between you and your ex? Maybe talking with others could help you get some people to back you up and be there for you, on your side. So you could try talking with your friends about what to do, or just express your feelings. Since this is occuring also at your schoool you could also try talking with a school counselor about it. This seems like a pretty serious problem and a serious threat to your privacy that I think an adult should be alerted about this.

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