I came out the other day as Bi to my Facebook friends, it is something I have known for a long time but finally said it because my (Mormon) fiance told me not to be afraid and that he accepts me and loves me for who i am. Well his family (whom i love with all of my heart and think the world of...) feels differently, these are some of the replies i got from them....
My Fiance's Dad:
"____, Since you posted this in a public domain, knowing my family's feelings on the matter, knowing that we are going to read it, I will respond in kind. I am sorry that you feel the need to scream your insecurities to the whole world. I also am concerned that while you clearly know my families position on the morality of homosexuality, you continue to post this material while planning to marry my son. Joey is my precious sweet son and I love him with all of my heart. It is hard under the best of circumstances to let go of a child. But you young lady feel the need to routinely and publically air your sexuality and past transgressions like salutations. I find that heartbreaking and disrespectful of my family. You can't have it both ways. You can't refer to us as "the wonderful mormon family that you are marrying into" in one FB posting and then post this sort of content in the next. Wonderful mormon families, as you know, find any sexual activities outside of marriage to be a block to one's exhaltation. Now, whether you believe it or not is for you to decide. But, to know how your future family feels about out it and to continue on your diatribe of postings, clearly demonstrates a thorough disregard for our feelings or lack of judgement verging on the imbecilic. You are free to block or unfriend me. But, as long as you are planning to marry my child, I am obligated to state my position. Right now my position is that I am sad as I contemplate your's and Joey's future together."
"I never said anything one way or the other about _____'s orientation. Codi, perhaps unintentionally, reiterated what I said: This was not handled in an adult, face-to-face manner that could have drawn our family closer together. Rather, ____ has chosen lately to continually drive a wedge between us and Joey.
I have said nothing hateful to any of you or negative towards ____ or her orientation, yet you all have responded like jackasses and put words in my mouth that I never said. Re-read my other comment if you don't believe me." (this is not true, he said hateful things earlier in the convo)I also received many comments of support from others, to clarify, Joey knew and MY parents knew, not sure why its his parents place to know at all let alone before i let my family and friends know.. Im scared because i love them so much and do not want to lose them that would kill me.
I know this seems scary but to anyone out there undecided about sharing who they are, please DO NOT filter yourself for others, those that truly matter, will indeed in the end be there for you and love you as you are for WHO you are!