Are any of these actions considered abusive in any way?

[JaimieRose666]

Are any of my father's actions considered abusive...
1) Yelling at me to stop crying after making me cry
2) Telling me to stop shivering when I'm cold
3) Acts of jealousy, such as telling me to not exercise(he is very obsessed with his image)
4) Belittling me by saying things such as, "You better never call me worthless" This reaction is completely unprovoked
5) Threatening me by saying such things as,"I'll knock you into next (Insert day here)"
6) Expecting me to drop important tasks(cleaning, exercising) to do what he wants
7) Taking out his feelings on other people when he has had a bad day
8 ) Making fun of things I enjoy (bands, drawing)
9) This one will sound weird,but he makes me stay out late and then it ruins my sleep schedule (I have to get up at 5:45)
10) He swatted something out my my sisters hand and then said,"SCAT" (he yelled at us for moving slowly, and my sister mentioned that he wasn't ready yet)
11) He starts fights right before vacations or family gatherings
12) He expects my mom to do hard tasks such as walking long distances, getting everything he needs for him, getting a job and helping him move heavy objects ( she has back problems and asthma)
13) My mother really wants to quit smoking, but he gives her no support
14) He never apologizes, and always thinks he's right
15) After fights with him I'm prone to fits of crying and self mutilation
16) My mother claims he was abused along with his siblings and that my grandparents only had children to have slaves
17) I saw him one time from my bus and I literally burst into tears, and even talking to him makes me angry

[Elphie.QE.MDXXXIII]

The actions that are abusive: 1, 2, 4, 5, 7, 10, 12

Actions that aren't "abusive" (or maybe they are and I just wasn't sure) but show him to be a bad father: 3, 6, 8, 9, 11, 13, 14
*Note: 3, 6, 12, and 14 are similar to traits of Narcissisic Personality Disorder. That's not a diagnosis, but I suggest you look up the symptoms and see if they match your dad's behavior. I only say that because I've read a lot about psychology when I was going to change to that major. But, I'm only a senior in HS, so don't take my word for it.

Things that are common traits of abusive people: 1, 2, 4, 5, 7, 10, 12, 16

Things that you can control: 15, 17
That is in no way an attempt to belittle your situation. I'm just saying that you can control your reactions, not your emotions. Emotions are things that I don't think people can control, but your reactions due to them are something that, hard as they may be, are controllable.

Any further questions, like what to do about it, how to ease your urges to cut, don't hesitate to ask. Also, I suggest you talk to your mom about this problem. God bless you and your family! I will pray for you and for this situation to turnout all right.

[lene.lovedone]

I can relate to your story. Normally, the person who works for his family is the one who have a bossy attitude. For me, he is abusing his position as a father knowing that he is the only one that provides everything.