She was raped, its my fault

[BrokenAsh64]

I know you probably see a lot of movies or tv shows were someone gets raped then their friend says "oh this is all my fault" when in reality it wasn't there fault. Well, thats not the case here.
Last year at the end of the school year, my best friend was dating a guy she really liked. He seemed like a pretty cool guy, got a long with our group of friends. I was talking with him on facebook (FB), and told him I had never seen my friend so happy. We started to talk guy to guy then he asked how far she's gone. I told him I honestly didn't know, but I said "maybe if you get close enough to her, you'll be her first." Two weeks later they split apart. I was being black mailed by someone who found out, if I didn't tell her they would. I told her what her exboyfriend, she hit me with the news that the he had raped her. Twice.
It's all my fault, I know it is, and I honestly don't know what to do. I'm going to have this on my conscience for the rest of my life. I never thought he was going to do that, I thought he was just going to treat her with respect, and be kind to her. He forced himself on her, and hurt her. Does anyone have advice for me?

[whocares13]

i think you should forgive yourself its not your fault and the only thing you can really do is press charges. but mainly you should just be there for your friend cause she needs you and it will help if your there for her through this. she could talk to you or her parents or a councslor someone anyone. help her through it. just listen and whatever she wants to do but don't be afraid to tell her what you think or feel.

[epicreader16]

hey,

it isnt your fault...forgive yourself...just be there for her...and listen...and realize its not your fault...dont beat urself up...and you can help her deal...

well if you need anything or wanna talk feel free to pm me and i will try to help you the best i can.

[Elphie.QE.MDXXXIII]

I have half a mind to tell you to beat the guy to a pulp, but that wouldn't be good either. You probably don't still talk to him, but just to make sure, don't talk to him. I'm not sure if she should tell, but if it's a good idea (other people, back me up on this if it is): Get her to tell an authority figure so he can be punished for his crime. Good luck, Ash.

[JackieBunniBoo]

Not your fault at all just help her put that bastard in jail i mean you didnt say hey go rape her or insinuate anything even close to that and you didn't take offf his pants and help him hold her down it isnt your fault he was some dumb guy that made this up on his own isn't your fault at all just help to get tht punk in jail

[shaunielove]

Omgz! i'm so srry and its not your fault and he's a bad guy for what he did to your friend but really alll you can do is help her through it and pray and hope that one day she will meet a nice guy for her =)

[hope4thebetterchick]

dear ash,

i honestly believe this isn't your fault. i think what's happening is that you feel guilty on the behalf of your friend here, and that you should have done something to prevent it. but you couldn't have! u said u thought her boyfriend would treat her with respect and dignity...u reacted just like anyone would hvae. it's not your fault. please stop beating yourself up. if u don't let go of the past adn your regrets, u will never be able to move forward.

best of luck to u!
hope4thebetterchick

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