boy drama

[dcastillo95]

Ok so there's this guy that i know and hes had a crush on me for a while now. I used to think its was creepy that he had a crush on me cuz i didn't even know anything about him but ive been talking to him alot lately and i realized that i like him too. Theres just two problems. One my friends don't approve of him, they told me that i can do so much better and that hes too childish i need someone better. I don't really agree with them but i don't want to lose their friendship just for liking the wrong guy. The other problem is that I'm not sure I'm ready for a relationship. Ive never been in one but i had alot of boy drama in middle school and it made me not want to date, and i haven't and I'm in eleventh grade now. Also i have a lot going on in my life right now with my family and i don't want to bring him into that. I feel that if we do start dating that hes gonna see the real me and not want to be with me. What should i do???

[PGHS-387]

Well even though friends often do have a lot to do with relationships, I feel that the relationship isn't between you, him, and your friends; it is between you and him. Ultimately it is your decision to date or not, there isn't (or shouldn't!!) be anyone forcing you to date anyone for any reason. If you feel that you aren't ready for a relationship, then it is your decision to make. Nobody should force you to date or not to date.
About him seeing the "real" you though.....
Personally, I think that any decent boy should accept you for who you are no matter what. If you start dating him and he sees the "real" you and then decides to leave you because of that, well I think that says that he isn't ready to accept you for exactly who you are. If you do start a relationship with him and he can't handle being with the "real" you then I think that is his problem not yours. Any guy that really would/does love you would/will stick by you no matter what. If he doesn't have the decency to stand by, support, and love the "real" you then I think it might be better off that he leaves because you deserve someone that will be there for you 100% and more.

Hope it helped at least a little bit and if you've got anything else you want to talk about don't be afraid to message me if you want.

[dcastillo95]

Thanks for the advice! Im going to talk to my friends and tell them that its my choice. I'm also going to talk to my crush and hopefully he will understand where I'm dooming from. Thank you so much

[JemzGirlxox]

Ive had quite the battle aswell, message me and well talk bout this together lets say tomorrow(thursday) 7:00?? xxxx