The actions that are abusive: 1, 2, 4, 5, 7, 10, 12
Actions that aren't "abusive" (or maybe they are and I just wasn't sure) but show him to be a bad father: 3, 6, 8, 9, 11, 13, 14*Note: 3, 6, 12, and 14 are similar to traits of Narcissisic Personality Disorder. That's not a diagnosis, but I suggest you look up the symptoms and see if they match your dad's behavior. I only say that because I've read a lot about psychology when I was going to change to that major. But, I'm only a senior in HS, so don't take my word for it.
Things that are common traits of abusive people: 1, 2, 4, 5, 7, 10, 12, 16
Things that you can control: 15, 17
That is in no way an attempt to belittle your situation. I'm just saying that you can control your reactions, not your emotions. Emotions are things that I don't think people can control, but your reactions due to them are something that, hard as they may be, are controllable.
Any further questions, like what to do about it, how to ease your urges to cut, don't hesitate to ask. Also, I suggest you talk to your mom about this problem. God bless you and your family!
I will pray for you and for this situation to turnout all right.