I'm in love with a rapist?

[hre010]

I have been in love with this guy for quite some time now... We started out as just good friends. He is a player. One time I asked him randomly if he had ever forced a girl. He told me about this girl he brought home. She was a virgin, she wanted to do it with him. They got undressed and he was about to do the deed when she suddenly panicked and started resisting and saying no. He held her down and did it. They then kept making love, her then liking it. Afterwards she thanked him for doing it and said it was a good experience to her.

I didn't think of it much when he said it, and I honestly didn't judge him for it. He made a bad decision, fine. I then fell in love with him. I told 2 friends of mine what he had done to get their views on it. They both called him a rapist. One told me he now loathed the guy but that it was still up to me what I wanted to do. My other friend told me to stay away from him, not sure what he could do to me, I guess.
I never thought of what he did as rape before... I know its wrong to love a rapist, so what can I do? I can't let go of my feelings...

He is usually a good guy. He has a girlfriend, who he sometimes lies to, and he still feels attraction to me. To me he is one of a kind. He treats women good, I know he would never do this act ever again. So what should I do? My friends keep telling me I can't love him...

[azuloreo]

In my opinion you i feel that you should not judge him for that one time. if you truly think he is a genuine guy it is okay, but if he has a crush on you while he has a girlfriends then you should not pursue him. i know everyone say this but its true. if he is willing to cheat on his girlfriend for you what makes you think he wont do the same when you guys go out. Especially if he lies to his girlfriend. I know that it is your decision so think about what i said before you go for it. Good luck i hope everything goes well